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I believe (others can correct me if I'm wrong) that Domicile is not the same as Residence.  So a person can have a US Domicile without actually residing there.  Things like bank accounts, property etc can be used.  Also I believe domicile check is at Interview time not before and it should be sufficient to show intent to establish domicile if not already domiciled in the USA.  Much of what I've said above is based on my own experience although that was for a K-1 visa not spousal.   My (now wife fiancee at the time) were living overseas and applied K-1 from abroad.  They ultimately appoved her visa contingent on me showing intent to establish domicile.   If the original poster got this far he should have no problem with the domicile questions as he has US based income, likely a US postal address, US bank account, and other ties to the USA that would likely satisfy the domicile question.   In my case we went to the USA stayed less than 3 months, got married there and returned overseas.  She then went for her 2nd tourist visa (was denied the first one) and was approved.  They asked her why she had not stayed in the USA and she explained that I (the USC) lived and worked now overseas and then gave her the B2 without further questions.  Over the years there have been similar posts about people giving up green cards and getting previously denied tourist Visas and while it wasn't a greencard in my case it did work for us.   So yes, I agree with @SusieQQQ that the domicile question could be a 'challenge' but I think there are ways thru it because as I said I'm very sure that Domicile does not equal residence and Domicile is 'Easier' than Residence.  It's also, in my opinion that they should be completely honest if asked about what they are doing.  They don't want to get slapped with a mis-represent for going for a spousal without intent to stay in the USA.   Although who's to say that they wouldn't get there on a spousal and she decides that she could make a much better living with her event planning business in the USA..  She'd have that option.  Could be great choice!  If they are open to it then it makes the whole application better.  Certainly it seems immigration seems to think that is exactly what she's going to do. 
 

I think your path to getting her a tourist Visa no longer involves her strong ties to Indonesia that has already proved to be a non-starter.  The key then would be to turn her strong ties to you (her Husband) into a positive.  How to do that.   You move to Indonesia.  She says on the next interview that you live with her in Indonesia more than 6 months of the year.  (which is sounds like you do).  You go back to the USA for some months to do your job that nets 100K plus in a short time.  It is unlikely that any ties or future travel that she could accumulate will overcome the presumption that she will stay and adjust status once she gets to the USA.  The current process for getting a spousal visa is 1 to 2 years and expensive and time consuming so the presumption is that it would be faster and easier for your wife to migrate with a tourist visa and then to adjust from that once she's in the USA. 
So the other path you have is to file for the spousal visa... Enventually when she gets it use that, visit the USA , and then go back to Indonesia as planned and return the greencard and apply for a B2 at about the same time.  Ideally submit the B2 application and then return the greencard.  Proves she doesn't need the B2 to go but has desire to go with you occasionally
to visit.  Others have done this with success but bear in mind it is at least a 1 year process. 
  Also,  you may want to consider that if you are eligible for Social Security in the future that she will not be eligible for benefits on your earnings records even as your wife unless she has 'status' in the USA (A resident (green card) or citizen).  After being married for 2 years she gets a 10 year greencard and more importantly is eligible for citizenship after 3 years if she has spend at 180+ days in the USA.   Bigger picture kind of things to consider perhaps.
 

