K1 after previous marriage and CR1 that ended in Divorce

[Marieke H 2,314]

2 hours ago, Tacos said:

after you import him

Can we please not talk about immigrants like this? We are human beings, not things you "import".

 

OP, relax. You will include in your petition that you are now divorced. You will need to include the divorce certificate. Make sure your current fiancé knows some details about your ex (when did you marry him, when did you get divorced), because he likely will be asked about it during the interview. Lots petitioners are divorced, it is not an issue.

 

Fortunately, because your ex is a US citizen now, you are not on the hook for him financially anymore. 

[BeautyfromAshes 10]

1 hour ago, beasty said:

those 2 don't know each other ?

may sound harsh but maybe there is a possibility your ex used u to come here and new the next one is trying it ?

 

 

No, they absolutely dont know each other at all and arent even from the same part of Egypt. One from lower the other from the upper. Never attended the same schools, they dont have the same circle of friends or anything. My ex husband didnt use me, I explained above the situation. Till this day he still contacts me wanting to get back together and remarry and wants me to vacation in egypt with him. He cant accept that I've moved on with my life. 

And no, my fiance is not trying to use me. As I explained, it was I who contacted him when I need help translating something while I didnt know he was away in the military. He wanted to block and not communicate. 

Hes had plenty of opportunities to take jobs in Europe and Canada over the last several years but turned them all down to pursue our relationship. He has stable income making about equivalent to myself so there isnt that issue. He already owns his own home back in Egypt that's now a vacation home since hes already been living out of the country for work. He was previously engaged 8 years ago to someone in his home country that didnt end well between them either so he has understanding of heartbreak. Hes taken me to meet his family, I'm in frequent contact with his family and he with mine, hes contacted Abouna (the Coptic church father) in my town about us getting married..I have record of their conversation. His personality is very direct and honest but hes also humble and gentle. His actions arent actions from someone wanting use. I didnt jump from divorce to getting engaged. It's been 5 years since we became friends and plenty of time where I would recognize if he had ill intent. Believe me, I am very guarded since going through divorce with my ex and would not continue on with my fiance if I felt I would end up hurt again in any type of way. Thank you though for your concern.

💗

[BeautyfromAshes 10]

2 hours ago, SteveInBostonI130 said:

Hello,

 

First, you are overthinking about the K1 petition.  Keep it simple - how you met, that you visited in within the last 2 years, and that you are both free to marry and intend to marry each other.   No mention of your previous relationship/ex is needed, other than the basic information that you were married before and are now divorced (you will need to attach the divorce decree).  Do not complicate matters unneccesarily.

 

Second, for your specific situation, I recommend a K1 instead of CR1.  Right now you are in the same place you were with your ex husband before marriage.  I assume the two of you (ex) had a wonderful relationship and everything was peaches and roses up until he came to the US.  When dating someone everything seems wonderful, especially when meeting someone overseas.  You are in holiday mode and there are plenty of things to do and new experiences to share.  You are away from your work, family and kids and can just focus on fun.

 

As you experienced, things are different after a while and things settle down.  When living a normal life - working, taking care of your children, doing household chores - how is your relationship then?  Your ex ultimately didn't like living with your family or even your state and wanted to live elsewhere.  How do you know this will not happen again?

 

At least with a K1, there is time to have your fiance come live with you and see how day-to-day life goes.  I would recommend against marrying right away.  Instead, focus on your relationship and how well things fit, or don't fit.

 

The best way would be for your fiance to be able to visit you for an extended time.   But I am not sure how feasible that is with him can getting a tourist visa and taking the time off from work.  

Thank you for your advice, I appreciate it. During the time we broke up in Nov 2019 he applied for a tourist visa and was denied based on not enough strong ties to the country hes in.. though he has a job there, it wasn't enough. He later showed me the denial paper. Tourist visas arent easy to obtain

[BeautyfromAshes 10]

43 minutes ago, Marieke H said:

Can we please not talk about immigrants like this? We are human beings, not things you "import".

