Breakup... Days before K-1 Interview. What should I do?

[JeanneAdil 6,190]

3 hours ago, Daymellow said:

I agree. We currently aren't talking anymore. In fact the whole argument had to do with K1 process and I think I overwhelmed him a bit.

It is truly heartbreroke aking because we waited so long. Almost year now, every time there was an update I was so excited. I really love him. I still

pray that things will work out. I am praying everyday. 

 

This whole process has been really stressful.

I will wait a few days and not do anything yet.

This is why when i write to many on here i say forget immigration during the process unless an there is vital information needed to send in like for an RFE or other communication with immigration

This time is suppose to be for getting to know each other and the romance of it all 

We went thru 6 years and i never let Adil know how upset i was with the whole process / i talked daily about what life would be for us here and tried to keep "his spirits up"  as he got discouraged and thought it would never happen

 

But if going thru the K1  hassle broke you up,  the AOS,  EAD and AP process after you married would be a nightmare as you would be stuck at home and unable to work

 

If he does decide to talk ,  you are going to have to get romance back into the relationship for the reasons you fell in love,   

and if you get that K1 visa,  you need to understand the rest of the journey as stated above and talk about the other processes with him before you come

it can be a nightmare and can come between 2 people when the time after marriage should be more like a honeymoon time

You have my prayers

[SalishSea 16,764]

4 hours ago, Daymellow said:

Waited 9 months for NOA2.

Even pre-COVID, it was taking close to that.

 

Immigration is fraught with delays.  It just is.  And those delays can put additional stress on an already precarious relationship.

[Electrichead64 29]

Consider yourself lucky you found out now.  It doesn't even really matter who is at fault.  If you can't hang through the K1 process, then you probably have no business putting yourself through a massive culture shock and he has no business uprooting someone unless you both are 100% dedicated to the mission.  Its not easy, its not for the weak.  You have to go through ALL this, and STILL make the marriage work and half the people in this country cant even seem to do that.

Fortunately, we were lucky.  My wife and I are 100% cool with each other.   I understand everyone doesn't have the same experience.

[HazelleH 1]

On 6/18/2021 at 11:13 PM, Daymellow said:

What happens when he decides to break up with you right before the whole interview? 😰 Oh lord

Sorry to hear about this. Ask him if thats what he really wanted because its hard to go back and fourth with the process that you guys are in right now.

[daniel_and_lily 40]

On 6/18/2021 at 11:13 PM, Daymellow said:

What happens when he decides to break up with you right before the whole interview? 😰 Oh lord

What you do is you cancel the appointment and leave it open incase you patch things up. 

[Soloenta 2,218]

10 hours ago, Daymellow said:

We had a couple of setbacks.

Waited 9 months for NOA2. Then had an error on the name so that needed to be changed.

I had to move back to my home country as well but the NVC sent our petition to the wrong embassy in the country that I was residing in.

Everything has been really stressful.. and I spoke to him about it. It has been overwhelming.

I guess in the end all I can do is wait and see if the love is strong enough to go ahead with everything. 

 

💞

  Sounds to me that it's stress.  I don't think at all that he doesn't love you. Men are different than we are obviously. But they deal with stress differently.  We like to talk it out, they think in silence. We stress them out with too much talking.

 

  If I were you and I would at least wait a week or two have gone by.   I would text him a simple message, "No matter what happens, I will always love you. Miss you."  Don't expect him to answer. But he just might.

 

Please keep us up to date,  I'll be praying for the best outcome for both of you.

🤗💗🤗

Edited June 20, 2021 by Soloenta

[ashish tailor 59]

On 6/19/2021 at 2:13 AM, Daymellow said:

What happens when he decides to break up with you right before the whole interview? 😰 Oh lord

Just be patience. Time heals the situation. Don’t break up unless you absolutely have to. You should think about it twist after all this wait. 

[mmd82 2]

10 hours ago, Daymellow said:

We had a couple of setbacks.

Waited 9 months for NOA2. Then had an error on the name so that needed to be changed.

I had to move back to my home country as well but the NVC sent our petition to the wrong embassy in the country that I was residing in.

Everything has been really stressful.. and I spoke to him about it. It has been overwhelming.

I guess in the end all I can do is wait and see if the love is strong enough to go ahead with everything. 

 

💞

I'm so sorry to hear this. What is meant to be will be. Positivethoughts sent your way.  Regarding the error in the name. Was the error in the beneficiary name or the petitioner? Also,  did USCIS make the error or was the error on your end?

[Chica79 15]

On 6/19/2021 at 1:13 AM, Daymellow said:

What happens when he decides to break up with you right before the whole interview? 😰 Oh lord

Go to the interview.  You may get back together.

[JoshandSarah 52]

On 6/19/2021 at 6:13 PM, Daymellow said:

What happens when he decides to break up with you right before the whole interview? 😰 Oh lord

I am SO sorry, this is really sad. I wanted to comment on this because I feel as though I can relate about the excitement and overwhelming your partner at times.

 

I'm just really sorry and I'm praying for you that your life will take you to better places than with someone who would pull the plug last minute.

 

God just has a different path for you, all the best for whatever he has in store for you next,

 

Josh

[JCC2823 4]

If you think it’s temporary breakup I’d try to reschedule the interview out a few weeks or a month.  You won’t be able to start the process back up if you stop it.  
 

Sorry this happened to you. 

[WARREN-IRINA 1]

For us it took from July 14 2010 to a March 30 2011 interview. That 8 months 2 weeks and 2 days so it hasn't changed much in 10 years.

Like J Clark says reschedule if you can.

The whole process is very stressful. It is also frustrating at times after arrival as USCIS often is slower than a glacier.   

Pray and hope for the best outcome.

[Ed&Midori1031 330]

15 hours ago, Daymellow said:

Thank you.

 

It was and wasn't. I am just trying to stay positive and praying that it will work out. I do love him very much and I hope that the situation will become better.

 

🙏

 

Thank you everyone for the comments. 

I pray and will stay positive that things work out.

 

🙏

I would honestly do the interview, and then afterwards if you decide to stay together or not,  at least that stage would be complete.  Having to go through all that and not make it that far.  No pressure, but just my opinion.  Hopefully things do work out between you two! 

[Nateuzky 9]

I would definitely go to the interview. My wife and I been married for almost 10 years now. We had arguments during the process ALL THE TIME. Go to your interview, get your visa It will work out

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