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First I want to thank this community! The advice, the pool of knowledge available here and just the feeling of belonging that most members project is such a source of comfort during this crazy process. I don't know if Jaycel and I would have maintained our sanity if we didn't have our fellow travelers to lean on. So thank you all so very much! 8 Months and 2 weeks from application received to card in hand. (And exactly 4 years from the day we started talking ) No RFEs and EAD in 51 days. Pretty happy with that timeline! Now we get a break from USCIS for the next 21 months Our full timeline in case it's helpful to anyone else: I-129F Receipt Date: 09/18/2023 I-129F RFE: 05/20/2024 I-129F RFE Response Received: 06/01/2024 I-129F Approved: 06/04/2024 I-129F Sent to DOS: 06/11/2024 DOS Case # Assigned: 07/01/2024 K1-FTP: 07/16/2024 Embassy Interview: 08/13/2024 (Approved) Visa in Hand: 08/20/2024 Entered the US: 08/30/2024 Married: 10/25/2024 AOS Receipt Date: 11/18/2024 Biometrics: 12/26/2024 EAD Approved: 01/08/2025 Interview Scheduled: 06/16/2025 Interview Attended: 07/23/2025 I-485 Approved: 06/16/2025 Green Card Received: 08/01/2025

Sounds like you are getting your wake-up call now. This site is here to help people do it themselves, but you came here only after starting without doing the homework part. You are going to have some hard decisions to make, and must get your head around accepting a path and timing you don't like. The sooner you drop the "I'm not going to...." from your mind, the sooner you can move ahead productively.

Folks I strongly recommend that everyone with a pending VAWA application carry a copy of their USCIS receipt notice and a copy of their I-94. Having these documents on hand ensures that if stopped by ICE, you can present official documentation from Immigration to verify your status. I have always advised my clients that they could travel abroad with advance parole. However, last week, I emailed all of them, advising against traveling abroad with advance parole for the time being. While VAWA petitioners do not trigger the 3/10-year ban, there is currently uncertainty about how CBP will handle cases involving VAWA petitioners who were previously without status and left the country, then attempt to reenter. Legally speaking, it should not pose an issue, but due to these uncertainties, I recommended they refrain from traveling abroad for now.

Why did you not have a plan for providing health insurance for your wife? It is your responsibility, as the petitioner.

Good to see these developments! Not sure if this was posted already. https://www.uscis.gov/i-751

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Take time to heal and move on. You acknowledge this man hurt you. This marriage would not have ended well.

After such a long journey the day is here. My wife passed her citizenship exam and we are awaiting the naturalization ceremony. I am so excited for her !

You got a green card that you weren’t eligible for, and then citizenship that you weren’t eligible for either. As @nastra30 said, it will be a long drawn out process before your citizenship is revoked and you’re deported. Your call, but if it was me I would just return to my home country rather than facing the stress and expense of all of that, and to reunite with my children much sooner too.

Way too many red flags and you know this or you would not be posting. This is how I am seeing it. She came in and applied for asylum. She is well aware that she has a slim chance of being successful of it being granted. She married you, stalled as long as she could to keep stringing you along to stay out of the home (not really being married because her church said so). I would bet money she has someone coaching her. She has outright told you she is in it for the GC. She's not doing this for the kids and church. Tells you to go find someone else because she is in love with her (probably husband and child's father) in her home country. Once she gets that green card she is going to bounce and then bring him over. Please pull the AOS now and talk to a lawyer.

This is not the intention of K-1 visa. The idea is that you know for sure you're marrying the person before sponsoring them for visa. People are not toys you can return to store within 90 day period. They're leaving their home, family, friends, jobs, everything they have to rely on you for some time until they can settle in new and totally different place which is USA. It would be totally irresponsible and immoral to break somebody's life like this by betraying them in their most vulnerable moment. Now, to the question... Prenup does not waive your I-864 obligations to US government.

You are coming across as quite entitled. Legal immigration involves planning and waiting. Most of us here have had to do loads of planning and waiting in our journeys. No one else is more special than the next person.

I wouldn't even consider marriage to someone I haven't met in person.

Step 1: Actually meet.....several times....regardless of your choice of a K-1 or spousal visa. I would not, under any circumstances, marry on the first visit. That would be a gigantic red flag. A LOT of time actually together is extremely important for high fraud countries.

