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I don’t know if you have a birth certificate, if you don’t and you need one, you can get it at the close the Mexican consulate. You need to request it online here https://www.gob.mx/actas

I don’t know if you have a birth certificate, if you don’t and you need one, you can get it at the close the Mexican consulate. You need to request it online here https://www.gob.mx/actas

You don't have to wait for card to apply for SSN. Call SS office tomorrow they should e able to look you up and see what's up. We went through this when my husband arrived in 2016. Remember you have temp stamp in passport that's all you need in case you have to apply for SS#. I think it's just a backlog and it will come. But call tomorrow and inquire.

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Plus hijacked posts if you have questions for your own case you need to start your own thread not post in other members threads. This thread will remain locked and is not to be restarted. When the OP's husband has visa in hand she is welcomed to post about it.~~

I think we should consider that when somebody ask a question in this forum, is because they’re looking for an answer, they don’t have any reference and “common sense” is only valid when we have some experience from past events. We need to be careful on how we deliver the answers.

Thanks everyone for the replies :) we got an x ray done on the Thursday (thankfully for only $50)...and the next day we had a call from the doctors to say the X-ray was normal and I could pick up the forms. So our AoS is officially sent off. No more forms. No more medical visits. No more fees. Just need to wait for the interview now...feels such a relief!

This is very odd. Looking at your post history you have had some very irrational fears about the whole process - worries that a 1-week honeymoon will look suspicious (despite the fact that many people - me included - didn’t have a honeymoon at all), fears of misrep bans, fears of lifetime bans for having no photos of the two of you, fears of home visits by USCIS or ICE... it’s quite possible that the stress has all been too much for you. Immigration is a very stressful operation. Her visa is good for 6 months from the medical date. Maybe take a breath and postpone her arrival? Or maybe it’s better she gets here as soon as possible so you can work through the issues together rather than through messenger or Skype?

Hello Everyone!
 
Today we were approved and wanted to share our end experience with this entire process.
 
Our CC was April 19th and we requested for an expedite at the beginning of August since in seemed that Juarez was waaaaaay backed up on interviews. They are about 6-7 months from CC to actual interview date. After seeing a post on facebook on someone asking to expedite their case I thought what the heck, I got nothing to loose. I filed for an expedite for some personal issues as well as my apartment lease coming to an end and my rent will be going up to about $1300 a month since my husband and I did not want to agree to another year. When I originally agreed on the 10mo lease I was under the impression that I would have had an interview date in August. Once July rolled around and saw how backed up we were I got super bummed because it seemed that we probably wouldn't get an interview until November. I also have lot's of student loans  I have to pay of with some credit/car debt as well. When I filed for the expedite I put financial as one of the reasons but also showed that I am in good standing with all of my payments and don't have any derogatory marks. I stressed that my financial plans last year were made based off of what I thought would be an approval month. Of course I had a plan B if the interview date didn't go as planned BUT it would just be so helpful to have someone to help with the finances and not struggle from the trips I am consistently making out to Mexico. I most definitely did not think I would get expedited but by some miracle we did 🤗 They called a couple days later and we set up his interview for August 24th.
 
Prior to my husbands interview date I had traveled to Mexico for our one year anniversary in May. I brought him 3 pre-made color coded sticky notes packets with all the information he would need for his time at the consulate as well as translated the names of the packets since he only speaks Spanish. All he would need were a couple more documents which I noted on his packets as well one was an extra copy, one for himself, one for the consulate. He arrived in Juarez on Tuesday, August 21st, Had his medical and biometrics exam on the 23rd, and his interview today.
 
For the medical exam it was weird because they asked for the address which he didn't expect since they only asked for the DS-260 for, Appt letter, and passport initially so had to revise his documents to get the address. His appt was at 6:30am and finished within the hour and then had his biometrics at 2:30pm. Got his results at 3:30pm for his medical exam and everything was all good.
 
