Live separately affects AoS?

[Boiler 43,593]

File when you do get to live together.

[Crazy Cat 39,377]

3 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

We have been doing this over year. My husband doesn’t want to let them to get counseling. This makes us stressful and live separately for a while would be better for all of us. 

13 and 14

I advise you ALL to seek counseling ASAP...children and parents.......separation is not the answer, imo.......

[Lisa93 0]

1 minute ago, missileman said:

I advise you ALL to seek counseling ASAP...children and parents.......separation is not the answer, imo.......

I know.... but my husband is actually an counselor... that’s why he doesn’t want to get counseling and we decide to live separately to see for our kids. 

But thank you for your advice. 

[Lemonslice 4,567]

Don't forget to be truthful on all the forms and during the interview, that is the most important thing. 

Might be safe for you to have a plan B, just in case your AOS is not approved.   Good luck with everything. 

[Crazy Cat 39,377]

3 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

I know.... but my husband is actually an counselor... that’s why he doesn’t want to get counseling and we decide to live separately to see for our kids. 

But thank you for your advice. 

I would get a second opinion....good luck.......

[IslandQueen 45]

There has to be more to this story! 

Edited October 4, 2019 by IslandQueen

[Nitas_man 3,100]

34 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

Everyone around us advise us that we should have live separately for Both kids. Not healthy life at all. Both are teenagers. 

My husband and I will see each other like once a month or so without kids. I know we would be asked a lot why we live separated but it can’t help. Or my son might hurt my husband’s son and vice versa. They want to kill each other. 

13 and 14 year old kids who want to kill each other and you two can’t deal with it?

You cant be serious.  Live together and beat their @&& if they act like that.  That works.  They’ll come around.  

Your AOS is definitely in jeopardy.  

 

[Lisa93 0]

6 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Don't forget to be truthful on all the forms and during the interview, that is the most important thing. 

Might be safe for you to have a plan B, just in case your AOS is not approved.   Good luck with everything. 

Yes, I will be honest and sincere to the application and at the interview. Our application was already denied because of other reason so this is the second chance and would be the last chance. 

[Crazy Cat 39,377]

1 minute ago, Lisa93 said:

Yes, I will be honest and sincere to the application and at the interview. Our application was already denied because of other reason so this is the second chance and would be the last chance. 

Why was the reason for denial?

[Lisa93 0]

4 minutes ago, IslandQueen said:

I am not judging but it doesn't sound like you have a bonafide marriage. You both live in the same country but live apart because the children don't get along?! How old are the kids? Will they be old enough to move out in 5/6 years from now? You story sounds unbelievable. I feel like there is more to this story. Did you enter into the marriage for love  and to be with your spouse or for another reason (green card)?

Our marriage is with true love. We just didn’t expect this situation because kids were good when we spent time together before marriage. And now our situation is getting worse as time passes. 

Just now, missileman said:

Why was the reason for denial?

Couldn’t answer the RFE by the date. 

[Pengunista 221]

12 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

Our marriage is with true love. We just didn’t expect this situation because kids were good when we spent time together before marriage. And now our situation is getting worse as time passes. 

Couldn’t answer the RFE by the date. 

So you guys live separately.  How far is your place from your husband? I’m just curious because you only see each other once a month. 

[IslandQueen 45]

11 minutes ago, Lisa93 said:

Our marriage is with true love. We just didn’t expect this situation because kids were good when we spent time together before marriage. And now our situation is getting worse as time passes. 

Couldn’t answer the RFE by the date. 

What was the RFE about? Separate addresses? As a layman, I find it hard to believe that you and your husband (who love each other very much) allow 2 teenagers to prevent you from living together. Wouldn't it be easier and cheaper to combine resources? Put yourself in the immigration officer's position...would you believe your story?

[Lisa93 0]

1 minute ago, Pengunista said:

So you guys live separately.  How far is your place from your husband? I’m just curious because you only see each other once a month. 

It’s like 45minutes flight. 

[Lisa93 0]

1 minute ago, IslandQueen said:

What was the RFE about? Separate addresses? As a layman, I find it hard to believe that you and your husband (who love each other very much) allow 2 teenagers to prevent you from living together. Wouldn't it be easier and cheaper to combine resources? Put yourself in the immigration officer's position...would you believe your story?

We have been thinking as wait and see if our boys get along for over 1year. We tried to spend time separately weekends not to feel stressed for kids. We looked for bigger house for kids to have and sleep in own room but it’s too expensive. 

[Pengunista 221]

1 minute ago, Lisa93 said:

It’s like 45minutes flight. 

So I get separating the kids, but why does it have to be that far? If you guys just want to  separate the kids then you could have move easily to an apartment like a mile or two away.  Your distance to your husband right now is very questionable to an IO.