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Hi guys. I don't know, I just need some emotional support right now.

 

My fiance JUST told me he got arrested about 4 weeks ago from drinking and then starting a fight. This is after he promised me and his family he'd stop drinking so much because this has become a trend when he overdrinks and becomes violent. So hearing this news, I was pissed off beyond..JUST BEYOND. HE PROMISED. I reminded him many times about not drinking too much. So I know this is something he KNOWS he shouldn't have done. I am so mad he hid this from me and also because we are at the K-1 visa interview step in the process and were so close... How could he be such an idiot? We put so much time, money, and energy into all of this and now he may get denied because of this.

 

I just yelled at him so much and then I'm so devastated and just in shock; sobbing. I had all these dreams about our new life together, how happy we'd be, and we were so close. All of the sudden those dreams may not ever be able to come true?

 

Will he definitely get denied because of this arrest now? Does anyone else have experiences with a fiance with a criminal past? Any support or words or advice would be welcome....


Our K-1 Visa Timeline 🙈:

  • I-129F mailed:  March 8, 2019
  • NOA1: March 19, 2019
  • NOA2: June 6th, 2019 (79 days <3)
  • NVC received: N/A (Didn't check)
  • NVC sent to Embassy: July 9, 2019
  • Visa case received at Embassy: July 23, 2019

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Is he the petitioner or beneficiary?


Timelines:

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AOS (I-485 + I-131 + I-765):

9/25/17: sent forms to Chicago

9/27/17: received by USCIS

10/4/17: NOA1 electronic notification received

10/10/17: NOA1 hard copy received. Social Security card being issued in married name (3rd attempt!)

10/14/17: Biometrics appointment notice received

10/25/17: Biometrics

1/2/18: EAD + AP approved (no website update)

1/5/18: EAD + AP mailed

1/8/18: EAD + AP approval notice hardcopies received

1/10/18: EAD + AP received

9/5/18: Interview scheduled notice

10/17/18: Interview

10/24/18: Green card produced notice

10/25/18: Formal approval

10/31/18: Green card received

 

K-1:

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I-129F

12/1/17: sent

12/14/17: NOA1 hard copy received

3/10/17: RFE (IMB verification)

3/22/17: RFE response received

3/24/17: Approved!

3/30/17: NOA2 hard copy received

 

NVC

4/6/2017: Received

4/12/2017: Sent to Riyadh embassy

4/16/2017: Case received at Riyadh embassy

4/21/2017: Request case transfer to Manila, approved 4/24/2017

 

K-1

5/1/2017: Case received by Manila (1 week embassy transfer??? Lucky~)

7/13/2017: Interview: APPROVED!!!

7/19/2017: Visa in hand

8/15/2017: POE

 

 

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Just now, geowrian said:

Is he the petitioner or beneficiary?

Beneficiary


Our K-1 Visa Timeline 🙈:

  • I-129F mailed:  March 8, 2019
  • NOA1: March 19, 2019
  • NOA2: June 6th, 2019 (79 days <3)
  • NVC received: N/A (Didn't check)
  • NVC sent to Embassy: July 9, 2019
  • Visa case received at Embassy: July 23, 2019

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Posted (edited)
8 minutes ago, Julie & Jae said:

Beneficiary

It will come up in his police check (PCC), and it may or may not be an issue for the medical. There's no way to know beforehand, but it may be deemed a substance abuse issue. He will likely be referred to a psych exam.

 

It is not something that cannot be overcome or anything like that. It may or may not extend the timeline, though.

I wish I had more firm answers, but I really don't know how the panel physician will view it, nor the specifics of the charges and circumstances (fighting alone is not a CIMT, but the specific circumstances can be...meaning a waiver would be needed if so).

 

Best wishes. I really hope things work out for the best for both of you.

Edited by geowrian

Timelines:

Spoiler

AOS (I-485 + I-131 + I-765):

9/25/17: sent forms to Chicago

9/27/17: received by USCIS

10/4/17: NOA1 electronic notification received

10/10/17: NOA1 hard copy received. Social Security card being issued in married name (3rd attempt!)

10/14/17: Biometrics appointment notice received

10/25/17: Biometrics

1/2/18: EAD + AP approved (no website update)

1/5/18: EAD + AP mailed

1/8/18: EAD + AP approval notice hardcopies received

1/10/18: EAD + AP received

9/5/18: Interview scheduled notice

10/17/18: Interview

10/24/18: Green card produced notice

10/25/18: Formal approval

10/31/18: Green card received

 

K-1:

Spoiler

I-129F

12/1/17: sent

12/14/17: NOA1 hard copy received

3/10/17: RFE (IMB verification)

3/22/17: RFE response received

3/24/17: Approved!