He got to the interview and was super nervous because the office who was doing the interviews for his group was denying a lot of visas. When he walked up to the officer he said the nervousness went away as he was talking to the officer because the conversation was very natural and the officer seemed to enjoy the conversation with him. He was smiling and even laughing at the thoroughness of how I prepared his packets. He was asked:
How long have you and your wife been together? About a year and a half
 
How long ago did you meet? about 2 and a half years ago
 
How did you meet? We met through mutual friends and through those mutual friends she was the one who actually started reaching out to me to get to know me more ( officer laughed and said " ohhhh reeeeally" ). She would send me messages and of course I would reply because I liked her too so I would message back. We found out we had a lot in common, one of those things being we love to video game. We both would hop on our playstation to play and we would be in the chat audio all night for hours which eventually led to actual phone calls. Then we started face-timing each other on the daily and our days off. One thing led to another and then I asked her to marry me and she flew out here to do so. We have since then traveled a lot together and she has come out here on multiple occasions to spend time with me and my family. I have some picture if you would like. My wife prepared a packet hold on...( husband took out giant 30page packet our our photos dates by month and year we traveled together, office then chuckled and said " wow you really have traveled a lot together!". Officer then asked for him to show him all the pics and were we have traveled and what we've done together while visiting) 
 
It seems like you and your wife love each other a lot
 
So tell me about your plans for work when you arrive to the states: I currently work at the Nuclear power plant in Veracruz as a Technician who calibrates instruments so I am planning on applying to the nuclear power plant in AZ. They also have a really big electricity company I can apply to as well if I am not hired on at the power plant. My wife and I have already done a lot of research of the position open and what is needed in order to be hired on.
The officer then asked him more questions about what else he does at the power plant just out of curiosity.
 
Congratulations you have been approved, your visa will arrive in a max of 10 days and good luck to you and your wife.
 
My husband said that he doesn't even know why he was so nervous, that as soon as he started talking about us he just felt so much peace because it's our truth. He felt as if though he was talking to some friends who just happened to ask how did you guys meet.
 
I am so happy this process is finally over and we can finally be together! I didn't have a lawyer, just literally hours and hours of reading threads on this website 🤣 I would take other's experience and did soooooo much research on what to do, mistakes commonly made, finding checklists and so much more! I would get so bummed when I would have people tell me you should get a lawyer, it makes the process easier but I am so happy that I didn't and just put in the work to make it happen. I have learned so much and have also been able to help others. I even helped someone get their case expedited who had been denied !!! The main advice I can while at our interview is just be truthful and honest lol. Like my husband said, it's our truth, there is no need to be nervous about your relationship if it is an honest one. Good luck to everyone!

Did you read the other replies...he has his green card...lol

Sure, just look around for job offers and pretty sure you'll find something . Do your own research. Send out resumes. This is not something we can do for you.

In your best interests that he naturalises asap as you are on the hook for the I 864 until then.

I went to Servicios Medicos de la Frontera too, I called and confirmed they'd receive applicants until 11am, so I showed up around 10:30am with no appointment, the waiting room was empty and I even thought it was already closed, I checked in and went through the whole process in about 30 minutes. One of my friends had his medical about a month earlier, he went early in the morning, he said is very busy, all the guest houses (casa de huespedes) bring their guests at the same time, plus walk-ins and appointments.... He spent about 3 hrs there.... call around and find out their hours of operation, then choose the best for you.

I apologize for not knowing how to attach the conversation I am replying to.
 
I am 52, my husband is 47.......not a big difference in our ages. I have all the paperwork from the interview.  I have disclosed everything I have read and explained to me by the lawyer, there is nothing to hide, my husband is the type of guy that drives 59 in a 60mph zone because he is afraid of getting into trouble.   There was obviously communication breakdown before and after an interpreter was assigned to him I agree on enforcing immigration laws.  I am thankful that we have them and am not playing a victim to what has happened to my husband (then fiancé) but I do believe that we have CBP Officers that fly by the seat of their pants and make decisions based on the current flavor of the day.  
I came here not to argue or defend my case.  It is what it is and I have accepted that.  I came to this forum to introduce myself and in support of how people manage their waiting time.  Every one of the cases I have read are unique in and of itself and nothing seems to be normal, just a guideline to help.  Perhaps I am using the wrong lingo.....this is new to me.  On July 12, 2017 I was contacted by CBP and told that my husband would not be entering the USA Today.   When I was faxed over the paperwork and had the several consults with the lawyer before choosing one, I was told he was banned for 5 years.  Might sound suspicious to you, but I can only go off of the paperwork/interview/ and stamp in his passport.    If there is something more to it, I am not aware of it and it was not documented int he interview.
 
