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laylalex last won the day on February 15

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About laylalex

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  • Birthday 05/15/1985
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  1. I had to double check you meant Perth, Australia -- my husband's family lives about 30 miles from Perth (Scotland) and I was quite worried, even if it might relieve me of an occasionally meddling MIL.
  2. Get divorced. Trust me, if you think it's a good idea now, you'll think it was an even better idea 3 or 4 years from now. There are NO states left that require you to have a reason to get divorced, and USCIS doesn't care either. The only person who should care if you get divorced is YOU. My ex (who came in on a K1) and I split well after he removed conditions, but he did apply for citizenship under the 5 year rule and I had to help him out a bit because I had always been the person who dealt with immigration before then. I can tell you the sum total of what he said they asked him about his marriage: "So you were married to an American before but that didn't work out, right?" That was it. No questions about why we broke up. He ticked all the boxes and jumped through all the hoops and now he's a USC. I am divorced and free of him. Your attorney doesn't know his rear end from his elbow. File for divorce. Your mental health is paramount here, and staying married to a person who makes you miserable isn't going to help that. When citizenship comes around, fill out the forms without fear. You are doing what is right for YOU. Best wishes to you in a difficult time. ❤️
  3. I don't disagree that this isn't forever. But I believe that right now, in many places, the risk is too high. I care about my community, and don't want to put it at risk. A person who refuses to wear a mask and gets COVID doesn't operate in a vacuum -- they encounter others, too. They can come home and infect their kids, or their spouse, or someone at work. I worry about those people, who are blameless. We moved into the yellow tier this week and I for one am looking forward to a Hot No-COVID Summer of eating al fresco, going to the beach, going on roadtrips and hikes and allllll the stuffs. Life is getting back to normal here in this county. Which of course means traffic. But I can live with traffic if that means that soon we're going to have this under control.
  4. I took a nap after it. I literally just came back on here when you posted this! What was disappeared from my earlier post is that TBone might also get his friend a rose quartz roller. These are not just a gimmick, which I was convinced they were. They can help with puffiness under the eyes, as well as promoting good circulation in the face, tightening pores and firming skin. They can get quite expensive, but I have seen them at Target at the $10-15 mark. You can probably find them a bit cheaper, but you get what you pay for -- cheaper ones can fall apart. I think mine was about $30; I didn't see the need for a $100 one! You use the roller after applying creams/gels/serums to work the product into the epidermis, and the cooling effect of the quartz helps with swelling and puffiness in the face. It's a very relaxing process too, and makes getting ready for the day or for bed feel more like self-care. I keep mine in the fridge for extra cooling. A video on this and GuaSha, which are stones that are used for contouring the face as well.
  5. I think I know human nature. Frankly I don't trust most people. If that means I wear a mask around people who I don't know (and therefore don't trust) or people I do know but don't trust (I have an aunt and several cousins that fall into this category), so be it. People suck. Just because I did what is necessary to protect myself and the people around me doesn't mean others have. Until this is really under control, I'll wear a mask in places where there's a higher risk of transmission -- i.e., indoors around the general public, or where social distancing isn't possible. I don't see the point in gambling with my health or the health of others to ... what? Make some sort of political point that I am An Individual and I Know My Rights? I know that already. What I am is a human being that cares for my health, the health of my loved ones, and the health of the greater community. Masks suck but getting COVID or giving it to someone else is worse.
  6. Ugh, I just deleted my entire reply! The RoC is a good all rounder for puffiness and dark circles. It also has a little more cachet than Garnier or CeraVe, which are both excellent. The Ordinary is a bit of a cult item, supposedly excellent but not as nourishing for older skin as the others. Edit: my phone keeps eating parts of my post. I'll come back to write more after my shower. I have more recommendations!
  7. I am feeling almost completely better now. Amazing how I could go from wanting death's sweet kiss to near complete recovery in 36 hours. I want to go be in the world again and feel safe to be there, safe to others too. So I'll do it all over again and gladly.
