Husband Met Girl While in Dubai for Interview

[Georgia16 2,858]

11 minutes ago, mdnl said:

He never tried to call me from Skype. This was a sudden change. Normally he had to talk to me everyday or he would have a bad day. When I asked him to call me from Skype, he said I was controlling. Usually we talked everyday and now he didn't miss me not talking for 3 days. It made me very suspicious.

 

In January, I found him back on Cupid. I was very angry but trying to forgive him. Even now, I am forgiving him. I am sure people think I am very stupid.

If you are doubting that much then stop the interview and figure out what you want to do. If you still want him to come then you can apply again or else get it stopped so you don't end up with him coming here and you not together. 

[Auds 223]

22 minutes ago, mdnl said:

He never tried to call me from Skype. This was a sudden change. Normally he had to talk to me everyday or he would have a bad day. When I asked him to call me from Skype, he said I was controlling. Usually we talked everyday and now he didn't miss me not talking for 3 days. It made me very suspicious.

 

In January, I found him back on Cupid. I was very angry but trying to forgive him. Even now, I am forgiving him. I am sure people think I am very stupid.

On Cupid!?!?  Drop him now if i were you - email USCIS and there is an emergency email for USC.  They dont answer the phones and good thing is with Iran he will be on AP for a while so you can still cancel application.

 

Mistakes are forgiven - you are overlooking conscious decisions to violate your marriage.  Clear fraud - run run run

[mallafri76 1,012]

Putting your dirty laundry on VJ for all to see is not gonna solve anything. If you're serious about your relationship, listen to each other and talk to each other. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. 

[desilove77 45]

9 hours ago, tamoko899 said:

Hello everybody I am Taha. I am her husband from Iran. Since she trust more to other peoples opinion, so I'm  answering her here. Every story have two side! Now here my side. Most of the thing she said is true but the problem is she didn't mention some part of the story, so she can win this argument with me, however I belive there is no wining when couples fight. Both side will lose. Anyway, that day I came back home from Dubai fountain. That day I was angry, upset, and tired. Upset cause everybody had somebody to walk with but I was alone! I missed her more, I was angry because of two thing. First i bought a sim card few days ago, wich i didnt have signal most of the time.  But i paid for the sim 50 box!! Then after i saw the beatiful fountain i got angry because of my poor peope my compatriots that why they have to live under this regime cause iran could be instead of emirates! I refer all of you to check Iran 40 years ago and also emirate 40 years ago, youll get my point. 

Anyway after i got home i send all the pictures to my wife, i dont like typing, but also i couldnt talk because skype and whatsapp is blocked. But i send the pictures for my wife. She always say thanks or good pic or you look good but instead she start to questing me! I answered calmly but i got angry at one point that she was keep questionsing me! I told her make a life for yourself. She is sitting whole day in home! Plus she don't have any desire for anything! I said when you do nothing you start to became paranoia and you attack  me and you acuse me for everything! She just work 1 or 2 day per week and she dont do anything at all at home! 

Now about the german girl. I told to my wife about her!!! I was just trying to be honest to my wife! I told my wife that she is bag packer. And she stay in hostel for few days. And then i talked to her. Of course not just her. I became friends with almot all the people there. The first thing I told to german girl that I'm married and I'm here just for interview. She said ok. Then i showed her my wifes pic. These whole three days I talked to her two time. Also i become friend on Facebook with her. Then she said i want to go abu dabi on Wednesday and then i said if you want we can go together so we are not alone. She said ok. I told all of this to my wife! Yes all of this! If i had something to hide. I could never told her about German girl. I told her all of this but sound she hear nothing! She is keep repating all of this the wole day! Plus even thou I think I didn't do anthing wrong but today more for time I said sorry, forgive me cause I love her, but she was keep attacking me whole day. I got very angry. I said mean thing but she did the same also!! So we were even but yet I said sorry...yet know she still wants to attack me! My whole family and friends know about her, in Iran when you get marry you should stay marry, this is the culture here, whenever somebody marry in Iran. They stay marry forever! She knows about all of this