OP: There are things I must now say and I hope it does not cause offense. You say you love him. He does not love you. He is an abuser. He will harm you, and he *has* caused harm to you. He has caused harm to others. At some point you knew all of this, and at some point you reasoned that through your love, compassion, and kindness that this would make him stop being abusive. That he would change via your love or even worse, that you are the problem. It is a lie. A lie that people in these relationships tell themselves to survive. There is nothing more to be done now. Move on from him and find someone that understands your worth and actually loves you. Not just the idea of you, or an imagining of you - but actually loves and respects you for you. From a period of three years of my young life long ago, I once learned what it was like to love an abuser. The places it took me were harmful and will effect me for the rest of my days. They will destroy you until there isn't anything left and nothing will make them happier in doing so. I know how much I desperately loved that person and I know that now I look back on it and feel nothing for them. You will move on, grow, and love again.

Your main challenge will be your partner having a very recent history of SH. From my understanding, and comments made directly from the panel physician at my medical, they are concerned with matters that have occurred within the last 12 months. Clearly your partner continues to struggle with severe mental health problems, but the only way to combat this for visa purposes is to evidence an effort to seek help and trying to get better. If your partner is continually being given support but their circumstances are not improving, then I am not sure how you would go about this. USCIS' main concern here is that the immigrant won't be a public charge, and a strong pattern of requiring emergency medical assistance doesn't seem to indicate as much. If it were me, I would be considering a move from US to Canada instead, to allow your partner to still have the avenues of support available to them as a Canadian citizen. You say they don't have problems while with you in the US, but let me say from first hand experience as a K1, the time that you move and find yourself at home alone, while your partner is at work, away from your family and everything you once knew, it can get hard. There's a chance that your partner may not fare so well when the "vacation mode" of visiting ends and real life sinks in. Wishing you the best of luck in your journey.

That's pretty strange that a husband would not want his wife to legalize. Any reasonable spouse, if wanting to continue building joint life, would help their immigrant spouse to get the legal papers. Looks like a toxic relationship. Why is she staying married to this person? Without his cooperation, she has no protections.

Now not so secret

So you chose to ignore all the warnings in your previous thread and go ahead with this plan anyway. No. She was granted a green card based on the assumption that she would be living with her USC parent, who petitioned her for family reunification, not to take her to the US to live with her grandparents. You don't seem to realize how serious this is. Green cards can be revoked if found out to be granted in error or as a result of misrepresentation.

Sorry to hear of this misfortune. Prayers for both of you. Since 2007 on VisaJourney, I've never heard of a K-1 being expedited for the stated reasons. I've never heard of the in-person meeting requirement's being waived, for ANY reason. If he hasn't even filed the I-129F, I regret to report that you can forget both of these. The chances are zero. As to what I would do in your shoes: Provide love and support from afar until the pancreatic cancer or the chemotherapy take their inevitable toll. Prayers for both of you.

I had my oath ceremony today! Finally done with all the visa stuff. Soooo happy ❤️ 3/31 online filing under 5 year rule 4/16 interview scheduled 5/30 interview 7/22 oath

Because Marriage does NOT grant ANY legal status or authorization to stay in the US. When the I-485 was denied, she immediately became deportable since it was beyond the authorized 90 days. If she then immediately refiled a PROPER I-485, she should be granted authorized stay until the new I-485 is adjudicated. However, now that she has a court date, she better get an attorney TODAY! Seems to me her only defense will be that she refiled the I-485. This is not DIY. This is pretty serious.

It’s a huge ask of anybody, I don’t think any stranger would agree to be on the hook financially for potentially decades for somebody they don’t even know. But I’m amazed your lawyer suggested you try to find somebody on an anonymous internet forum when it sounds like you already qualify yourself - frankly I’d be firing him and demanding a refund for that atrocious advice! It’s not ‘forward thinking’, it’s basic immigration knowledge. And if he doesn’t know that I’d be worried about what else he’s missed.

I would find another DMV office. You are already legally married, else, she would not have been issued a Green card. I don't recall my state requiring our marriage license. They wanted proof that she is legally present int he US.

