Need Some Good News or at least Hope

[royyount 31]

Hello all....like so many, I am stuck at the NVC and waiting.   My fiancee lives in Mexico, so we will be waiting for Juarez.  I am starting to feel hopeless in all of this.  I have this awful feeling that since it is Juarez, I will be waiting still this time next year.  I know some people got appointments in about 2 months pre-CoVid, but others keep telling me that Juarez is the worst and it takes a year to a year and a half to even get an appointment.  This makes me literally cry.  It makes me want to simply sell everything, including the brand new home that I just purchased for my new wife and I, and try to find a job in Mexico.   I hate that I am feeling like giving up on my country, but my country is failing me at every turn.  There is no information from the NVC, nothing from the Consulate, the only info I can get from my Congressman is false info from the Dept. of State.....I feel like I am at the end of the rope and nothing is working out.  I need some good news, something that I can do to move forward, I need hope.

[payxibka 10,044]

Part of the onus to reopen the consulate rests with the host country and how it is dealing with covid 

[Boiler 43,436]

You are married?

[user555 195]

1 hour ago, royyount said:

Hello all....like so many, I am stuck at the NVC and waiting.   My fiancee lives in Mexico, so we will be waiting for Juarez.  I am starting to feel hopeless in all of this.  I have this awful feeling that since it is Juarez, I will be waiting still this time next year.  I know some people got appointments in about 2 months pre-CoVid, but others keep telling me that Juarez is the worst and it takes a year to a year and a half to even get an appointment.  This makes me literally cry.  It makes me want to simply sell everything, including the brand new home that I just purchased for my new wife and I, and try to find a job in Mexico.   I hate that I am feeling like giving up on my country, but my country is failing me at every turn.  There is no information from the NVC, nothing from the Consulate, the only info I can get from my Congressman is false info from the Dept. of State.....I feel like I am at the end of the rope and nothing is working out.  I need some good news, something that I can do to move forward, I need hope.

 

The good news is that Mexico isn't the only one still closed. Dozens of other countries and thousands of other applicants are in the same boat as you. They are waiting for their country to open up so the embassy will also open to normal visa applicants. I'm in the Philippines. We've had some sort of quarantine lockdown since March. 5 months of businesses closing, restricted travel, and the embassy is only processing expedited visa cases. 

 

Mexico will open again.   

https://travel.state.gov/content/dam/visas/Statistics/Non-Immigrant-Statistics/MonthlyNIVIssuances/JANUARY 2020 - NIV Issuances by Post and Visa Class.pdf

Mexico issued 200 K-1 visas in Jan. It dropped to 2 in June. If you can wait it out, it will work out. Canada just opened up last week. I would be cautious referring to your fiancée as a wife. The US government doesn't like the appearance of you calling her your wife if you're on the fiancée visa. 

[royyount 31]

52 minutes ago, Boiler said:

You are married?

Not yet, but we would be and that was the plan when I bought the house...

 

[Adventine 3,187]

Sorry about your situation. You aren't alone. We're all here to find answers and support with our cases.

 

I would advise against doing anything drastic, like selling your new house and moving to Mexico, based solely on emotions and your wish to be reunited with your fiancée. I'm not saying it's not an option, but that you need to consider the long-term implications of moves like that. For example, once the visa is granted and you're ready to move back to the States, where are you going to live? What impact will moving to Mexico have on your taxes, residency, job/business? 

 

It's a bit cliché, but things will get back to normal eventually.

[royyount 31]

I know I can't quit and I can't sell everything, but I want to scream!!!!   I will continue to focus my energy on trying to move forward....I am working with my congressmen, as well as investigating other options to move forward.   As long as the Consulates don't believe that we fall under pp 10052, and they will resume the K-1 when they open, I will feel better.   Ultimately, it is the not knowing that is driving me crazy.    I am glad I have this site and the knowledge that there are hundreds or thousands of us struggling with the same thing.  Thank you all.

 

[Adventine 3,187]

Is it an option for you to visit her in the meantime?

[royyount 31]

1 minute ago, Adventine said:

Is it an option for you to visit her in the meantime?

I am blessed in that regard....I manage to fly down every 3-4 weeks and spend a few days at "home" with her.  Sometimes I need to remind myself how fortunate I am to be able to see her.

