Worried! Bringing my mom here and affraid to get denied

[Crazy Cat 39,138]

2 minutes ago, IR5momandme said:

This is something that can happen anytime, anywhere. Regardless of age. When you sick, then you sick. Should not be something that the CO use to determine the approval/denial.

Of course, it should be considered. That is why it is considered for ALL immigrant cases.

[Mindo2019 12]

Just now, sol_sol said:

ok If you want to add deductible. add 6000 per year. that makes 100000 over 18 years. OP can show this figure to embassy in bank account. 

Sadly...most of them do not look on the supporting file.LOL

Hopefully my tax transcripts good enough to tell them that we can support my mom. I will submit 3 years tax transcripts when I fill in I-864EZ.

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

Anyway OP I’m not entirely sure why you came to ask advice when your story keeps changing to fit what you want to believe, so I’m going to bow out rather than go round in circles here. Good luck.

[sol_sol 31]

To be honest, CO are going to abuse these rules openly. There will be more biased attitude in embassies. I think government should set clear number so that people prepare according to that

[Mindo2019 12]

1 minute ago, missileman said:

Of course, it should be considered. That is why it is considered for ALL immigrant cases.

What I mean is when she is in the US. CO is not future teller to know when someone can get sick and possibly use all of the public assistance she can use. I think when they see the medical check up by embassy and find out that my mom healthy should be enough. No more future references.

[Crazy Cat 39,138]

5 minutes ago, sol_sol said:

To be honest, CO are going to abuse these rules openly. There will be more biased attitude in embassies. I think government should set clear number so that people prepare according to that

Can you provide examples for that opinion, Philosopher?  "Also, for those who advise, they should back up their opinions by giving examples , instead of just telling whats in their mind"

Edited October 9, 2019 by missileman

[Mindo2019 12]

1 minute ago, SusieQQQ said:

Anyway OP I’m not entirely sure why you came to ask advice when your story keeps changing to fit what you want to believe, so I’m going to bow out rather than go round in circles here. Good luck.

what story that I change???

[sol_sol 31]

2 minutes ago, missileman said:

Can you provide examples for that opinion, Philosopher?

For example they should announce 'Show this amount and you are in, otherwise you cannot enter'.

[Mindo2019 12]

10 minutes ago, missileman said:

There are a lot of variables which must be considered.......like debt to income ration........With the Mother, it will be a family of 6 to support.  Hopefully, the OP has considered all those variables......

It still family of 4. 2 in Indonesia does not cost as much in the US. Just for your information, giving $300 a month can be enough for local people considering that my mom has a house and the only thing that we need to worried is food and school. And no. We do not have debt other than student loan and car payment.

[JeanneAdil 6,169]

1 hour ago, IR5momandme said:

It depends where you work I guess. Place where I work let the part-timer to get health insurance through them but the employee has to pay their own premium. 

My two siblings in Indoensia...I agree...I wish there is a way I can show the CO that I also take care of them financially

that's a lot of people to support 

especially when IRS doesn't let you claim them

 

I think you best know if you can afford this and the cost of living in  Lansing 

Looking up online all i see is it would take $7,000 more to live in Detroit over Lansing

 

for me ,  it is hard to compare and i tried but i know when i moved south i got rid of big winter heating bills 

[ADW & JOP 146]

Just another anecdote, my mother was a very healthy woman up to one year ago. She had no chronic medical issues and exercised 1-2 hours daily. One morning, she slipped while exercising and injured her neck. She was admitted to the neuro ICU, ward bed, then rehab. In total, she was institutionalized for 5 months. The cost of her care exceeded $500,000. Fortunately, we live in Canada with a public health care system and it ended up costing only parking passes. However, this forever reminds me how fragile we really are. 

 

Unfortunately, life can be unpredictable. You can be very healthy today, very sick tomorrow.

Edited October 9, 2019 by ADW & JOP

[sol_sol 31]

1 minute ago, ADW & JOP said:

Just another anecdote, my mother was a very healthy woman up to one year ago. She had no chronic medical issues and exercised every day 1-2 hours. One morning, she slipped while exercising and injured her neck. She was admitted to the neuro ICU, ward bed, then rehabilitation. In total, she was institutionalized for 5 months. The cost of her care exceeded $500,000. Fortunately, we live in Canada with a public health care system and it ended up costing only parking passes. However, this forever reminds me how fragile we really are. 

 

Unfortunately, life can be unpredictable. You can be very healthy today, very sick tomorrow.

Classic example of unpredectability. A young person of 30 can be injured and be put a' burden on USA tax payers'.............

[JeanneAdil 6,169]

10 minutes ago, IR5momandme said:

This is a joke...I can guarantee that my mom will be at least taking care of because of million of dollars life insurance that I have.LOL

you didn't tell us about the milliions of dollars of life insurance 

and what i say isn't meant to be a joke

it is a concern we all must face

 

and thanks for laughing 

really was just trying to help 

 

[Mindo2019 12]

2 minutes ago, sol_sol said:

For example they should announce 'Show this amount and you are in, otherwise you cannot enter'.

I absolutely agree that there is bias area in the embassy. My friend got her tourist visa last year. No job, no saving account, just working husband as a pilot. Get her visa like the same day. My mom, I do not want to bring her here right away before she agrees and to see how US look like so she applied for tourist visa.  Have a house, saving account, children still in Indonesia, apply for her tourist visa and get denied. Twice! in two different years. Maybe because she does not have a job.But again, my friend also do not have a job. So yeah...things are really bias.

[ADW & JOP 146]

5 minutes ago, sol_sol said:

Classic example of unpredectability. A young person of 30 can be injured and be put a' burden on USA tax payers'.............

Actually, in this case, she is over 60. And partly the reason for the severity of her injury was because of previously undetected arthritis in her neck as a result of aging and overuse.

Edited October 9, 2019 by ADW & JOP