Alright then, as promised, report from new US citizen 🤠 Had an interview in the morning. Had a long wait (approx an hour) in the waiting area. Glad my lawyer was with me, since she kept listening to my name being called while I went to the restroom and also was a great source of entertainment (OK, not only entertainment, we went through questions few more times). Got called by a IO lady, she was about 30-35 y.o. She welcomed me and my attorney, told there's going to be trainee in the interview, then took to the room. After swearing in, she asked for my passport, GC, DL. Confirmed my name. Then she went through civics questions, it was a breeze. Same reading / writing on tablet. I got all 6 questions right, so she resumed with N-400 application. She confirmed few personal questions, address, work etc. Interestingly enough, she (I feel like) made a couple of mistakes on purpose reading my travel dates and other dates on form. For example, she said "so you were back from Italy on September 6th, 2024?" But I knew it was September 10th, so I answered "No officer, it was September 10th". Then she apologized for reading incorrectly. And it was 2-3 questions like it. The she asked me how many times I was married, and more importantly, who lives at my address. When I replied "Just me and my wife", she asked whether anybody else lived with us. When I said "No", she proceeded asking about whether at any point me my wife lived apart. At that moment my attorney immediately jumped in, and pretty much told IO it's a 5 year rule application, and these questions are irrelevant. IO got visibly dissapointed (😃), proceeded with Yes and No questions. After those questions I double checked my answers and details on tablet and signed it. Then IO was pleased to announce I passed the exam and the interview. She also told me they had same day ceremony available about 1.5 hrs later. I surely agreed 😃 The longest wait in my life was sitting in the other area for 1.5 hrs, mostly starring at US and DHS flags. I kinda reflected at that point and thought that paying a lawyer wasn't a bad idea, even though my case was easy and straightforward. I brought about 400 pages of various evidence including marriage bonafides. I brought all J1, work visa docs, marriage cert for our marriage, divorce papers for my wife's prior marriage, her naturalization cert, all passports and IDs, my naturalization cert from other country, my birth cert and translations. Essentially I was ready to fight to the end, no matter what they would have asked I had it. But I feel like my lawyer helped keeping interview short and focused. All and all, I feel like it took about 15-20 mins max. Eventually, me and other folks got in a different room, had our GCs taken away, and read the oath together! After ceremony we got naturalization certs and checked the details before leaving. I'm super happy the way everything went. I'll keep disagreeing with anybody who says N-400 is the easiest part. No, officer could have made it hell if I wasn't prepared, went without a lawyer, wasn't confident or didn't listen carefully. Good luck to everybody still waiting ! Next stop - need to apply for passport 😃

Public Charge determination or financial support is not even considered or applicable in the Naturalization process. They are non-issues. I can tell you that the N-400 was, by far, the easiest part of the immigration process for us. It was a piece of cake from application to approval.

The Kiwi is a citizen! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸. Applied 11/29/24 under the 5 year rule. He brought all our tax transcripts and civil documents, but the officer didn’t need to look at any of them. He was asked 6 questions, got all right. The timing of having an afternoon appointment in Seattle was great, we waited about half an hour for the oath ceremony. Sitting there as a born American, I realized that many don’t ever get to attend one- it was an honor, and so interesting. Everyone was SO happy ❤️🇺🇸.

Your case is not taking a long time because of any "investigation". It's just sitting in a queue, waiting for a human to spend less than an average of 30 minutes with it before approving, sending an RFE, or denying. You file an I-130 into a black hole and wait. Then you deal with NVC and wait for an available interview appointment. Having the proper expectations allows you to be prepared, and more relaxed as you wait.

This looks like abusive relationship to me. He must enjoy having a total control over her life. Wawa comes to mind.

Let me lay some heavy advice on you. The US Federal Government knows way more about you and your habits than you do. During my trip to SE Asia with my Filipina fiance'; we traveled to may places. It was her first time out of the Phills. After our travels, We parted ways and took different flights to our respective homes. When I returned, the CBP asked me what countries I traveled to. I was exhausted and I could not remember everything. I just told him "I can't remember them all, you will just have to look it up". He smiled and said, "Oh you knew I already had the answer to the question as soon as you stepped off the plane?" I said, "are you kidding me, I should ask you if my fiance made it home safely". He said "hold on." Click click on the keyboard. "Yup, she made it to Cebu safely" I was not surprised in the least. I said, "thanks for letting me know." He said, "no problem and welcome home" So, yes they ARE going to check your travel records. They know everything. The US Treasury trades information real time with CBP. As soon as you hit the purchase button on the American Airlines website, CBP knows all about your plans. How did the CBP know who my fiance was? Easy, I purchased the plane tickets in the Phills with my US credit card with me and my fiances name. I purchased the ticket for her to get to Cebu, under her name. I should have asked him if she took a p!$$ on the plane too, he probably knew the answer. CBP uses algos (AI). So while your fiance may not have technically broken the law, she violated the spirit of the law. The visa is not for her to live in the USA with an American boyfriend, playing house for months at a time. An education visa is for formal education and not sex education. Also, even if you are lucky to get a K1 visa, the CBP is the sole arbitrator whether she gets in or not. If they are having a bad day, you are $h!t out of luck. So if a CBP was upset with you or your fiance, take heed. Say "I'm sorry, may I have another. It will not happen again.". They hold your happiness in their hands. I agree with the others here. She needs to stay away for a very long time to "clear the deck". Most of us wait over a year for our fiance's to get here. You need to stand in line like the rest of us. Good luck. Please do not play with fire.

