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  1. javadown2

    Sending money to family

    Ok, so I agree it doesn't always have to be monetary....like I said it's a give or take. You can't just ignore the cultural issue and it boils down to communication and hopefully coming up with compromise or what ever works for both people. The majority of the time it's money since we live so far away, staying in touch with Skype, sending care packages and visiting when we can. Those are really just normal things even in the American culture, it's just that we don't live half way across the world from each other. The OP's wife is from the Philippines and they have their own cultural norms, so I'm mainly commenting on what he was asking.
  2. javadown2

    Sending money to family

    It's really a give or take, you have to realize the culture your wife/significant other is from and try to understand the culture. I would never expect my daughter (well she is really a baby now, but later in life) to help me out...but it's funny you ask this because my wife says she still wants our daughter to help us in some way because it is a culture norm that they do. She said even in a simple way as long as she understands the reason why. I have no problems helping my family in the Philippines, and will continue to do so. My wife is also horrified that in the US culture most children move out once they are an adult (well it used to be that way, not sure about the melinials nowadays!). She says our daughter can live with us as long as she wants to, lol. You know what, I'm ok with that also. Everyone one is different so you just need to decide on your own.
  3. javadown2

    Sending money to family

    The biggest thing I gathered from your comment was that you need to communicate with your wife and your in-laws on what you can and cannot do to help with finances. True emergencies are different then sending money monthly for expenses. And yes you are right having another mouth to feed and care for does add to the expenses (and probable biggest is your time and sleep!). We have a 7 month old and had to limit our money being sent back to her family since my wife doesn't need to work (being a mom is really a full time job, would never want to send my child to daycare). Anyways, just communicate with your wife, she should have somewhat of a handle on your expenses and it's not to hard to figure out what you can and can't send. Then once you establish the good communication make sure you keep to your side of the bargain and she her's.
  4. Good luck with trying to time anything, everyone will tell you not to plan anything ahead of time.
  5. Stop....and make sure you guys really know the process. If you missed the simple one of meeting in the past 2 years then you might also make some mistakes in the rest of the application. Read the guides on here, do the paperwork/filing as instructed, don't miss anything or you will get another denial. Never mind on the CR-1, just finished reading rest of replies, sounds like you guys better have your paperwork in order this time.
  6. javadown2

    SLEC Medical Examination 2018 Experience

    But your not Filipino, and this is what they do..they get there early and wait in line...if it's possible to get in line early for anything they do it! lol My wife still tries to do this here.
  7. I don't see the relevence of the "current" administration being a reason for your visa process being so "hard" on your relationship. Almost everyone goes through some sort of hardship while waiting for their visa to be approved. Either way like others have said, just get your divorce and be ready to go back to Canada and then you will be free of the "current" administration won't you! lol
  8. And we all have our reasons for needing to be outside the US, family problems, children, what ever...I'm curious also about this questions he is asking because we are thinking about same scenarios. From what I gather it's no more then 6 months a year, and it may depend on how close you are to filing for citizenship or your removal of conditions.
  9. His wife I think has LTB infection, you have no symptoms and if treated you don't necessarily feel better but but it gets rid of the TB before it becomes active. There are much faster treatments available but not in the Philippines, so she will do the 6 months and then retest. I also doubt they will just let her take a couple weeks and go, but he won't know util he gets a response back from the embassy if it can be expedited.
  10. You are far from elderly at 62, and I'm a little confused now after reading your replies..one one you said that your vitamin c has pretty much kept you and your family's health in good conditions and that you are healthy...but now your saying you are greatly debilitated and that you just might have underlying health conditions, because of 8 years of neglect? (which I was assuming all along that you probable have other issues going on). You seem delusional to think that the government is some how in control of if and when you can go back to the US, but if your wife can't come it's not possible. This is just my observation, but it appears that you are living your life with the opinion that all your suffering and health conditions is caused from no part of your own...that it's not your fault and that someone owes you something. (getting your wife's visa, finding meds/narcotics in the Philippines). Wouldn't it be more beneficial so take ownership of your own health care plan, make decisions and try to get it done (go to the us, go to manila to a better hospital, go get medical help locally.) Please don't tell me that the care given there is that bad, because there are people that can help, they can easily diagnose any other ailments that you might have (B/P, cardiac problems, diabetes..etc) You don't need to be in the US for that. And if you do, just go do it on your own (for your family sake). Take care of your OWN self and don't leave it to others or live in a life of pity and worrying about who is to blame. Maybe get some mental health help also, it might ease your mind in all the things you are thinking about. It helps to talk to someone that may understand how you feel and think. In the end, your wife probable won't get an expedited visa, so you better plan to take care of yourself sooner then later, stop delaying.
  11. javadown2


    It depends on lots of factors...what were your grades in your 2 degrees, it usually takes a scholarship to get everything paid for. The enrollment specialists at the universities can guide you to the information your looking for, just do some research and find out what Universities you might be interested in and then either look at their websites or call them. Normally you have to stay on one tract or course of study rather then jumping around to different subjects if you want it funded by someone else. So the acting classes might not be realistic. I've never heard of them funding all Phd level degrees, and really if it's competitive it's not like they are just funding everyone...they are hand picking who they want in their programs. So just apply and see where it leads you. But like others have said you still need a student visa.
  12. Does she really want to live in the US or is she just trying to reap the benefits of being a US citizen? She will be jeopardizing her green card by being outside the US so much. She won't be able to fly at 8 months pregnant, no airline will let her do that.
  13. Interesting story, thanks for sharing. Sounds like it's been an uphill battle to say the least with some strange and unpredictable outcomes. Have you shared your story with other survivors of that flood, does anyone else have the same prognosis as you that you may share your research with? There has got to be lots more in the Louisiana area who may have contracted the same symptoms as you? So you need to go back for medications, you can't get them in the Philippines? My wife and I just had our first child also, your right..it is a huge blessing in life. It really puts life into perspective when everything else might seem to be unraveling around us. I hope you can find peace and some form of treatment. I'm still not very optimistic that your wife can get a waiver though, but I wish you the best.
  14. javadown2

    How long in advance do you know your interview date?

    I'm guessing they already have a date set.
  15. I was wondering the same question, (how did you get there without help?)sounds like some difficult decisions you've got to make. Shingles in its self is bad...couple that with the fibromyalgia and you must be miserable. Are you diabetic also? I work in healthcare and agree that Western medicine = push pharmaceuticals, but honestly many of the drugs are helpful and some aren't. There is never a good ending when someone takes narcotics like candy to control pain. Good luck with your waiver, but I'd start thinking about Plan B, traveling by yourself back to the US.