Hello OP,
   Let me take a few moments to explain what's happening here so that you better understand the reasons and don't think this is an Arbitrary decision.  The consulate officer is required by US Law to assume that when you apply for a tourist ( B2 ) visa that you actually intend to remain in the USA rather than leave as planned.  It is the responsibility of the applicant to prove that you have compelling reasons to LEAVE the USA.   Thus if you come from a country such as the Philippines you have a couple of factors working against you...  a) Many others from your country have come to the USA on tourist visas or other non-immigrant visas and not actually left the USA.  b) Typically the living standard in the Philippines is not (viewed the the eyes of someone in the USA) as high as in the USA giving incentive to stay.      In your situation specifically you have left your home country to work overseas in SG presumably to make more money than you could in the Philippines.  The perception on the part of the CO is that you could therefore make even MORE money in the USA  thus you have no reason to return to SQ and you've proven your willingness to leave the Phlipppines so it's hard to argue strong ties to the Philippines.  
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Now, does this mean you can never get a visa to the USA?   No, definitely not.  In fact, the K-1 Visa is a visa that shows you INTEND to remain in the USA so for that visa you have to prove not that you have strong ties to your home country.  Your previous denials for a tourist visa have no negative effect (As long as you were completely honest on those applications).  So a BF visiting 5 times does make for a stronger K-1 case but honestly from the Philippines once is all you should need.   HOWEVER, a K-1 visa takes a lot longer to process ( 6 - 12 months) and cost a significant amount of money and requires you both to be free and willing to marry each other.  It is NOT appropriate for a 3 week visit.   
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So in short, the only way you'll get a tourist visa to the USA is if your circumstances change such that you have a strong and compelling reason not to stay in the USA.  For example, if your were promoted to a position in Singapore where you were making more than 30,000 USD per year and that job could only be done in Singapore.   Or if your BF moved to the Philippines, took a job and residency and the two of you got married then maybe he would become your 'strong tie' to the Philippines (Even then you might well be denied).  
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So, while there is a very small chance that you could get a tourist visa on a subseqent application the chances are tiny and in my opinion you'd be better off spending the money on something else.  
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Bear in mind that if you do decide to take a vacation to someplace closer to him, say Mexico for instance that you must make sure that you don't have to change flights in the USA.  Unlike here in Asia where you can change planes and remain on the 'Air-side' of security and never enter the country where the airport is located it doesn't work that way in the USA.  So for example if you decided to fly from Singapore to Jamaica and had to change planes in Miami you'd be denied in Miami as you'd have to legally enter the USA to board your Jamaica bound flight.   So if you do that make sure you double and triple check that there is no possiblity that your plane will land in the USA (even for re-fuelling) 
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   Best of luck.   Have fun planning all the wonderful places you and your BF could spend a great vacation.   Sorry you won't have a chance to stay with him and meet his family. 
 

Hello OP,
   Let me take a few moments to explain what's happening here so that you better understand the reasons and don't think this is an Arbitrary decision.  The consulate officer is required by US Law to assume that when you apply for a tourist ( B2 ) visa that you actually intend to remain in the USA rather than leave as planned.  It is the responsibility of the applicant to prove that you have compelling reasons to LEAVE the USA.   Thus if you come from a country such as the Philippines you have a couple of factors working against you...  a) Many others from your country have come to the USA on tourist visas or other non-immigrant visas and not actually left the USA.  b) Typically the living standard in the Philippines is not (viewed the the eyes of someone in the USA) as high as in the USA giving incentive to stay.      In your situation specifically you have left your home country to work overseas in SG presumably to make more money than you could in the Philippines.  The perception on the part of the CO is that you could therefore make even MORE money in the USA  thus you have no reason to return to SQ and you've proven your willingness to leave the Phlipppines so it's hard to argue strong ties to the Philippines.  
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Now, does this mean you can never get a visa to the USA?   No, definitely not.  In fact, the K-1 Visa is a visa that shows you INTEND to remain in the USA so for that visa you have to prove not that you have strong ties to your home country.  Your previous denials for a tourist visa have no negative effect (As long as you were completely honest on those applications).  So a BF visiting 5 times does make for a stronger K-1 case but honestly from the Philippines once is all you should need.   HOWEVER, a K-1 visa takes a lot longer to process ( 6 - 12 months) and cost a significant amount of money and requires you both to be free and willing to marry each other.  It is NOT appropriate for a 3 week visit.   
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So in short, the only way you'll get a tourist visa to the USA is if your circumstances change such that you have a strong and compelling reason not to stay in the USA.  For example, if your were promoted to a position in Singapore where you were making more than 30,000 USD per year and that job could only be done in Singapore.   Or if your BF moved to the Philippines, took a job and residency and the two of you got married then maybe he would become your 'strong tie' to the Philippines (Even then you might well be denied).  
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So, while there is a very small chance that you could get a tourist visa on a subseqent application the chances are tiny and in my opinion you'd be better off spending the money on something else.  
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Bear in mind that if you do decide to take a vacation to someplace closer to him, say Mexico for instance that you must make sure that you don't have to change flights in the USA.  Unlike here in Asia where you can change planes and remain on the 'Air-side' of security and never enter the country where the airport is located it doesn't work that way in the USA.  So for example if you decided to fly from Singapore to Jamaica and had to change planes in Miami you'd be denied in Miami as you'd have to legally enter the USA to board your Jamaica bound flight.   So if you do that make sure you double and triple check that there is no possiblity that your plane will land in the USA (even for re-fuelling) 
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   Best of luck.   Have fun planning all the wonderful places you and your BF could spend a great vacation.   Sorry you won't have a chance to stay with him and meet his family. 
 