 

OP, relax. You will include in your petition that you are now divorced. You will need to include the divorce certificate. Make sure your current fiancé knows some details about your ex (when did you marry him, when did you get divorced), because he likely will be asked about it during the interview. Lots petitioners are divorced, it is not an issue.

 

Fortunately, because your ex is a US citizen now, you are not on the hook for him financially anymore. 

Thank you💗

[Thrillhouse 193]

18 hours ago, payxibka said:

The i129f petition is primarily about providing evidence of a face to face meeting in the prior two years and both being free to marry .  The uscis is not concerned about your love story. 

 

I wish this could be banner text in the K1 forums. 

Edited March 3, 2021 by Thrillhouse

[Sandra G. 5,016]

23 hours ago, BeautyfromAshes said:

Hello everyone,

I am a USC. I'm preparing the i129F packet for my Fiance and I have some questions for those who've been in a similar situation of being a previous petitioner.

 

In 2014 I got married overseas in Egypt and petitioned for my ex, he was approved for a CR1 visa. After a 15 month process my then-husband flew here the following year in July 2015 and we stayed with some of my family where I was currently living. Everything started off great until issues between he and my family started. Then he wanted us to move out on our own so he started looking for a job, met with managers but never got call backs. He arranged to go stay with a mutual close friend out of state because he claimed he was feeling uncomfortable living with my family. He also wanted to try getting work out of state there. I was very upset about the change in plans, it was not what I was expecting at all. This created a lot of issues between us. Within a few months of his arrival that happened and he was staying out of state. I later flew and stayed for a month with him and for the most part it was horrible for me, lots of fighting and not getting along. I returned home after and separated (informally), which he did not like. When we did talk it was still more fighting and then a week or 2 of no talking. After a month and a half to 2 months I tried to reconcile and I sent him a box of marriage therapy type books I had been reading, treats, amazon gift cards etc for him and some things for our friends family he was staying with. He is the type to hold a grudge about everything and didnt reciprocate trying to reconcile. After going through depression, I felt fed up and filed divorce a few months later the following year. Shortly after I filed he contacted me apologizing and wanting to reconcile and mentioned that he was considering coming back home. I paid for a 1 year family pass for the zoo (I have 2 kids from a previous Relationship) to have something to do together. I even added him as an authorized user to my credit card in attempt help him start building his own credit. After a few months he ended up not coming back, instead he suggested I and my kids move there with him, which I didnt feel it was right removing my kids from their life and family here. Then he suggested I move there with him and leave my kids here and i could visit them periodically, that I wouldn't have to work and he would take care of it all. I was definitely not about to leave my kids behind and move away just because he decided he wanted to stay living in another state. I knew that my state gives a 6 month period before divorce finalizes incase the couple reconciles and decides to cancel it. I let the divorce process continue without cancelling and I'm glad I did. Clearly it was not working out and we couldn't even agree on what state to live in. We divorced based on irreconcilable differences and it was finalized Dec 2016. 

He had to file a divorce waiver and remove conditions by himself and go the rest of the way without me.

Fast forward, he attended his interviews, did his biometrics, gave them everything they wanted to know and was granted US Citizenship in the end.

 

 

 

Now about my Fiance.

We knew of eachother through a mutual female friend on fb 7 years ago but he and I never had contact back then. Over a year later He messaged me saying happy new year and gave advice about staying happy in marriage and sent a link but I never responded. I was married at the time and it wasn't my thing to talk to men even though he wasn't showing interest or trying to flirt or come on to me in any way. 

During my separation from my husband I contacted this man asking for help with translating some things. He happens to also be from the same country as my ex husband. 

So he finally responds back over a month later because apparently he was away in the military. We talk a little and he wants to block because he doesnt want to cause problems in my marriage. He had no idea that problems already were there and I was separated. It wasn't an issue any longer to me talking and being acquaintances. I let him know the current circumstances and then we didnt talk again for several days. We ended up excepting eachother as friends on fb several days later. While me and my ex were having problems and were separated, me and my now fiance were becoming friends. We became close, I considered him a best friend to me and he was there for me to vent a lot about the problems in my marriage. At the same time we started becoming attracted to one another and did like eachother but i didnt consider us as being officially dating or in a relationship. 

