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  1. There's the potential to be a huge difference though. Biological parents are just your DNA donors. Plenty of people are not on speaking terms at all with them and are raised in foster or adoptive homes. There are unfortunatley some children who are never fostered or adopted but were removed from their biological parents at a young age (I was part of the team removing a 4 day old infant from her biological parents about 10 years ago - to the best of my knowledge she has never been returned to their care - nor should she be though that is very off topic) who may simplify their life by saying "I don't have any parents" or similar. While I'm not pretending to know the way USCIS thinks, I've always assumed the question is twofold - first, to be able to have an accurate profile of the person seeking immigration benefit, and second, to see if there are familial ties to anyone who throws up a red flag in the system. John Smith (probably) won't be an issue, but if there's an uncommon name that matches anyone on a watch list, then I would think that the beneficiary in that case would find themselves with a lengthy AP time while their ties to that person are proven or disproven. I daresay that 20 years from now we are going to see MANY questions like this - assisted reproduction technology is helping more and more unique families, blended families and uncommon family bonds are already blurring the lines of "what's a parent" and will only continue to muddy the (legal) water. USCIS really should clarify exactly what they mean though - do they want biological parents, legal parents or social parents - ie: DNA donors, the people legally responsible for you, or the people who you personally see to be your parents regardless of what genetic or legal ties they have to you - because language being what it is, "parent" just doesn't hold the same meaning it did anymore and needs further clarification. The point of my rant is, OP - just be upfront - explain your mistake and let them decide which information they'll keep and what they'll toss.
  2. Not minor, but it's not one of the "big names" or a major port of entry that you'd expect. LAX, JFK, O'Hare and Houston I'd expect, but I (clearly) wouldn't expect it at MSP
  3. This is awesome - my PD is January 2019 so hopefully I'll get interview sometime in November
  4. I got checked by CBP in Minneapolis/St Paul back in May, so they don't just hang out at major airports, either. OP is there a reason you're using an attorney? Your situation is one of the pitfalls of using one (besides the cost) and if it's a straightforward case there's really no need and you could always just ask for your documents back and send them yourself, thus removing the extra layer of delay getting things sent/received.
  5. Common tactic in Australia, too - when a friend of mine was gearing up to leave her husband, her lawyer told her the first thing she should do when leaving the office was go to the police station and arrange for an AVO (apprehended violence order) - essentially a restraining order based on accusations of domestic violence. Husband was not violent, never had been. He'd never even raised his voice in an argument and the lawyer knew that. But it DOES tend to mean that the wife ends up with majority if not sole custody of children during divorce, not to mention more often than not get access to marital home during the process. OP has been warned but it needs to be restated: be incredibly careful here. Do and say NOTHING that could in ANY way be construed as abusive, violent, or anything else. Do not restrict her access to marital property (such as bank accounts or cars) as that could be spun as financial abuse.
  6. Unless the appeal or new case have a signifiant change in the nature and bonafide evidence provided then there's no point in wasting the money on the lawyer. Sounds like you've provided almost no proper evidence which is going to be a really hard sell given a beneficiary from a country in north Africa.
  7. The father that she... doesn't live with? And given the example you posted can you blame her for not wanting a repeat of it?
  8. Hardly ridiculous. As noted by several people (myself included) it was most likely asked for because OPs fiancé messed up the interview somehow. Possibly misspoke due to language barrier or was stressed and got a few small inconcequential details wrong that added up to a larger whole. At that point it’s up the the CO to outright deny or ask for more information which could prove the “wrong answers means it’s a fake/for immigration only relationship” assumption wrong. OP and her fiancé couldn’t/didn’t provide that which is how we ended up with this thread. Don’t know about other couples but as soon as my husband and I decided we would marry, he comingling began. We have less “new” evidence post marriage than stuff that we did before marriage, so it’s hardly unrealistic to expect a couple who intend to spend their lives together to have SOME evidence of their co-mingled lives beyond photos, family communication and some travel together - all of which are things that can show a “relationship” between totally platonic friends as well as romantic life partners.
  9. Not required until it's asked for. The CO rightly or wrongly suspects that something is amiss after interview. It's possible (IMO likely) that OP's fiance flubbed some answers (easy to do when stressed and possibly interviewing in a second or even third non-native language) in interview which caused doubt and the CO did the right thing by asking for more proof of a genuine relationship - it wasn't provided. Sexist or not, in almost all cultures on earth the "norm" is that the parties are close in age or with the male older. A young man in his 'prime' marrying an older woman (especially one who is edging into aging out of easy child bearing - no offense OP since I'm in the same boat myself being older than my husband, but this is the way that they think) raises red flags because of it being a "taboo" in many places still and thus has a higher potential to be person/couple with fraudulent intent. Yup. Locking the barn door after the horse got out, essentially. They want to see ongoing intermingling, not a quick single addition like "here, I ticked this box you wanted!" They want to see the kind of stuff that happens naturally with a couple over time - when my husband and I were in separate countries he was still listed as the beneficiary on my life insurance and retirement funds. I was listed as his emergency contact at work and for all his medical documents (same as he was for me); we shared an Amazon Prime account; he had a secondary phone SIM service added to his plan for my use when I was visiting; he even had me listed with his landlord - not technically as a tenant but his landlord knew I existed and that I'd "live" there for a month at a time when I visited. And lots of other little things I'm probably forgetting about. I sat down and made a list of it all when we were putting together our package and the evidence from BEFORE we were married is more plentiful than new additions post marriage because all the "big" stuff was done.
