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  1. When it boils down to it - people are people and many have struggles. Some of those struggles leave severe wounds that if left to fester have consequences. Mental illness has little to do with political ideology (unless one's unhealthy obsession with certain subjects or persons manifests itself) and more to do with the way someone is raised, their environment, and how willing they are to admit they have a problem and to seek assistance. Until you have witnessed the struggle or been their yourself you have no idea.
  2. My dad is like that. Every car he's ever had ends up looking a mess. As a salesman he practically lived out of his cars, and would he clean them? Nope. And then one day came the mouse! There's this guy on youtube that has car cleaning videos, it's weirdly therapeutic.
  3. The prestige is going to be the area that it's in, the age of the house (people really love old homes here), history of the home, and even the age of the land it's sitting on. Couple that with being close to where they work and the price skyrockets. Baltimore County has plenty of homes of this size going for that kind of money - they are state employees, doctors, executives, and people that just 'come from money'. And these homes are going for that much money in a heavy crime area. In the suburban counties around DC... I have no idea why, but if a person knows their community is going to be filled with senators, lawyers, doctors, judges etc... people seem to want to pay that kind of money. And I guess if they have that money, go to it? Why would you want the feds to spread elsewhere? Good grief, the traffic jams they cause are insane and the prices drive everyone else out. I once found an old deed from a great-great grandfather, that purchased land and was building "a modest cottage" for $4,000. That was a lot of money in 1904. Today that house is about $500,000 and it's right in a big crime area. It's no bigger than Kavanaugh's house probably. Still a ridiculous price, but home prices are stupid here now.
  4. Well, he's paying for location, prestige, and age of the house (but you should see what you pay for around where the Bidens live in both Trolley Square and Greenville). You could indeed buy an excessively sized mansion for that price around my way, but that kind of money will only just get you a 'respectable sized' home in many parts of the MD/DC area.
  5. Oh my gosh, that is a pretty upscale house by MoCo standards. It was $1.2 million when it was purchased. With the housing values the way they are now, it's even more.
  6. Well let's see... my husband visited me many times over the course of 10 years using the VWP. We were friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, and fiance. He got to know the guys at the airport well. You need to always be honest when asked, and make sure to spend plenty of time in your own country. Having evidence of returning home and travel insurance is also helpful. The only time there was ever a 'problem' was his first visit, where he was taken for additional questioning. And for every question asked, he had an answer. They wanted to know pretty much everything about me and my family, and we'd known each other so well by then, there was nothing they could toss at him to trip him up.
  7. It is provable, and there's many very well documented studies about it. The doctor who ultimately made my diagnosis is a well respected immunologist. He has seen numerous patients pre-pandemic with the same issue (from any vaccine or unknown cause), an issue he acknowledges needs funding and study. Similarly since the pandemic he has seen patients with the same condition associated from the vaccine AND from those who had COVID exposure and were never vaccinated. The condition happens even if the COVID symptoms are/were mild. And the more times you are infected your risk factor increases (this also may be why more boosters may eventually increase the risk too). In his mind this shows a link between the spike protein itself and something potentially genetic those affected share. Many well-respected doctors are currently studying this and have shown a variety of ways exposure (natural or otherwise) could induce a reaction if the patient has risk factors. Immunologists (as well as specialists on MCAS/POTS/ME) are swamped right now, from seeing both sets of patients.
