Is it good to include sending each other money as evidence?

[trixxi 6]

We haven't filed K1 yet because my boyfriend lost his job and we were thinking we'd wait until he finds a new job so we could prove that he could financially support me. There were a couple of times when I sent him a bit of money to help him out (he had technical issues getting his unemployment) so my question is that when we submit evidence, would it be helpful to include that, since it would show that we're in a real relationship, or would it shed a negative light on him? Obviously we want to gather as much evidence as we can but I don't know if that would help us or not. I don't know how normal that is. Maybe I'm overthinking Hope that makes sense.

[slavaskii 885]

14 minutes ago, trixxi said:

We haven't filed K1 yet because my boyfriend lost his job and we were thinking we'd wait until he finds a new job so we could prove that he could financially support me. There were a couple of times when I sent him a bit of money to help him out (he had technical issues getting his unemployment) so my question is that when we submit evidence, would it be helpful to include that, since it would show that we're in a real relationship, or would it shed a negative light on him? Obviously we want to gather as much evidence as we can but I don't know if that would help us or not. I don't know how normal that is. Maybe I'm overthinking Hope that makes sense.

Sending money is okay evidence but I don't think terribly strong. If you have things like photos, travel receipts, passport stamps, itineraries, etc., those are far better imho. Proving you guys were actually together is more useful (you have to have met within two years, anyway!). I liken 'sending money' to sending love letters or whatnot, fine evidence but fairly low on the totem pole (I never understood why people think a phonebook of call/chat logs is helpful).

 

In any case, you need not worry about your boyfriend finding a new job before filing I-129F. Nothing is required of his employment until your interview, which will be in a year and a half from now if you were to file today. So long as he has a job by then, you guys would be completely fine. I recognize I-129F asks about work but that's irrelevant right now to his ability to support you later on.

 

Good luck!

Edited April 24, 2022 by slavaskii

[trixxi 6]

We met in person twice so far, spent thanksgiving with his family, met his friends, so we have photos that we can submit. He's also planning on visiting me to meet my family and stuff, as soon as he has the funds. I was thinking of 'sending money' as a bonus.

I guess I just wanna be extra safe.

 

I had no idea that not having a job is not an issue, that's good to know!

[slavaskii 885]

39 minutes ago, trixxi said:

We met in person twice so far, spent thanksgiving with his family, met his friends, so we have photos that we can submit. He's also planning on visiting me to meet my family and stuff, as soon as he has the funds. I was thinking of 'sending money' as a bonus.

I guess I just wanna be extra safe.

 

I had no idea that not having a job is not an issue, that's good to know!

That sounds good, then, photos with family is always a plus. Ensure you mention who is in the photos and when you took them. I always recommend writing an additional letter 'detailing'/outlining your relationship, as that guides the officer who otherwise has to piece through your evidence and discern why certain things were included. Helpful as well for people that have been together over 2 years or perhaps have multiple trips.

 

And correct, the only time his finances become an issue is at the interview stage where you have to present his I-134 Affidavit of Support. Until then, his employment history is essentially just 'background.' Because of the delays in I-129F adjudication, you may wish to consider sending things sooner rather than later, or, as I'm sure some others will later recommend, just filing for IR1/CR1 spousal. 

[Mike E 11,723]

1 hour ago, trixxi said:

There were a couple of times when I sent him a bit of money to help him out (he had technical issues getting his unemployment) so my question is that when we submit evidence, would it be helpful to include that, since it would show that we're in a real relationship, or would it shed a negative light on him? 

It will shed a negative on whether the relationship is bonafide and thus increase the risk of a denial or RFE.  IOW USCIS and/or  the embassy will ask the question if the US citizen is interested in the relationship for love or for money.  

[Crazy Cat 39,267]

2 hours ago, trixxi said:

since it would show that we're in a real relationship,

It doesn't.  Time spent together shows a real relationship,  

[powerpuff 5,907]

Besides agreeing that this is not good evidence of anything, I have this to add:
 

The part about financial support comes at the very end during the interview stage which is long time away, 1.5-2 years away. I don’t see why he can’t file now and look for a job meanwhile. 

[Sarah&Facundo 576]

It really isn't proof you are in a real relationship. I've never once sent my husband money, even when we were dating, and we are very real. Who knows--it could also end up being misconstrued as someone using the USC for money. It really isn't great proof either way. Showing proof of time spent together is what they are looking for.

[JeanneAdil 6,203]

And i don't see why a USC can't find a job

everywhere i travel here in the US,  there are signs saying "Help wanted" 

business and factories have ads on TV for needing workers 

 

as for sending money "looks like one is using the other for financial support and is not a good idea to send this as proof

[trixxi 6]

3 hours ago, Mike E said:

It will shed a negative on whether the relationship is bonafide and thus increase the risk of a denial or RFE.  IOW USCIS and/or  the embassy will ask the question if the US citizen is interested in the relationship for love or for money.  

Yeah that's what I was thinking too. Thanks for the reply!

[trixxi 6]

2 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

It doesn't.  Time spent together shows a real relationship,  

Fortunately we have evidence of time spent together. I was just wondering :)

[trixxi 6]

38 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

And i don't see why a USC can't find a job

everywhere i travel here in the US,  there are signs saying "Help wanted" 

business and factories have ads on TV for needing workers 

 

as for sending money "looks like one is using the other for financial support and is not a good idea to send this as proof

It's not that he "can't" find a job, but he wants a job in his line of work so he has to do interviews, challenges, etc, it could take a while. But he has good experience and skills so he'll find a job soon :)

Yeah I thought it could look "suspicious", I was just wondering.

[Carpe Vinum 2,310]

9 minutes ago, trixxi said:

Fortunately we have evidence of time spent together. I was just wondering

The best evidence is boarding passes, passport stamps, receipts then photos. I would not mention anything about the money in your petition or subsequent embassy interview. Good luck)

Edited April 24, 2022 by Carpe Vinum

[trixxi 6]

32 minutes ago, Carpe Vinum said:

The best evidence is boarding passes, passport stamps, receipts then photos. I would not mention anything about the money in your petition or subsequent embassy interview. Good luck)

I made sure to save those things from my trip, I think it will be enough.

Thank you!

[Carpe Vinum 2,310]

1 minute ago, trixxi said:

I made sure to save those things from my trip, I think it will be enough.

Thank you!

You will be fine) You are asking the right questions already.