An NOA2 is approval of the I-129f...not approval of the visa. You know the risks of having anything which could be interpreted as a marriage. Personally, I would not do that. 50 people? Just wait until you are officially married in the US.

Try to walk in and do biometrics late. Just apologize and explain everything. Before the trip

I am an Immigrant

Please fill out your timeline. You'd have eliminated a number of questions ahead of time, had you done so. https://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=481781 Immigration is a privilege, not a right. Your partner is not entitled to live in the US any more than you are entitled to live in her country. Tossing comments around like skipping the queue and having an overall bad attitude isn't going to help your family on this journey. As many have stated, it is 100% possible for you to return to the US, establish domicile and work while your wife and child are in her home country. Many, many of us have done it. You are not special in any way when it comes to this situation. Immigration takes time, money and patience, end of story.

You didn't fill out your timeline, no location given, no background given. We can't provide input if you don't provide info. USC - petitioner - older than you? How did you meet? Where? You as beneficiary - background info, education/employment? Things that are different - religion, prior marriages?

She can certainly seek an emergency appointment Neither you or your son need a visa, begs the question why do you not fly today when it is so urgent?

The consulate doesn't advise on visas at all, you'd need an immigration lawyer if you have questions or want info. They will just direct you to the USCIS website where you can find all of the info you need. FWIW, I agree that the spouse visa is the best option from what you've said. Good luck.

The more you meet the better, of course. What's more important, is it going to be a strong marriage if you only spent total of 3 weeks together?

I completed my joint I-751 and N-400 (3-year rule) at the Federal Plaza in Manhattan this week. I arrived at around 8:05 a.m., and my interview was scheduled for 8:45 a.m. The security asked to see the interview letter and our government IDs. They asked us to wait in line outside the doors, but by 8:20, I went to the security stationed right outside the door and told him that our appointment was at 8:45. He made us go inside, and we had to go through the X-ray machines. They asked us to remove everything – belts, jewelry, except our rings and shoes, unless you were wearing sneakers. Afterwards, we went up to the 8th floor. We went to the window to provide the appointment letter and my green card. They stamped it and gave us our queue number. There were probably around 20-30 people in the waiting room. Honestly, I was surprised because there were only a few of us who had bags, and I assumed, like us, they brought extra documents for the interview. At 8:39, an officer called us to follow him inside. When we got to the room, he asked for the stamped interview letter, state IDs, and my green card. He took my picture, and then my trouble started. The system won’t accept my prints for some reason. He restarted his systems 3x, and after about 10-15 minutes, we finally got my fingerprint accepted by the system. Thankfully, I had a very nice officer, and he was joking with us while I kept on trying Purell, alcohol, and lotion to get my prints. He said I probably wash the dishes a lot. And I said my husband does the dishes as well, though! In a way, I think it was a great opportunity for the officer to see that we had a legitimate marriage. After swearing us in, these are the questions I remember: To Husband: - What is your wife’s full name - Birth date - When did you meet - What are the names of her parents - Have you ever met her parents? When and where? - What is her job - Where does she work To me: - Where are you from - What’s your address - When and where did you meet your husband - How many (step) kids do you have and their ages - Do they live with you - What is your husband’s job and where does he work Civics questions: - Name one American Indian tribe - Who did the US fight in WWII - When was the Constitution written - Name one branch of the government - When do we celebrate Independence Day Read and write: Who lives at the White House? The President lives at the White House. By the way, my husband stayed in the room while I did the N-400 interview/ exam. After the reading and writing assessment, he congratulated me and told me that I passed, and told me that I will receive a letter when the oath-taking is scheduled. He walks us back to the waiting room and hands me the paper stating that I passed. It was all over by 9:10. When I got outside, I checked my emails, and I got the approval for I-751 around 8:55 AM and another email for N-400 at 9:16. Thank you to everyone who helped me with my immigration journey. It helped me save lawyer fees, LOL. Good luck to everyone else, and I hope you have the same experience as I did!

