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About yuna628

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    Baltimore MD
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  • Our Story
    My husband and I met for the first time on NYE '03, though we had known each other for longer than that. In 2009 he popped the question, but we waited until 2014 to file for our K1 visa. We were finally approved in 2015, and married on Sept 30th, 2015.

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  1. My husband participated in a breakfast gala, serving hundreds of veterans this morning with a MIA dedication ceremony. These days I keep digging into my grandfather's time during WWII, and wonder about the nameless men that served with him in all the images that I have. Wonder if they made it through and what things were like.
  2. We had the simplest wedding we could get despite all the pressure and stupidity and us threatening to just elope from time to time. Because at the end of the day married is married... and a champagne toast is just fizzy alcohol that goes in one way and comes out another no matter how expensive it is. We like our local wines etc, but we are very partial to Coppola Wineries out of CA. I'm sure that is not high class enough for some though..
  3. Well it sounds like you had a doctor that didn't know/want to follow the rules properly. Let's hope the officer reviewing the case understands. However, if not, it is possible to find a US-CS that is willing to just do the proper transcription of the I693, vaccination portion only. It's simple and only takes a few minutes. If you get any additional vaccinations make sure to keep proof and bring them to the US-CS if it came to it. If you should ever need a US-CS and can't find one in NJ, I can recommend one near the MD-DC border. It's a bit of a trip, but it was a bit of a trip for us too. Well worth the peace of mind and hardly expensive.
  4. The exchange is the same as everywhere else. The rules are the same. The only difference is, the soon-to-be-spouse will need to prove their legal presence (because illegal present persons are not offered coverage). The SSN won't help with that, but getting the AOS filed will so that she has proper documents to offer as proof. Whereas when I signed my husband up for our private insurance, they did the proper thing and didn't ask bare minimum anything. No SSN. No status questions. Nothing but basic paperwork. In either of these scenarios, eventually they can ask for the SSN (but they cannot deny or revoke coverage for not providing it). You do not have to provide it. They can keep asking until blue in the face, and you still don't need to provide it. That's the law. Provider employees can and continue to not follow the correct policy (it's even in their own training manual), but that's an ignorance of the law problem and you've got to stand up and push back if and when it happens.
  5. Legal alien, allowed to work. You are an alien allowed to work but only when you have authorization. Thus your card will have printed ''work only with DHS authorization''. Your EAD or green card, will be the authorization.
  6. Maybe I'm old fashioned. Planning a wedding and steeling ourselves from having tons of people furious about our choices even as we graciously paid for them to be there, and worked around their needs at expense of our own, I don't know if some have the right to complain you know? For ours half drink and half don't, and to keep costs low and prevent fighting, we said no alcohol. We got a nice bottle for ourselves later. Some wanted to bring their kids, and we said no, again to keep costs down low and keep the peace. Oh how there was wailing and childish behavior. But since everyone wanted us to have a 'wedding' instead of eloping, then why complain when we have a wedding the way we want it? I'm not a fan of alcohol snobbery. Alcohol is alcohol, there's nice tasting ones and bad tasting ones. What one enjoys, may not be enjoyed by another. It's only a toast, it could have been no booze at all - and afterall it's a wedding, and someone else is paying for it.
  7. SSA will likely not issue her an SSN so soon to I94 expiry. Again, it doesn't matter if it's the exchange, a private plan or whatever. An SSN is not required by law, the same law in fact that created the ACA. 😉 It's likely you'll need to speak with someone on the phone, as internet web forms can be a one size fits all approach and does not handle more unique situations. Hundreds of couples on here have signed up without it, and you can explore those threads. But, it is dealing with the government, so eventually they will want documentation of her legal status - such as the NOA1 for her AOS. Which is why it will be important to get those documents as soon as possible.
