Live separately affects AoS?

[Ontarkie 13,915]

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Edited October 5, 2019 by Ontarkie

[Yeap 34]

On 10/4/2019 at 4:53 PM, Lisa93 said:

Everyone around us advise us that we should have live separately for Both kids. Not healthy life at all. Both are teenagers. 

My husband and I will see each other like once a month or so without kids. I know we would be asked a lot why we live separated but it can’t help. Or my son might hurt my husband’s son and vice versa. They want to kill each other. 

Am sorry, am not judging you but with those reasons and solutions you optioned for make it look like arranged marriage. Husband and wife see each other once in a month? 5-6 years before you can live together, who does that? Think about it before you begins your AOS.

Edited October 11, 2019 by Yeap

[Lebanese23 303]

On 10/4/2019 at 5:20 PM, Lisa93 said:

I know.... but my husband is actually an counselor... that’s why he doesn’t want to get counseling and we decide to live separately to see for our kids. 

But thank you for your advice. 

Is the mother of his child in the picture at all? because the best solution may be for him to go live with her. I wouldn't recommend you living in a different address.

 

Although i don't know the details to the boy's issues with each others. you have to be in these boy's shoes for a bit.  this is a new setting for both boys, one used to be be a solo kid, didn't grow up with siblings, nor did he ever have to share his father's attention before.  Your son left his country and friends to live with this new family that he had no choice over.  it will be rocky at first but you as parents need to guide them and blend this family together.  don't let them mentally break each other down.  This will most likely ruin your marriage and your AOS.