[Adventine 3,187]

3 minutes ago, royyount said:

I am blessed in that regard....I manage to fly down every 3-4 weeks and spend a few days at "home" with her.  Sometimes I need to remind myself how fortunate I am to be able to see her.

That's very good. That kind of positive thinking will get you through this long, hard process.

 

My fiancé and I live together, but we are preparing ourselves for a long separation once he leaves in Nov 2020. He will not be able to visit me for a long time, and I will not be able to visit him, until my home country's border restrictions are lifted.

 

You're very lucky that you can go visit her every 3-4 weeks.

 

 

[TBoneTX 43,058]

Thread is moved from the K-1 Process forum to the K-1 Case Progress subforum.

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

3 hours ago, royyount said:

I am blessed in that regard....I manage to fly down every 3-4 weeks and spend a few days at "home" with her.  Sometimes I need to remind myself how fortunate I am to be able to see her.

Just think of how lucky you are to see her every 3-4 weeks! Many people go a year without seeing their significant other and if this was pre covid you’d still be in normal processing times! Many countries are closed to US citizens so the option of visiting is completely gone AND many countries it costs a fortune to call their significant other and wifi is basically non existent so from my view you guys have a LOT going for you than many many others. One thing you need to know when starting the immigration process is to have patience. Ou can’t predict the future, it is in someone else’s hands. But you can vote in November.

[Greenbaum 12,258]

7 hours ago, royyount said:

Hello all....like so many, I am stuck at the NVC and waiting.   My fiancee lives in Mexico, so we will be waiting for Juarez.  I am starting to feel hopeless in all of this.  I have this awful feeling that since it is Juarez, I will be waiting still this time next year.  I know some people got appointments in about 2 months pre-CoVid, but others keep telling me that Juarez is the worst and it takes a year to a year and a half to even get an appointment.  This makes me literally cry.  It makes me want to simply sell everything, including the brand new home that I just purchased for my new wife and I, and try to find a job in Mexico.   I hate that I am feeling like giving up on my country, but my country is failing me at every turn.  There is no information from the NVC, nothing from the Consulate, the only info I can get from my Congressman is false info from the Dept. of State.....I feel like I am at the end of the rope and nothing is working out.  I need some good news, something that I can do to move forward, I need hope.

You are one of the lucky few who can see their fiancé frequently whereas others must wait months or even a year. Travel for some is 18 to 24 hours, yours is 3-5-hour flight. You can come and go others can't. This process is not for the faint of heart. It takes a different mindset to follow your case and respond when it falls out of the current posted processing times. The knowledge you gain from knowing those timelines will only help you to understand the process. Your country is not failing you. The approval process over the years has be an ebb and flow for the proceeding. I can remember that it was 9 months to 12 months at one time for a I-129f, Petition for Alien Fiancé(e) to be adjudicated. We are in unconventional times with a pandemic dictating when things will get completed. Your mantra should be control what you can personally control.

 

Can I share somethings with you that I learned long ago about this process?

    • "the man with the gold makes the rules"
    • it will take as long as it will take 
    • no one with any certainty can tell you when some process will be completed
    • Your sense of urgency will never be equaled to what USCIS, NVC or your embassy demonstrates
    • Your journey is not going to mirror someone else's experience - yours and theirs are not the same
    • They only promised you a YES or NO answer. Never an exact time that their decision would be completed
    • Lowering your expectations will make you a much more relaxed individual

Good luck on your journey 
 

[Crazy Cat 39,245]

6 hours ago, royyount said:

I am blessed in that regard....I manage to fly down every 3-4 weeks and spend a few days at "home" with her.  Sometimes I need to remind myself how fortunate I am to be able to see her.

Your situation is a million times better than many here.  Even before Covid (which is the real villain here) many members (including me) spent as much as year or  more separated from our spouses.  I am not criticizing .....just trying to put things into perspective......good luck and hang in there.

[Angela & Brendon 160]

Things will get better with time. The department of state laid out plans for reopening embassies and processing visas and it really is based on how well countries are overcoming the COVID-19 situation in their country. According to the DOS, if a country is mostly reopened, they will begin processing between 40 to 80% of their usual workload. I would expected K-1 visas to be amongst the visas prioritised. All we can do now is wait and be patient, which I appreciate is easier said than done, but think about when you and your partner can look back on this period in the future, how you got through it together, and how it strengthened your relationship going forward. Best of luck!

Edited August 24, 2020 by Angela & Brendon