Are Bar Girls Disqualified From Getting a Visa?

[Anabolic_Ben 2]

Hello friends,

This is a bit embarrassing, but I hope you can help

I am in the process of applying for a K-1 visa for my Khmer fiance. However, when I met her she was working at a bar and there was an exchange of money for services on two occasions. She had only been working at the bar for 2 weeks and had never left with a man before.

We are trying to decide whether to be honest and disclose this in our cover letters or lie and say we met somewhere else. Does the former disqualify her from getting a visa? It will no doubt raise suspicion, and the embassy there already has a very high denial rate from what I've heard.

I know "just worked there for 2 weeks" sounds like a BS story but it's the truth so if you could please answer under the assumption of so I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks!

[TBoneTX 43,048]

Consult the appropriate regional subforum for specific stories.

"Moral turpitude" is a definite reason for refusal of visas.

[carton025 38]

The USCIS only knows what you tell them... And, trust me, people only tell the USCIS what they want them to know.

Honestly, unless there is a "reason" for you to tell the USCIS that your gal is a "bar girl," and I have no idea what that reason might be for you to tell the USCIS that you gal is a "bar girl,"don't do it!

Best of luck,

Sid

[jkelly07 120]

hi, it dont sound good,it could be a go go bar,she gets tips it could be alap dance,receive tips,and you know this this one prostitution being payed for services,this is a tricky one i cant tell you to lie. go to your regional forums cambodia you may get some information on that,good luck

[Ron4 22]

Hello friends,

This is a bit embarrassing, but I hope you can help

I am in the process of applying for a K-1 visa for my Khmer fiance. However, when I met her she was working at a bar and there was an exchange of money for services on two occasions. She had only been working at the bar for 2 weeks and had never left with a man before.

We are trying to decide whether to be honest and disclose this in our cover letters or lie and say we met somewhere else. Does the former disqualify her from getting a visa? It will no doubt raise suspicion, and the embassy there already has a very high denial rate from what I've heard.

I know "just worked there for 2 weeks" sounds like a BS story but it's the truth so if you could please answer under the assumption of so I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks!

"When we met she worked at a bar" did you meet at the bar? Through my process they only asked where/how we met, we met at a bar seems like a reasonable place. They also asked where we both work, does she still work at the bar? If not no reason to bring it up. Unless there is reason to delve into personal questions I can't imagine all this coming up.

[TBoneTX 43,048]

The truth will come out at some point. This process thrives on the truth. Even if she is granted a visa, it can be revoked and she can be deported if it's found that "material misrepresentation" was committed at any time during the process. Be up-front with it. If she's ineligible for a visa, at least you'll find out early and save yourself a LOT of time.

Your information isn't necessarily something that you have to tell USCIS except in appropriate places on forms, but you WILL have to tell the embassy -- or they'll find out on their own, in which case you're sunk.

Edited September 21, 2012 by TBoneTX

[QueenE 173]

I dont see why you have to tell them you exchanged services... Its just like any of us disclosing when we had sex with our significant other, its inappropriate. You can say you met each other at a bar she was working at. Then talk about the appropriate things you all did together from there. In my opinion you wouldnt be lying by saying as much

[clive7832 2]

well since you directed how you want us to advice you by assumption, Bar girls/stripper doesn't mean she is bad or going to get a visa denial my friend has been married now 10yrs to a stripper he met and they fell in love the have three kids....though at earlier years they had personal issues but they worked and stayed honest...so just don't tell uscis about her working on the bar Go on filling your paperwork and building a mutual trust among one another and discovering your differences along the way and working it together. take sometime to know a person more than few years. good luck battle!

[madtownguy 164]

Think very hard before you bring a bar girl here, you are playing with fire. A bar girl has to be the most degrading thing a girl could possibly do, it will scar her for life not to mention the feelings you might keep from it. You have to do what makes you happy at the end of the day but I'm sure you can find a girl who has not done something like that. For those of you unsure what a bar girl is you can google it. I've met "good girls" that got visas and came here and became strippers, but they would never consider being a bar girl. Because their society placed the bar so low, stripping is not all that bad in their head. Please for your own sake think very hard before you do something like that, it may sound good now but it will most likely not end well.

[MangoAve 25]

Just some more aspects to consider with madtownguy's post. The majority of bar girls are into shabu (meth). She may have only done it for two weeks, but is she going to continue while you are waiting for the K1 to process? Bar girls tend to be high maintenance women. But, after you have thought things through very carefully and you still proceed, I agree that you only tell significants to how you met. Something simple like you met at a bar, and maybe give times where you met up to do things. I assume you did more together than just meet at a bar and had two times with the exchange of service, if you are planning on going through the K1 process.

[C-ma'am 684]

Cambodia is a tough consulate. Speculating from other posts and stories that where added here on VJ, I have a feeling that the COs will ask further questions at the interview and drill her about what kind of bar it was.

[L+T 71]

Most people on here are exchanging money at some point. I sent my fiancee money and also gave some money to her and her family. However there was never a discussion as to specifically the reason for giving money. Do you really need to disclose all your personal conversations?

[mik2012 17]

Most people on here are exchanging money at some point. I sent my fiancee money and also gave some money to her and her family. However there was never a discussion as to specifically the reason for giving money. Do you really need to disclose all your personal conversations?

I agree with L+T i give my fiancee 1200.00 a month for living expenses plus I pay all of her and the little one's medical and school expenses and I have been doing this for 6 years... I true relationship is based on trust, honesty and doing the right thing. I plan on marrying my loved one regardless if we get visa or not. Love is a sacrifice and commitment one makes and somethings are meant to stay personal. You only give the information they ask nothing more nothing less....

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Prostitution makes one ineligible for a visa.

[QueenE 173]

From people's previous post it looks like this poor girl is still being degraded! I can not believe someone just basically said not to marry this girl ( that they dont know themselves) because she's a bar girl! Since the man did not ask for relationship advice I think some of your judgmental statement about this woman should be kept to yourself. I mean afterall someone is marrying you as judgemental as you are so I dont know why your marriage is more likely to serve then theirs.

Op just br cautious, do some extensive research before you start your application. So you both know the best way to handle it.