Not living together, and no immediate plans to do so.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

I would just explain the leases and the medical issue.

For what it is worth, my first husband and I lived separately a few blocks apart for our whole marriage after sharing an apartment while dating. It wasn't a big deal, but we didn't have to deal with USCIS.

My current husband and I slept in different room for almost a year and I wish we had the separate bedrooms to do it now. I hate sharing a bedroom with someone else - I am an extreme night owl and my husband is an extreme morning person. I need a room to be very cold in order to sleep well, but most people can't stand it that cold, etc.

I'm sured they've seen it before and if you were trying to scam a greencard, you'd probably just lie about the living situation.

Edited June 30, 2016 by N-o-l-a

[Sandra G. 5,016]

It doesn't make sense your explanation.You could live in a two- bedroom apartment.

[arken 4,197]

One thing the IO might think is, "if you can't sleep with him during the night causing you two to live apart, will you two spend the rest of your life the same way?" He might doubt your relationship as just a means to get the GC. You have to have some convincing responses to those.

Edited June 30, 2016 by arken

[Ortolan 381]

OP stated that both of them have leases through 2017, yes? OP, is it possible to add your name to your husband's studio lease, and his name to your lease? At least then, both of you would be on both leases.

[Mrs.Hull210 24]

Okay OP has clearly stated that they both have current Leases for Studio apartments which means:

1) They can not sleep in different rooms. If you aren't aware what a studio apartment is, please google it.

2) Neither can leave their studio apartments until mid 2017 to move into an actual 2 bedroom together for his medical reasons.

Okay, now my opinion. I have never seen a case like this, but that doesn't mean you can't get approved. If you have strong evidence to show the CO, which it sounds like you do, then go for it. I myself have a friend who's husband suffers from a mild sleep apnea that causes loud snoring. It took her years to learn to sleep next to him in the same room, and that's what Dr.'s called MILD, so I can't even imagine what you both are going through with a Severe case of whichever disorder he has! Thankfully, my friend was a stay at home wife so she could catch up on sleep during the day while he was at work with no problem. I see how that is not an option for you, and that makes sense to me why the 2 residences in the mean time.

I wish you both all the luck in the world, and I hope you will come back and let us know how your journey goes

[Cyberfx1024 7,978]

I would just explain the leases and the medical issue.

For what it is worth, my first husband and I lived separately a few blocks apart for our whole marriage after sharing an apartment while dating. It wasn't a big deal, but we didn't have to deal with USCIS.

My current husband and I slept in different room for almost a year and I wish we had the separate bedrooms to do it now. I hate sharing a bedroom with someone else - I am an extreme night owl and my husband is an extreme morning person. I need a room to be very cold in order to sleep well, but most people can't stand it that cold, etc.

I'm sured they've seen it before and if you were trying to scam a greencard, you'd probably just lie about the living situation.

Yes, this is a sleep disorder so to speak but I have seen this before. My x-wife had this with her as well, she would stay up really late because she was used to do doing that, all the while I would be the one going to bed around 10 or 10:30pm. She would try to lay down with me when I would go to bed but she would just toss and turn all night. Also because the house was kept so cold and we would fight over the blanket, we ended up having to sleep on one bed with two different blankets. She would usually go to bed around 2-3 and I would actually wake up at 4:30am so I could get ready for work and pt at the time.

I told this to you because in reality it does not make sense to basically living two different and separate lives for a "sleep disorder". You can make it work, it is hard but you can make it work.

[Bluey 2]

I've never heard of this type of issue. If you guys have been married for this amount of time, didnt you try to sub-let or find a new place all this while?

Also, have you file the case yet? Im thinking by the time you get to interview, you might have already live together?

That is the plan. Right now we both have leases on our studios through mid 2017. Hence the no immediate plans to do so (I didn't say we never will, though! A 2 bed is the plan when our lease is up). I'm worried about giving specifics as I don't want to out myself, but it is loosely related to a form of sleep disorder on his end that renders it totally impossible for to sleep in the same room for the majority of the time. Which, in our current situation with us each in a studio, means separate apartments for now. We have regular sleepovers, it is not as if we NEVER sleep in the same apartment; we do on a regular basis. But he has to have his own place (and next year, room) for when this issue is at its peak.

Also, please don't consider me a bad wife! He insists on this arrangement as he ends up so upset and beating himself up the next day when I haven't been able to get any sleep. It is a really bad situation, but everyone has their flaws/issues and I cannot and do not blame him for his. We treasure the nights where we go out and drink so much wine that we're both unconscious and this isn't an issue LOL.

