Age gap... Will there be an issue at the interview for our Spouse Visa?

[Illiria 980]

12 minutes ago, Vaqar Malik said:

Yeah thank you 

But she don't look like 55 😚😚

This didn’t answer the question of marrying someone who is 55 from your country? would you marry someone your parents age if they didn’t have an American passport? 

Edited July 5, 2021 by Illiria

[arken 4,197]

15 minutes ago, Vaqar Malik said:

 

But she don't look like 55 😚😚

While your wife be wud be pretty happy to hear that, your indirect answer is you won't marry a 55 year old woman living in pakistan. Not that CO may ask that specific question but will ask those sort of questions to see if you married her just for immigration. Chat logs and money gram receipts aren't enough in my opinion. Lots of moneygram receipts will seem like she is enticing you with money. 

Edited July 5, 2021 by arken

[YYZ&MIA 117]

8 minutes ago, arken said:

While your wife be wud be pretty happy to hear that, your indirect answer is you won't marry a 55 year old woman living in pakistan. Not that CO may ask that specific question but will ask those sort of questions to see if you married her just for immigration. Chat logs and money gram receipts aren't enough in my opinion. Lots of moneygram receipts will seem like she is enticing you with money. 

Perhaps its the language barrier and what he is trying to say is getting lost in translation. Many American women in their 50s look amazing and dont look their age as plastic surgery and cosmetic enhancements are very popular compared to Pakistani women who I am sure dont have that access and its not as acceptable in their culture so I understand what he is saying. Nonetheless, that wont be an excuse during your interview so make sure your answers are solid. When asked why you fell in love with her and what is keeping you together besides her being caring and supporting you financially, what would be the answer? The questions and comments the other members mentioned that could be asked at your interview are valid and are likely to be asked. 

[JeanneAdil 6,195]

2 hours ago, Vaqar Malik said:

I have pictures and screenshot of our daily conversation and she always support me financially i have moneygram receipts I've submitted all of it.

 

Sending you money is poor evidence/  to immigration officers it looks like you use the USC for money /  trust me not good to show this and i hope she did nt include it as evidence of the relationship

time spent together in real life   / not texting or chatting or screen shots of chats but together in the flesh

 

her age is big is big / then the issue is also big

[P0907 127]

All I have gathered from this is you've married a USC almost twice your age who frequently sends you money. Excuse me being blatant but on paper, this sounds like the USC is being taken advantage of.

 

If you can't prove the relationship is genuine (living together, holiday together, at least visiting each other) you are probably going to have a hard time.

Edited July 5, 2021 by P0907

[Survivor123 6]

It’s a little obvious to all of us on here buddy.  There’s no way you are getting that visa on first go.  If this is real, she can move to Pakistan.  Maybe after a few years of her living in Pakistan they will consider.

[JeanneAdil 6,195]

2 hours ago, Boiler said:

6 years of living together is pretty solid evidence.

but he did not say lived together /  he said we've been together and then says he has evidence of this by money grams she sent,  and screen shots and chats

 

To OP:

more than 10 years of age difference is a lot to overcome

 

Asking again     how many trips to be with you in all?

how much time together in real life?

 

I made 5 trips all 1 to 3 months with him and his family totally over 6 months with him in real life 

and we have big age difference (and it took us 6 years to be approved)  

CO asked him  " Do you sleep with your wife?"

Get ready for hard questions like this 

and the big one if she sent proof of sending you money which is not a good indicator of the relationship 

 

and i had mother's approval  and family was present for our marriage celebration after the court marriage

 

and "doesn't look 55 NOW but give her 5 years and tell me what you think then

when we do start to age ,  the wrinkles come fast along with dark spots to show age

 

and you better be prepared to work and support her and pay your own health care insurance as she is close to if not already retired 

Many here can retire early if they are smart about saving and investing

 

Got to agree with the above- marriage on the 1st trip - expect to be denied /  i have been proven wrong before 

but you better be able to show you want to be with her (and no one else for a good marriage ) instead of "will i get my visa?"

this process to to reunite families not for a green card 

Edited July 5, 2021 by JeanneAdil

[Vaqar Malik 13]

I make a mistake to post my status i didn't get any advice i didn't get any positivity from any single member. I will remind you everyone this is my right to marry anyone no can blame me . And i will delete my post because not any other member will disappointed because of you guyz comments.thank you

[SalishSea 16,770]

5 hours ago, Vaqar Malik said:

I have pictures and screenshot of our daily conversation and she always support me financially i have moneygram receipts I've submitted all of it.

 

She’s supporting you financially?   In this situation, that may be a negative factor.

[SalishSea 16,770]

4 hours ago, Vaqar Malik said:

Yeah thank you 

But she don't look like 55 😚😚

So you don’t want children of your own?   The CO will want to know this….