After my divorce became finalized I tried to move on with my life and went on to pursue a long distance relationship with my now fiance. But it wasn't entirely easy for me having been down this road of long distance relationship before and this whole process. I still had some fears of another relationship failing especially during that year after my divorce. I felt like all my heart, emotions, effort, time, etc. I put into my marriage and that whole process was for nothing in the end and it left me shattered inside. I feared this type of let down happening allover again.

But I continued on having this new, long distance relationship. Several times we planned to meet in person but due to our work schedules and circumstances it became delayed. At the same time I felt like I needed this delay to fully heal and be whole again. 

In Nov 2020 we broke up for a short period without talking, due to other things. Mostly he felt the distance was becoming too much and felt that I was often purposely delaying our relationship even more from going foreward to the next step. Though he was trying to be patient through it all with me, we have had ups and downs over the last 3 years. Many times we talked about a future together and for the most part we get along great together and see eye to eye with many things in common. I also knew  inside that I didnt want to pass him by and live with regrets later in life of what if. 

I arranged with work and got approval for vacation and flew to where he resides for work in Bahrain. This turned out being the best decision I could have made. We had an amazing time together. During that period we flew to kuwait to spend time with some of his family and I loved it. I took them each gifts and in turn they took me out and wanted to shop for me, my kids and my mom. They took me to dinner..it was really nice and they were so welcoming.

After flying back to Bahrain I had one week left before returning home to the US. We talked about engagement before going to see his family and wanted to have it with them there and wanted to find rings in Kuwait but our trip was shortened due to missing a flight and having to schedule a later one and pay all over again, plus his work schedule.. he couldn't take more than just a few days off. So after returning to Bahrain, we shopped and  purchased our engagement rings and became engaged Feb 28, 2020.

Since then the pandemic picked up more and I havent been able to make another trip. I also work in a covid facility so it's been pretty hectic this past year and with my kids and my dad also getting covid and having to care for them too through it. Thank the Lord I have not had the virus yet.

We have made some arrangements and discussed the details of our wedding and I know time is ticking and I need to file this now as it has to be within 2 years of meeting.

I know that there are some red flags being I was married before and previously filed a CR1. Both are from the same country of Birth and Starting a relationship just after my divorce.

I'm hoping for the best and just want to know if others have filed k1 after marriage and divorce, how did it go? 

I'm wondering if I will have to prove at some point the bonafides of my previous marriage. It's been just over 7 years since I had gotten married and just over 4 years being divorced. I've moved a few times and dont have much proof of anything left as he took whatever there was with him. Should I expect them to ask for some letter from my ex husband? Any thoughts or advice is appreciated. 

 

You will be fine, don't worry about it,  but you should discuss about the  living arrangement before he gets here otherwise you will might experience same problem again. Who gets married wants privacy and wants to live with the spouse, and not with the spouse and in- laws.Good luck.

[Ryan H 3,791]

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[SalishSea 16,776]

On 3/2/2021 at 6:04 PM, JojoandTomas said:

Just curious, why would she need a letter from her ex? I know you said she didn't need it, but in what circumstance would she need to provide one?

She would not.  Maybe in some cultures/countries, but not in the US.

[Dsam 1]

On 3/3/2021 at 8:08 AM, JonSeattle said:

I filed a I-129F just a few months after my divorce was final. According to my then fiance, the interviewer at the embassy made some remark warning her I might leave her too, which seemed absurd to me given the totally of the circumstances. Overall no real problem. One thing you might consider is doing a CR-1 instead of a K-1 because of the delay in your new spouse being able to work after he arrives. Even if it is not a problem financially for you, that might seem like too much deja vu because of what happened in your first marriage. You didn't say what happened between your first husband and your family, so that leaves me to wonder if another problem could develop between them and your new husband.

Was your spouse approved during that interview after the co made that remark ?.