I am just trying to survive the waiting game.

I think maybe you can't see the forest because of the trees.  All that seems, to me, to be irrelevant to the fact that he was sentenced to an aggravated felony to which he admitted...This country, rightfully imo,  has a low tolerance for people who take advantage of the good will of the US, then commit extremely serious crimes.....
 
I honestly think you should re-evaluate this relationship and make appropriate plans.

i meant South Africais 
anyway, sometone pleady quilty to felony manslaugter???
my sister and one brother both worked in the prison system / a bus should be waiting for him when he is released to deport him and no lawyer in his right mind should take this case / one would take your money but they could not much help you
you mention he was also with a gang / not in his favor / America is so afraid of gang violence now
give it up girl and find a decent man or join the BS in Africa

I have a word of advice and I hope I'm posting it in the right place.  During your K-1 process (or any other visa process) think seriously about what name the non-US person will use when she/he arrives, and applies for a Social Security card.  This is especially true for people from Latin America where four names (or more) is not uncommon.  If you don't plan ahead you'll have different names and initials on all important documents because many of those applications have room for only first, middle initial and last name.  Some have more space. Some allow for two last names. Some don't. Our bank could not fit my husband's name on the application so shortened it.....his medical records don' t match the insurance carrier, so claims get returned-and many many more.   If you clear this up and pick a name she/he can live with and then stay with that you can prevent a lot of confusion. 

Might want to find one that knows immigration law a bit better...

After reading 9 pages, divorce is the most common answer, and is a great answer, it's quick and you don't have to face the origin or reality of the problem. But, is the right choice? You're the only person who can answer if is worth fighting for your marriage.
 
So far I like the response from JKStark about the possible reasons of her behavior, I also like the response from NelmaGriffin about cultural differences.
 
OrangesApples brought up something very important that I may not understand to its fullest, so I'll give you my personal point of view about the last name, to me, it's not important. Couples with same last name can fight and cheat on each other, while couples not even married can be faithful 100%. As I'm reading all the posts, I came across Eric & Idalia post about the last name.
 
Anniversary date is not important, at least to me. Going back to cultural differences, I've seen that here in the US, dates like birthdays, anniversaries are very important, anniversaries to broken relationships!
 
Facebook? for your is important... is it important for the rest to know you're married? Maybe, maybe they don't care.
 
RLA has a point: Maybe she doesn't feel loved by you, and if you don't fix it, the relationship won't have any chance to survive.
 
I didn't like the comments from Aussielad. We don't know her side of the story.
 
I found Natyerus questions very important, this is from a person who can relate to your wife, being from the same country.
 
You could be insecure, needy or both, that's not a problem as long as the other person likes it that way. You just need to find the correct person.
 
As some others already post it, if we ask your wife, what would she say about you? Have you change? Have you hurt her in any way? I'm the immigrant, and I've seen many times that here in the US is very acceptable to say whatever it comes to mind, then apologize and expect that with just one "I'm sorry", life goes back to what it was. In other words, sometimes is the way we say things and not the essence of the message that's hurtful.
 
By no means I'm putting the blame on somebody, but you said you're in your 30s, and this is your second wife, What happened to your first marriage?  .... we all have our past and we all are carrying our own baggage that can affect our present relationships. It'll be better to have an impartial point of view, from somebody who can speak with you as well as with your wife. Reading your message, of course we all going to blame her, but it wouldn't be fair. Keep your integrity and give her a chance to express her point of view. You both can learn from each other and have a better communication.
 
Good luck.

My ¢2 about the infopass:
 
I scheduled an infopass appointment, the first available was about a week ahead. I went to the Tukwila office (South of Seattle), and surprise! they were letting people in without an appointment, straight walk-ins. I don't know if this has changed, but if I was you, I'd play stupid and say I didn't know I had to have an appointment..... but schedule the appointment before you go!
 
Good luck!

Excuse my bluntness.  The stupid thing is not to understand the facts in evidence.  You were a bit harsh..  They have not done anything unfortunate yet except maybe the inclusion of one sentence in the statement of intent

After reading 9 pages, divorce is the most common answer, and is a great answer, it's quick and you don't have to face the origin or reality of the problem. But, is the right choice? You're the only person who can answer if is worth fighting for your marriage.
 
