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[Jaffakin 1]

Hello vj members. 

I'm marriage to Africa America 3 years ago and she fill for me to join her, my IR visa approved and now im with her in America 8months ago, within 120 days I got my green card.. expired in 10 years time. Whenever I got paid from my work she and her children will borrow me money and they won't pay me back. Now when they asked of money and I dont  give to them.. she told me she will deport me to Ghana and I'm worried.  So I'm sharing my problem here. Please is it possible for her to deport me while I'm having my 10 years green card. Please those who  have experience about this issues should share with me. Thank you 

Edited December 21, 2018 by Jaffakin
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[geowrian 22,335]

Only the US government can deport somebody.

Unless there is documented evidence of immigration fraud, she can't do anything.

[Just Paul 4,591]

Sorry to  hear about your issues.  If you have a bona fide marriage then there was no fraud on your part.  She can't have you deported but I believe she can withdraw  the I-864 affidavit of support - but i doubt she was able to file it alone.   Do you know if there is a co sponsor?

 

Ultimately you need to decide to stay with this woman and her kids. You can return to Ghana or move out and support yourself. 

 

If you don;t feel safe there are options for help.  Don't stay in an unsafe situation.

[geowrian 22,335]

19 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

She can't have you deported but I believe she can withdraw  the I-864 affidavit of support

Once the I-864 is executed (when they obtained permanent residency), it cannot be withdrawn by the petitioner.

[JFH 12,189]

I understand you are upset. Rest assured that she cannot deport you. This threat is often made by bitter USC spouses when the marriage does not turn out to be the fairytale they dreamed of and they feel they “haven’t got their momey’s worth” for the filing fees, etc. I’m a little confused about the money. How are they getting it? Are you giving it them cash or do they have access to your bank account? Is it a joint bank account with your wife? If they are taking the money for household expenses then that’s very normal here in the USA. Married couples often have joint accounts and each will spend money on whatever things they need for the household such as rent, groceries, utility bills, things for the children such as clothing and music lessons. Isn’t that why you go to work, to support your family? Is money all kept separately in Ghana? You say they are borrowing the money but not paying it back, but what are they using it for? My husband doesn’t need to “borrow” from me, what’s mine is his. I’m struggling with the concept of your wife “borrowing” money from you. Depending on your state, you may find that under community property laws your wages are her money as much as they are yours. 

Edited December 21, 2018 by JFH

[Just Paul 4,591]

3 hours ago, geowrian said:

Once the I-864 is executed (when they obtained permanent residency), it cannot be withdrawn by the petitioner.

Yes that is Correct!

[Unlockable 7,306]

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[Jaffakin 1]

3 hours ago, JFH said:

I understand you are upset. Rest assured that she cannot deport you. This threat is often made by bitter USC spouses when the marriage does not turn out to be the fairytale they dreamed of and they feel they “haven’t got their momey’s worth” for the filing fees, etc. I’m a little confused about the money. How are they getting it? Are you giving it them cash or do they have access to your bank account? Is it a joint bank account with your wife? If they are taking the money for household expenses then that’s very normal here in the USA. Married couples often have joint accounts and each will spend money on whatever things they need for the household such as rent, groceries, utility bills, things for the children such as clothing and music lessons. Isn’t that why you go to work, to support your family? Is money all kept separately in Ghana? You say they are borrowing the money but not paying it back, but what are they using it for? My husband doesn’t need to “borrow” from me, what’s mine is his. I’m struggling with the concept of your wife “borrowing” money from you. Depending on your state, you may find that under community property laws your wages are her money as much as they are yours. 

Is my personal account, I gave them cash atimes pay for over speed tickets and cable tv, and even their car payments for the children.  They are grown up enough 22years and 25years, 

[Jaffakin 1]

6 hours ago, Paul & Mary said:

Sorry to  hear about your issues.  If you have a bona fide marriage then there was no fraud on your part.  She can't have you deported but I believe she can withdraw  the I-864 affidavit of support - but i doubt she was able to file it alone.   Do you know if there is a co sponsor?

 

Ultimately you need to decide to stay with this woman and her kids. You can return to Ghana or move out and support yourself. 

 

If you don;t feel safe there are options for help.  Don't stay in an unsafe situation.

No co sponsor, she did everything by herself

[Se&Se 8]

6 hours ago, Jaffakin said:

Hello vj members. 

I'm marriage to Africa America 3 years ago and she fill for me to join her, my IR visa approved and now im with her in America 8months ago, within 120 days I got my green card.. expired in 10 years time. Whenever I got paid from my work she and her children will borrow me money and they won't pay me back. Now when they asked of money and I dont  give to them.. she told me she will deport me to Ghana and I'm worried.  So I'm sharing my problem here. Please is it possible for her to deport me while I'm having my 10 years green card. Please those who  have experience about this issues should share with me. Thank you 

Once you have 10years GC, she has nothings to do with deportation...she only threatening u.. People does that here, once they feel like you are not doing thing for their selfish ego.

[Just Paul 4,591]

50 minutes ago, Jaffakin said:

No co sponsor, she did everything by herself

Then money shouldn't be an issue . . . unless there has been a change in the financial situation since you immigrated.

[CEE53147 559]

It sounds like this is a marriage of convenience or for an immigration benefit rather than a true marriage if you are complaining about paying for cable TV and other expenses that would normally be considered part of a family's obligations.

[Khallaf 646]

7 hours ago, Jaffakin said:

Hello vj members. 

I'm marriage to Africa America 3 years ago and she fill for me to join her, my IR visa approved and now im with her in America 8months ago, within 120 days I got my green card.. expired in 10 years time. Whenever I got paid from my work she and her children will borrow me money and they won't pay me back. Now when they asked of money and I dont  give to them.. she told me she will deport me to Ghana and I'm worried.  So I'm sharing my problem here. Please is it possible for her to deport me while I'm having my 10 years green card. Please those who  have experience about this issues should share with me. Thank you 

if you feel that you are being taken advantage of, then you need to seek out a divorce attorney, her constant threats to deport you would in my opinion be considered mental abuse. When married and in a relationship I feel there is a requirement to help out with house expenses but not to cover expenses for grown children that at their age should be able to fend for themselves.

 

If you feel strongly enough get out, cut clear and live your life happy.

[Going through 5,668]

34 minutes ago, CEE53147 said:

It sounds like this is a marriage of convenience or for an immigration benefit rather than a true marriage if you are complaining about paying for cable TV and other expenses that would normally be considered part of a family's obligations.

In all fairness, I'd be a little upset too if I was forced to pay for the cable, speeding tickets and car payments for a 25 year old adult.

Edited December 21, 2018 by Going through

[EmilyW 1,222]

32 minutes ago, CEE53147 said:

It sounds like this is a marriage of convenience or for an immigration benefit rather than a true marriage if you are complaining about paying for cable TV and other expenses that would normally be considered part of a family's obligations.

I would have thought that not threatening your spouse would also be part of a family's obligation.