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I'm surprised I haven't asked this before, but to other K-1 visa applicants, what are your thoughts on the show 90 day fiancé?!

 

I love to watch it because I think it's actually quite funny. But I think sometimes it gives not the most truthful view of the K-1 visa. Not everyone who files is crazy like the people on the show seem to be!

 

What are your thoughts?!:jest:

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It makes the K-1 process look like it's nothing but drama, but hey it's a reality show that is supposed to be entertaining right? :P

You should come join the Season discussion thread, we discuss each episode there. 

 

 


K1 Visa Process                                                                                                   

Spoiler

 

December 19, 2016: NOA1 receive date 

May 5, 2017: NOA2 hardcopy (still listed as 'received' online...)

May 23, 2017: NVC case number assigned

July 10, 2017: Interview
July 14, 2017: Visa in hand
July 27, 2017: POE at ORD

August 5, 2017: Married!

 

See my 'About Me' section on my profile for a more detailed step by step journey of our K1 Journey through the Casablanca consulate in Morocco

 

AOS Process  

September 8, 2017 : Mailed AOS Packet

September 16, 2017 : NOA1 text/emails (receive date Sept. 12)

October 2, 2017 : Biometrics Appointment

October 13, 2017 : RFIE letter received in mail (they want an English translated Birth Certificate, which we included in the original petition...)

January 24, 2018: EAD/AP Combo Card in hand

August 9, 2018: AOS Interview (Approved)

August 9, 2018: "Card in Production"

August 16, 2018: Green card in hand

 

May 2020: ROC!

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56 minutes ago, Ash&Jaye said:

I'm surprised I haven't asked this before, but to other K-1 visa applicants, what are your thoughts on the show 90 day fiancé?!

 

I love to watch it because I think it's actually quite funny. But I think sometimes it gives not the most truthful view of the K-1 visa. Not everyone who files is crazy like the people on the show seem to be!

 

What are your thoughts?!:jest:

The above highlighted in bold is the MO of just about every reality show. Drama sells.

 

A few years ago the produces of 90Day Fiance used to solicit on this site. There was even a thread about it. Also, a few of the couples that have been on that show were also members here. Many members reported they would never participate. Now that the show has a big viewership, the producers don't have to hunt for "talent" so to speak.

 

To put it frankly, the producers pick the worse cases or cases that has some kind of drama. It is not that hard. There are some people in the world where all it takes is a 5 minute interview to know they make questionable decisions on life and relationships. VJ has been around for many years and there are thousands of successful stories of couples who did a K1 and are still married with no problems 5, 10, 15, or even 20 years later. Not to mention there is a lot of misinformation from experts or even lawyers on the show. 

 

Take it for what it truly is... entertainment.


“When starting an immigration journey, the best advice is to understand that sacrifices have to be made; whether it is time, money, or separation or a combination of any or all.” - NuestraUnion

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TV kills your brain cells. turn it off ;)

reality tv even more so.

 

that said, my guilty pleasure right now (when i catch it on) is 'say yes to the dress' but only cause i like to see the pretty dresses and wonder how people can spend that much on a one time use garment (or any garment, for that matter). what these people pay for dresses is more than what we are paying for our entire wedding and everything related to it, including immigration costs. lolololol

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5/7/2018 K1       Application mailed

5/9/2018             Application rec'd and signed for (sent via fedex)

5/14/2018          NOA1 Email notification

5/18/2018          NOA1 Paper copy rec'd (i797C)

 

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I think the show does nothing to educate a public who knows little about the immigration system or how it works. Fake entertainment as a replacement for what most us has have been through or see on this forum every day? Not a fair tradeoff imo.


K-1 - AOS & ROC Timeline  - Immigration and the Health Exchange Price of Love in the UK Thinking of Returning to UK?

 

First met: 12/31/04 - Engaged: 9/24/09
Filed I-129F: 10/4/14 - Packet received: 10/7/14
NOA 1 email + ARN assigned: 10/10/14 (hard copy 10/17/14)
Touched on website (fixed?): 12/9/14 - Poked USCIS: 4/1/15
NOA 2 email: 5/4/15 (hard copy 5/11/15)
Sent to NVC: 5/8/15 - NVC received + #'s assigned: 5/15/15 (estimated)
NVC sent: 5/19/15 - London received/ready: 5/26/15
Packet 3: 5/28/15 - Medical: 6/16/15
Poked London 7/1/15 - Packet 4: 7/2/15
Interview: 7/30/15 - Approved!
AP + Issued 8/3/15 - Visa in hand (depot): 8/6/15
POE: 8/27/15

Wedding: 9/30/15

Filed I-485, I-131, I-765: 11/7/15

Packet received: 11/9/15

NOA 1 txt/email: 11/15/15 - NOA 1 hardcopy: 11/19/15

Bio: 12/9/15

EAD + AP approved: 1/25/16 - EAD received: 2/1/16

RFE for USCIS inability to read vax instructions: 5/21/16 (no e-notification & not sent from local office!)

