Marry with housemate and then long distance, marriage bona fide?

[jack peter 1]

I'm planning to get marriage with a close friend/housemate I've lived with for three months. Not solely for the visa purpose, but it is a big reason.

The problem is: I'm going back to my country in late November, and would stay there for more than one year for work while applying for the CR-1/IR-1 visa.

Is this considered a red flag? What should we do to prove that our marriage is bona fide? I'm from East Asia and my country probably does not have many marriage frauds.

She will probably visit me 1 time during the year, while I may come back 2-3 times for work.

We could prepare the following documents:

• Joint bank account statements  
• Joint car
• Wedding photos
• Dating/visit photos
• Photos with family
• Contact records (messenger, phone call, etc)

If applying for CR-1/IR-1 seems too risky, would coming back after two years and apply for change of status in the US be a better choice?

I'm not that worried about when I could come back, but whether I could come back.

 

Edited October 6, 2020 by jack peter

[HRQX 4,145]

14 minutes ago, jack peter said:

would coming back after two years and apply for change of status in the US be a better choice?

No. Entering with B-2, ESTA, F-1, etc. and having preconceived intent to AOS is immigration fraud.

[J&A1234 181]

This is fraud. Bad idea

[aaron2020 11,651]

It's very strange that you are getting married to a "close friend/housemate."  Usually, people would refer to marrying a girlfriend or fiancee.  This is a glaring red flag.

Since you brought up the subject of marriage fraud, . . . .  why?

 

Entering the US with the intent to adjust status is visa fraud.  

Edited October 6, 2020 by aaron2020

[SteveInBostonI130 3,319]

52 minutes ago, jack peter said:

I'm planning to get marriage with a close friend/housemate I've lived with for three months. Not solely for the visa purpose, but it is a big reason.

 

Getting married for "visa purposes" is fraud.

 

53 minutes ago, jack peter said:

If applying for CR-1/IR-1 seems too risky, would coming back after two years and apply for change of status in the US be a better choice?

 

Entering on a non-immigrant visa with the purpose of adjusting status and immigrate is fraud.

 

Your post is all sorts of wrong.  Please reconsider your life choice.  Get married to someone because you are deeply in love with them and want to spend the rest of your life with them, not for "visa purposes and other reasons".

[TBoneTX 43,059]

"Marry in haste, repent in leisure."

 

Marrying now for "visa purposes and other reasons" will be obvious to any consular officer interviewing you for the visa, and thinking of marriage/staying to adjust status is wrong.  This isn't what the I-130 is meant for.

 

Go back, make your 2 to 3 visits and her one visit, then consider marriage if you're compatible, genuinely committed, etc.

[Adventine 3,187]

How 

7 hours ago, jack peter said:

What should we do to prove that our marriage is bona fide?

 

 

How about just being in a bona fide relationship?

[Stein 260]

I'm predicting the OP's second post on VJ will be defending his position and then after many more people tell him that what he is doing is fraud there will never be a third post.  Just going out on a limb here.  He may or may never marry but we will never know.

[Stein 260]

10 hours ago, jack peter said:

I'm planning to get marriage with a close friend/housemate I've lived with for three months. Not solely for the visa purpose, but it is a big reason.

 

 

What should we do to prove that our marriage is bona fide? 

 

You can't.  It's fraud.  How can you make it look bona fide when it isn't?

[carmel34 3,531]

14 hours ago, jack peter said:

while I may come back 2-3 times for work.

Do you have a valid visa that allows you to work in the US?

[Orangesapples 1,954]

So you're not in a relationship but you're getting married? This is not a bona fide marriage. You're basically committing fraud. 

[Just Paul 4,591]

Doesn't sound like a marriage for love.  And that won't be your only problem is you are re-entering the US with plans to adjust.  Your housemate should also visit you in your home country if this is "love"

[Orangesapples 1,954]

2 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

Doesn't sound like a marriage for love.  And that won't be your only problem is you are re-entering the US with plans to adjust.  Your housemate should also visit you in your home country if this is "love"

Yeah, spousal visas are for spouses, not for friends and housemates. 

[jack peter 1]

11 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

"Marry in haste, repent in leisure."

 

Marrying now for "visa purposes and other reasons" will be obvious to any consular officer interviewing you for the visa, and thinking of marriage/staying to adjust status is wrong.  This isn't what the I-130 is meant for.

 

Go back, make your 2 to 3 visits and her one visit, then consider marriage if you're compatible, genuinely committed, etc.

Thank for your suggestion. I'm thinking about this too.

[jack peter 1]

39 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

Doesn't sound like a marriage for love.  And that won't be your only problem is you are re-entering the US with plans to adjust.  Your housemate should also visit you in your home country if this is "love"

Love between friends? Marriage has to be for love? I suppose in many cases it's not ...