[SalishSea 16,770]

10 minutes ago, Vaqar Malik said:

I make a mistake to post my status i didn't get any advice i didn't get any positivity from any single member. I will remind you everyone this is my right to marry anyone no can blame me . And i will delete my post because not any other member will disappointed because of you guyz comments.thank you

It is your “right” to marry anyone.   It is not your “right” to have an immigrant visa to the US.   This sounds like a green card marriage, and my guess is that the consulate will see it that way.   Good luck.

 

But, if as you say the love is genuine and the marriage is real, you’ll be just as happy when she moves to Pakistan, I’m sure.

Edited July 5, 2021 by Jorgedig

[carmel34 3,531]

4 hours ago, Vaqar Malik said:

We met twice in Philippines in her father country and in mine country Pakistan

So you have met three times total, correct?  And married on the first visit.  Did your wife submit documentation of all three visits, to show how many days/weeks/months you were physically together, such as passport stamps, original boarding passes, hotel receipts with the I-130 petition and later at the NVC stage?  I agree with others that the 29 year age gap could be a big challenge coming from Pakistan which can be a long difficult embassy to deal with even in more solid cases, a denial is quite likely if you did not submit any evidence of time spent together in person, which so far you have not mentioned, only chat records and money sent to you.  Try taking more quality evidence to your interview, they may or may not look at it but it's worth trying.  If your visa is denied, I suggest spending more time together, multiple trips, and submit that evidence.  You can even do some financial co-mingling while living in separate countries, we submitted evidence of health insurance, joint credit card, beneficiary on life insurance, retirement accounts, joint IRS tax transcript, etc. with the I-130 or NVC stages,  plus documentation showing time spent together (in our case before the visa interview, it was a total of 8 visits), and were approved with a 27 year age gap.  So it can be done but you need more quality evidence than chat logs and sending money.  She may have to move to Pakistan if you want to be together soon and then try a second time if the first attempt fails for lack of sufficient bona fide marriage evidence.  Good luck!

[laylalex 7,247]

6 minutes ago, Vaqar Malik said:

I make a mistake to post my status i didn't get any advice i didn't get any positivity from any single member. I will remind you everyone this is my right to marry anyone no can blame me . And i will delete my post because not any other member will disappointed because of you guyz comments.thank you

One thing I have learned on this website is that people will not say things just to be positive if there isn't a reason to be positive. You are facing an uphill battle, no matter how much you love your wife. You need to think constructively about what will happen if you cannot get a visa. Is your wife willing to move to be with you? My husband is here with me because I did not want to move permanently to his country. He gave up a lot to be here with me, for which I am grateful. Every day. But I know that if he had to leave here, couldn't live here for any reason, I would be on the plane with him back to his home. 

 

You need to consider her commitment to YOU as well as yours to her. If she's not willing to think about moving heaven and earth to be with YOU, what does that mean? I truly wish you the best of luck, but please consider the comments here in the spirit they're offered: to temper dreams with some realism. 

[Crazy Cat 39,222]

2 hours ago, Vaqar Malik said:

I make a mistake to post my status i didn't get any advice i didn't get any positivity from any single member. I will remind you everyone this is my right to marry anyone no can blame me . And i will delete my post because not any other member will disappointed because of you guyz comments.thank you

 You asked for our opinions.  Whether you like it or not, the Consulate Officer can and WILL ask a lot of questions when a case has these red flags.  The Consulate Officer is very familiar with what is normal in your culture.  Our goal here is to constructively help prepare you for that questioning.  It seems you just do not like the questions or our answers.  There will be more pressure when you are sitting in the Consulate Officer's office.   You aren't the first member to come here with a number of red flags..  We didn't just pull our concerns out of thin air, and we have seen men like you denied as they were unprepared.   You received advice concerning the evidence you need and the questions you might be asked.  You have to decide to either accept or reject it.

Edited July 5, 2021 by Lucky Cat

[Rocio0010 5,562]

5 hours ago, Vaqar Malik said:

I make a mistake to post my status i didn't get any advice i didn't get any positivity from any single member. I will remind you everyone this is my right to marry anyone no can blame me . And i will delete my post because not any other member will disappointed because of you guyz comments.thank you

OP., first, you got PLENTY of advice, especially with regards to the age difference and the fact that she's sending you money. Just because it wasn't the type of advice that you were expecting ("It's all going to be good", "No need to worry", etc) it doesn't mean that no advice was given. People here want you to be prepared for the uphill battle that you'll face (because you will have it hard). You said that she sends you money, that she is 55 but she doesn't look 55. Put yourself in the CO's shoes, or even better, imagine a friend of you came with the same story: you make it look as if she was your sugar mamma. 

The point that everyone is making here is that you have to present solid, good evidence that you entered the relationship in good faith and not for immigration purposes. Money transfers and beauty are not solid evidence. What do you have to counterbalance this?