We did almost the exact same thing.   We got the K-1, and then relocated temporarily to the USA and got married while in the 90 days.   Before the 90 days expired we had the opportunity to return to Hong Kong..   My wife with a Philippine passport had previously been denied a tourist visa for immigrant intent.  After 3 months back in Hong Kong she went for a tourist visa Interview and was quickly and easily granted the visa.  Seems that my Residency in Hong Kong with full local employment became her strong tie and her previously going thru the process and giving it up apparently was sufficient to convince the officer of non-immigrant intent.   I have no idea if we resided in the Philippines or Thailand and done the interview there if it would have made a difference.... However,  in my opinion she has a strong chance of gaining a tourist visa if you have valid residency and strong reason to remain in Thailand
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Clearly they told you what the best thing to do is... Have her take some time out of her busy life for you and get it scheduled.   Understand that wedding an Honeymoon pictures show a relationship from 1yr 7 months ago.   Western Union receipts and gifts show that one or both of you is willing to spend money but that doesn't show a real relationship.  What they are looking for is some current evidence of a loving relationship between you.  Figure out how you can do that...  Chat logs or emails or some recent communications about her school / work or mothers health,  some screen shots of the two of you together on talking on SKYPE or such... Facebook posts that each of you have commented on,  if you've been together since the honeymoon pictures, receipts etc from that.   Seriously think about what holds your relationship together when she is so busy and overwhelmed and what kind of evidence you could provide of that.   Again, ideally she'll find a day or two to come to an interview with you. 

Clearly they told you what the best thing to do is... Have her take some time out of her busy life for you and get it scheduled.   Understand that wedding an Honeymoon pictures show a relationship from 1yr 7 months ago.   Western Union receipts and gifts show that one or both of you is willing to spend money but that doesn't show a real relationship.  What they are looking for is some current evidence of a loving relationship between you.  Figure out how you can do that...  Chat logs or emails or some recent communications about her school / work or mothers health,  some screen shots of the two of you together on talking on SKYPE or such... Facebook posts that each of you have commented on,  if you've been together since the honeymoon pictures, receipts etc from that.   Seriously think about what holds your relationship together when she is so busy and overwhelmed and what kind of evidence you could provide of that.   Again, ideally she'll find a day or two to come to an interview with you. 

Your wife a USC living overseas is required to file US income tax..  Even if she does not owe income tax she is required to file.  Thus you could try Not available with an explanation that she will/is filing back tax returns. 
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 I checked and it appears that she is NOT required to file if she does not have income from any source below a certain threshold... So you should be able to choose not available with an indication as to why not available

You can not apply for their tourist visas to the USA.  They apply and are accepted or denied based on the strength of their ties to their home country.  There is nothing you can provide that will increase their chances.  The strong ties can be ties to their country of residence but given you said that they will move back to their home country after you move to the USA makes their case very weak as it appears that they are in the UAE  because of you so no strong ties to Home country as they are there with you and no strong ties to UAE because they will leave UAE when you move to the USA.    Thus I expect a very high chance of Denial and would suggest that you prepare for that possibility

