C-ma'am

Well, well, well... Hello, hello, hello!
 
After a year of dedicating my life to Mini-C and enjoying life, I've decided to go back to work.
I started a new job a month ago and I'm super happy. Mini-C was not so happy and rebelled a little... all of a sudden, he was scared of the drain in the tub and refused to take a bath. Thankfully,  that didn't last long 😬 
We are building a pool and it's been hot AF, so hopefully we'll get to enjoy it soon. 
 
Hope y'all are doing great! I see new faces!! /wave Hola!
 

LOL clearly a misspell BUT a toasty culo is welcome in the winter. I shall take a heated one! Does it come with any gadgets like the Japanese ones?
As my father would say... you got to the gas station with only the smell of gas left in the tank.

Ohhh, sexy car! Vroom, vroom! We had a Camaro and I loved driving it. Dudes would see me get out of it and some would give me the why-is-she driving-it? look. Mwuahaha LOVED IT. 

Tag "somebody" and I'll give them a spanking.

An SSN is not required to have health insurance, but it will make life obtaining it a lot easier.
 
The best process is to get the SSN asap, get married asap, and add her to insurance asap. Then I would get her evaluated by a very good doctor that specializes in this.
 
Temporary insurances will not cover pre-existing conditions, they are subpar and are not ACA compliant. You can purchase private health insurance plans that are ACA compliant, but there should be no reason why she cannot be added as a spouse asap to your Tricare.
 
I am not aware of any xray that involves the uterus for a visa medical exam. It is usually a chest xray. There are many reasons why a woman would have a large tumor in their uterus that are non-cancerous, but if she has a family history she certainly needs a proper screening.

I moved here on a K1 visa and my husband is active duty. I was covered on Tricare straight away after we got married.

2 options: rescheduled the flight or rescheduled the Oath.

No. Social Security is something he paid into the entire time he worked. You and your child are entitled to this benefit.

I am in a difficult situation. the most difficult that has come to my life.... My husband died a few weeks ago, I had to renew my green card this month.... My husband's relatives want me to place the application in social security ((of a widow and for my 9 year old girl to receive money from him)) He was 65 years old and was about to retire from work in 2021. I'm very afraid to make that application and receive that help or whatever from social security. I'm going to move in about two weeks. I don't have my own house, incredibly we had returned from vacation and to see some houses for a day to buy. My life and my soul hurts! because my soulmate left me. 
Please greatly appreciate your partners, every minute is golden when you love. my husband, my 10 year old daughter and I had a week before his departure, very beautiful week. IT’s insane how the unexpected can just be around the corner, you know.
I mean, you go along think everything is fine. And, BOOMMM It’s just not. 
Sorry for writing so much. My question is a public charge for receiving social security money from him?
 
thank you 
 

Speaking of cars and empty gas tanks reminded me that I forgot to tell ya'll about this. A couple of weeks ago we went to the peach orchard to buy fresh peaches and came home with this.
 

 
 
Now Frenchy is learning to drive it.

Most cost $Many, si C-ma'am ma'am.
The most elegant cost $Many00, si C-ma'am ma'am.
Those in our casa cost $Many,000, $i man.
If you want us to cook your culo, we also have heated POTS models, si C-ma'am ma'am.
Just turn up all the way and sit till well-done, easy ma'am.

Once you successfully completed this step - which I have no doubt you will do - prepare for ROC. That's right.
 
For the next two years collect as much information on things you do together. If you adopt another dog, do it in both of your names, etc. Keep those documents in a folder. Get a credit card you both use and save the credit card statements in that folder too. You'll present some of the same stuff you used this time (if you do living wills, power of attorney's, updated estimate of pensions/401k showing each other as the beneficiary, etc).
 
Build your case!

