k1 Never met her child.

[VanDerFran 10]

Hello friends, 

 

Let me read what you guys have say about this.

 

My Fiance has a child that lives with her mother far way from Manila, I met my Fiance 3 times, and we travel outside PH, I never met her child or any other member of the family.

 

What implications this may have on a K1 process?

 

Thanks

Van Der

[wbeem 568]

The requirements state that you and your fiance must have met in person - which you have, so you're fine.  Make sure you send proof of that with your application (boarding passes, photographs, receipts, passport stamps etc).  

It would be nice if you could meet your fiance's children, but it's not a requirement and I don't expect you're going to have a hard time for it.  If you visit again during the process and you do meet them, just collect the evidence as above so that you can submit if if they ask for it. 

Good luck with your journey. 

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

20 minutes ago, VanDerFran said:

Hello friends, 

 

Let me read what you guys have say about this.

 

My Fiance has a child that lives with her mother far way from Manila, I met my Fiance 3 times, and we travel outside PH, I never met her child or any other member of the family.

 

What implications this may have on a K1 process?

 

Thanks

Van Der

You have been there 3 times but never met any family at all, where is she from what province? This smells to me really bad.

 

Just telling you man to man that you need to met her family and go to her place. @Hank

Edited May 25, 2018 by Cyberfx1024

[Crazy Cat 43,913]

25 minutes ago, VanDerFran said:

Hello friends, 

 

Let me read what you guys have say about this.

 

My Fiance has a child that lives with her mother far way from Manila, I met my Fiance 3 times, and we travel outside PH, I never met her child or any other member of the family.

 

What implications this may have on a K1 process?

 

Thanks

Van Der

Meeting family members, in itself, is not a specific requirement.  However, it can be a part of the overall assessment made by the Consulate Officer during interviews.  As a practical matter, I definitely agree with @Cyberfx1024

[VanDerFran 10]

13 minutes ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

You have been there 3 times but never met any family at all, where is she from what province? This smells to me really bad.

 

Just telling you man to man that you need to met her family and go to her place. @Hank

Her family lives on a 'non so safe area', and she does not like the idea of me going there, we talk about the idea of bringing her son and mother to another less terrorist active area, but never put the idea in practice.

But the main reason I never went to see her family has something to do with the embassy issuing travel warnings/restrictions to the area where family members are.  

[Roel 7,193]

Sounds shady as hell.  Honestly. 

Usually mother would want their children to meet their future step father. 

 

How long you know her? 

What about child's father?

Is she divorced?

Is there any age gap between you? 

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

what part of the Philippines is she from? My wife is from Zamboanga Del Norte in Mindanao which is on the caution list. I feel safe there, safer than in NYC, Chicago or any other major US City, just be sensible, act quietly, don't flash cash, be respectful, you may be an oddity in the provinces but that's it.

 

On the kid front, inability to get along with the kid or tolerate his behavior will have a dramatic effect on your relationship with your fiancé/spouse, better to let that genie out of the bottle sooner than later

 

I agree with the rest, something appears "Not Right"

[BJ & Christine 1,392]

I have only met my fiancé sister. None of her other family members as she does not have contact with them.

My fiancé has met 2 of my 4 children. Sadly I have t even seen my twins since February of 2017. Highly unlikely that they will visit prior to turning 18 (in Oct of 2019). 

Personally im and not concerned by it.

[debbiedoo 2,339]

as  mother, i cant imagine getting married to someone who i dont even know if they can tolerate my kid. or how they interact with my kid.

 

my kid comes first. ALWAYS.

 

i also cant imagine having my kid move in with a person they dont know, in a country they dont know and possibly a language they dont speak

 

this would be a deal breaker for me

[JayHouser 209]

My fiancee is from El Salvador and lives in Soyacity which is one of the central areas of MS13 but I actually stay out there and make visits with her family. I agree with everyone else while its not a requirement you should get a few photos for the interview stage.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

59 minutes ago, VanDerFran said:

Her family lives on a 'non so safe area', and she does not like the idea of me going there, we talk about the idea of bringing her son and mother to another less terrorist active area, but never put the idea in practice.

But the main reason I never went to see her family has something to do with the embassy issuing travel warnings/restrictions to the area where family members are.  

As @Randyandyuni said you need to meet her family no matter what. My wife is from Compostela Valley Province in Mindanao and there is a warning all over Mindanao in general. But that has not stopped me from going there and I do feel safer there than I have here in the USA sometimes. The NPA is big in my wife's province but I have never been threatened by them at all. 

 

I am telling you this because it is common practice to date a foreigner all the while having a bf or husband at home. The foreigner doesn't visit because it is "unsafe" supposedly and thus unaware of all of this going on.

 

I have seen this first hand when I met a guy from Nebraska whose fiance was from the same province as my wife and she convinced him that it was unsafe for him to go. So when I found this out I told him that it's not unsafe and in fact I was going there the next day. She was mad as hell because her scam was found out. 

 

You can pm me if you want. What province is she from?

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

34 minutes ago, BJ & Christine said:

I have only met my fiancé sister. None of her other family members as she does not have contact with them.

My fiancé has met 2 of my 4 children. Sadly I have t even seen my twins since February of 2017. Highly unlikely that they will visit prior to turning 18 (in Oct of 2019). 

Personally im and not concerned by it.

This is not like  the opening but thank you for sharing. This type of thing is common in the Philippines when your trying to hide another bf or a husband.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

36 minutes ago, Randyandyuni said:

what part of the Philippines is she from? My wife is from Zamboanga Del Norte in Mindanao which is on the caution list. I feel safe there, safer than in NYC, Chicago or any other major US City, just be sensible, act quietly, don't flash cash, be respectful, you may be an oddity in the provinces but that's it.

 

On the kid front, inability to get along with the kid or tolerate his behavior will have a dramatic effect on your relationship with your fiancé/spouse, better to let that genie out of the bottle sooner than later

 

I agree with the rest, something appears "Not Right"

Exactly this just follow what your wife or fiance does then you will be fine. My wife has two phones for the Philippines. She has a nice phone for at home and a basic phone for out and about.

[boggsjd 27]

44 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

as  mother, i cant imagine getting married to someone who i dont even know if they can tolerate my kid. or how they interact with my kid.

 

my kid comes first. ALWAYS.

 

i also cant imagine having my kid move in with a person they dont know, in a country they dont know and possibly a language they dont speak

 

this would be a deal breaker for me

Exactly, and I'm not an expert, but I would certainly think this would raise some red flags at the interview stage. I don't think anyone would expect a genuine and lasting marriage from two people if one hasn't even met the child they will be raising together.

[VanDerFran 10]

2 hours ago, Roel said:

Sounds shady as hell.  Honestly. 

Usually mother would want their children to meet their future step father. 

 

How long you know her? 

What about child's father?

Is she divorced?

Is there any age gap between you? 

Yes, She does want me to meet them , the way I put it made look bad... Her child is being raised by her mom since 6 months old, she only works and support the them. fro the last 5 years.

 

How long you know her?  Almost 2 years.

What about child's father? Nowhere to be found!

Is she divorced? Never married.

Is there any age gap between you? 16 years