Is my online Moroccan boyfriend lying to me? (merged)

[Annonymus 6]

Hello everyone,

 

I met a mwondeful Moroccan guy in a dating site back in January. He is 25 and I’m 33 .  I went into that site because I was going through a divorce and I needed someone to talk to. He helped me a lot, listened to me and made me feel a lot better about myself.  We started of playing and joking for like around 2 weeks to a month. Then as we started sharing pictures of each other and he told me... I have a heart full of love but not money (LOL) at the moment I took it as a joke. But as We kept talking I realized what he said. He meant it, it’s really difficult for him to get a job there specially because he hasn’t finished high school. He told me I’m his motivation and that he will now get it for me so we can have a better life together. I did tell him at one point that I could visit him so he can get an invite for a visa. He still told me he would marry me without knowing me (is that a red flag?). Also, my friends and I were going to go there together but at first he was okay with everything and then he insist that he wants me to go by myself. He say he would be more confortable to be just him and I. Him and I have an agreement, he can come to usa and work and if things work out we will have a relationship. If not, we will stay friends. Should I still go visit Morocco by myself? 

Edited April 6, 2021 by Annonymus
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[Iva7 35]

Honestly, I wouldn't. You don't really know that person and it sounds sketchy with the whole "I would marry you without knowing you". Sounds like a "I'd love a green card". Not necessarily the case, but possible. Anyways, going to a foreign country to meet a person you don't really know by yourself is too risky in my opinion. Make sure you have your friends with you when you first meet and if things go well, you can spend time with him alone. That's my advice. 

[KULtoATL 1,551]

4 minutes ago, Annonymus said:

Hello everyone,

 

I met a mwondeful Moroccan guy in a dating site back in January. I went into that site because I was going through a divorce and I needed someone to talk to. He helped me a lot, listened to me and made me feel a lot better about myself.  We started of playing and joking for like around 2 weeks to a month. Then as we started sharing pictures of each other and he told me... I have a heart full of love but not money (LOL) at the moment I took it as a joke. But as We kept talking I realized what he said. He meant it, it’s really difficult for him to get a job there specially because he hasn’t finished high school. He told me I’m his motivation and that he will now get it for me so we can have a better life together.

 

I did tell him at one point that I could visit him so he can get an invite for a visa.

You cannot invite someone for a visa. However, if you're in a legit relationship, sure, you can petition him for a fiance or spousal visa.

 

He still told me he would marry me without knowing me (is that a red flag?).

Yes, a major yes. Under normal circumstances, even if he wasn't a foreigner, it would still be a yes. Marrying someone whom you don't know will be a huge reason leading to the demise of a relationship.

 

Also, my friends and I were going to go there together but at first he was okay with everything and then he insist that he wants me to go by myself. He say he would be more confortable to be just him and I.

He would be more comfortable but what about your safety? Additionally, it is better that you go there with your friends so it is less pressure on you and easier to keep things moving casually since you've never met him in person before. And with your friends, I'm sure they would point things out to you if something was amiss while you might be too drunk in love to not notice the red flags he presents.

 

4 minutes ago, Annonymus said:

 

Him and I have an agreement, he can come to usa and work and if things work out we will have a relationship.

A work visa is not easy to get. He needs to be sponsored by an employer. And it doesn't sound like he has highly sought after skills. It's not really up to you guys to decide that he can come to the US to live and work, just like you cannot invite him for a visa.

 

If not, we will stay friends. Should I still go visit Morocco by myself? 

Visit if you want but definitely bring your friends.

 

Best be careful than sorry! Don't petition someone for any visa based on an awfully short relationship without getting to know each other. If he is genuine, he'd take it slow with you. Petitioning someone has financial implications and you're responsible for them till they work at least 40 quarters or become a citizen, whichever comes first.

[Fk254 45]

I think you need to take things slowly...you both should get to know yourselves more better...though love is blind and he might be showing signs of possessing all you want in a man..But you should take your time...Give it time ..

 

Trust me you both have different cultural values and need time to really understand each other..Please don't allow someone leverage on you just for green card..

 

Relax,  give it time, time is the greatest factor that reveals sincerity and deceptive intentions..

 

For example me and my fiancee were school mate before she travelled in 2005...we reconnected in 2010 on Facebook...we were friends since 2010 and officially started dating 2018 and we just started the K1 visa..