RFE response sent: 6/7/16 - RFE response received 6/9/16

AOS approved/card in production: 6/13/16  

NOA 2 hardcopy + card sent 6/17/16

Green Card received: 6/18/16

USCIS 120 day reminder notice: 2/22/18

Filed I-751: 5/2/18 - Packet received: 5/4/18

NOA 1:  5/29/18 (12 mo) 8/13/18 (18 mo)  - Bio: 6/27/18

 

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It's an hour of my life that I cannot get back by wasting it to watch whatever it is you would call that :P.


A Tale of Two Dakotaraguans

K1 Journey - 78 Days

 

Sent I-129F - 11/16/15 [Day 1]
NOA1 - 11/18 (Hard copy: 11/24) [Day 2, Day 8]
NOA2 - 12/18 (Hard copy: 12/26) [Day 32, Day 40]
NVC received file: 1/05/2016 [Day 50]
Obtained NVC invoice number, paid visa fee, filled out DS-160: 1/06 [Day 51]
Fiancé's medical: 1/12 9:00am [Day 57]
Interview: 1/22 9:30am, Approved! [67 days] (F)
Visa status = "AP": 1/25, "Issued":01/27, "In Transit: 2/02"
Visa packet in hand: 2/03 [Day 78]
POE: (Houston) 2/04, North Dakota arrival: 2/05

Married (civil): 2/05/16 (L)

AOS - 55 Days

 

I-485, AP, EAD sent : 3/03/2016 [Day 1]

Delivered: 3/04 [Day 2]

Electronic NOA1: 3/08 [Day 5]

NOA1 Hardcopy: 3/12 [Day 9]

Biometric Notification snail-mail: 3/26 [Day 23]

Biometrics Appt: 4/06 in Fargo, ND [Day 33]

Notification(s): "Your new card is being produced" (Green Card) 4/23 [Day 48]

"Your case was approved" (lol backwards) 4/26 [Day 51]

"Your card was mailed on 4/27" 4/28 [Day 53]

Green Card in Hand: 4/30 [Day 55]

D-day ("Dress day"/I do...again Day/wedding reception): 9/10/16

ROC

Spoiler

Window opens: 1/24/2018

Package sent: 1/26, Delivered: 1/29 at 11:17am to CSC - [Day 1]

Check cashed: 1/31 [Day 3]

NOA1: 1/29 [Day 1]

NOA snail-mail: 2/02 [Day 4]

Biometrics snail-mail: Sent 5/5, received 5/12 [Day 107]

Biometrics appt: Not required

Email: 5/25 "We are still reviewing your case and there are no updates. We last took action on 3/16" [Day 120]

Email 6/8, 6/22, 7/6, 7/20, 8/3 "Still reviewing your case blah blah" [Day 134, 148, 162, 176]

18 Month extension letter received, dated 8/18: 8/24/18

Citizenship

Spoiler

Window opens: 01/24/2019

 

 

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Other than the fact that almost everyone always asks "is it like the TV show???" when they hear about my husband and I.... that's about all the opinion I have on it. lol

 

My husband has watched it, and I've caught some random episodes here and there over the years. I'm not totally invested, but what I have seen definitely proves it's for entertainment purposes only, and not so much for educational purposes.


Håll ut, y'all.

 

               K1 Process                                                                                AOS Process

July 2015 - met online thanks to Zak Bagans                                                            May 25, 2018 - South Carolina marriage license issued

June 2016 - first in-person meeting                                                                             May 26, 2018 - legally married

August 2016 - stateside visit                                                                                        June 7, 2018 - applied for Social Security Number [manual verification required]

February-April 2017 - stateside visit                                                                           June 18, 2018 - SSN/card received in the mail

April 4, 2017 - got engaged                                                                                          June 30, 2018 - submitted I-485 (AOS)/I-765 (EAD)/I-131 (AP) together

June 5, 2017 - submitted I129F                                                                                   July 9, 2018 - AOS/EAD/AP electronic NOA1 received

June 12, 2017 - received NOA1                                                                                   July 13, 2018 - AOS/EAD/AP hard copy NOA1 received (dated July 6, 2018)

December 1, 2017 - received NOA2                                                                            July 25, 2018 - Biometrics appointment (Charlotte, NC)

January 17, 2018 - NVC received case                                                                      August 1, 2018 - case status updated to "Ready to be Scheduled for Interview"

January 18, 2018 - received NVC case number by phone                                      August 11, 2018 - case status updated to "I-485 Interview Scheduled"

January 24, 2018 - packet received via email                                                           August 16, 2018 - AOS Interview Scheduled letter received

February 15, 2018 - medical appointment                                                                 August 28, 2018 - visited civil surgeon (Winston-Salem, NC) to complete I-693

