FIANCEE ACTING-UP AFTER K1 VISA WAS GRANTED

[jeanieCZ 228]

6 minutes ago, MorganandMichael said:

The literal creation of this thread is  the OP questioning his own ex and looking for a way to circumvent her wishes in order to still move to the US.

 

Not really sure how you missed that correlation.

I guess you didn't read my first reply to OP. I'll say it one more time: nobody knows what happened between two people except the two of them. Things can look very different to a third (fourth, seventeenth, hundred and eleventh...) person. 

[laylalex 7,251]

14 minutes ago, Elif_and_Greg said:

So you took the guy back? And it's his fault you took him back because he was just so convincing? 

Wow, thanks for the sympathy. 

11 minutes ago, jeaniecz said:

Whoa. Respecting one's choices is one thing. But dragging your ex through internet fora is another. Come on. The only people who know what's between them are thw two having a relationship. I don't know why would you use your ex as an illustration here... 

I am using him as an illustration because he LITERALLY told me I was "acting up" and when I broke it off, he decided he was going to win me back. He came over here to visit in person and try to convince me I was making a mistake. Isn't this what the OP is thinking about? 

 

Why do you even care what I am saying about my ex? It isn't "dragging" to call him out for the monster that he was. He made my life hell for many, many years by wearing me down, again and again and again. If you want to call me weak, that's fine. I was young and impressionable. I'm not so much now.

[Shawn and sha 9]

2 minutes ago, jeaniecz said:

I guess you didn't read my first reply to OP. I'll say it one more time: nobody knows what happened between two people except the two of them. Things can look very different to a third (fourth, seventeenth, hundred and eleventh...) person. 

That's true this is only one side 

[laylalex 7,251]

11 minutes ago, MorganandMichael said:

The literal creation of this thread is  the OP questioning his own ex and looking for a way to circumvent her wishes in order to still move to the US.

 

Not really sure how you missed that correlation.

Thank you. That is how I was reading it. I apologize if I come off a little emotional about things -- it was a total mess of a relationship that I am still recovering from and that my current fiance has to deal with.

[jeanieCZ 228]

4 minutes ago, laylalex said:

If you want to call me weak, that's fine. I was young and impressionable. I'm not so much now.

Never intended to. I'm sorry you felt attacked. 

Edited July 22, 2019 by jeaniecz

[Crazy Cat 39,370]

41 minutes ago, Michael Tetteh said:

Listen just come over to her if you know her address or whatever and she is still acting up, hire a lawyer and you will be fine with adjusting your status. Don’t waste time over there

100% wrong!!!!  He will have no basis to adjust status.....

[Crazy Cat 39,370]

36 minutes ago, Timona said:

I think he was being sarcastic. 

There is a proper time to be sarcastic....and a time to offer accurate advice.....

[Crazy Cat 39,370]

After reading this thread, I think it is highly likely that the USC has notified CBP and the consulate.......If so, the OP will be lucky to penetrate the US border.

[laylalex 7,251]

13 minutes ago, jeaniecz said:

Never intended to. I'm sorry you felt attacked. 

Thank you. And I am sorry I lashed out, I have continuing "ex drama" that never seems to die, so I am very sensitive when something I read here hits too close to home.

[C&H12 13]

2 hours ago, dentsflogged said:

Totally agreed on this.  The fact that OP is even considering getting a lawyer really indicates that they're in it for the green card, not for love. 

OP if she says you shouldn't go - then thats what it means.  A "grand" gesture like getting on a plane and just showing up will not be welcome, appreciated or wanted. That is the very definition of gross, creepy behavior and as much of a red flag as your use of "acting up" - she is a grown woman and can act in any way she wants to without your permission or approval. 

IMO this lady got out while the going was good. No one wants to be married to a misogynist who rebukes their spouse's behaviour online while simultaneously planning on violating the boundaries set by their spouse. 

Sorry but this is really an interesting thread.....  I think everything else that is being proposed as potential problems, what to do, how to refer to your fiance, etc is completely irrelevant.  You hit the nail on the head with your second sentence.  Conversation done!  If he really loves this woman and that is indeed his TRUE concern, no reason whatsoever to even bring up the lawyer.  To what end?!?!

[jeanieCZ 228]

2 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Thank you. And I am sorry I lashed out, I have continuing "ex drama" that never seems to die, so I am very sensitive when something I read here hits too close to home.

Fair enough. I appreciate your apology though.

I'm sorry to hear that your previous relationship still haunts you, I hope you'll be able to close that chapter and move on, on your way to being with the man you love. Good luck on your journey!

[Timona 3,951]

6 minutes ago, laylalex said:

Thank you. And I am sorry I lashed out, I have continuing "ex drama" that never seems to die, so I am very sensitive when something I read here hits too close to home.

I completely understand "previous life" implications on a new relationship. I have first hand experience. For the first years of our marriage,  I was at the receiving end of this with my wife. She will be emotional and after blaming me and some arguments, she admits she's sensitive due to being hurt from the past. We are still passing through this phase as we speak, but it is much better than yesterday. Even the term "lazy", said in a calm and collected manner, would bring a fight. 

[Crazy Cat 39,370]

9 hours ago, Favour08 said:

2) Should I travel to USA and hire an immigrant lawyer to advise on other options

This says a lot!!!!! .........This shows what your priority is- getting a green card.... imo........

-Missileman out!!!

 

[Ontarkie 13,922]

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