Taha, I am also Iranian. I was born in America but know the culture. You are right about marriage and the family. U did however leave some stuff out. When u marry, ur wife is the only woman by ur side. U don't go out with other women (even if it is for a sight see) this my brother is DISRESPCTFUL to ur wife and to ur family. You also don't speak to her with disrespect.  This is not my business but u made it public and are making it sound like it's ok what u are doing..and that Iranian culture is like this. My brothers have wives. Their wives are the only women in their life besides our mother and family members. In this culture u don't have women friends..especially ones u don't know and go for sight seeing. Please work this out with ur wife. Everything will be okay if u follow the true culture the one that ur wife loves about u..Hopefully it will all work out..InshAllah

[desilove77 45]

1 hour ago, mdnl said:

He never tried to call me from Skype. This was a sudden change. Normally he had to talk to me everyday or he would have a bad day. When I asked him to call me from Skype, he said I was controlling. Usually we talked everyday and now he didn't miss me not talking for 3 days. It made me very suspicious.

 

In January, I found him back on Cupid. I was very angry but trying to forgive him. Even now, I am forgiving him. I am sure people think I am very stupid.

U found him on Cupid 3 months ago???!! Come on..I'm sorry but this is not right.. u should not be treated this way. U really need to think about this. Maybe u should hold off on his interview.  I'm sorry but this really doesn't sound good. Iranian men (the ones who follow their culture) do not do this kind of stuff if they have a wife. This is so disrespectful. I feel so bad but this sounds like fraud! Why would he go on cupid when he has u? U must think of these things before u continue to have him come to the U.S. I'm just trying to be honest with u. This is 100% ur decision bUT please realize this is all wrong if everything that was said is true.. if u need someone to talk to..I am here.. just please rethink everything through for urself..

Edited May 25, 2017 by desilove77
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[Frank1420 6]

I think this is more of a personal issue. Don't mean to be rude but i do not see an immigration related question.

 

 

[desilove77 45]

20 minutes ago, desilove77 said:

U found him on Cupid 3 months ago???!! Come on..I'm sorry but this is not right.. u should not be treated this way. U really need to think about this. Maybe u should hold off on his interview.  I'm sorry but this really doesn't sound good. Iranian men (the ones who follow their culture) do not do this kind of stuff if they have a wife. This is so disrespectful. I feel so bad but this sounds like fraud! Why would he go on cupid when he has u? U must think of these things before u continue to have him come to the U.S. I'm just trying to be honest with u. This is 100% ur decision bUT please realize this is all wrong if everything that was said is true.. if u need someone to talk to..I am here.. just please rethink everything through for urself..

I wanted to edit to fix my wording when I said fraud. I meant him being married to u and being on cupid is wrong. He is ur husband that is trying to come live his life with u. Him being on cupid is showing to me that this marriage in his eyes is to just get a visa.  I don't want to upset u. I just want to help u understand what it looks like. I really hope the best for u!

[caliliving 606]

I am going to guess you are an older American woman and he is a younger man..am I correct??? Watch 90 day fiance Danielle and mohammed...i would run very fast!!! He knows exactly what he is doing. He pretty much said he doesn't want to be with you and he's running around w women. You are his ticket to America lady.. I would run!!!! 

[Soup Dragon 104]

If I had found my husband on Cupid before his interview he would have been kicked to the curb.  Immediately, no forgiving, nothing.    If this man is behaving like this now, who knows what he could get up to when he arrives in the US.      Get away, fast.

[merc0230 28]

To be clear: "found on cupid" = cheating.

You know what they say, "once a cheater, always a cheater".

Now, you find him planning taking a trip with another women?

Yeah, I echo everyone else that has said "run!".

[Philly512 26]

7 hours ago, caliliving said:

I am going to guess you are an older American woman and he is a younger man..am I correct??? Watch 90 day fiance Danielle and mohammed...i would run very fast!!! He knows exactly what he is doing. He pretty much said he doesn't want to be with you and he's running around w women. You are his ticket to America lady.. I would run!!!! 

Danielle and Mohammed were the first thing in mind when I read both of their side of the stories and the Cupid thing 

[brightskte 18]

Yeah, no. Run. 

[Boiler 43,543]

People have differing relationships, some are more open.

[Ontarkie 13,918]

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