February-March 2018 - trip to Gothenburg                                                                                                [beneficiary had to get one remaining vaccination stateside]

February 22, 2018 - interview at the US Embassy in Stockholm                            September 18, 2018 - I-485/AOS Interview in Greer, SC

                                    [passed, pending receipt of medical papers]                           September 18, 2018 - case status updated to "Card Has Been Issued/Mailed"

February 27, 2018 - medical papers received by Embassy                                     XXXXX, 2018 - Green Card received in the mail

March 5, 2018 - visa received in the mail with passport                                          October 6, 2018 - traditional wedding with family & friends

May 16, 2018 - POE in Charlotte, NC

 

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On 6/8/2018 at 3:01 AM, yuna628 said:

I think the show does nothing to educate a public who knows little about the immigration system or how it works. Fake entertainment as a replacement for what most us has have been through or see on this forum every day? Not a fair tradeoff imo.

Exactly this. I watch it for the trainwrecks, but for factual information - hell no.  All the talking heads saying "now s/he's here we have 90 days to decide if we get married" like I'm sorry at what point of the FIANCE VISA process did you think you wouldn't actually get married?!

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I have seen better on here.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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On ‎6‎/‎18‎/‎2018 at 5:53 PM, old-fella said:

one question pops into my mind .. why would you participate in televising your life? This is your life, not a dress rehearsal.

Ask John and Kate.  My dad used to love these reality shows, me not so much.  Sure, I have watched Deadliest Catch, Ice Road Truckers and some others, but even that has the "reality drama" necessary for these shows.  It is one of my gripes relative to the History Channel when they went almost exclusively reality.  That said, I think I watched half of one episode, and it turned me off, and as others have said, there are better stories here.


Visa Received : 2014-04-04 (K1 - see timeline for details)

US Entry : 2014-09-12

POE: Detroit

Marriage : 2014-09-27

I-765 Approved: 2015-01-09

I-485 Interview: 2015-03-11

I-485 Approved: 2015-03-13

Green Card Received: 2015-03-24 Yeah!!!

I-751 ROC Submitted: 2016-12-20

I-751 NOA Received:  2016-12-29

I-751 Biometrics Appt.:  2017-01-26

I-751 Interview:  2018-04-10

I-751 Approved:  2018-05-04

N400 Filed:  2018-01-13

N400 Biometrics:  2018-02-22

N400 Interview:  2018-04-10

N400 Approved:  2018-04-10

Oath Ceremony:  2018-06-11 - DONE!!!!!!!

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Funny thing, I remember receiving an email asking if me and my husband were interested in participating in that show. We were in the process of K1 at that time, guess they got our info here on VJ. :D


K1 Timeline [5 Months]

Spoiler

10/06/2015 - I-129F Sent

10/13/2015 - NOA1

11/30/2015 - NOA2

02/23/2016 - Interview in Guangzhou

03/04/2016 - K1 Visa Received

AOS Timeline [5 Months]

Spoiler

03/26/2016 - POE - JFK

04/11/2016 - Applied for SSN

04/18/2016 - Received SSN card in the mail

04/22/2016 - Applied for Learners Permit at DMV

05/05/2016 - Marriage

05/20/2016 - AOS & EAD & AP applications mailed via USPS priority mail

05/26/2016 - Check of $1070 fee for AOS (I-485) was cashed (NOA date)

05/31/2016 - Received 3 text messages from USCIS with 3 case numbers

06/03/2016 - Received 3 NOAs from USCIS in the mail

06/09/2016 - Passed driving road test

06/13/2016 - Received Biometrics appointment notice (notice date 6/4/16)

06/20/2016 - Received drivers license with Temp Visitor status in the mail (expires in 2020)

06/23/2016 - Biometrics appointment

08/16/2016 - EAD card is being produced (received text message update)

08/20/2016 - Received EAD & AP Combo card, also EAD&AP approval notice.

08/22/2016 - AOS status changed to "Card is being produced" and 5 hours later "Case Was Approved" !!!

08/25/2016 - AOS status "Card Was Mailed To Me"

08/27/2016 - Received green card in the mail!!!

ROC Timeline - we start again!!! 

04/25/2018 - USCIS 120 day reminder notice 

05/25/2018 - Mailed I-751 via USPS 

05/28/2018 - I-751 delivered at VSC

06/10/2018 - Check showing as pending in bank (posted on 6/11/18)

06/11/2018 - 12 months NOA received, dated 6/7/18

06/30/2018 - Bio Notice received, dated 6/22/18

07/06/2018 - Biometric done (walked in)

07/11/2018 - Scheduled Bio Appointment Date

08/13/2018 - 18 months NOA received, dated 8/6/18

08/22/2018 - GC Expires

 

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Anyone who receives such a solicitation should please hit the "report" button right away.


06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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