 

I am not saying your own should take as long as mine ...but all I am saying is you need to adequately know whom you want to file a petition or else ..

 

Take life easy ,I can understand  it's not really easy with u right now emotionally..but rushing up things with him is not gonna help either...

Edited April 6, 2021 by Fk254

[Annonymus 6]

10 minutes ago, KULtoATL said:

 

 

Best be careful than sorry! Don't petition someone for any visa based on an awfully short relationship without getting to know each other. If he is genuine, he'd take it slow with you. Petitioning someone has financial implications and you're responsible for them till they work at least 40 quarters or become a citizen, whichever comes first.

 

30 minutes ago, Annonymus said:

Hello everyone,

 

I met a mwondeful Moroccan guy in a dating site back in January. He is 25 and I’m 33 .  I went into that site because I was going through a divorce and I needed someone to talk to. He helped me a lot, listened to me and made me feel a lot better about myself.  We started of playing and joking for like around 2 weeks to a month. Then as we started sharing pictures of each other and he told me... I have a heart full of love but not money (LOL) at the moment I took it as a joke. But as We kept talking I realized what he said. He meant it, it’s really difficult for him to get a job there specially because he hasn’t finished high school. He told me I’m his motivation and that he will now get it for me so we can have a better life together. I did tell him at one point that I could visit him so he can get an invite for a visa. He still told me he would marry me without knowing me (is that a red flag?). Also, my friends and I were going to go there together but at first he was okay with everything and then he insist that he wants me to go by myself. He say he would be more confortable to be just him and I. Him and I have an agreement, he can come to usa and work and if things work out we will have a relationship. If not, we will stay friends. Should I still go visit Morocco by myself? 

 

10 minutes ago, KULtoATL said:

 

 

Best be careful than sorry! Don't petition someone for any visa based on an awfully short relationship without getting to know each other. If he is genuine, he'd take it slow with you. Petitioning someone has financial implications and you're responsible for them till they work at least 40 quarters or become a citizen, whichever comes first.

 

11 minutes ago, KULtoATL said:

 

 

Best be careful than sorry! Don't petition someone for any visa based on an awfully short relationship without getting to know each other. If he is genuine, he'd take it slow with you. Petitioning someone has financial implications and you're responsible for them till they work at least 40 quarters or become a citizen, whichever comes first.

He just got a passport the moment I agree with meeting each other but he doesn’t have a visa for usa so we agreed to meet in a different country instead of Morocco. and has been trying to meet with me. But I keep changing the plans due to Covid. He is actively trying to meet me... applying for a different visa to a different country so we can meet and see if we are a good match to each other. this time I thought it would be easier if I take a mini vacation. 

[Annonymus 6]

32 minutes ago, Annonymus said:

Hello everyone,

 

I met a mwondeful Moroccan guy in a dating site back in January. He is 25 and I’m 33 .  I went into that site because I was going through a divorce and I needed someone to talk to. He helped me a lot, listened to me and made me feel a lot better about myself.  We started of playing and joking for like around 2 weeks to a month. Then as we started sharing pictures of each other and he told me... I have a heart full of love but not money (LOL) at the moment I took it as a joke. But as We kept talking I realized what he said. He meant it, it’s really difficult for him to get a job there specially because he hasn’t finished high school. He told me I’m his motivation and that he will now get it for me so we can have a better life together. I did tell him at one point that I could visit him so he can get an invite for a visa. He still told me he would marry me without knowing me (is that a red flag?). Also, my friends and I were going to go there together but at first he was okay with everything and then he insist that he wants me to go by myself. He say he would be more confortable to be just him and I. Him and I have an agreement, he can come to usa and work and if things work out we will have a relationship. If not, we will stay friends. Should I still go visit Morocco by myself? 

He just got a passport the moment I agree with meeting each other but he doesn’t have a visa for usa so we agreed to meet in a different country instead of Morocco. and has been trying to meet with me. But I keep changing the plans due to Covid. He is actively trying to meet me... applying for a different visa to a different country so we can meet and see if we are a good match to each other. this time I thought it would be easier if I take a mini vacation. 

[powerpuff 5,892]

Him saying he’d marry you without meeting you is certainly a red flag to me. It’s also a bit alarming he was so opposed to you traveling to Morocco with your friends. He saying he’s uncomfortable with the idea, but has he considered it would be uncomfortable for you to go to country you’ve never been to to meet a man for the first time without your friends?
 