  8. Are you sure you want my comments? Whelp.... Mr. Roberts is experiencing chest pain from his booster? That is a known thing and he should absolutely get that checked out, similarly like my husband also got his heart checked out. However, the replies he received are just that, reports from people online, that may or may not be true and he and the author of the article have no way of judging their authenticity. As I've mentioned before, the booster has left me with a myriad of symptoms, a condition my medical team has diagnosed (one that is recognized in literature and is being studied). Others I know have similar conditions, and they have a different diagnosis with varying severity (one that requires very specific knowledgeable doctors even though the treatments do overlap). Some of those persons are doctors themselves, and have the means to run specific tests to prove their hypothesis, however there is still a lot we don't know. Our conditions are 'treatable' in a way that it can be managed, but it is not curable yet. It is still something that is rare, a lot of immunologists are puzzled, and one theory is that it may be related to something genetic/pre-existing (we have found we do have some patterns) and the other theory is that it may be something inherent to the spike protein itself. Our doctors all agree that if we had been exposed to actual COVID, these same symptoms would have likely appeared. Mr. Roberts is experiencing one part of that same condition, he may have other symptoms he hasn't realized yet. It may be temporary or it may progress, it's unwise for the author of the article to speculate. What bothers me is that the author points to individuals that give out general quackery methods as treatment, which is a shame because while they do suggest some items that could help the condition, others will not (without giving a potential patient any understanding of what is going on). My immunologist considers me immunocompromised, but to be fair I always was, so that hasn't changed much. We do not know Mr Robert's history, which may have contributing factors. FWIW, I am familiar with Mr Traub, he has tried some of the protocol that delves into quackery out of desperation, and has only limited results and some issues that are increasing in severity. He also has advocated things others before him have tried and failed with little improvement to himself either (people can get these same conditions pre-pandemic and without vaccine exposure). What is needed is funding and study. I know of several already, but it's not enough. I also know early on the NIH had an ongoing study that proved these conditions were possible, just not the why or how to fix it. Eventually there was no more funding... Unfortunately as I said, these conditions also existed well before the vaccine, and the lack of funding and understanding weren't there before.. and they aren't happening now. Just know that if you didn't have any sort of problematic reaction to dose 1 and 2, it's unlikely dose 3 will cause any issue. That seems to be the case for the rest of my family members. My immunologist helped me figure out that I had been 'reactive' all along and have had other issues crop up in my life that points to more likelihood of something going wrong. I still would have taken the vaccine, because I am aware how at risk I and others are now, and there is enough evidence my doctor has seen that this reaction would occur with 'natural' exposure.
  9. So, I just want to say this as gingerly as I can, as I think it is a topic that people really need to be mindful of others when discussing it.. It's not that we didn't *need* mental healthcare as much 50 years ago. If anything, people have always needed mental healthcare, but were unable to seek it, as people did not understand it. I come from a family that had a variety of 'issues', issues that would have made it a lot less dysfunctional if people had sought help. 50 years ago, we were locking people up and basically torturing them. Depression happened. Suicide happened. All sorts of things. We just didn't speak of it, as people were ashamed. It's never shameful to get help. We know some issues may very well be genetic, some issues are within the brain, and some are the result of trauma and abuse. I have been through some very difficult things in my life, never sought help, and pushed through it, because I know that there are some people in even worse experiences than me. It's probably pride, it's probably stubbornness.. and maybe I will talk to someone about it someday. I don't think that it's a bad thing to do so. In 1935, my great grandfather committed suicide. He lived in a tiny town. A farmer and father of nine children. I can only imagine the stigma my great grandmother went through, and how she had to cope. This is something I discovered while investigating my family tree in around say... 2010. This was kept a great secret of shame for that long. The story passed from generations was that he had passed in an accident or passed due to TB. The truth was, something snapped in him during WWI, and the man that came home was not the same man. He had no one to help him through that, and he suffered mentally. I have a family member that is bipolar. For many years they had no help, and it is always difficult when they are not taking their medication or are having mental breaks. You don't really know what it's like, unless you've been there or seen people go through it. I just know this kid was not a good person, fundamentally because he also came from a family life that created that personality. And whether by part mental illness, part being taught to hate others, this conditioned him into the evil we are finding out about now. Not every kid will turn out this way. He needed help and did not get it. I know that may come off sounding sympathetic, it's not.. and I'm glad he's dead. But I wish we could get to a point where we could stop these people before they harm others.
  10. I have heard that he was employed somewhere under the table or possibly at a Wendys... still I would think he would have needed several years of employment to save all that cash. I have also heard he tried to get his somewhat estranged sister to buy him a weapon - she left the family and joined the Navy apparently. Perhaps he had some other contacts to get the money.
  11. Content moderation is going to continue to get more and more silly in an effort to cater to everyone, instead of having clearly defined rules. When outside websites close off commenting but encourage people to use facebook or twitter, they are effectively outsourcing to another company to deal with 'the problem' and taking no responsibility for their own content. Everyone has certain perceptions about 'free speech' and eventually there's going to be a comment somewhere that are going to get removed and someone isn't going to like it. That's the way it is. There was this crazy chick on twitter that would harass a celeb by tweeting graphic photos and threatening to kill them every day. I think that was a pretty clear line of content that wasn't acceptable... well the twitter bots didn't think so for the longest time. I follow a travel vlogger, and they had their video demonetized. They had no idea why and no one else did either. We think it might have been an algorithm detecting a shirtless male in a pool? Or maybe someone reported for kicks, anyway long fuss later, and getting someone that knows someone to actually physically review the thing, got them reinstated but no explanation at all.
