wxman22

But don't you know you need the interview letter in order to get a tourist visa because of everyone said so..... 
 
 
I saw this one time on a Filipino drama show how this guy was interviewing at the US Embassy and they turned him away because he didn't have a invitation letter from his gf. This was all fictional of course but it goes to show you that everyone thinks you need one. 

For the record---after reading all the responses on this thread---I'm changing my original opinion of the OP not owing her 2 months salary at the least...thinking more about this situation (and taking into account how I would have felt if I'd been in her shoes), yeah she's owed a lot more at this stage than just a plane ticket home and return receipt, so to speak...her whole life was just turned upside down to come to the US, and now it's turned upside down again after just arriving.

I feel bad for her cat.... The flight is long and hard enough for a human being, along with transition and trying to get used to a new place, but for a pet it's even worse - they don't understand what's going on...
Pure thing - just landed, barely recovered, and here we go , again on the board.... 
 
Sorry, guys, a little bit off the topic.
 

Wow. I am trying to imagine what I would do if my USC spouse decided not to marry me but to let me come over anyway. 
I left a great job, the move cost me 3000 dollars (movers, packers, transport), I bought a new secondhand car when coming into the country (6500 dollars) and had to sell my old car (2000 dollars back), I sold all my furniture and most of my possessions, I had to give up my rental apartment that was very hard to find for such a good price.
 
If I would have to go back within two weeks, I would still have to buy a new secondhand car again (and you never get back the amount you spent in the first place), I would have to look for another rental place that would very likely set me back more than it did, I would have to find a new job, I would have to move AGAIN (another 2000 dollars; I am assuming it would cost less for only transportation of already packaged goods by them), I would have to buy new furniture (even secondhand that will easily set you back 1000 US dollars if you are one of those people that actually needs a bed and a couch),  buy all the possessions again that I sold but needed (cooking utensils, cookware, desk, chairs, printer, pc, ...).
Then think of the initial food and stuff you need when you move into a new place (easily 250 dollars that first trip where you need laundry detergent and staples and cans and paper and pens etc, if not more).
 
Then in addition to that, you have the plane ticket.
 
I calculated everything in US dollars, so I am assuming you can do the math to Ukrain currency.
 
And on top of that financial mess, you have the excruciating heartbreak (letting her come in only gave her hope that you loved her after all), and don't forget the utter embarrassment.
 
I think assuming that you're wiping this out with two months of her wages, is absurd.
Note that an apartment person usually requests 2 to 3 months rent in an account as a deposit alone. So that alone might be almost two months of her wages.
 
I get that this is hard for you too, but eff it, dude. You had to tell her clearly that it was over. This is insane, the financial and emotional you are putting her through now due to "cold feet" whatever that means. If you had doubts, you should never had let her come. You know this, as you were already googling prenups before she even came over. You would have had PLENTY of time to stop her.
 
I would definitely need MUCH more money than just the ticket and two months wages (despite having had an excellent paying job and a low rent) to survive the first few months financially.
And then the utter heartbreak and shame.
 
This is insane.

Just out of curiosity, what embassy did you write down on the I-129F? 

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

It's hard to say what I think here. I agree not to get married, but you have a lot of responsibility.
 
She predicated her actions on the fact that you signed a document stating that you wanted to marry her.
 
You got cold feet for whatever reason, but chose not to contact USCIS and cancel the Visa.
 
If it was me, I would give her a plane ticket, a few months lost pay, some extra money for expenses while she is in USA.
I'd look at it that I would rather pay too much for my mistake, than f...k someone over because I was clueless.
 
But then I pride myself on being responsible and honorable.

Just bite the bullet and get married. She is already here so you might as well.

USCIS will see this on a regular basis and understand not everyone will have the funds to do numerous trips.
 
As long as you have met once in the past 2 years as required for the K1, you'll be good. 
 
I don't believe the UK is classed as a high fraud country and as long as you have proof on ongoing communication etc as it seems you do, you'll be good to go! 

Don't do it. Celebrations can be seen that you guys are "too married." You're almost done with the K1 visa. Finish it up. Marry in the US. File AOS/EAD/AP. Then come back with AP and then throw the celebration. Don't risk it.
 
So many people get denied due to celebrations:
 
 

All is well that ends well. Received the interview appointment email.   It is toward the end of next month.  Very surprised how little was in the check list to bring to the interview.  As in just one of five police reports she spent weeks and thousands of miles and dollars gathering.  😡