If you really want to talk about how to potentially reform the tourist visa process I think you need to consider a policy beyond the current requirement to prove that there is no immigrant intent.  There are many relatives of US citizens that would love to visit the USA that have no demonstrable compelling reason to leave the USA.  If Trump gets his way and ends so called Chain migration than many of these individuals will have no way to ever visit so Grandparents won't have the opportunity to visit new born babies sisters, brothers, parents, adult children of US legal immigrants may never have the chance to visit their relatives in the USA and get a view of where they live.  This is justified under the current system as they are,, depending on country of citizenship, deemed to be likely to overstay or immigrate illegally.  The solution of making it less stringent would presumably only result in more illegal immigrants.  So if you want reforms you need to propose a way that the potential visitor can overcome the stay illegally presumption.   My suggestion,  set up a sponsored single entry tourist visa such that the visitor would be sponsored such that a bond is posted such that if they don't leave when they are supposed to that the sponsor has to pay extreme amounts of money and that the visitor remains deport able and the expenses of doing so are also covered by the Bond.   More people get to visit,  the costs of deportation are covered and there is less incentive to come illegally if you know you can visit legally.   When I think of REFORM this is what comes to mind not revisiting who is accepted or denied.    Also, it makes little sense to me that in the vast majority of the times a tourist visa is granted for unlimited entries for a period of 10 years.   A lot of circumstances can change in 10 years so this places the onus on CBP to do a second 'screening' of the person presenting at the boarder and makes entry less certain that it needs to be.  While the only guarantee of admissibility would be a US Citizenship a more limited visa would be more currently evaluated by the Embassy and could be less likely to being turned away at the border..  
In short my point is that changing which countries can and can not get VWP availability is not REFORM it's just tweaking a policy that could be made more usable for the participants if serious thought was given to how we could increase access to the USA for otherwise less qualified applicants.
Most other countries that you apply for a tourist visa from have some hard requirements which if you meet them you are reasonable certain of getting the Visa not so with the USA most interviews are not based on any documents.

If you really want to talk about how to potentially reform the tourist visa process I think you need to consider a policy beyond the current requirement to prove that there is no immigrant intent.  There are many relatives of US citizens that would love to visit the USA that have no demonstrable compelling reason to leave the USA.  If Trump gets his way and ends so called Chain migration than many of these individuals will have no way to ever visit so Grandparents won't have the opportunity to visit new born babies sisters, brothers, parents, adult children of US legal immigrants may never have the chance to visit their relatives in the USA and get a view of where they live.  This is justified under the current system as they are,, depending on country of citizenship, deemed to be likely to overstay or immigrate illegally.  The solution of making it less stringent would presumably only result in more illegal immigrants.  So if you want reforms you need to propose a way that the potential visitor can overcome the stay illegally presumption.   My suggestion,  set up a sponsored single entry tourist visa such that the visitor would be sponsored such that a bond is posted such that if they don't leave when they are supposed to that the sponsor has to pay extreme amounts of money and that the visitor remains deport able and the expenses of doing so are also covered by the Bond.   More people get to visit,  the costs of deportation are covered and there is less incentive to come illegally if you know you can visit legally.   When I think of REFORM this is what comes to mind not revisiting who is accepted or denied.    Also, it makes little sense to me that in the vast majority of the times a tourist visa is granted for unlimited entries for a period of 10 years.   A lot of circumstances can change in 10 years so this places the onus on CBP to do a second 'screening' of the person presenting at the boarder and makes entry less certain that it needs to be.  While the only guarantee of admissibility would be a US Citizenship a more limited visa would be more currently evaluated by the Embassy and could be less likely to being turned away at the border..  
In short my point is that changing which countries can and can not get VWP availability is not REFORM it's just tweaking a policy that could be made more usable for the participants if serious thought was given to how we could increase access to the USA for otherwise less qualified applicants.
Most other countries that you apply for a tourist visa from have some hard requirements which if you meet them you are reasonable certain of getting the Visa not so with the USA most interviews are not based on any documents.

Wow!  I am impressed with your analysis of the situation.  I agree with others that there are no obvious red flags here.   But I also want to re-assure you about one other thing you seem concerned about..  You state that you met in 2016 and then it took two years (till June 2018) before you met in person.  You give a  whole bunch of reasons why you couldn't meet sooner and while I feel horrible for you that you were in an abusive situation I think that the 'delay' of meeting in person should not be a problem.  Those two years were spent getting to know each other better before meeting in person and in your situation was used to make sure that you were more stable and independent.. At an interview if asked why it took two years before he visited the first time (and I don't know that this would be asked)..  I would suggest you be prepared with a simple and concise answer that says that you needed that time to get to know each other better and that you are grateful for that time as it made you stronger and more sure of yourself and your reediness to move to the USA with your future husband.  In short if asked be brief and be confident and don't spin it negatively.   In no way am I saying to lie or hide the truth.  But don't unnecessarily volunteer information in a way that potentially could reflect negatively on you.  As for another visit... It's always good if you can manage but with his time off restrictions I understand a trip to Romania might be difficult.  One other possibility if he has the money is to have you travel to meet him for a long weekend.  Agree your chances of getting a tourist Visa to the USA are slim to none but that does not preclude the possibility of you traveling to a country closer to the USA that doesn't require you to have a Visa allowing him to make a long weekend trip and take only a day or two off or potentially longer if combined with a US Holiday (Like President's day for example).  
According to this link:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Visa_requirements_for_Romanian_citizens
A Romanian passport gives you lots of options that if he's in Georgia are only a short flight away.   Just make sure any flight you might choose to take do not stop in the USA
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Again, I don't think having met only once is going to be a problem but I'm sure you'd love to see each other again before the K-1 and doing so, especially if you traveled to meet him "1/2 way" would look good for your interview as well. 
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  Good Luck and God Bless.

