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I immigrated here about 3 months ago because of a person I met a few years ago while I was visiting here. When I met him I thought she was the ideal person to make a living with.
 
Once I visited she said that she could not conrinue to attend me if we did not marry. I loved it with your heart and I decided to marry him 24 days after my entry and we spent a very good time together I go back to my country and after I come back soon after to continue our story. I had a good time without really knowing the person and his intention in the relationship. After I return to my country and he told me that he wants me here definitively he filled out the forms and last December I come here as legal permanent resident.
 
Some days after my arrival I do not receive my green card until after 36 days and my social security number 7 days later. She's starting to make life difficult I got a job 3 days about 10 miles from home after my ssn arrived I'm working on foot in the cold and I can not even afford to pay nouriture.
 
She argues with me almost every day and threatens to call immigration is the opposite of the person I met I feel very bad.
 
In addition she has two children whom I love very much she asks the children to love me if I say something that she is recording it and sending it to her sister.
 
today it's been 3 days since I did not eat because I did not have my pay.
 
I have no family here, I think returns to my country but before I seek advice after much research I think here you can help me.
 
thank you already for your contribution

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1 minute ago, Piyoli said:
I immigrated here about 3 months ago because of a person I met a few years ago while I was visiting here. When I met him I thought she was the ideal person to make a living with.
 
Once I visited she said that she could not conrinue to attend me if we did not marry. I loved it with your heart and I decided to marry him 24 days after my entry and we spent a very good time together I go back to my country and after I come back soon after to continue our story. I had a good time without really knowing the person and his intention in the relationship. After I return to my country and he told me that he wants me here definitively he filled out the forms and last December I come here as legal permanent resident.
 
Some days after my arrival I do not receive my green card until after 36 days and my social security number 7 days later. She's starting to make life difficult I got a job 3 days about 10 miles from home after my ssn arrived I'm working on foot in the cold and I can not even afford to pay nouriture.
 
She argues with me almost every day and threatens to call immigration is the opposite of the person I met I feel very bad.
 
In addition she has two children whom I love very much she asks the children to love me if I say something that she is recording it and sending it to her sister.
 
today it's been 3 days since I did not eat because I did not have my pay.
 
I have no family here, I think returns to my country but before I seek advice after much research I think here you can help me.
 
thank you already for your contribution

Sounds like your best move is to return to your home country 

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5 minutes ago, Lil bear said:

Sounds like your best move is to return to your home country 

I think the same thing. Once I get my paycheck I'll get a flight and go home my life was better before. Hopefully I can get an expedite divorce. 

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1 hour ago, Piyoli said:

Hopefully I can get an expedite divorce. 

You don't have to divorce to leave.  You can divorce almost anywhere, except the Vatican and the Philippines


March 2, 2018  Married In Hong Kong

April 30, 2018  Mary moves from the Philippines to Mexico, Husband has MX Permanent Residency

June 13, 2018 Mary receives Mexican Residency Card

June 15, 2018  I-130 DCF Appointment in Juarez  -  June 18, 2018  Approval E-Mail

August 2, 2018 Case Complete At Consulate

September 25, 2018 Interview in CDJ and Approved!

October 7, 2018 In the USA

October 27, 2018 Green Card received 

October 29, 2018 Applied for Social Security Card - November 5, 2018 Social Security Card received

November 6th, 2018 State ID Card Received, Applied for Global Entry - Feb 8,2019 Approved.

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1 hour ago, Piyoli said:

I'll get a flight and go home my life was better before.

If you leave you can still return with 6 months in case she suddenly decides to make it better.

 

Best wishes!


March 2, 2018  Married In Hong Kong

April 30, 2018  Mary moves from the Philippines to Mexico, Husband has MX Permanent Residency

June 13, 2018 Mary receives Mexican Residency Card

June 15, 2018  I-130 DCF Appointment in Juarez  -  June 18, 2018  Approval E-Mail

August 2, 2018 Case Complete At Consulate

September 25, 2018 Interview in CDJ and Approved!

October 7, 2018 In the USA

October 27, 2018 Green Card received 

October 29, 2018 Applied for Social Security Card - November 5, 2018 Social Security Card received

November 6th, 2018 State ID Card Received, Applied for Global Entry - Feb 8,2019 Approved.

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This thread is moved from the "Moving to the US" forum to the Effects of Major Changes forum, to be among similar threads.


06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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9 hours ago, Piyoli said:

She argues with me almost every day and threatens to call immigration is the opposite of the person I met I feel very bad.

Just know that she cannot do anything to take away your greencard or deport you or anything like that (unless she submits proof that it was not a true marriage, and USCIS takes her seriously).  A lot of "bad" spouses threaten to call immigration as a way of controlling the other person.

 

I'm sorry this is happening to you.  Being in the US for only 3 months, might be more worth it to just file for divorce at this point, and go back to your country as you want to.

