bantam88
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bantam88 reacted to JeanneAdil in Non-Immigrant visa affidavit of support
B1 tourist visa????
no
they didn't need affidavit of support from u to begin with (as said above)
and they applied for the visa and had to prove ties to Morocco
it is their responsibility / not yours
just don't invite them to stay in your home
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bantam88 reacted to beloved_dingo in Hague Adoption Process Question -- Can my English niece come to live with us?
Maybe I'm missing something here, but if you want to help your husband's sister with the children, and have the money to even consider the options you presented - why don't you just help her out financially? I assume she is a fit parent going through a rough financial time so wouldn't that be the least disruptive way to provide support...?
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bantam88 reacted to TBoneTX in When did you come to realization you are more American than anything else?
When Mrs. T-B. got her green card, she was wild to go back to Ecu. She wanted 7 weeks there.
However, it wasn't quite the same.
She realized that most of her friends had moved on with their lives, and that she was not an intimate part.
By the third week, she was begging me to get her home early.
(I refused, being fully occupied with my imaginary harem of 6 blondes.)
A couple of years ago, she & Mini-Bone visited Ecu.
Mini-B. was miserable. So was Mrs. T-B.
The weather was too hot. Society, commerce, and government were too inefficient.
Hotels that were previously sufficient were now strikingly inadequate.
By the third day, she was begging me to bring them back (I didn't; see above).
In a few weeks, I'm going back for the first time in something like 6 years.
Ecu is nice, but it's firmly a third-world country, and I realize that.
I'll take mental note of how well Mrs. T-B. handles and abides things.
One benefit to her presence is that I can get "native" prices and not inflated "gringo" prices for everything.
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bantam88 reacted to TBoneTX in When did you come to realization you are more American than anything else?
Can be immediate, upon obtaining and wearing:
-- MAGA cap
-- T-shirt that says "Relax, Gringo -- I'm Legal!"
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bantam88 reacted to Twomoles in When did you come to realization you are more American than anything else?
I think big moment was for me, that I realized that I understand American jokes and stand up comedy, better than the current humor back at my birth country. Once you start getting political jokes and getting Dr Seuss, but lose touch and interest about the ones back home, you are turned.
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bantam88 reacted to PelagijaP in Struggling to adjust to the new life
Well, I am certainly struggling to adjust.
I understand how hard it must be with your in-laws, but I couple of times wished that my husband had ANY family or even friends here so that I could talk to anybody.
I came to the US on 1st of March, gave birth to a baby girl 3 weeks later, and since then we have been out of the apartment together as a family 6!!! times (if we don't count going to the doctors). I think I am loosing my mind, I don't go anywhere, don't talk to anybody, my ' outing ' is when I run outside to throw the garbage away. Me and my husband argued a lot about it because he thinks it is unsafe for me to go out for a walk with our baby in this neighborhood and I think he is completely exaggerating . I don't know what to do, he is always tired during the week if I ask him to go out somewhere ( nowhere special, just to the local park for a walk), and then spends the weekend watching Top Gear and you tube. I cook, clean, do laundry, breastfeed, do everything around the baby. I feel exhausted, sad, lonely and now on top of all doctor said I have postnatal depression. Don't like this city nor this place where we live and can't stop thinking how I miss my family and how I used to go for walks with my dog, had a nice job, friends.
I had to rant, sorry guys!!
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bantam88 reacted to TBoneTX in Struggling to adjust to the new life
This is a reminder of an excellent weapon, usable by and useful for All Wives.
Intentionally rearrange the furniture in your house at 2 a.m. multiple nights per week, or every night.
Be sure that your husband trips over it.
When he raises the issue, tell him that this will happen every night unless he supports you in dealings with his family.
Positive response is 99.44% guaranteed.
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bantam88 reacted to SunflowerSweet in Struggling to adjust to the new life
Funny (not actually funny) but I had a very very similar experience with my in laws in the UK, though it was more focused on sexism and racism, the one-two punch! It was so similar, right down to the grandmother calling the next day and me thinking it was an apology only for it to be more criticism.
We had always planned on moving to the US, so thankfully I don’t really need to deal with those individuals anymore, but it did solidify my opinion that we made the right choice of where to live. In that moment I did feel very scared and isolated in an unfamiliar and unfriendly environment just while visiting, so I can’t even imagine how much worse it feels when you are setting your home up here.
I do agree with what people are saying that it sounds like more of a family issue than a country issue, though I do not want that to make it sound like I am making light of the US’s serious racism issues. (Both my husband and I would disagree with the claim that the UK is much better though). Surrounding yourself with like-minded friends and associates as you make yourself at home here is going to be key! Of course that’s a lot easier said than done, but definitely not impossible!