  10. It almost certainly wasn't intentional nor personal - it is absolutely a broken system but contrary to many people's thoughts when it happens to them, it's not aimed directly at keeping that individual and their loved one apart. It absolutely sucks, but it's easier to just take a deep breath and remind yourself that all governments break everything they touch and it's a sign of their ineptitude not of personal vendettas. Sadly, since you weren't at the interview, you don't know exactly what happened - only what your fiance tells you. It's possible that he's leaving out small details that he thinks don't matter, or that he was stressed at the time and has forgotten things (especially since it's so long ago). Others have asked pertinent questions which you haven't responded to - answers to that may help work out what went wrong so you'll be prepared when it comes to the CR-1 interview. If you don't want to you don't have to answer them here, but think about them. Who is the elder of the two of you? If it's you, then it's going to be that much tougher. Which decade are you both in? You're 30's and he's 20's? Or is he 30's and you're 40's? Again, if it's that one, then it's going to be even harder. Were there any questions that your fiance had problems answering, and if so which ones? There's no point in getting the CR-1 interview if he still fumbles with being able to name your parents or say what you do for a living because you can be 100% sure that whoever interviews him next time will have the notes from this interview in front of them and will absolutely be asking questions designed to trip him up on any of the things that he may have had issues with this time around. In terms of the CR-1 (which I agree with the other posters - this is the far superior route to go) - you're going to likely hit the same roadblocks of being asked for things like joint assets and such at interview if you were asked for them now. Responding with "we don't have that because X reason" without offering something else of a similar nature isn't going to cut it when it's the second time around. You can add his name to some assets without SSN. Ask around local banks until you find one that will let you open a joint account without his SSN (we found one in our town first try that would let me have an account by providing them my Australian tax reference number rather than a SSN). Be creative if you need to be - look for things which may not be 100% "iron clad" like a joint mortgage or similar - but that can be used to include in the totality of evidence which shows a joint life & finances - for us because we filed before I had an SSN and as such couldn't be on the mortgage for our home, we sent our joint account with proof of both of us depositing in it over a 12 month period, the paperwork from when we adopted our cat (with both of us listed as co-owners and on the pet insurance we purchased) and documents showing that I had purchased all the furniture and kitchen goods and laundry stuff for our new home (to the total value of the deposit that my husband paid on it) as well as a signed document that we had prepared saying that when my SSN was obtained and I had a decent credit score we would be refinancing the mortgage and adding me as co-owner - not exactly the same as being on the mortgage itself for those purposes but it all shows co-mingling of life and assets. Good luck OP. It's a long, hard road but you'll get there!
  11. You mean... he needs to get legally married in a way that is recognised and accepted as legal by the US government and more specifically by USCIS? Marriage laws in Pakistan have no bearing in this discussion unless the marriage happened in Pakistan. It didn't - it happened, essentially, "online" which is what is causing this mess. "Registering" it will not solve this issue - OP's friend going to Pakistan (or whatever 3rd country, since apparently OP & friend are convinced that OP isn't "allowed" to go there during his Green Card years) and getting properly legally married while physically in the same place as his wife - WILL solve the issue.
  12. It is not a question of legitimacy, but of legality. If a marriage wouldn't be considered legal as per US laws, it doesn't matter what is legal in the beneficiary's home country. For example, Polygamous marriages are legal in some places, but we all know that the USA will NOT recognize the second/third/fourth/whatever-th wife of a man to be his legal wife and allow her to obtain immigration benefit.
  13. As long as you can prove where you got it, they don't give a damn. One of my friends carried nearly $500k with her when she entered (from an inheritance) - she had the paperwork to show that's what it was and when they asked "why are you carrying it in cash?" she pointed out that she'd lose X-amount (I think she said the fees were over $2,000 all up) to transfer it to her US account digitally. Whole conversation took 30 seconds.
  14. As others have said, your tax guys are wrong. She needs an SSN or ITIN to file online. You can also file without either of those if you do it "analogue" by filling out the paperwork by hand and physically posting it in - my husband had to do this because I didn't have my SSN or ITIN yet and he wanted to get the tax out of the way. A few weeks later his cheque was cashed and that was the end of it.
  15. I am the immigrant spouse. My USC husband printed up his US taxes, filled in the paperwork by hand, signed it and I put it in an envelope and mailed it from the nearest USPS post box while I was here visiting him. Had I not been here visiting, he would have walked it to the post-box. Again, it is absolutely possible to file taxes with a non-reisdent or non-citizen spouse who doesn't have a SSN or ITIN - you just have to do it the "old fashioned" way and take an extra 15 minutes for it.
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