 

 

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July 14, 2017 (Day 00) -  Submitted N400 Application, filed online

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July 25, 2017 (Day 11) - Biometrics PDF posted online

July 28, 2017 (Day 14) - Biometrics letter received in the mail, appointment for 08/08/17

Aug 08, 2017 (Day 24) - Biometrics (fingerprinting) completed

Aug 14, 2017 (Day 30) - Online EGOV status shows "Interview Scheduled, will mail appointment letter"

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Aug 21, 2017 (Day 37) - Interview Appointment Letter received in the mail, appointment for 09/27/17

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Sep. 28, 2017 (Day 75) - Oath Ceremony Letter PDF posted online--Ceremony for 10/19/17

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You could also leave her and stay in the US if you can figure out a way to do it.  Live somewhere else, continue to work to support yourself, file for divorce.  Get another job that pays better, in a city you want to live in.  Or go back to your home country if you have the money to do that.  You can do whatever you want to do, but get out of that bad situation.  Good luck!

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I agree with what has been said by other people here. It sounds like she or he (I don't really understand, sorry) is very manipulative and shouldn't threaten you with the whole "I'm calling the immigration officers/I'll get you deported" thing.
If you have a job in the States, I'm pretty sure there are ways you can keep living there and maintain your job, unless you'd rather go back to your home country, obviously.
Law protects US citizens by scammers, but it works the other way around too. This is abuse, she/he is the real "scammer" here and if you can prove you moved to the States to be with this person but she/he turned out to be someone completely different, I'm confident they'll help you with your situation.
Best of luck :(

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2 minutes ago, Sbrisa said:

I agree with what has been said by other people here. It sounds like she or he (I don't really understand, sorry) is very manipulative and shouldn't threaten you with the whole "I'm calling the immigration officers/I'll get you deported" thing.

Threatening to have a visa revoked shows a power play that has been mentioned in other threads where the USC is abusive. I can’t imagine ever saying that.

 

That to me is about the cruelest thing you can say to a spouse you brought over who’s put themselves in a unique position.  If you’re an immigrant and a spouse says that, I would be looking to get away ASAP. It takes having something pathologically wrong with you to do that.

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17 minutes ago, bakphx1 said:

Threatening to have a visa revoked shows a power play that has been mentioned in other threads where the USC is abusive. I can’t imagine ever saying that.

 

That to me is about the cruelest thing you can say to a spouse you brought over who’s put themselves in a unique position.  If you’re an immigrant and a spouse says that, I would be looking to get away ASAP. It takes having something pathologically wrong with you to do that. 

Unfortunately I've read many threads here about this topic. It must be horrible to leave everything behind, your friends, your family, your country, your entire life to be with the person you love and instead it turns out to be a nightmare. I can't even think about it. My fiancè would never say that to me, like I'd never say something like "I left everything I had to be with you!". Both things hurt.
The only thing I can think about, is how do those people ever recover from those experiences? How can they go back on their feet? It takes a lot of strength that I'm sure I wouldn't have if I ever found myself in this mess.

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If you have the means to return to your country, I would do that ASAP, if you aren't able to eat for days, and your spouse is threatening your residency/status here. Whether or not they have any control of that or not, it's cruel enough to try and hold it over your head regardless.


Håll ut, y'all.

 

               K1 Process                                                                                AOS Process

July 2015 - met online thanks to Zak Bagans                                                            May 25, 2018 - South Carolina marriage license issued

June 2016 - first in-person meeting                                                                             May 26, 2018 - legally married

August 2016 - stateside visit                                                                                        June 7, 2018 - applied for Social Security Number [manual verification required]

February-April 2017 - stateside visit                                                                           June 18, 2018 - SSN/card received in the mail

April 4, 2017 - got engaged                                                                                          June 30, 2018 - submitted I-485 (AOS)/I-765 (EAD)/I-131 (AP) together

June 5, 2017 - submitted I129F                                                                                   July 9, 2018 - AOS/EAD/AP electronic NOA1 received

June 12, 2017 - received NOA1                                                                                   July 13, 2018 - AOS/EAD/AP hard copy NOA1 received (dated July 6, 2018)

December 1, 2017 - received NOA2                                                                            July 25, 2018 - Biometrics appointment (Charlotte, NC)

January 17, 2018 - NVC received case                                                                      August 1, 2018 - case status updated to "Ready to be Scheduled for Interview"

January 18, 2018 - received NVC case number by phone                                      August 11, 2018 - case status updated to "I-485 Interview Scheduled"

January 24, 2018 - packet received via email                                                           August 16, 2018 - AOS Interview Scheduled letter received

February 15, 2018 - medical appointment                                                                 August 28, 2018 - visited civil surgeon (Winston-Salem, NC) to complete I-693

February-March 2018 - trip to Gothenburg                                                                                                [beneficiary had to get one remaining vaccination stateside]

February 22, 2018 - interview at the US Embassy in Stockholm                            September 18, 2018 - I-485/AOS Interview in Greer, SC

                                    [passed, pending receipt of medical papers]                           September 18, 2018 - case status updated to "Card Has Been Issued/Mailed"

February 27, 2018 - medical papers received by Embassy                                     September 25, 2018 - Green Card received in the mail

March 5, 2018 - visa received in the mail with passport                                          October 6, 2018 - traditional wedding with family & friends

May 16, 2018 - POE in Charlotte, NC

 

 

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