IS LYING RELEVANT ON TIMELINE OF HOW WE MET AND ALSO AGE DIFFERENCE

[debbiedoo 2,339]

a child will not help the case and i dont know any 50+ year old woman who wants to deal with raising another baby. im 41 and would rather shoot myself in the foot than have another kid

[Carpe Vinum 2,310]

14 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

a child will not help the case and i dont know any 50+ year old woman who wants to deal with raising another baby. im 41 and would rather shoot myself in the foot than have another kid

Agreed. I would rather have a colonoscopy and I didn't have to give birth))) It is a young person's gig....

[Boiler 43,549]

3 minutes ago, boris64 said:

Agreed. I would rather have a colonoscopy and I didn't have to give birth))) It is a young person's gig....

OP is a young person.

[Carpe Vinum 2,310]

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

OP is a young person.

But not the wife or intended wife...

[Downloader 197]

1 hour ago, Anonymous 94 said:

We are not gonna lie. We rather Get rejected than lie

So this thread never happened....Let’s call the Men In Black guys to erase our memory. 

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[Boiler 43,549]

31 minutes ago, boris64 said:

But not the wife or intended wife...

OP is the one who needs the Green Card.

[Carpe Vinum 2,310]

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

OP is the one who needs the Green Card.

Debbie was talking about a 50+ year old raising a child. I was empathizing with her observation.

[designguy 1,179]

6 minutes ago, boris64 said:

Debbie was talking about a 50+ year old raising a child. I was empathizing with her observation.

Not only raising a child but potentially IVF as well! Yikes

[Going through 5,668]

Have you given thought to her moving to live in Nigeria instead?  Since her children are older, should be easier on her than running through all the red tape of you immigrating.  

[Chia-Lyns 17]

2 hours ago, Anonymous 94 said:

We plan on filling after her second visit and our engagement and then we wanna take a trip together which is more like a pre honeymoon. Then after filling, we plan on spending another time with each other again before the interview to make it 3 times she visited Nigeria and a time we went on vacation. Would that help or should just hold on till after she visit again for the 3rd time before filling??

Bro stop repeating yourself...Your story is understood. Just take the advice they are giving you.

[Temi & Obim 24]

You can't lie your way out if red flags and immigration without consequences, so consider more visits and there are many nice "visa free" 3rd countries you both can visit together if needed. @carmel34 gave you a really good breakdown and take advices you requested from vj. 

[andy78 178]

10 hours ago, Anonymous 94 said:

and trying to prevent lying??

Don't worry about preventing lying.  Lying doesn't happen unless you choose to lie.

[little immigrant 800]

2 hours ago, boris64 said:

Agreed. I would rather have a colonoscopy and I didn't have to give birth))) It is a young person's gig....

Colonoscopies aren't so bad. They put you to sleep anyways. 

 

Source: had ~5 full colonoscopies and a couple more flex sigs since age 17

[Illiria 980]

1 hour ago, designguy said:

Not only raising a child but potentially IVF as well! Yikes

This - I have done IVF (twice as it didn’t work the first time) and I wouldn’t wish it on the worst person in the world.
 

OP - IVF isn’t something to be taken lightly or to do just to try and make your relationship look more real. Neither is adopting some innocent child who is looking for love not to be a prop for your green card case. 
 

2 hours ago, Boiler said:

OP is a young person.

Yeah but do you honestly think he will take on the lions share of dealing with the baby/child? 

[Suze1 366]

21 minutes ago, andy78 said:

Don't worry about preventing lying.  Lying doesn't happen unless you choose to lie.

Unless it is already a habit...then, be afraid, be very afraid....hee hee