The consular officers and the CBP agents are the "gatekeepers" to the U.S.
Run afoul of either, and your further battles are steeply uphill and almost certainly a losing cause.
CBP can refuse entry to a K-1 recipient for any reason that the consulate would refuse a visa.
In my extensive experience at least, CBP agents are typically in foul moods and are looking to nail someone.
 
Perhaps the most consistent situation reported on this website over the years is "We had a party in my country, and now we're too married for the K-1 but not married enough for the CR-1!"  The only solution is to spend more years and more thousands of dollars trying to ameliorate the naive (at best) and perilous (in reality) decision to hold a pre-entry party.
 
The one poster in this thread who has been blithely endorsing irresponsible, perilous behavior is strongly advised to knock it off, in this thread and permanently.  This forum is meant to guide people through this broken, infernal immigration process with as little damage as possible.

You will interview at the US Embassy in Manila which is an interview with the US Gov.  so your US Citizen Fiancee's work in the Philippines is irrelevant there.  You will need to get a CFO sticker that is with a Philippine Gov. organization but that's about you being allowed to immigrate out of the Philippines so your Fiancee's work in the Philippines should play no part in that either.   Eventually you'll pass thru Philippine Immigration control on your exit from the country again this is about your authorization to leave the country and as long as you have the CFO that too should be no problem and again won''t have any relation to your fiancees previous work in the Philippines.  All in All you should be fine.  I would suggest not to volunteer the information but if any immigration official from either country asks you specifically about your fiancee's  activities for 6 months he spent in the Philippines you will need to be honest. 
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Generally speaking the larger issue would occur could occur if he tried to re-enter the Philippines in the future and was questioned about the prior 6 months.   Philippine immigration could deny him entry although I find even that unlikely.  Generally speaking the intent of the restriction on working on a tourist visa is that they don't want foreigners taking jobs that the locals could do.  This is not what your fiancee did he was working remotely for a US company doing US work that would not otherwise be available to a local employee so while he *may* have violated Philippine law he likely didn't violate the intent of it so unlikely he'd suffer consequences. 

It seems unlikely that you met thru relatives in the USA is the reason for the denial of the K-1.  What your future spouse said at the interview and the strength of your evidence of a real relationship is more likely the cause.   Going forward you need to understand the full and real reason for the denial otherwise future attempts to secure a visa for fiancee will likely result in the same fate.  Yes, a denied K-1 is dead so go to the Philippines and get married.   Your fiancee shared travel expenses when you met in person? While it is not beyond the possibility that your fiancee has significant money it is not normal for the Philippines and unless she or her family had significant money then that would cast some doubt on the realness of the relationship and be a red flag.  Depending on the relationship the relatives in the USA could also be a red flag.   For instance if you worked for the relatives.  Again understand the reason(s) for the denial before moving forward.  Many many times the members on here will say we are only getting part of the story.  If you intention on posting here was to express frustration than you have my sympathy.  If your purpose was to warn others that meeting thru relatives could cause problems... Yes that is true if you don't have demonstrable real relationship with your future wife and the warning would be to look at things thru the CO eyes and see how family in the US who introduced you could require additional bonafied relationship evidence.
If you are looking for help on how to proceed then more details will help others help you and reconstructing as close to accurate transcript of every question/answer from the interview.
Her saying I paid for 1/2 of his trip when we met in person sounds a lot different than I paid for my share of the travel expenses of our trip together.  Good luck and God bless.