Honestly, you are much more patient with your husband than I would be. I expect him to stand up for me, even if it’s too his own family. I would also never let anyone talk about him like that, especially my own family, gross.
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bantam88 reacted to USS_Voyager in Can a child born in US with non US citizen(green card holder parents) automatically get US citizen?
Yes, I forgot. There are a couple minor exceptions to the 14th Amendment. Children of people who have diplomatic status (Embassy and Consulate workers of foreign governments who are in the US on diplomatic missions) and (this one is great) children of enemy combatants occupying US territories during time of war, are not US citizens! Can't think of any war in US history where the enemy combatants were giving births left and right in US territories, but boys, did they think of that when they wrote it.
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bantam88 reacted to Crazy Cat in APPROVED, ALREADY IN USA BUT FIANCE BROKE UP
Yea, but the post says "when I finally get in the USA".......I'm not sure where she is at the moment....LOL
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bantam88 reacted to Cathi in Parents petitioning for adult children
One of the strangest threads I have seen in my 7 years on this site.
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bantam88 reacted to geowrian in Parents petitioning for adult children
^This. Specifics matter: the government program used, the state it was used in, status at the time it was used, etc.
A generic question regarding government aid cannot have a specific answer.
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bantam88 reacted to NicoleS in Can my fiance fly into Canada as her port of entry?
This seems like a bit of an extra hassle. But if you don't mind applying for her to get a tourist visa for Canada, then sure. Personally, if I were you, I'd book her flight directly to the US to avoid dealing with Canadian immigration issues unless that is super easy (no idea, I am Canadian haha)
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bantam88 reacted to Ontarkie in Applying for assylum in the Philippines?
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bantam88 reacted to SalishSea in Applying for assylum in the Philippines?
Ok, LOL. This cannot be a real thread. It has every single element of all of the best queries that commonly incite a VJ frenzy. You got us 😉
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bantam88 reacted to Roel in Applying for assylum in the Philippines?
I've read the whole thread and still dont understand what OP actually want to do or WHERE OP actually wants to live with his wife. Mindblowing.
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bantam88 reacted to SusieQQQ in Parents came to US but no green card! Please advice
Sometimes you need to take a leading 0 out of the A number, did you try that?
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bantam88 reacted to Dashinka in McRaven gives 'fantastic' Obama credit for bin Laden raid
President Obama did some things that he does deserve credit for, and he did some things that rise to the same level as Nixon. I don't know that if he had failed in getting OBL it would have resulted in him losing to Romney in 2012 considering his tight relationship with the mainstream media, but regardless, I will give him credit for ordering the raid, I will also give him credit for the rise of ISIS as well as the Arab Spring resulting in the deaths of four Americans in Benghazi and allowing his SoS to break almost all confidential material handling laws on the books.
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bantam88 reacted to Roel in Joining my wife in US after marriage
My suggestion is to not waste money on a lawyer.
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bantam88 reacted to Going through in Can my Fiance coming from Canada to US still work in Canada?
It's weird for me sometimes to do that...on US forms, at my job, etc. I'm very careful about "editing" my spelling at times. Or I have to remember to say zee instead of zed when spelling something out loud...it's a hard habit to break when I've been spelling certain words a certain way for 40+ years.
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bantam88 reacted to USS_Voyager in Can my Fiance coming from Canada to US still work in Canada?
Perfect, plan on a complete remodel of the house or something...
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bantam88 reacted to TBoneTX in Law enforcement job prior to citizenship
He might also check opportunities with police departments in school districts, medical centers, etc. This kind of job would enable him to claim U.S. experience when he seeks positions with city, county, or state departments.
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bantam88 reacted to SusieQQQ in advise on moving to the US with international company
This is all kinda weird imo
usually company lawyer determines appropriate visa, informs employee and applies for him/her
not employee trawling VJ to try figure out what visa company may be talking about
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bantam88 reacted to JunkTardis in Wife wants to magically create a bank account out of thin air a month before her mom's interview
Whilst there is no definitive data out there on the average amount of money people have in their checking accounts, I found the following data.
USA: https://www.thebalance.com/what-is-the-average-bank-account-balance-4171574
Mexico: https://www.efe.com/efe/english/life/mexican-households-have-an-average-of-3-8-members-843-in-monthly-income/50000263-2666718
Take this with a grain of salt, living in one country is not better or worse than the other - it's subjective.
Now that this is out of the way, can we kindly get back on topic?