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Hello all, so I went through the K-1 process and we got married in November. Eventually after some issues she finally revealed that I had rushed her far too much and wasn't ready to come or be married. The AOS is already submitted but she is going home at the end of the month. Assuming the green card does not arrive in time, does anyone have experience with this situation and if there is anything I could possibly do at my local USCIS office? Any experience in this situation is helpful, thanks. 

 We will be filing the CR1 at a later time.

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The only thing you can do is cancel AOS process if she doesnt want to stay. 

 

Your spouse really wasted a lot of time and money... 


K1

29.11.2013 - NoA1

06.02.2014 - NoA2

01.04.2014 - Interview. 

AoS

03.2015 - AoS started.

09.2015 - Green Card received.  

RoC

24.07.2017 - NoA1.

01.08.2018 - RoC approved. 

 

 

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2 hours ago, nick6147 said:

Hello all, so I went through the K-1 process and we got married in November. Eventually after some issues she finally revealed that I had rushed her far too much and wasn't ready to come or be married. The AOS is already submitted but she is going home at the end of the month. Assuming the green card does not arrive in time, does anyone have experience with this situation and if there is anything I could possibly do at my local USCIS office? Any experience in this situation is helpful, thanks. 

 We will be filing the CR1 at a later time.

I completely agree with @Roel on this. If she does not go home without the AP or the stamp in her passport then the AOS is pretty much for nothing because it will be considered abandoned. We have seen something like this and usually entails something along the lines of this: She goes home and realizes how much it sucks at home, complains to you about everything and how she is sorry and wishes that she could redo things and be with you, you then have to file a CR1 for her to come back, she gets the CR1 after 12 months and comes back to live with you. 

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I think it's worth re-mentioning that leaving without AP or green card is abandoning AOS. This means she cannot come back, under this particular status or circumstance. She cannot return home, and then want to come back and try again. You guys would have to file all over again for a CR1, as you are married now, and go through that process. I know you mention this in your post, but feel it is worth addressing directly. Some people make choices thinking they can change their mind again if they want to, but there always comes a point in immigration that is of no return, and you cannot change your mind again. Just make sure you are BOTH aware of that before moving forward.


Håll ut, y'all.

 

               K1 Process                                                                                AOS Process

July 2015 - met online thanks to Zak Bagans                                                            May 25, 2018 - South Carolina marriage license issued

June 2016 - first in-person meeting                                                                             May 26, 2018 - legally married

August 2016 - stateside visit                                                                                        June 7, 2018 - applied for Social Security Number [manual verification required]

February-April 2017 - stateside visit                                                                           June 18, 2018 - SSN/card received in the mail

April 4, 2017 - got engaged                                                                                          June 30, 2018 - submitted I-485 (AOS)/I-765 (EAD)/I-131 (AP) together

June 5, 2017 - submitted I129F                                                                                   July 9, 2018 - AOS/EAD/AP electronic NOA1 received

June 12, 2017 - received NOA1                                                                                   July 13, 2018 - AOS/EAD/AP hard copy NOA1 received (dated July 6, 2018)

December 1, 2017 - received NOA2                                                                            July 25, 2018 - Biometrics appointment (Charlotte, NC)

January 17, 2018 - NVC received case                                                                      August 1, 2018 - case status updated to "Ready to be Scheduled for Interview"

January 18, 2018 - received NVC case number by phone                                      August 11, 2018 - case status updated to "I-485 Interview Scheduled"

January 24, 2018 - packet received via email                                                           August 16, 2018 - AOS Interview Scheduled letter received

February 15, 2018 - medical appointment                                                                 August 28, 2018 - visited civil surgeon (Winston-Salem, NC) to complete I-693

February-March 2018 - trip to Gothenburg                                                                                                [beneficiary had to get one remaining vaccination stateside]

February 22, 2018 - interview at the US Embassy in Stockholm                            September 18, 2018 - I-485/AOS Interview in Greer, SC

                                    [passed, pending receipt of medical papers]                           September 18, 2018 - case status updated to "Card Has Been Issued/Mailed"

February 27, 2018 - medical papers received by Embassy                                     September 25, 2018 - Green Card received in the mail

March 5, 2018 - visa received in the mail with passport                                          October 6, 2018 - traditional wedding with family & friends

May 16, 2018 - POE in Charlotte, NC

 

 

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one post removed for not being constructive advice.

either post constructive advice or do not post.

 

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You’ve probably already done this, but try to gently talk to her about it.

 

EVERYONE feels homesick, so I empathize with that, but she may not be considering the strain this will be - not only financially, but also on your relationship, as it doesn’t seem like she wants to end your marriage.  

 

Any way that maybe she could have a family member or friend from home come to visit?  

 

I was very very fortunate to only be a few hours from my family and friends, but those first 7 months were tough.  My husband worked so much bc we relied mostly on his income, so I was bored and alone, a lot, and it was tough.  As much as I was thrilled to finally be with husband, I was homesick in the worst way.  Although not frequent, my parents and two of my best friends made the trip down to visit, and that really helped!

 

She will likely regret it pretty soon after going home, and then you’ll be separated and stressed for 12+ months waiting for another visa.

 

I wish you all the best, and I hope she changes her mind, because it does get better.

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