Wow. Just wow. Would you like to hear what my ex-husband would say about what he did to me while we were married? He'd say he was protecting me, cherishing me, helping me, that he loved me and I was the most important person in his life. In reality what he was doing to me was very similar to the OP -- he completely controlled and abused me financially, emotionally and sexually. Like the OP, I was with him for five years before we were married, but he came over on a K1. He didn't escalate his abuse as quickly as her husband did. It was a long, slow burn that I did not want to recognize until he had broken me completely. Before our wedding, I had many people telling me that our marriage would be a disaster and to pay attention to the red flags that were flying but I was in love and wouldn't listen to any of it. If anything, it made me closer to him. 
 
Of course I was the American so I didn't have to worry about whether or not I could leave when I finally realized how bad things had gotten -- and even then, I didn't leave him because I was brainwashed into thinking it was all normal. It was normal to be lavished with gifts and attention one moment, and then have them withheld when I did something "wrong" (which was always a shifting point). It was normal for him to insist on trying for a baby even when I told him I wasn't ready. It was normal to have him tell me how stupid and useless I was for every single minor transgression of everyday life. Did I "document" this? No, I didn't even realize what was happening until I was a shell of myself. I was too embarrassed to tell my friends and family what was happening to me, and as time went on I stopped thinking that my life could be any other way. To other people my life looked perfect -- beautiful home, a seemingly loving husband, all the creature comforts. I thought nobody would believe me. Even now that we're divorced, he's still trying to insert himself into my life by attempting to break my fiance and me up. It's a nightmare that doesn't end, and some of our friends still can't and won't believe what happened because he's such a charming guy. 
 
So yeah, I believe this woman. She was with him for five years before she married him, and the distance may have made the faults less obvious. She confided in a friend when things got bad, she went to be safe with her family (wouldn't you?). She reported what happened to a women's shelter and they gave her some good advice. (There's your "documentation"!)  She went to a therapist and was diagnosed with depression and PTSD from the abuse. (More "documentation"!) You see only timing, I see a woman who got out. If she has a way to adjust status, and I don't know if she does, I'm not going to be so presumptuous to say she does, she should pursue it. What does it cost you to believe this person? 

The attorney you went is not a good attorney. It's not hard to prove abuse, if you were abused, it's hard to prove bonafide marriage if you had a short marriage.To prove abuse you just need a psychological evaluation stating you have depression and /or PTSD due to the abuse suffered and the psychologist has to mention in detail  the abuse suffered.I would say 80% of the VAWA cases i handled were victims of psychological abuse,and they were approved, then find another attorney .

I applied in Dec. 2016 and my 2-year-rule was going to expire in Aug. 2017.
When I went to the interview in May 2017, the consulate officer calculated when my 2-year-rule was going to expire since I left the country for a few weeks. He said my visa would be issued in September. I waited from May to September with my case status `Pending`. In September I received the k1 package on the mail and my case status changed to `Approved`.
 
I hope this info helps

How well I recall how we felt after being pulled through the knot hole at the Seattle Field Office. We didn't get an RFE, we got a "wait and see," even worse in my thinking. At least with an RFE, you have a definite check list to rectify.  We had our AOS interview the Monday before Thanksgiving (another US holiday you may or may not celebrate  ). The IO indicated that he would contact me within 10-14 days....what a downer !!! You can read the review in our timeline. 
 
You will be OK, get a good night's sleep. Dust yourself off, and fight for your new family.

Sorry to hear of your less-than-stellar AOS interview. We also had an AOS interview from hell, just from a bit different angle. It sounds like the IO had a bit of an ax to grind, and you two were the closest grinding stones. Upon reflection of our own messy interview, he claimed that he had only been given our file 10 minutes before the interview, and then tried to make it our problem. Which eventually it was. Enough of that ancient history.
 
His job is to probe and question, in a relatively short period of time whether your relationship is real and not a sham. Sounds like he was trying the good cop, bad cop routine, without the good cop. Not much you can do with that, except roll with the punches, and it sounds like that is what you did.
 