3/30/17: NOA2 hard copy received

 

NVC

4/6/2017: Received

4/12/2017: Sent to Riyadh embassy

4/16/2017: Case received at Riyadh embassy

4/21/2017: Request case transfer to Manila, approved 4/24/2017

 

K-1

5/1/2017: Case received by Manila (1 week embassy transfer??? Lucky~)

7/13/2017: Interview: APPROVED!!!

7/19/2017: Visa in hand

8/15/2017: POE

 

 

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4 minutes ago, geowrian said:

It will come up in his police check (PCC), and it may or may not be an issue for the medical. There's no way to know beforehand, but it may be deemed a substance abuse issue. He will likely be referred to a psych exam.

 

It is not a permanent bar or anything like that. It may or may not extend the timeline, though.

I wish I had more firm answers, but I really don't know how the panel physician will view it, nor the specifics of the charges and circumstances (fighting alone is not a CIMT, but the specific circumstances can be...meaning a waiver would be needed if so).

 

Best wishes. I really hope things work out for the best for both of you.

Thank you for your information and timely reply. I know you took some of your time to get that info for me. Yes, that's why I was so worried because the Korean Embassy does ask for their criminal record report at the interview. I'm so pissed it would have been a clean slate until 4 weeks ago. Anyways, my fiance also said something about the arrest case not being "finished" or closed and something about finding a lawyer for help so I don't know specifics about the arrest and circumstances either. I want to know more, but right now I'm so upset with him and he said he was busy trying to do that anyways. I really hope that it goes like you said because that would be better than just a flat out denial. Thank you for your wishes for us too.


Our K-1 Visa Timeline 🙈:

  • I-129F mailed:  March 8, 2019
  • NOA1: March 19, 2019
  • NOA2: June 6th, 2019 (79 days <3)
  • NVC received: N/A (Didn't check)
  • NVC sent to Embassy: July 9, 2019
  • Visa case received at Embassy: July 23, 2019

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Posted (edited)
7 hours ago, bakphx1 said:

 

If you’re in direct competition with alcohol for your partner’s attention and to be the priority in his life you have to realize that alcohol will always win.  

Yes, this.

 

You said he had promised he would not overdrink. Sadly, promises are easy to make but hard to keep. Ask him instead, what concrete actions he is planning to take to address the issue. He might need to seek professional help, is be willing to? Alcohol is not something one simply drops at will, not when there is a history of abuse. Again, please take time to study the next steps of the immigration process because the K1 visa is just the first of many and your relationship will need to be as strong as it can possibly be to survive all the stress that comes with them.

Edited by Nat&Amy

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you got some good advice above from so many

as alcohol problems and violence can cause so much heartache and Money

Are you prepared to pay attorney fees when he has trouble here?

It was pointed out he will not be able to work for some time/ this causes boredom 

are you prepared to pay the high cost of auto insurance for someone with drinking problems?

 

So many issues here

Think really hard with your head and not the heart 

and thank God you found all this out now

 

I probably overstepped too and i apologize but i was once married to a man who drank way too much and i loved him way too much

i had to finally move out for the sake of my sons

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Just as a note....I'm glad others came in and covered the non-immigration issues. I appreciate it~ ❤️

 


Timelines:

Spoiler

AOS (I-485 + I-131 + I-765):

9/25/17: sent forms to Chicago

9/27/17: received by USCIS

10/4/17: NOA1 electronic notification received

10/10/17: NOA1 hard copy received. Social Security card being issued in married name (3rd attempt!)

10/14/17: Biometrics appointment notice received

10/25/17: Biometrics

1/2/18: EAD + AP approved (no website update)

1/5/18: EAD + AP mailed

1/8/18: EAD + AP approval notice hardcopies received

1/10/18: EAD + AP received

9/5/18: Interview scheduled notice

10/17/18: Interview

10/24/18: Green card produced notice

10/25/18: Formal approval

10/31/18: Green card received

 

K-1:

Spoiler

I-129F

12/1/17: sent

12/14/17: NOA1 hard copy received

3/10/17: RFE (IMB verification)

3/22/17: RFE response received

3/24/17: Approved!

3/30/17: NOA2 hard copy received

 

NVC

4/6/2017: Received

4/12/2017: Sent to Riyadh embassy

4/16/2017: Case received at Riyadh embassy

4/21/2017: Request case transfer to Manila, approved 4/24/2017

 

K-1

5/1/2017: Case received by Manila (1 week embassy transfer??? Lucky~)

7/13/2017: Interview: APPROVED!!!

7/19/2017: Visa in hand

8/15/2017: POE

 

 

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