  12. I can't tell you how it works 100%, but how does an AI determine if "i'm gonna kill you'' is 'joking' or not? Rather than just a blanket "the election was rigged"? And sure all kinds of resources should be spent on proper moderation, but these companies are lazy and don't care. Aside the fact that they make the rules, you agree to the rules when you join, and they can change those rules in strange ways however they see fit. They simply don't have enough staff, and they aren't taking care of the staff that they have. I don't think they care at all. We can't even agree what content gets moderated on this site, for instance. 😉
  13. So I just want to explain something that can often seem really confusing and frustrating to people about websites and moderation. I used to help run a website that had at one point , a high number of members. Now we're talking 100s of thousands not millions or billions of accounts. We had a small team, something like 10, to try and cover different timezones, but this was a volunteer job so not everyone would actually do the job and some just didn't do the job at all. This website was organized by someone with a strict POV, and very critical of anyone that used free speech to say anything at all they didn't like. It wasn't just basic rules and decorum type stuff. If you so much as stated you were an atheist or said women could wear pants, the owner might flip out. And the weird thing about that was, the type of website it was, attracted people from all around the world, all walks of life, all stages of mental distress or bad home lives, young people, and older people. We had sections just like this one where people spent all day long screaming at one another, and then we had other sections where people got along just fine. The younger and more disturbed of mind the demographic got though, the more angry and troublemaking some members became - trying to dox, post porn, hurl insults, how 9/11 wasn't real or the earth was flat and aliens came into their bedroom at night, to discuss how much they wanted to harm themselves or others and on and on. Some stuff was really disturbing and it was draining to deal with every day. We'd get death threats, get accused of censorship, and more. Eventually some kid would get really mad and try hacking. Chatrooms we had were even harder to deal with. This was before social media of course, and once that started everyone had their new darkest corners to play in. As far as I'm aware about facebook and other companies, in an attempt to relieve burdens on human moderation (which have long complained about the poor pay/hours spent viewing the worst of the worst, and even suicide rates) they've made an algorithm to 'help'. Whenever I see problematic posts on twitter that were removed (or not removed), claims that an actual human even looked at the ticket are slim. Facebook has an even worse track record of this. One of the groups I'm on recently had an ex-member make multiple claims against them, which resulted in a group suspension for absolutely false reasons. I'm confident no one actually investigated. You are not going to catch everything on these websites, most are not going to be handled by a human, and if they are it's going to be a judgement call in which their hands are usually tied. They will get clapback if they do remove, and clapback if they don't. Facebook had a $52 million settlement with their moderating team recently and that amounted to each current and former moderator receiving $1,000 for their distress... big whoop. https://www.nbcnews.com/business/business-news/facebook-content-moderators-say-they-receive-little-support-despite-company-n1266891 https://jolt.law.harvard.edu/digest/the-human-cost-of-online-content-moderation https://www.theverge.com/2019/2/25/18229714/cognizant-facebook-content-moderator-interviews-trauma-working-conditions-arizona These types of things are simply going to make these companies try and rely on imperfect AI even more. I can even imagine there's some kind of quota. And if it's relying on someone to report it to a moderator in the first place, well consider that it's a dark corner of the internet - unlikely to be reported if everyone talking about shooting up a school actually agrees with the subject matter. This school shooter used more obscure social media companies to stream. I see the Buffalo shooter had a former law enforcement friend that discussed all these things with him and never reported it.
  14. I appreciate your thoughts here. Both me and my husband have played games (many violent ones that require skillful shooting) for most of our lives, we have similar attitudes about guns and are able to distinguish from reality. If someone is mentally ill, these kinds of stimuli certainly may not be helpful and increase or reinforce behaviors. The shooter's home life still sounds pretty awful (I see both parents have been tracked down and well.. they don't seem like the sort of persons that belong procreating) and I can only see that as being another area that led him to a complete mental collapse. I also see he had been arrested before for saying he intended on doing this to a school said date several years ago. He killed animals, tortured them on streaming services, had self-harmed, and had used bb guns. This pattern of behavior, arrest, and statements he made? Should he still have obtained a gun like that so easily? I too thought about the money issue.. but if he felt like doing this four years ago, it would seem he had been building his life savings for it. His home life is no excuse for his actions, but they are all factors to explain why he was the way he was. No adult in his life stepped up to do the right thing. There are always complaints about the media glorifying these stories. I think it is apt to report on these things and remember those persons that died. Those of us that didn't experience 9/11 themselves watched it on TV for days and weeks afterward. A nation of people were traumatized, but the new generation has no memory of it anymore. Kids aren't so hyper focused on TV anymore, they are glued to the internet and invent personalities for themselves. There is a trend for these killers to spend time involved in some very dark places, and are encouraged by others to act out their violent fantasies for adoration or attention they aren't getting from their families. How do we stop that?
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