Effects of police report on pending AOS application (merged)

[Thesearethedays 6]

Greetings, 

 

What effects does a police report have on a pending AOS application? I need to file a report against my wife for violence in the home in front of our children. 

 

She has an explosive temper and resorts to throwing objects and destroying things when she gets upset. She's done this on multiple occasions now in front of our two children. One is hers from a previous relationship and the other is our 4 month old child.   

 

Both my wife and her son are pending AOS which we filed last year.  

 

I don't want to press charges, but I need to get this stuff reported so there is a record. 

 

Could a report with the police cause any issues with the AOS.? 

Edited April 13, 2023 by Thesearethedays

[Allaboutwaiting 2,480]

Would be a serious issue if she is charged and convicted.

 

Setting that aside, there is no reason to stay with someone who is violent. Things are horrible enough as you've described; that's not a healthy environment for you or the kids and it could eventually escalate to something worse. 

[Mike E 11,722]

12 minutes ago, Thesearethedays said:

Greetings, 

 

What effects does a police report have on a pending AOS application? I need to file a report against my wife for violence in the home in front of our children.

If USCIS learns of it, it could:

 

* deny the case

 

* hold it for resolution

 

12 minutes ago, Thesearethedays said:

 

She has an explosive temper and resorts to throwing objects and destroying things when she gets upset. She's done this on multiple occasions now in front of our two children. One is hers from a previous relationship and the other is our 4 month old child.   

 

Both my wife and her son are pending AOS which we filed last year.  

 

I don't want to press charges, but I need to get this stuff reported so there is a record.

Pressing charges is not a thing in America. Only a prosecutor presses charges.

12 minutes ago, Thesearethedays said:

 

 Could a report with the police cause any issues with the AOS.? 

Yes if USCIS learns of it.

 

If the report is made before her I-485 interview and she fails to disclose, this would be a material misrepresentation and she could be subject to a permanent ban.

[Boiler 43,396]

You report it to the police so they can press charges if appropriate otherwise maybe something for Child Services.

 

I am going to assume you need a lawyer 

[JeanneAdil 6,190]

people that have issues such as u describe also take the anger out on children and house pets

you need to report each time to protect not only u but the kids(or a neighbor or teacher will ) 

 

I would see a lawyer /get her into anger management 

but keep a notebook of each temper tantrum  and take photos of things she destroys 

 

best to protect yourself or this will  come back to bite u

[Timona 3,931]

I just opted not to stir a pot today. Fairly new account, same country and immigration journey, same choice of username, same story just minus 1 kid. 

 

What are the odds?

Edited April 14, 2023 by Timona

[Allaboutwaiting 2,480]

Just now, Timona said:

I just opted not to stir a pot today. Fairly new accout, same countey and immigration journey, same choice of username, same story just minus 1 kid. 

 

What are the odds?

The username is different. Unless we're referring to different cases.

[Timona 3,931]

Look at the choice of username. Same pattern as the other. That's what I said.

[Ontarkie 13,903]

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from AOS Family K1/K3 P&P - As similar threads are discussed here.~~

[Timona 3,931]

@Thesearethedays The days were last year, heck even 2 weeks ago when we advised you again. We've been advising you since last year but you don't listen. 

 

You're back, different profile, same story but now missing 1 child in your narrative? Where did he/she go? 🤔

 

Mike-E-ing.

[OldUser 4,740]

41 minutes ago, Timona said:

I just opted not to stir a pot today. Fairly new account, same country and immigration journey, same choice of username, same story just minus 1 kid. 

 

What are the odds?

Déjà vu 😃

 

@Thesearethedays why are you even filing / continuing with violent wife's AOS?

 

Withdraw your support for her AOS, divorce and move on. If you press charges, and depending on history of violence, you may get full custody over the children if that's what you would like to do. That's outside of immigration though.

 

Edited April 14, 2023 by OldUser

[Redro 4,586]

49 minutes ago, Timona said:

I just opted not to stir a pot today. Fairly new account, same country and immigration journey, same choice of username, same story just minus 1 kid. 

 

What are the odds?

You forgot same city/state… and timeline for k1 for this account seems very suspect….filed k1 in 2021 and received visa EARLY 2022? Incredible…

[Allaboutwaiting 2,480]

7 minutes ago, ROK2USA said:

You forgot same city/state… and timeline for k1 for this account seems very suspect….filed k1 in 2021 and received visa EARLY 2022? Incredible…

If I was faking an account I'd change every detail. 

Oh well.

 

Edited April 14, 2023 by Allaboutwaiting

[Family 3,463]

7 hours ago, Thesearethedays said:

don't want to press charges, but I need to get this stuff reported so there is a record. 

 

Could a report with the police cause any issues with the AOS

Create a record by assembling the photos of past damage and call a “family intervention “ meeting with someone you trust .( be it therapist, priest, relative or friend) and Talk Openly about the violent outbursts.

 

Put your wife on notice that you will call 911 if it happens again…,and if she hurls a plate at your head, they will arrest her for domestic violence.

 

They will not make a police report  for past incidents.. without an arrest there will not be any impact on AOS…as USCIS won’t know.

 

 

Edited April 14, 2023 by Family

[Family 3,463]

7 hours ago, Allaboutwaiting said:

that's not a healthy environment for you or the kids and it could eventually escalate to something worse

 

2 hours ago, Timona said:

stir a pot today

Sometimes people need more or different kind of help …not much gets through I-told-you-so approach.

 

I am knee deep in the Letecia Stauch trial and my instinct is to tell OP….list your Red Flags , trust your instincts and if you have that unsettling feeling that you don’t really know/trust  your wife ….RUN!,,,