Tinder is not an International Marriage Broker.  So be honest at the interview.   Tinder is well known and clearly doesn't fall afoul of IMB.  However, an omission of that information on the I-129F may complicate things depending on the circumstances, the other proof of relationship you have and what country we are talking about..  In any case, at the interview the truth is the answer and there is nothing further you can do regarding the I129F at this point other than pray and perhaps bring a printed terms of service from tinder to the interview. 

Did you front-load the petition with evidence?  It is not unusual for the interviewing officer to NOT look at things brought to the interview and it seems often times the decision to deny or not is made before the actual interview and the purpose of the interview is to confirm or refute the suspicions of the interviewing officer.  Based on what you said you've had 3 lovely vacations to the Philippines with this woman to lovely vacation spots and the woman has received benefit of seeing parts of her country she might not have seen.  Think this thru from the interviewing officers perspective.  Also as others have said it would be important to understand to the best of your fiance's recollection exactly what the question and answers were.  
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If you didn't front load your application with evidence of a real relationship this could be problematic.  It does seem you've done everything right from what you said and it is surprising to hear about such denial under the circumstances as you presented them.   Is there a massive age difference, a significant difference in religion?  Anything else that might contribute?  Knowing the possible red-flags will allow the community to give better advise on the next step(s). 
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Generally speaking you could move to the Philippines and marry her as stated but without knowing more about what caused the K-1 denial a subsequent denial for a spousal visa while un-likely is still a possibility.  
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My advise tell your fiancee to stay calm and try to have her tell you every little detail about what the questions and answers were
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As others have said your K-1 is essentially dead.  You might try to contact the embassy to get details about why they didn't believe you were a real couple so you could figure out what you'd need to do to have a better chance on a subsequent (front loaded) K-1 or if there would be any potential problems with a subsequent spousal Visa. 
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Good Luck and God Bless.

I think you have made some understandable assumptions based on the OP's imperfect English.  She has not said their one and only meeting was three years ago.  But, she did say they were CR1, which would mean the marriage has to be less than two years ago.
 
Marriages between foreigners and pinays on the first and even only visit are not abnormal.  The visit needed to be at least two weeks, to even accomplish getting married on the last day of the visit.  So, they've had more time together than many of our members, even if it was only one visit.
 
Lots of folks speak of "being together" as if their online relationship constituted "being together".  The combination of Philenglish and lack of attention to accuracy and detail tend to confuse people.

I would seriously consider going back to visit her *and* planning to be there for her interview.  Cambodia is tough as a higher fraud country and you have a significant Red flag that you didn't mention in addition to only one visit and that is the issue of her relatives that you work with.  I'm not saying that your relationship is not real but you have to look at it from the perspective of a skeptical CO that will interview her.   From that perspective it could look like this....  She has two relatives in the USA and she wants to come to the USA as well.  So.... the relatives introduced their USC co-worker to her and then took him to Cambodia and that the primary purpose of this whole relationship is for her to get to the USA to be with her relatives and have a better life.  A 2nd visit with her where you spend alone time with her away from the family getting to know her in person outside the confines of her family I think would go a long way both in your immigration efforts as well as be a benefit to you to see what life would be like spending 24x7 with her when she gets to the USA.   If your goal is to accompany her to the USA after visa approval rather than spend time with her before she gets there then this would potentially also be looked at by the CO as a negative in that you are focusing more on the journey than the relationship
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There are no absolutes but I'd be concerned that the CO will see this as you being used simply as a way for her to get to the USA so your evidence needs to show that.  I don't know what evidence you front loaded your application with but at this point there is nothing you can do to improve it.  I would brace yourself from the possibility that she will be denied (A second visit could help improve her chances as could your presence in country at the time of the interview).  If she is denied however marriage and spousal visa is the only way and that adds more than a year to the process.  Discuss this with your future wife so that if she is denied she doesn't see it as the end of the world. 
Good luck and God Bless