I suggest you seek professional help immediately.

In these situations, the applicant normally knows why the visa was actually denied. I think something else was said or discovered during the interview. That "reason" of traveling together doesn't sound legit to me.

I sympathize with the challenges, but I stress this to everyone when I get the chance: DO NOT RELY ON CHATGPT FOR QUESTIONS ABOUT FACTUAL INFORMATION. That is not what an LLM is for, it predicts which words should follow each other based on the prompt. It can get facts right, but it will happily tell you something that is not true at all, especially if you ask it something outside the data set it has been trained on.

One option might be to just leave EVERYTHING in the maiden name until she naturalizes. I see potential issues with a "new" marriage.

Oh man she messed up. He believed the visa was denied. Then she used it to enter the country. Well the joke is on her. She has no way to stay in the country legally. She needed your brother for that and she messed that up big time. Let your brother know he is not on the hook for her. If he has any receipt #'s anything at all he can report it.

Exactly my thoughts. This is coercive control. She has no means of earning money, is unable to travel internationally to visit family, has no driving license, and may live in fear of deportation. OP, I would look for other signs of controlling behaviour such as cutting her off from friends, monitoring her communications, or preventing her from accessing medical care. Filing is inconvenient and expensive, but 100,000s of us have done it, so not wanting to spend the time or the money is a very weak excuse.

that is spousal abuse and no one (neighbor or friend ) has reported him?

I remember your other post about sponsoring your kids from Nigeria. You fraudulently obtained your GC and US citizenship by deceiving your wife and US govt so the worst for you is denaturalization and possible deportation. Only a judge can denaturalize you after USCIS opens a case against you. Has your ex-wife contacted USCIS about the fraud yet? If so, you just have to wait till you hear from USCIS. Denaturalization involves a trial in federal court so USCIS will need time to examine the case carefully with their lawyers so nobody can tell you when you will hear from USCIS. I think you are going to be found out at the interview stage when your kids cases gets to the consulate for interviews. Good luck.

Omg omg I just got the letter online! My interview is on March 11! 🥳 Submitted: 11/25/24 Being reviewed: 12/4/24 Interview was scheduled: 01/29/25 Interview will take place on: 3/11/2025 San Bernardino Field Office, CA I hope everyone who still waiting will get their letter soon!

the above certainly sounds like you are being used. you need to pull that petition asap, file for divorce, and get her out of your residence. the longer you drag this out, the more time she has to learn about the usa laws and how they can be used to benefit her, and the more painful the consequences will become. take immediate steps to protect yourself financially and do not be alone with her.