  8. Last night I was in so much pain I really didn't know how I could continue on being conscious, honestly. I had to take one of the Klonopin I save for "emergency" moments because I couldn't move without experiencing some sort of debilitating pain. I scared the hell out of my husband because every time I tried to do something like reach for a glass of water, or try to get out of the bed, I would scream or start crying. I was unable to walk, unable to hold a fork or a glass, unable to turn a page of a book or do much of anything without feeling like someone was viciously twisting most of my joints. He was convinced we needed to go to the hospital but I refused. Icing and heating pads took a bit of the edge off, along with the Klonopin, and I eventually passed out with my wrists inside of a heating pad which was wrapped around them, like they were filling in a hand burrito with the pad acting as the tortilla. The morning wasn't looking better and I had resigned myself to another day in bed, bingewatching 90 Day Fiance: The Single Life because that way I didn't need to operate a remote as the episodes rolled into each other. Around 11am, the pain was less agonizing. I was able to walk to the shower unassisted (still can't wash my hair, too much wrist action), drink a cup of tea on my own, sit up and type. Hallelujah! I am continuing to improve and I expect that I will be right as rain by the weekend. If this is what Jab #1 is like, what is Jab #2 going to do to me?
  9. Cold cream? No! She needs an eye cream. And yes, there is a difference between eye cream and moisturizer. They are for the much more delicate skin around the eyes. And a little goes a very, very long way so don't worry that the jar is small. There are some good ones at the under $20 mark. RoC Retinol Correxion Line Smoothing Eye Cream: https://www.walmart.com/ip/RoC-Retinol-Correxion-Line-Smoothing-Eye-Cream-with-RoC-Retinol-Non-Greasy-0-5-fl-oz/13269685 Garnier Ultra-Lift Anti-Wrinkle Firming Eye Cream: https://www.garnierusa.com/about-our-brands/skin-care/ultra-lift/ultra-lift-anti-wrinkle-eye-cream CeraVe Eye Repair Cream for Dark Circles and Puffiness: https://www.target.com/p/cerave-eye-repair-cream-for-dark-circles-and-puffiness-5oz/-/A-15091205 The Ordinary Caffeine Solution 5% + EGCG: https://theordinary.deciem.com/us/rdn-caffeine-solution-5pct-egcg-30ml.html (only $6.70!) LOL, that post was such a long time ago, I forgot I made it! I found two which work great for me, and I alternate between them: REN Evercalm Cleansing Milk: https://www.sephora.com/product/evercalm-gentle-cleansing-milk-P174626 Cle de Peau Clarifying Cleansing Foam: https://www.nordstrom.com/s/cle-de-peau-beaute-clarifying-cleansing-foam/4421239
  10. As someone who has been to Disneyland plenty of times as a kid, and as an adult: yes, it can be a LOT of fun as an adult, even with no kids. The key is knowing when to go. I try to plan visits for random Tuesdays or Wednesdays between mid-January (after all the Xmas stuff is gone) through March, making sure to avoid school holidays. Last time I went was maybe five years ago, though, but I went with a friend on a Wednesday in the middle of February, not near any holidays. No lines for anything, not even rides like Space Mountain, Haunted Mansion and Pirates, which always have hours-long waits during peak times. We did Space Mountain twice in a row -- just got off the ride, walked back up the very, very long approach to the entrance and back we went. With no crowds, you have enough room to take in the whole place, and to notice the real attention to detail everywhere. It is its own universe, and it's not too hard to suspend your disbelief when fantasy is done with wittiness and imagination. I say this as someone who is NOT a Disney fanatic! The first time I went as an adult, I was in my mid-20s and hadn't been since I was in high school. I came with a "I'm too old for this" attitude and within half an hour I felt the magic again. If you let the magic in, it really can be wonderful. And I think it's better without kids!
  11. Pics! Pics!! Seriously, hope it goes well for you. This stuff is no joke in some of us.
  12. No, though it's probable he got some paint on his hands. His ex-wife is fine as exes go, really, and she's a great mother to their daughter. So I don't complain about her too much and we're quite friendly. I count myself as one of the luckier Wife #2s out there.
  13. Okay, I must correct myself. They had no actual prenup but they had an agreement about the ex girlfriend. But she was entitled to the support so I'm guessing Washington is a community property state too. I keep dwelling on this ex thing. I'm trying to imagine a universe where my husband would want to hang out on a beach with any of the ones I know. When he went to visit his daughter last year at Christmas, he stayed in the guest room at his ex wife's house and she put him to work nearly immediately, painting walls and trim. Not a day at the beach!
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