Toxic Responses To Non-Immigrant Posts

[LisaRee 11]

8 minutes ago, Boiler said:

NIV's are pretty simple.

 

Seems odd that we get the same questions time after time when a quick review would find similar posts and answers.

 

Seems odder that somebody wanting to undertake higher education seems incapable of doing basic research.

 

Perhaps inevitable that those who post are not representative of those applying.

 

Youre right. Life is pretty black and white. All cases follow simple lines and those who step outside the lines we all know, deserve what's coming to them.

[LisaRee 11]

47 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

I was not referring to your thread I was referring to the thread about the student visa.

 

Your thread?  Received normal reaponses and good answers.  If this is about your thread then this topic falls under either baiting or trolling.

 

 

 

We bid adieu sir but here you are.

 

This post is NOT a continuation of that post. BUT, you got here 11 YEARS BEFORE ME so that gives you the right to establish causality wherever you wish.

 

You would see normal responses and good answers in that post because, as you have shown, you are a rude person and as the owner of the blog/forum, you have the right to express your attributes whenever and wherever you wish.

My thread asked a question which i got from a gathering i was in from a young person who expressed a desire to visit places. Like the swish of a wand, you assumed it was an absurd plan to get my relative into the US.

 

I never said EVERY POST is toxic but you wrote that i did so.

I didn't post this topic as a follow up of my post but you said i did so.

 

You have made grand assumptions, cast aspersions AND proceeded to brandish the exact toxicity the post was put up to address.

 

Since you are the owner of the site, nothing i can do but swallow the waste.

 

Hail Nitas!

 

 

 

[TBoneTX 43,061]

Let's knock off the bickering and the attacks on the OP, please.  One more such post, and suspensions will follow.  Discuss the OP's general issue constructively, or don't post.

Edited April 15, 2018 by TBoneTX

[ChuAni 1,191]

@LisaRee, I totally agree with you.

[Villanelle 4,121]

Lisaree-

 

You cant control what other people post. Sometimes its negative sometimes its positive and helpful. The only thing you can do is ignore the negativity, report offenses, and continue to participate in a positive way. But remember positive and helpful also means posting the reality of the situation- which isnt always good or what the person wants to hear. 

[Going through 5,668]

Sometimes people aren't prepared for type the answers they receive when not in their favor of getting a visa...shoot the messenger happens quite a lot on VJ and I have seen many posters turn around and insult respondents because they asked a relevant question (which the OP did not want to answer, but determined the depth of the advice they would receive if they had),  or verbally assault people just because it wasn't in agreement with what they thought, and then the entire thread spirals downwards from there.

 

 Opinions are good too since they are generally based off of factual experience of the VJ member themselves, what they have seen as reported by others in the same situation, or knowledge of different immigration processes.

 

More people are helpful than not, and there is a wide breadth of information gleamed from very knowledgeable members here.  Are there the few that seem to revel in someone else's misery or enjoy belittling?  Sure---that's everywhere in life, not just on these forums. 

 

Best thing is to weed out the factual information given in a thread, and absorb the well though-out opinions.

 

Not everyone is going to get along in a forum this size, and not everyone is going to view how someone says something the same way.   What one may see as rude, another will see it as straightforward.

 

 

[Boiler 43,446]

Well there was the guy yesterday who could afford to study in the US, could afford to 'visit' for a year, but could nto afford the flight home, turned out he was working illegally.

 

Surprised, not.

[Captain Ewok 1,857]

21 hours ago, LisaRee said:

I have searched for answers to visa questions on this forum and found very toxic responses to non-immigrant posts.

A random person asks questions about student visa for a (young) relative and the chances of obtaining such a visa. You know, WHAT THIS FORUM IS SUPPOSED TO ADDRESS.

A large number of the responses attack the OP. ''Why WOULD you want to school in the US? ''Are their no schools in XYZ country?'' ''You wont get it because youre trying to defraud...''

 

It's absolutely ridiculous the way responders take offense on behalf of the CO or the Embassies and by extension.. the country. I know a lot of people look up to this country as a solution to their worries or a respite at least but responses are so condescending and vicious that i wonder what the aim is. To dissuade them from coming into the country or  just ridicule them for being ''unfortunate'' enough to have to apply for visas.

 

If i saw the vile on this platform, i wouldn't have registered when i did. But then, i'm in immigrant category so i didn't notice at all. I was mostly encouraged from every angle. So what is it? Everyone is criminal until an immigrant? It makes no sense.

 

The vile makes no sense.

 

Do better.

FWIW this should never be the case on the site.  When you run across behavior (that clearly crosses our TOS) please report it to a moderator so they can help.  VJ should be a welcoming family environment! 

[LisaRee 11]

On 4/15/2018 at 12:35 AM, TBoneTX said:

Let's knock off the bickering and the attacks on the OP, please.  One more such post, and suspensions will follow.  Discuss the OP's general issue constructively, or don't post.

Thank you TBoneTX. Much appreciated.