I need help

[fathoy 0]

I just went through the visa process and almost and about to have it when my ex husband whose employer made the petition told me to not use my visa whenit comes. He said he just wants my kids to be with him, the kids are both minors. Now that I have withrawn my application and have my documents back, he is blaming me of my kids application being withrawn too. My kids prefer to stay with me as he left us for his american dream 8yrs ago. I want him to stop bothering us and threatening me. I want to sue him with domestic and child abuse for deliberately forcing the kids to be with him. How can I get in touch with a family lawyer in Tennessee and also able to file and make his employer aware of it? 

[Crazy Cat 41,981]

This is not an immigration matter.  I suggest you try Googling family attorney in Tennessee. 

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

I don’t understand. Obviously he is not forcing the kids to be with him if they are still with you. The only people who are going to win from your proposed plan of action are the lawyers. I don’t know if there is some kind of restraining  order you can get with regards to communication but suing seems futile and contacting his employer just seems vindictive. Does sound like you may need a lawyer if he wants joint custody or something but if the kids are in Philippines then surely that will be done in Filipino courts not US.

[Boiler 45,673]

Are you resident in Tennessee?

 

Soundslike you are in PI and should seek action through the local legal system.

[fathoy 0]

5 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

I don’t understand. Obviously he is not forcing the kids to be with him if they are still with you. The only people who are going to win from your proposed plan of action are the lawyers. I don’t know if there is some kind of restraining  order you can get with regards to communication but suing seems futile and contacting his employer just seems vindictive. Does sound like you may need a lawyer if he wants joint custody or something but if the kids are in Philippines then surely that will be done in Filipino courts not US.

He let us process our visas last year, then shortly after that he said he will just get the kids and cursed me, said that i should let my visa expire once i have it. so i withrew which automatically applied to the kids. now he is emotionally torturing my kids by saying ill words and threatening me if i dont let go of the kids

[fathoy 0]

9 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Are you resident in Tennessee?

 

Soundslike you are in PI and should seek action through the local legal system.

Im in the Philippines and I want him to stop bothering us. I dont need him to aupport the kids, i just want peace 

[Boiler 45,673]

That would be a matter for the local court system.

[JeanneAdil 6,562]

18 minutes ago, fathoy said:

Im in the Philippines and I want him to stop bothering us. I dont need him to aupport the kids, i just want peace 

almost nothing you can do thru the legal system here as you are not in the US and not in TN

but you can change your phone # or block him

and if he goes to your country ,  you will have  the laws there to protect u

If the children are his,  let him pay an expensive lawyer and try his luck

the judical system in the US rarely takes kids from the mother 

and to fight an international lawsuit is going to cost

 

When a parent wants to move the child to another state, or even another country, they must request the judge to modify the child custody order and get the court's approval before doing so. However, many foreign countries will not enforce United States custody orders when a parent moves to another country. 

 

this would also apply to a child that was never in the US and is with the mother in her country

 

Understand that several years ago a child came to the US for a visit and the family here tried to keep him and not send him back to Cuba/  there was a big stink and the courts made the family return the child to Cuba to the other parent

 

Just block him from calling you and the kids

 

Edited March 24, 2021 by JeanneAdil

[fathoy 0]

thank you so much for enligthening me.such a big help

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

32 minutes ago, fathoy said:

Im in the Philippines and I want him to stop bothering us. I dont need him to aupport the kids, i just want peace 

So change your contact numbers and retain a lawyer in the Philippines  in case he tries to sue you to enforce his parental rights for visitation etc (you may not need his money and your kids may not want to go there but that doesn’t mean you can just cut him off from his kids, if he is truly being harmful to them you will need to show that). You are going to get zero luck being based in the Philippines trying to sue him in the US. Get legal advice there about what he can do to ensure he can see his kids, by visiting them in the Philippines of course. 

[Pinkrlion 2,724]

you have asked this information several times, it does not change.  You have to seek your support from family courts where you live.  He can also contest his side in court as the father.  

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

10 hours ago, fathoy said:

He let us process our visas last year, then shortly after that he said he will just get the kids and cursed me, said that i should let my visa expire once i have it. so i withrew which automatically applied to the kids. now he is emotionally torturing my kids by saying ill words and threatening me if i dont let go of the kids

Hmmmm it’s hard to emotionally torture and threaten anyone who refuses to answer their calls and changes phone number... sorry but it’s NOT hard to cut contact with somebody half way around the world, the only way they can abuse you and your kids verbally is if you let him, so stop playing victim and cut contact otherwise your just letting it happen and it’s your fault.

 

If he wants to see the kids then let him return to your country or get legal help either way let the lawyer deal with it, and move on with your life with your kids 

Edited March 25, 2021 by Duke & Marie

[fathoy 0]

we are living in peace and have cut the communication since december, he actually sent a lawyer to threaten me of his moves and has been sending strangers near our home and my workplace to gather details, the security guards gave me this info and it is bothersome

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

1 hour ago, fathoy said:

we are living in peace and have cut the communication since december, he actually sent a lawyer to threaten me of his moves and has been sending strangers near our home and my workplace to gather details, the security guards gave me this info and it is bothersome

This is an immigration forum. You need legal assistance and apparently to lay charges with the police, in the Philippines. 

[Cathi 5,771]

This is an immigration forum and this is not an immigration issue.