This is my journey: 2017 June Married abuser 2018 filed I130 & I1485 2019 May filed I360 asked for I1485 to be held (did the filing by myself) Prima Facie sent (many of them over the years, I can't recollect anymore) 2020 I sent additional documentation without them asking i.e. therapy report, letters from friends, utility bills etc. 2021 Oct Found out that my daughter's I485 was not put on hold in 2019 through general inquiry at the army for enlistment 2021 Dec Filed a new I485 for my daughter 2022 Feb They issued a Green Card for my daughter based on Category IB8 (note: my case has not been approved yet at this stage) 2022 Mar Wrote USCIS a letter regarding the issuance of the Green Card and the none approval of VAWA (NO RESPONSE) 2022 April We received your correspondence for Form I360 (UPDATE) 2023 Mar We sent a request for additional evidence for your Form I360 (SEE BELOW EXPLANATION) 2023 Apr We received your response for Form I360 2023 Sep We denied your Form i360 2023 Oct Filed I290B 2023 Dec We updated your name for your Form I360 2023 Dec We reopened your Form I360 2023 Dec We are reviewing your Form I360 2023 Dec Notice of Intent to Deny 2024 Jan We received your response for Form I360 2024 Daughter became a US citizen 2024 Oct Your inquiry about why your case is taking longer than our processing time was completed 2024 Nov Filed Writ of Mandamus 2025 Jan We ordered your new card RFE: The first RFE was based on Qualifying Relationship Requirement & Eligibility for Immigrant Classification. They said that my first visit to the US 17 years ago, I stated that I was married, but in my application I did not declare that marriage. I responded to the RFE myself explaining that the marriage was a traditional marriage and in my country that type of marriage is considered dissolved once the bride price is returned(I'm Nigerian). My mother also wrote her statement. But they denied the I360. I engaged the services of a lawyer for the first time on my case. We filed the I290B and responded to the RFE again in a better way, quoting the Reciprocity and Civil Documents of my Country written by USCIS themselves, among other things which state clearly that the marriage has been dissolved based on the return of the bride price, and the devastating circumstances of my visit to the US back then that I almost lost my life due to the marriage (with evidence from the hospital that I was kept in during the visit) that explains the circumstances surrounding that dissolved marriage. The I290B was filed in Oct, and in Dec they responded by accepting that the marriage they were referring to was indeed dissolved according to laws of my country and that I do have a Qualifying Relationship with my abuser BUT however issued a Notice of Intent to Deny on the same correspondence. Notice of Intent To Deny: This notice came the same time they said I have successfully answered their RFE, but that it has ''COME TO THEIR ATTENTION THAT THE EVIDENCE IN THE RECORD DOES NOT ESTABLISH THAT YOU RESIDED WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND THAT YOU MARRIED YOUR SPOUSE IN GOOD FAITH''. I personally found the above statement as witch-hunting because to me how come it is just coming to their attention AFTER I was able to counteract the first RFE? What was more ironic was what they stated that back in 2022, the USCIS Fraud Detection and National Security department contacted my utility provider to verify the authenticity of the utility bills I submitted. They alleged that they (USCIS) has determined that I provided altered utility bills in order to establish that my abuser and I resided and married in good faith. If this were the case, and USCIS truly believed their allegation, how come they did not present this first instead of the so called marriage back in my home country years and years ago? This was the question that was in my mind that propelled me to really fight on this case because I know I did not falsify any document. I went to great extreme to contact the utility company to dig out their archive records with all our utility bills that they issued my abuser and I, and likewise all the telephone calls made to the utility company whilst my abuser and I lived together. They transcribed all the calls in their official letter and likewise wrote an official letter that our utility bills are not falsified. The notice of intent to deny also went into some tantrum about our tax return (which again I had to go back to IRS to get all our records), the text messages that I submitted (which they chose to read out of context), etc. They even went as far as saying that our car insurance only had my abuser on my car and not his. One of the things that I learned on this platform is to always have some evidence kept back just in case things like this happens. Thankfully I did, and was able to provide car insurance documents that had both of use registered on each others cars. Even though they responded speedily with all my responses to their RFE, with this NOID they decided to keep mute since receiving our response in Jan 2024. Hence I filed the writ of mandamus in Nov 2024, and here we are with an approval to the Glory of God! I would like to say to everyone reading this, please DO NOT give up! Empower yourself with knowledge on this platform by reading as much as you can. Go as far back to Part 1 of this thread if you need to! And also, do not listen to the naysayers, especially if you know your truth and believe in your truth. On this same platform, right at the start of my journey, someone had looked at my case and said it is impossible! I chose to hold on to possible and filed everything by just reading and learning on this platform. It was not an easy journey for sure. But on this platform I also learned that do not hold your life back whilst waiting for your case to be approved. Over the years, I bought a house, I decided to go back to school, today case is approved and I am also now a nurse. Keep yourself busy whilst waiting. I used all those prima facies and they paid for my nursing school from the beginning to the end. Please do not give up! P.S. Sorry for the long post!

You need to check your attitude at the door. First off Boiler is an immigrint too. He is also a very smart one as he has navigated this thing called immigration. We all have been through this storm. Dont like an answer to a question...... dont blame the messinger, he didnt make the laws. Accusing someone of being racist without knowing what your talking about speaks volumes about you. Not a good way to make friends. Now about your brothers options. You said your a business owner. Go find a H1b lawyer and figure out if you offer him a position in your company can you get him here quicker. You said you missed your family. Boiler was simply stating in a round about way that if that was the issue if your brother cant come here maybe you could move there. it is a valid answer to that question.