Just learned my wife is pregnant.. options?

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27 minutes ago, Orangesapples said:

I don't want children any time soon and I wouldn't feel offended if pregnant couples got expedites. Also, pregnancy might not be a medical emergency but it's a family emergency and it's important for the baby to get the best care possible by both parents. 

 

I seriously doubt that couples would get pregnant just for a visa. That's way too big of a commitment, especially for women, in order to save a few months of waiting. 

There are soooo many people around the world who think that if they have an anchor baby they can stay in the country they've come to. There was a Somali baby boom in my hometown a few years back until word spread it wasn't going to help them stay. So yeah, happens way more than you think not only in the states.

[ItsSunny2Day 17]

My suggestion. Email USCIS directly in Bangkok. Here is the information and email:

Heide Bryan, Field Office Director

bkkcis.inquiries@uscis.dhs.gov

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36 minutes ago, Orangesapples said:

People have kids for tax refunds? Where are those people? I highly doubt there's a big enough number of them. 

 

And show more respect, calling babies little brats is terrible. And do you also sue couples who get tax breaks for having kids then? Or married couples who get them, too? Discrimination again, huh? 

Why? Parents jokingly call their kids little brats so why can't others?

[Penguin_ie 5,986]

*** personal attack posts and those quoting removed.  Folks, this is a question about an actual case, and not your soap box.  Give constructive advice directly relevant to the OP, or do not post. *******

[CEE53147 559]

1 hour ago, Orangesapples said:

Unfair? I don't see how. Pregnancy should be a reason for expedite. 

Pregnancy is a choice.  Why would a woman of childbearing age have preferential treatment over other women and all men and children?

 

No one ever said US immigration was fast or easy.  No one ever said that your opinion about what is fair or unfair matters.  What matters are the rules that exist are applied fairly to all.

 

Now, it someone is expecting quintuplets, that might be enough of a medical situation to justify expediting but it is to benefit the babies and not the spouses.

[Abies 1,713]

6 hours ago, EastMeetsWest2018 said:

So I finally submitted my I-130 to the Chicago lockbox via FedEx from Singapore and it is expected to arrive on Tuesday. Literally the next morning my wife learns she is pregnant (we had been trying so not a complete shock).

 

I'm curious to know if I could now claim an exceptional circumstance and be eligible for DCF? If so, do I ask USCIS to send my packet to Thailand or do I tell FedEx to stop shipment and apply directly myself? Or is there a way to let USCIS know and see if they are able to expedite? 

 

I guess worst case we have the kid here and due to processing times it'll probably be born before approval.

Pregnancy is not a reason for expedite. 

Goodluck to you on this long journey

Edited May 5, 2018 by Abies

[Sunnyland 639]

1 hour ago, Orangesapples said:

I don't want children any time soon and I wouldn't feel offended if pregnant couples got expedites. Also, pregnancy might not be a medical emergency but it's a family emergency and it's important for the baby to get the best care possible by both parents. 

 

I seriously doubt that couples would get pregnant just for a visa. That's way too big of a commitment, especially for women, in order to save a few months of waiting. 

 

 

You would be way in shock to know that in my home country there are a lot (thousands) of people (poor class) that keep having kids (one after the other) just to get benefits from the system. What kids of benefits? Housing benefits, money, money and money. Not only that, as soon as they fall pregnant they start cashing on that. The government subsidy them just for being pregnant. Something started with the previous administrations.

And you do wonder if someone would do this just to get a visa to come to the U.S.??? Ever heard of fraud marriages for a green card? Anybody can have a baby, but no everyone can raise a baby.

In my book an emergency is someone that feel ill (a very complicated or terminal disease), someone in a disaster area or for humanitarian reasons. I would happily trade my spot in the queue for someone that really needed it. Not someone that had sex and fell pregnant. 

 

Edited May 5, 2018 by Sunnyland

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Congrats OP!  I know how long/difficult it can be, our first together took 23 months to conceive and we lost several pregnancies along the way and through the CR1 process. The baby should be all the reward you need from this and maybe your wife should just relax where she is and not stress.    Moving countries, flying halfway around the world sounds like a nightmare while pregnant.  

 

[Ryan H 3,796]

Moved from Progress Reports to Process and Procedures. 

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Neither USCIS or the Department of State consider pregnancy of either the petitioner or spouse to be grounds to expedite the immigrant visa processes.  

 

If the US Citizen is pregnant and has the kind of problem pregnancy that requires care she cannot get from anybody but her husband, THEN the case might be expedited.  I've seen that happen with other medical conditions.  But, usually, the needed care can be received by other family members or services.  JUST pregnancy is something people deal with as a matter of course, all over the world every day.

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Chill, people. It’s a lovely Sunday here (or Saturday, for some of you). OP has got the answer he was looking for, let’s not go into the whole pregnancy for expedite/ benefits thing all over again 😁 Good day/ good night! 

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8 hours ago, Orangesapples said:

 

I seriously doubt that couples would get pregnant just for a visa. That's way too big of a commitment, especially for women, in order to save a few months of waiting.

You would be surprised how many people would get pregnant for a visa, or enter a country illegally just so their child can be a US citizen. 

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13 hours ago, EastMeetsWest2018 said:

So I finally submitted my I-130 to the Chicago lockbox via FedEx from Singapore and it is expected to arrive on Tuesday. Literally the next morning my wife learns she is pregnant (we had been trying so not a complete shock).

 

I'm curious to know if I could now claim an exceptional circumstance and be eligible for DCF? If so, do I ask USCIS to send my packet to Thailand or do I tell FedEx to stop shipment and apply directly myself? Or is there a way to let USCIS know and see if they are able to expedite? 

 

I guess worst case we have the kid here and due to processing times it'll probably be born before approval.

We tried twice and were refused. She had our son in February and we're still waiting for NOA 2.

[CEE53147 559]

OP,  You may certainly be with your wife for pregnancy and delivery; plan for it to be in her home country and not the USA.  Chill. Enjoy. Twenty years - even two years - from now, it is not going to matter where the baby was born.

Edited May 6, 2018 by CEE53147

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9 hours ago, Mrsjackson said:

 

OP, sorry for all the back and forth chirping regarding the heavily overdone classic VJ argument “why should people get ahead of me in line just because they had sex” on your thread. Every pregnancy post on VJ gets polluted with this same old same old and it is VERY old. I’m speaking as a K1 beneficiary who filed the petition as an 8 months pregnant woman. I absolutely did not for one second think my pregnancy was a reason to skip the line, and we never tried to expedite it. I do not think it would be fair for a woman experiencing a complication free pregnancy to jump ahead of others. However, I am sick to death of people on here dragging down a pregnancy, calling babies “brats” (wth?) and insinuating unmarried pregnant couples have “poor planning skills” (stfu). Look, we get it. You don’t think that would be fair. And I have great news. Neither does USCIS! So it’s all good you can stop arguing with each other about it. There is no problem here. 

 

As you have already learned here, pregnancy will not be a reason for you to expedite. I want to offer you some advice as someone who has been in your fiancée’s position. Tell her to relax, sit tight and find the best care she can where she is. Pregnancy is tough, but the newborn phase is the true ### kicker. Tell her to surround herself with close family and friends, make plans to BE THERE when that baby is born and if possible, for at least a month after to help her because believe me she will need it. Immigration stuff, as important as it is, will have to take a back seat to what she’s about to get herself into. A newborn baby is no joke. She doesn’t need to be worrying about moving countries around that time.