I guess, but that seems so discriminatory to me! I feel bad for those people.

[wheresthebeef29 5]

I would just explain the leases and the medical issue.

For what it is worth, my first husband and I lived separately a few blocks apart for our whole marriage after sharing an apartment while dating. It wasn't a big deal, but we didn't have to deal with USCIS.

My current husband and I slept in different room for almost a year and I wish we had the separate bedrooms to do it now. I hate sharing a bedroom with someone else - I am an extreme night owl and my husband is an extreme morning person. I need a room to be very cold in order to sleep well, but most people can't stand it that cold, etc.

I'm sured they've seen it before and if you were trying to scam a greencard, you'd probably just lie about the living situation.

Thank you for this.

OP stated that both of them have leases through 2017, yes? OP, is it possible to add your name to your husband's studio lease, and his name to your lease? At least then, both of you would be on both leases.

This. This is a great idea. We're not living there 100% of the time, but it would be another way to show we are both equally responsible for and share all expenses and obligations of our lives.

I wish you both all the luck in the world, and I hope you will come back and let us know how your journey goes

Thank you so very much!

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

I guess I am just a little confused as to why a studio apartments were chosen, given the medical condition. Were these 2 year leases? Because if they are only one year leases that aren't up until mid-2017 then you must have just signed them very recently, no? Either you locked yourself into long leases in separate apartments which seems suspicious or you did it just recently which also seems strange.

Cities known for shoe-box apartments are also usually known for high demand for housing. Surely you can find someone to sublet?

[Beth & Achraf 328]

Just give it a shot , and go with what you have, you never know, maybe USCIS will understand, stranger cases have been approved..... Wishing you the very best on your journey.

[caliliving 606]

what visa are you AOS from? F1? their is always more scrutiny with that, or a B2/VWP? like others have said, was your relationship from two years ago when you signed the leases? you could ahve gotten a 2 bedroom then.. this is a weird case, but you are from the UK and that is not a high fraud country.. what are your ages? religion? if you guys look like a good couple it should be OK!

also, most people that are screwing for a GC would never admit to living seperately IMO. does all the mail go to one place? do you guys share a phone bill? also, paying double TV and Internet makes NO sense to me whatsoever!!! do you only have cable and internet at one house?????

[Russ&Caro 1,548]

OP stated that both of them have leases through 2017, yes? OP, is it possible to add your name to your husband's studio lease, and his name to your lease? At least then, both of you would be on both leases.

Ding ding ding! We have a winner. Best advice in the thread. Seems to me, if OP does this (as she is contemplating from her reply to this post), then the problem is solved.

[EM_Vandaveer 2,370]

Sublet both and get a lease together on a 2-bedroom?

[SunflowerSweet 1,321]

Ding ding ding! We have a winner. Best advice in the thread. Seems to me, if OP does this (as she is contemplating from her reply to this post), then the problem is solved.

I mean, there is still the problem of the fact they aren't actually living together and it's entirely possible that they will get questions of WHY they have two separate living arrangements, but it's a start..

[caliliving 606]

Ding ding ding! We have a winner. Best advice in the thread. Seems to me, if OP does this (as she is contemplating from her reply to this post), then the problem is solved.

really? you think it is that hard to add someone to the lease? it is a pretty simple problem!!! i used to live in a one bedroom a block to the beach and i think i added 4 of my GF's to the lease so that they could park and just hang out by the pool ect all the time and show up unannounced lol adding to a lease doesnt really show much.

honestly, the way you act and 'look' with each other is the biggest thing IMO the IO goes on. if you guys look out of place, your information will back that up. also IMO when you know you are going through immogrtion and you are not a typical couple, why make it harder on yourself??? you obviously know not living together is a huge red flag, well then you should have figured out a way to live with each other and make it work. like others have said, get a two bedroom and sleep in seperate rooms and your problem is solved. if you both have good careers and make good money, this shouldnt be a problem! also, since you have a good career sounds like you overstayed an F1?? i know LOTS of people that went to school and get a schoolmate/friend to help them get a GC. their are still many unanswered questions on your relationship and if it is genuine or not. you could be BFFs that spend alot of time together but at the end of the day go home to your own place and have other partners in your life.

where did you meet? how did you meet? have you met each others parents? do you have pictures with each others family? have you guys traveled together to the UK to meet your family? IMO those are the better telling signs of a true genuine marriage.

at my interview the IO asked one questions. how did you meet and once i showed her pics of us in NYC with my husband and his family she approved us... it was about 5min. didnt even ask to see taxes, joint anything!!!! sooo