If you want to pursue the relationship, then you definitely need to meet face to face. Whether you want to do it in Morocco or elsewhere, that’s your choice. I’d also advise you to have your own place to stay for your own safety. If he’s going to oppose that too, we’ll now that’s a big red flag and I would just cancel the trip. 
 

Regarding him getting a US tourist visa - he’s a single young unemployed Moroccan man and I’d say his chances of getting it are very very low. 

 

 

[KULtoATL 1,551]

5 minutes ago, Annonymus said:

He just got a passport the moment I agree with meeting each other but he doesn’t have a visa for usa so we agreed to meet in a different country instead of Morocco. and has been trying to meet with me. But I keep changing the plans due to Covid. He is actively trying to meet me... applying for a different visa to a different country so we can meet and see if we are a good match to each other. this time I thought it would be easier if I take a mini vacation. 

What country are you guys planning to meet in? This is yet another crucial decision because if you are 100% about wanting to meet him alone, you want to go to a country where it is safe for a solo female traveler and it is easy for you to get help in general and/or access to a US embassy. I would not suggest meeting anywhere remote or a country where you don't speak the language as well as somewhere women are not properly respected. I've traveled a lot as a solo female traveler and my #1 priority is always about safety. And if you've never traveled alone outside of the US before or hardly traveled, again, going with friends can only work in your favor.

[Annonymus 6]

3 minutes ago, KULtoATL said:

What country are you guys planning to meet in? This is yet another crucial decision because if you are 100% about wanting to meet him alone, you want to go to a country where it is safe for a solo female traveler and it is easy for you to get help in general and/or access to a US embassy. I would not suggest meeting anywhere remote or a country where you don't speak the language as well as somewhere women are not properly respected. I've traveled a lot as a solo female traveler and my #1 priority is always about safety. And if you've never traveled alone outside of the US before or hardly traveled, again, going with friends can only work in your favor.

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[powerpuff 5,892]

If he’s unemployed how will he afford to pay for tickets, hotel, expenses, etc? 

[Fk254 45]

31 minutes ago, Fk254 said:

I think you need to take things slowly...you both should get to know yourselves more better...though love is blind and he might be showing signs of possessing all you want in a man..But you should take your time...Give it time ..

 

Trust me you both have different cultural values and need time to really understand each other..Please don't allow someone leverage on you just for green card..

 

Relax,  give it time, time is the greatest factor that reveals sincerity and deceptive intentions..

 

 

 

[Annonymus 6]

12 minutes ago, powerpuff said:

If he’s unemployed how will he afford to pay for tickets, hotel, expenses, etc? 

His family is going to help for now.

[Crazy Cat 39,218]

1 hour ago, Annonymus said:

Hello everyone,

 

I met a mwondeful Moroccan guy in a dating site back in January. He is 25 and I’m 33 .  I went into that site because I was going through a divorce and I needed someone to talk to. He helped me a lot, listened to me and made me feel a lot better about myself.  We started of playing and joking for like around 2 weeks to a month. Then as we started sharing pictures of each other and he told me... I have a heart full of love but not money (LOL) at the moment I took it as a joke. But as We kept talking I realized what he said. He meant it, it’s really difficult for him to get a job there specially because he hasn’t finished high school. He told me I’m his motivation and that he will now get it for me so we can have a better life together. I did tell him at one point that I could visit him so he can get an invite for a visa. He still told me he would marry me without knowing me (is that a red flag?). Also, my friends and I were going to go there together but at first he was okay with everything and then he insist that he wants me to go by myself. He say he would be more confortable to be just him and I. Him and I have an agreement, he can come to usa and work and if things work out we will have a relationship. If not, we will stay friends. Should I still go visit Morocco by myself? 

Your case has serious red flags to consider:  This could be a long and expensive journey.  The immigration process demands a great deal of knowledge, planning, time, patience, and money.  A failure in any of these areas can result in heart breaking failure.  I suggest spending a lot of time actually together before making serious plans for the future.   As I said, I see some serious issues which will, very likely, result in very close scrutiny.  This will be especially true if there are religious differences, cultural difference, etc.  Morocco is a tough consulate, even without the red flags which are present in your case.  Good luck, but I suggest a lot of time actually together.

Edited April 6, 2021 by Lucky Cat

[Crazy Cat 39,218]

One more thing-  Be very careful......good luck.

Edited April 6, 2021 by Lucky Cat