  8. Hi OP, I'm going to be straight with you here. You've made some big mistakes, and now find yourself in a critical position. All is not lost however, so you're going to have to start paying attention to the advice here instead of muddling through. Can this wedding date be bumped up? Can it be a quickie wedding in Las Vegas? You can still have whatever ceremony you intend on the 20th if you wanted, but in the interest of speed, you NEED to get the ball rolling and perhaps elope. You need to get the marriage certificate to file for AOS, and that means the sooner you marry the better, but in addition perhaps you should look into WHERE you can get the certificate with the fastest turnaround. If you do not file AOS soon, she will be out of status. It's important to protect your future spouse and child. Secondly, and I often have to scream this at the top of my lungs - an SSN is NOT required to obtain health insurance BY LAW. It doesn't matter what you think you read. It doesn't matter what someone randomly told you on the phone. It doesn't matter what was heard through the grapevine. It doesn't matter if an insurance agent on the phone told you with an attitude. IT'S NOT REQUIRED. Get the insurance sorted out as quickly as possible. It does not matter if the marriage happens AFTER open enrollment. She qualifies under SPECIAL ENROLLMENT after the marriage has happened. BUT, you need not wait around for a rainy day to sign her up, because there's still a limited timeframe to act. Wait too long and she'll be phased out, and with a baby on the way.. well.. that's a problem. Your other options? You can buy insurance outright for her via any provider in your area. Again, an SSN is not required. There's going to be an expense, but there's going to be an expense no matter what you do - and you've got a child to consider now. Once you file for AOS, also file for an EAD along with that. If the EAD arrives first, you can go to the SSA and apply for her SSN.
  9. Little can be done about that now. All they can do is follow the process again.
  10. I think we should be supportive of Japanese women who are trying to petition for change. But I don't think we can demand much from their culture. We have already imposed so much already. There is this African American lady online that does videos about Japanese culture and living and dating in Japan (she's a teacher). She's even done difficult subjects such a racism - and while it was annoying to her, she realized a lot of it is fundamental ignorance. She's a unique woman in a unique place and she attracts somewhat rude curiosity (without any understanding or realization of rudeness). She also had a lot of huge cultural differences to get used to, but takes it all in stride. She kindly educates, but isn't going to make a scene. Dating is very much more difficult for her. She is lavished with attention in ways an American male would not do, but ultimately she has rarely found a man that is ''willing to bring her home to mom" because of cultural pressure to find a Japanese wife. Whereas Japanese women are actively frustrated with their men, and are deciding to either take things slow, or look for foreign men. I hope that Japanese men will one day be willing to make significant changes, but it seems women have the head start and perhaps those woman must be willing to break the mold and raise their sons a little differently.
  11. She might, she might not. Either way Mr. Reeves will likely appreciate the effort and be kind.
  12. I think we have to be careful here. Japanese culture is *very* complex, and different to our own, even though we have influenced it to a degree for several reasons and possibly in the wrong ways. Still, their culture is a very old one, modern and at the same time not so much. It can be difficult and harsh for young men and women of both dating age and career age due to extreme pressure and expectation of nothing short than perfection in all things. You churn out and get burned out, not to mention the pressures placed on you culturally by your own family. It is the way the society has decided is best for them, and there have been changes, significant ones, especially in the dropping birth rate and marriage sector. Some women are becoming more cautious in their life-choices, but any change will be slow. The lunch thing is an interesting aspect that happens in several countries (check out ''The Lunchbox'' it's a good film) though it is certainly inappropriate to berate someone about it. That however, is another cultural aspect of how Japanese men are raised, and it's another reason why the women there are being choosy. The culture will only change when it's ready to, and women will have to fight.
  13. A lot of people in this area got solar, I hope it works for them but I heard it can be a nightmare if you need a new roof. No way we could ever afford it. With the nasty heat pump that died last year, the replacement for that was super expensive. The power company installed a smart meter, and we run all LED bulbs, open windows, and keep the heating/air down low. That's saved us a lot of money this year.
  14. My husband also works for the state. He was given a list of potential plans to choose from. Most will be the same: low deductible, higher cost - no deductible, highest cost - or high deductible lowest cost. You would have to explore your benefits booklet to understand what coverage you have. Your insurance cards will generally explain co-pay fees with the amounts for specialists, primary care, urgent care clinics, labs, ER, or radiology clinic. It was all very confusing to my husband at first, and while his first instinct was to choose the cheapest plan, he ultimately decided in the long run, it was better to pay the highest for the best care. He now understands why that was a very good choice, as one ER visit from him, two hospital stays from me and surgery cost our insurance 40k+50k. We on the other hand, owed very little - a few hundred dollars, mostly co-pays. It gave us both a great deal of peace of mind. We can also go see any doctor in any state we want provided they participate. On the whole, working for the state, usually offers the very best types of insurance plans you can get in each tier. Delta for dental is a decent insurance, better than many out there. As for vision insurance, I'm often skeptical about the use of it. It can be very fussy and limited in coverage, but if you've got it, you've got it.
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