So far I like the response from JKStark about the possible reasons of her behavior, I also like the response from NelmaGriffin about cultural differences.
 
OrangesApples brought up something very important that I may not understand to its fullest, so I'll give you my personal point of view about the last name, to me, it's not important. Couples with same last name can fight and cheat on each other, while couples not even married can be faithful 100%. As I'm reading all the posts, I came across Eric & Idalia post about the last name.
 
Anniversary date is not important, at least to me. Going back to cultural differences, I've seen that here in the US, dates like birthdays, anniversaries are very important, anniversaries to broken relationships!
 
Facebook? for your is important... is it important for the rest to know you're married? Maybe, maybe they don't care.
 
RLA has a point: Maybe she doesn't feel loved by you, and if you don't fix it, the relationship won't have any chance to survive.
 
I didn't like the comments from Aussielad. We don't know her side of the story.
 
I found Natyerus questions very important, this is from a person who can relate to your wife, being from the same country.
 
You could be insecure, needy or both, that's not a problem as long as the other person likes it that way. You just need to find the correct person.
 
As some others already post it, if we ask your wife, what would she say about you? Have you change? Have you hurt her in any way? I'm the immigrant, and I've seen many times that here in the US is very acceptable to say whatever it comes to mind, then apologize and expect that with just one "I'm sorry", life goes back to what it was. In other words, sometimes is the way we say things and not the essence of the message that's hurtful.
 
By no means I'm putting the blame on somebody, but you said you're in your 30s, and this is your second wife, What happened to your first marriage?  .... we all have our past and we all are carrying our own baggage that can affect our present relationships. It'll be better to have an impartial point of view, from somebody who can speak with you as well as with your wife. Reading your message, of course we all going to blame her, but it wouldn't be fair. Keep your integrity and give her a chance to express her point of view. You both can learn from each other and have a better communication.
 
Good luck.

As others have already said, there may be underlying issues here that you don't know about...  The divorce option is certainly a possibility, and it may end up going that way for your sanity, but there are obviously reasons you got married in the first place, so I would make sure that you have looked at all the options first...
 
Marriage counseling is, IMHO, a critical starting point.  It will be a good way to gauge what is going on, and may well bring out a critical piece of what is happening, and what is causing you both to be in a disconnected state the way that you are.  I know that people are hesitant to go that way, but at this stage for you, I would make counseling a hard stop position for her - ie. go with you to counseling or go home.  The marriage is broken, and something needs to be done to fix it or else call it quits.
 
It sounds like she did a full personality change once she left her home, which is not entirely unheard of - it is possible that there is an underlying psychological issue going on there too.  That is a lot of changes to go through in  a short period, with not much of a support network for her.  Counseling will help bring that out if it is the case, and then you will have the option to find a solution for that side of things too.  Depression (not necessarily clinical depression) may well bring about a lack of a  sex drive and a general malaise that will easily manifest in the type of issues that you are seeing, but without having somebody else look into what you are facing, it is nearly impossible to determine what actually is going on.
 
Have you both sat down and discussed all these issues between yourselves?  Have you been clear about how you feel, and what your concerns are?  Have you been clear about what exactly is bringing you down in the relationship?  Don't mince words, beat around the bush, or try to avoid the discussion - you will find yourself worse in the hole, and start to resent her for it.  Your resentment will show, and she will begin to resent you as well - leading to a situation where you won't be able to fix anything if it is indeed fixable.
 
Go see a professional, and try to see what is going on...
 
Good luck!

And you believe a room will be enough for your spouse as well? 
 
Methinks your wife will drop you like a hot potato as soon as she has her green card in hand. 

To be honest, surprised even one person can survive on that income in California. 
Get a second job to raise your income so you can provide for the immigrant. They don’t live on air alone. 
 
Have a a whole year or more until visa in hand so plenty of time to work on financial requirements. 

This is a relationship issue and has nothing to do with immigration, his cheating has no impact on any immigration process. 
 
No there is no law against cheating - what do you think it is the 1800’s?
 
Divorce if his cheating is unacceptable to your marriage.
 
Just saw you are now a citizen, this is an immigration board for immigration questions related to the immigration process not relationship questions like what should I do if my husband cheats.