Husband wants a divorce

[Rocio0010 5,571]

1 hour ago, African Zealot said:

Am I confusing this case with the one where the gentleman has already entered the USA? Are you sure your husband is not already here?
 

The number of African (let me limit it to Nigerians and Ghanaians, I am Ghanaian) husbands who will obtain an immigrant visa and then tell their American spouse to go ahead and cancel the visa because they want a divorce is less than 0.03%. Will a man dying of dehydration in the desert refuse a glass of water? 😁
 

Once again, are you very very very sure with incontrovertible evidence that your husband has not already entered the USA?

Yep, that was @Josh or. He’s in the US, wife wants a divorce

[SalishSea 16,827]

I remember you.  Big age difference, right?  I would cut your losses and be thankful you were not scammed further.

[Rocio0010 5,571]

7 hours ago, PEbode said:

My husband is wanting a divorce but I don't im also sick but don't want to cancel the visa if we get the divorce can he still come on our spousal visa if I don't cancel it? He asked me to cancel it but I haven't 

I am sorry that you’re in this situation. If I remember correctly, he’s from Nigeria but lives in Ghana, and there’s an age gap. 
I know now it may sound horrible, but this might be a blessing. You might be saving yourself from a scam.

[laylalex 7,253]

If you love him, you will respect how he wants to live his life. It may hurt like nothing you've ever felt before, but letting him go is an act of love. Keeping him bound to you only serves to hurt you both.

 

Be kind. Wish him well and let him go. You will heal from this, and know that you were capable of putting the needs of someone you loved above your own. That's something to be very, very proud of. I hope you will find lightness in your heart soon. ❤️ 

[Cathi 5,617]

Why would you want him here if he wants a divorce?

[Redro 4,601]

18 hours ago, PEbode said:

My husband is wanting a divorce but I don't im also sick but don't want to cancel the visa if we get the divorce can he still come on our spousal visa if I don't cancel it? He asked me to cancel it but I haven't 

I'm so sorry the visa process has been so long and arduous for the two of you. But, if your husband has decided he wants to divorce and end the immigration process you should honor that wish.

Do not think of it as wasted time/money. If you continue the process with a partner who no longer wants to be with you it can become even more expensive! 

Husband will not be able to come to the US on the spousal visa if you are no longer married. 

I would file for divorce in the US and not Nigeria/Ghana so you both know the divorce is real and neither of you have issues if you decide to remarry each other (or another person). 

[little immigrant 800]

15 hours ago, PEbode said:

Trust me if he was already here we wouldn't be having these issues now

Sounds like y'all are frustrated about the wait and the process. Remember that if you withdraw the visa, you cannot withdraw the withdrawal. You'll start from scratch. Are you sure this isn't something you guys can talk about?

[JeanneAdil 6,224]

culture of Nigeria detonates husband would be under a lot of pressure from family to produce children 

if your age difference puts u past the age of having children ,  it may be the breaking point and what is now on his mind

 

if u continue in this process and he ends up getting a visa and coming to US ,  expect him to divorce here since divorce is what he wants

 

BTW  he could be denied at any interview for any red flag issue 

CO can even go thru his media and come across the notice of wanting a divorce 

 

its hearbreaking to fall in love,  spend time and money to be with a loved one but give this one up as he isn't putting everything into the marriage,   u r

 

when marriage is good ,  its good 

when its bad ,, its bad 

and there is no in between

[PEbode 14]

How do I cancel the visa?

[OldUser 4,976]

1 hour ago, PEbode said:

How do I cancel the visa?

Never done it and other people can advice.

There is online portal if you are at NVC stage:

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/us-visas/visa-information-resources/ask-nvc.html

 

"You can write the details of your petition and attach copies of a signed withdrawal request letter electronically.

Be sure to include the above-mentioned personal and petition details, and attach a copy of the approval  notice of your immigrant petition."

 

[Crazy Cat 39,403]

1 hour ago, PEbode said:

How do I cancel the visa?

Email and/or mail USCIS, NVC, and the consulate.  Provide a statement which says "I hereby withdraw I-130, receipt #, names.  If you have submitted an I-864, withdraw it also.  Once you send those emails, there is no turning back.  Good luck.  Seek happiness for yourself.

[Cheschirecat 176]

On 10/28/2022 at 2:53 PM, PEbode said:

My husband is wanting a divorce but I don't im also sick but don't want to cancel the visa if we get the divorce can he still come on our spousal visa if I don't cancel it? He asked me to cancel it but I haven't 

Please please do

as he asks….. cancel, move on!  If you need anything, reach out 

[OlayemiLoray 172]

Ma'am, let it go..You may have dodged a bullet. If he is wanting you to cancel, cancel it and move on with your life. It's also a possibility that he may moved on to his next victim. Let it go sis...

[PEbode 14]

Oh I have we are getting the divorce 

[TBoneTX 43,290]

Good for you, ma'am.  Wishing you resolve and ultimate happiness.