I would seriously consider going back to visit her *and* planning to be there for her interview.  Cambodia is tough as a higher fraud country and you have a significant Red flag that you didn't mention in addition to only one visit and that is the issue of her relatives that you work with.  I'm not saying that your relationship is not real but you have to look at it from the perspective of a skeptical CO that will interview her.   From that perspective it could look like this....  She has two relatives in the USA and she wants to come to the USA as well.  So.... the relatives introduced their USC co-worker to her and then took him to Cambodia and that the primary purpose of this whole relationship is for her to get to the USA to be with her relatives and have a better life.  A 2nd visit with her where you spend alone time with her away from the family getting to know her in person outside the confines of her family I think would go a long way both in your immigration efforts as well as be a benefit to you to see what life would be like spending 24x7 with her when she gets to the USA.   If your goal is to accompany her to the USA after visa approval rather than spend time with her before she gets there then this would potentially also be looked at by the CO as a negative in that you are focusing more on the journey than the relationship
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There are no absolutes but I'd be concerned that the CO will see this as you being used simply as a way for her to get to the USA so your evidence needs to show that.  I don't know what evidence you front loaded your application with but at this point there is nothing you can do to improve it.  I would brace yourself from the possibility that she will be denied (A second visit could help improve her chances as could your presence in country at the time of the interview).  If she is denied however marriage and spousal visa is the only way and that adds more than a year to the process.  Discuss this with your future wife so that if she is denied she doesn't see it as the end of the world. 
Good luck and God Bless

As we have seen deportations it seems that there are many stories out there that suggest are not telling the 'whole' story.  You have to ask yourself, why, are people who have been in the USA for years are married to USC spouses and have kids not already in possession of a green card.  Have not already filed for Adjustment of Status etc.?   Further, I wonder how someone who has overstayed a visa and (especially a tourist visa) managed to pay taxes without a social security number?  Or for that matter how they were employed without a social security number?   Sadly as good as the media can be I think the folks on this site know more and can do some sanity checking of what is being reported perhaps with a bias.

Even if you had meet and started dating your current wife while still legally married to your former wife that would not be a problem from an immigration point of view.  With a wife from DR which is a tougher embassy you need to be aware of any other red-flags you might have.   You got married to your wife from DR in less than 5 months from first meeting her online that could be a bigger red-flag.   Multiple visits and significant time together face-to-face is the best way to address any potential red-flags that may exist.     Given your time-line and the stage that you are at currently there is little more that you can do than to wait for the interview.   But, I do have to agree with your wife in this case.  In terms of the timing of your divorce and subsequent marriage you ARE overthinking it and perhaps confusing immigration issues with your own perception of moral/ethical concerns

Let's make sure we are clear please verify the above...
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You conducted a 'traditional' non-legally binding marriage and then listed on a previous application for a non-immigrant visa (presumably a tourist visa) that you were married at the time.  Now your legal wife a USC is petitioning you to come to the USA.   However, you were denied because you previously listed on your previous application that you were married and failed to provide any proof that the marriage either never legally existed or was legally dissolved.   If all of this is try then you'll likely need help from a US immigration lawyer to figure out what your next step is in terms of your application and need help from a Nigerian lawyer to obtain some type of legal document that shows you were not previously legally married or that your previous 'traditional' marriage has either been annulled, or dissolved.   

Let's make sure we are clear please verify the above...
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You conducted a 'traditional' non-legally binding marriage and then listed on a previous application for a non-immigrant visa (presumably a tourist visa) that you were married at the time.  Now your legal wife a USC is petitioning you to come to the USA.   However, you were denied because you previously listed on your previous application that you were married and failed to provide any proof that the marriage either never legally existed or was legally dissolved.   If all of this is try then you'll likely need help from a US immigration lawyer to figure out what your next step is in terms of your application and need help from a Nigerian lawyer to obtain some type of legal document that shows you were not previously legally married or that your previous 'traditional' marriage has either been annulled, or dissolved.   

Let's make sure we are clear please verify the above...
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You conducted a 'traditional' non-legally binding marriage and then listed on a previous application for a non-immigrant visa (presumably a tourist visa) that you were married at the time.  Now your legal wife a USC is petitioning you to come to the USA.   However, you were denied because you previously listed on your previous application that you were married and failed to provide any proof that the marriage either never legally existed or was legally dissolved.   If all of this is try then you'll likely need help from a US immigration lawyer to figure out what your next step is in terms of your application and need help from a Nigerian lawyer to obtain some type of legal document that shows you were not previously legally married or that your previous 'traditional' marriage has either been annulled, or dissolved.