It sounds like the two of you were kind of short on the "marriage bonafides." That screwball USCIS-speak term, which to them means enough of the frilly curtains around the windows, and enough pickets on the white picket fence to satisfy the bureaucratic notion of what a live, real marriage looks like. Anyway, it sounds like on this part, you guys were not prepared. You have to come up with as much joint married things as your can, deeds, bills, joint accounts, account beneficiaries, etc....you know what I am talking about. The notion of obtaining wills, powers of attorney, durable wills is a very good bonafide, not only for now, but also in the future. 
 
Good luck on getting as many marriage bonafides to satisfy the bureaucrat.
 

Most people find it to be beneficial to have a SSN as soon as possible after arriving (before marriage).......it makes opening bank accounts, renting apartments, etc. much easier.....
 
https://www.visajourney.com/content/ssn/

Got a promotion. 

It's been just about this long since you graced us with your august presence (and it IS August), si C-ma'am ma'am!
Sounds like a mommy's boy, si C-ma'am ma'am.
The bathhouse will need a POTS, your lucky day because we have perfect choices si C-ma'am ma'am.
We have auto-cool POTSs in stock now, your lucky day si C-ma'am ma'am.
Nothing like a cool culo, ahhhhh C-ma'am ma'am.

After you submit your petition and you reach the interview stage, you may want to ask any questions you have in the UK only forum, where people who have gone through the embassy before can help you https://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/99-united-kingdom/
 
All embassies tend to do things their own way and this is particularly true for the UK one. It tends to be less tedious of a process than in other countries; so do get yourself over there and  learn the ins and outs of the enchilada. 
 
 

Well, well, well... Hello, hello, hello!
 
After a year of dedicating my life to Mini-C and enjoying life, I've decided to go back to work.
I started a new job a month ago and I'm super happy. Mini-C was not so happy and rebelled a little... all of a sudden, he was scared of the drain in the tub and refused to take a bath. Thankfully,  that didn't last long 😬 
We are building a pool and it's been hot AF, so hopefully we'll get to enjoy it soon. 
 
Hope y'all are doing great! I see new faces!! /wave Hola!
 

If you need to move, go ahead and do it.
 
If AOS is being processed by time you move, change the address with USCIS so correspondence can reach your end when they send you NOAs. If you have not filed for AOS yet, by the time you move, it may be better to file once you have a new domicile (you could be doing this the moment you sign your lease/deed), in essence whenever you know your new address and you know it's not going to change. 
 
If y'all move again after AOS, the beneficiary will have to update their address with USCIS each time, and will file ROC with the address used at that time. Makes sense? You could move 5 times after a GC is issued, those five times need to be reported each time and then you complete documents with current address for whatever next step comes your way.

I'm glad to hear that is moving along more smoothly.
 
I'd actually prefer to stay home, when I'm working things don't get done like they should: weeding, painting, keeping things orderly, cooking, etc.
 
I know, I'm such a planner. It is a good and a bad thing.
 
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I tried to wash my car in one of the self service bays in town. I even bought some bug dissolver, a new bug sponge, and used the chamois. Although more of the bugs are gone than when I use the automatic car wash, the car looks, ummmm, bad?  I suck at washing cars.   Then, I tried a clay bar on a test area which still had some bug on the front bumper. It is smooth, but still looks like a mess. I think it might have taken off the paint splatter, but it scratched the paint. My paint is so hyper sensitive.  I hate this car.  Hopefully when I get my first paycheck, I will just pay to have the whole car wet sanded while the lawsuit is pending. I'm done. 

I believe right now the record belongs to somebody on this forum who got married 2 hours after the fiancé arrived. They went from the airport straight to the county office to sign the papers.
 
The only way to top that now is to get married at the airport. You can get an ordained officiant to meet you at the airport and administer the wedding vows right there with the guy or gal as they’re coming out of customs. That’ll be one heck of a day because you’ll be coming from “Sir, are you bringing any fruits or vegetables to the United States?” to: “do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife?”