GC holder flew back to UK temporarily. Husband wanted divorce now reconciled. Flying back to US in a month.

[M3gaaan 5]

Been on this forum since about 2019; long story short moved to the US last year on a K1 visa to marry love of my life. Year went by things were great got my GC in July; things went rocky. I flew back to the UK to be with family as we were about to divorce, (he never filed any divorce papers or moved any of my stuff back) didn’t know if it was temporary or permanent. We got talking again husband wants me back and I want to go back, but I am going to spend the holidays with family until I go back. Sort of a freshen up before the new year so we can be a lot stronger in our marriage. I know it’s not technically considered abandonment of my status because I still have all my US ties and it’s only been a month. I just don’t really know what to say to CBP when flying back; I’m also on the autism spectrum so I can get misunderstood easily. I know I am going to tell the truth fully because I’m sure they get cases like this I just don’t want to have the wrong impression because when I flew I didn’t know if it’d be temporary or permanent because we just needed some space and it was the best option at the time for us to both be with family. 
I may just overthinking things but I just want to make sure because I can’t wait to be back with him and start a new. 

[Crazy Cat 39,693]

 

5 minutes ago, M3gaaan said:

I just don’t really know what to say to CBP when flying back;

"I am returning from a visit with my family".....  

/end thread.

Edited November 30, 2022 by Crazy Cat

[SalishSea 16,927]

3 minutes ago, M3gaaan said:

Been on this forum since about 2019; long story short moved to the US last year on a K1 visa to marry love of my life. Year went by things were great got my GC in July; things went rocky. I flew back to the UK to be with family as we were about to divorce, (he never filed any divorce papers or moved any of my stuff back) didn’t know if it was temporary or permanent. We got talking again husband wants me back and I want to go back, but I am going to spend the holidays with family until I go back. Sort of a freshen up before the new year so we can be a lot stronger in our marriage. I know it’s not technically considered abandonment of my status because I still have all my US ties and it’s only been a month. I just don’t really know what to say to CBP when flying back; I’m also on the autism spectrum so I can get misunderstood easily. I know I am going to tell the truth fully because I’m sure they get cases like this I just don’t want to have the wrong impression because when I flew I didn’t know if it’d be temporary or permanent because we just needed some space and it was the best option at the time for us to both be with family. 
I may just overthinking things but I just want to make sure because I can’t wait to be back with him and start a new. 

I think you’re overthinking this.   It’s very common for GC holders to go abroad to visit family for short periods.   I don’t think CBP will question your relationship-  that’s not really their purview.

 

You are a lawful permanent resident, and you have not abandoned your GC.

[M3gaaan 5]

Thank you so much this forum is always so supportive! ❤️ only thing is I don’t have my rings on me left them with the hubby when things were bad. You don’t think they’ll care to know about that? That’s not me omitting information correct? I’m sure I can just say spending time with family 😅

[mniceguy16 184]

11 minutes ago, M3gaaan said:

Been on this forum since about 2019; long story short moved to the US last year on a K1 visa to marry love of my life. Year went by things were great got my GC in July; things went rocky. I flew back to the UK to be with family as we were about to divorce, (he never filed any divorce papers or moved any of my stuff back) didn’t know if it was temporary or permanent. We got talking again husband wants me back and I want to go back, but I am going to spend the holidays with family until I go back. Sort of a freshen up before the new year so we can be a lot stronger in our marriage. I know it’s not technically considered abandonment of my status because I still have all my US ties and it’s only been a month. I just don’t really know what to say to CBP when flying back; I’m also on the autism spectrum so I can get misunderstood easily. I know I am going to tell the truth fully because I’m sure they get cases like this I just don’t want to have the wrong impression because when I flew I didn’t know if it’d be temporary or permanent because we just needed some space and it was the best option at the time for us to both be with family. 
I may just overthinking things but I just want to make sure because I can’t wait to be back with him and start a new. 

You are overthinking this, just like @Crazy Cat  said, just say you went to visit family and nothing more. I have a friend who visited her home for 3 months and came back to the states, went home again to see her sick Dad after a couple of months of being in the States, she stayed for 3 months the second time she travelled and this was not an issue at her naturalization interview.

[M3gaaan 5]

Yeah I figured I was overthinking I just wanted to make sure I was 100% right on this. Thank you so much for the help! Sometimes I need some rationality 😂

[SalishSea 16,927]

8 minutes ago, M3gaaan said:

Thank you so much this forum is always so supportive! ❤️ only thing is I don’t have my rings on me left them with the hubby when things were bad. You don’t think they’ll care to know about that? That’s not me omitting information correct? I’m sure I can just say spending time with family 😅

They won’t notice or care.   It’s no one’s business.   Lots of married people don’t even wear rings.   Lots of people don’t wear rings when flying, due to edema.

 

 

[TBoneTX 43,435]

Every piece of advice here is accurate and good.  Relax!  

[Free Man 115]

+1 to all what has been said. You are a permanent resident. I know atleast 3 people who are green card holders but live abroad for close to 10months , one had a job in Qatar the other just went home to take care of business.  

[Verrou 1,901]

I’m married and never had a ring. Don’t worry about it. You have ur GC, that’s all matter. They won’t check your personal items 

[davidvs 320]

The only time my wife and I wear our rings is when we are going out to a party or a special dinner.

 

No one will question why you don't have a ring on. 

 

You have nothing to worry about.

[little immigrant 800]

Hi there, just adding my experience. I went to Germany and came back to the US while I was living separated from my US husband. He lived in a different State. We were still figuring out our marriage at this point. I answered all CBP questions honestly. They wanted to know where I live and where he lived. I was let back in without a problem. 

[Marieke H 2,343]

You went to visit family and are coming back after the holidays. That's really all that matters. My husband and I had cheap wedding rings; mine broke a month after our wedding, and my husband lost his a few weeks later. We never replaced them, and no one cares. You are a legal permanent resident coming back from a family visit. Relax.

[*Snowdrop* 603]

 

I went home to the UK for five months once to take care of my Mum who was dying from cancer, they didn't even ask for details once I just said I'd been visiting family. I was bracing myself because I didn't want to burst into tears if I had to say out loud that my Mum had died. So I probably looked all kinds of stressed/nervous/upset etc. I've had more questions after a week out of the country than that time. 

 

You have a Greencard - they don't care about your relationship anymore until you need to renew your conditional card, and even then you can divorce and still apply to renew as long as the original marriage was genuine. 

[M3gaaan 5]

4 hours ago, little immigrant said:

Hi there, just adding my experience. I went to Germany and came back to the US while I was living separated from my US husband. He lived in a different State. We were still figuring out our marriage at this point. I answered all CBP questions honestly. They wanted to know where I live and where he lived. I was let back in without a problem. 

Thank you all so much for your advice; regarding this I assume that id only need to talk about it if we were separated and living apart? He moved to a different address but we were planning to move to his dads anyways so I’m sure it doesn’t make any difference probably just clarifying I’m sure it’s just the same thing of just visiting family. 😊 only other thing was when I did initially leave I did pack my main stuff as initially it was assumed it was permanent but; obviously we didn’t know for exact at the time. But again I’m sure that makes no difference 😊😂