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[NY_BX 397]

So meeting is the only way?

Not only it is the ONLY way, you wouldn't want it any other way.

You have more problems, however. You will NOT be approved if the USC can't sponsor you- which she can't You just stated financial issues. She must find a co-sponsor, which more likely could be her parents/ legal guardians. Do you really believe they will allow their daughter to petition for someone- in marriage- she hasn't met yet? Not only is ludacrious, they wouldn't sign a government contract to take care of anyone they do not know.

[kzielu 1,154]

Also, ignore what other people say that your too young to know that you want to marry someone. Society these days I've noticed(as I'm only 18 and engaged) is very judgemental of anyone who gets engaged at a young age. When I tell people I'm engaged the response is usually "Oh, wow!

It's not being judgemental - it is experience. I got married first at the age of 25 and can tell you now that I was way too immature to figure out what person I should really be looking for. Now maybe that's just me, but will simply tell you that people getting married at the age of 18 have no clue what they're doing.

[abner137 48]

You haven't finished high school, and neither one of you can support yourselves, let alone the other person and any children that may come around. Please consider waiting. If the relationship is meant to b at so young an age, it will survive until you are both in better positions.

do you really wanna marry someone u never met in person or spend time with in person? your still young so i guess you wouldnt understand. there is no way you will get approved. sorry

If finances make it prohibitive to meet, you will also find the financial requirements for visa approval and adjustment of status prohibitive. You are not ready. Your finances are not ready. You are in no position to even consider such a move. Finish school, get a job, save money, mature a few years and then reevaluate.

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The K-1 process alone costs close to $2000, then to cost to move here... if you can't afford to meet, you can't afford the K-1.

$2000.00..... ..... I wish.

[afoyoswa 178]

It's not being judgemental - it is experience. I got married first at the age of 25 and can tell you now that I was way too immature to figure out what person I should really be looking for. Now maybe that's just me, but will simply tell you that people getting married at the age of 18 have no clue what they're doing.

With the wide range of ages and levels of life experience represented on VJ, making a blanket generalization like this is not accurate and not the best idea. People vary tremendously in the level of maturity they reach and the amount of time they take to reach that level. There are also huge variations in the amount of personality/character development, change, and growth people undergo after reaching technical adulthood, and other factors such as lifestyle and education can take wildly different lengths of time to be "fixed."

Some people change very little after their late teens, and others resemble their 18-year-old selves almost not at all by the time they reach their 30s or 40s. Neither is better or worse, but the trick with relationships is to either already know who you are and where you're going and be with someone who also does, or to find someone who's going to change in a direction that's compatible with the direction in which you'll change. In the second scenario, this gets complicated if you're very young and don't really know where you're headed yet.

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

They never met

[KayDeeCee 4,900]

The two main requirements of an I-129F petition are that you are both free to marry and you have met face-to-face within the 2 years prior to filing the petition. The process is pricey. The petition is $340, the medical fee is around $200+ and the visa processing fee is $240. Add on any expenses you might have for traveling and express mailing documents to each other. There will be a need for 2 affidavit of support forms to be provided during the process. The I-134 for the K-1 visa interview, and the I-864 for after you are in the US, married and filing for adjustment of status(AOS). The fee for filing AOS is $1070. About 2 years after that is removal of conditions, and that is $590. Do more research into the overall immigration process and how much it will cost you.

You may want to get jobs after you are out of school, wait and save while you do. You will need to meet in person and you will need money.

[Reyan 56]

Without a doubt this is an expensive journey for many people, and you want to be financial prepared for it. You don't want to start off your relationship with financial distress.

[Rae Anne 44]

Tickets to and from Europe to the US are not THAT expensive. If you both are really in love then work for it. Nothing in life is given for free. Get part time jobs. I worked 25+ hours a week while in high school, and a whole hell of a lot more than that in college. Now I work a full time job and am soon starting an evening masters program. I don't think of myself as better than anyone else, I am just more motivated than most.

But marriage is a VERY big step for everyone, especially people as young as yourselves. Why can't one of you go to university or study abroad near each other? Then at least you can spend quality time together before deciding what path you will go on, and if that path includes your girlfriend.

Best of luck.

[Ontarkie 14,943]

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[Sandra G. 5,102]

No chance to have your petition approved without meeting her at least once.How about to get some summer job, make some money and just go there to visit her, and she can do the same for a few years and then when you guys are mature enough and financially stable then get married.

You are still very young, there are so many things to consider such as visiting her, paying the K1 fees, getting in college, working to support your "new family ", renting a house, paying bills, are you ready for that? I don't think so, and I don't think you plan to live with your parents and have them supporting you and the girl right? if you are a grown man to get married then you should be a grown man to take responsibilities paying bills. Work every summer and go to see her when you have a chance.

[tobiasm8 10]

Look i've thought of everything. She can't come study in my country as we have no big Universities and if i study in the US it costs alot of money which again i do not have. We made a deal we'll meet when we both make a bit of money and then we'll see what to do. Thanks for all the answers i appreciate it.

[aws&ndd 103]

The best advice is to wait and take your time with it. Work hard for what you want, because if it is meant to be, it will be, whether it is tomorrow or 5 years from now. Good luck!

[sarsorti 36]

If finances are a problem for you now, you are in trouble. America may be the land of opportunity but there is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. You will definitely need some source of income once you arrive (it's a long and tiring process even when you have your ducks in a row)because you cannot obtain employment legally until you have a green card and you cannot live off the government. You will need housing, food, utilities, transportation...the list could go on and on. Take the advice offered here and just wait. Get a p/t job save some money and finish school. I know the heart wants what the heart wants but some things are worth waiting for. I wish you all the best.

Well i'm 17 year old boy dating a 17 year old girl and we talked about me moving to the USA and the only way we saw it was to get married. So we said we should wait till we're both 18(next septemeber) so im asking if there is a way I could get the K-1 Visa approved without meeting her (i would meet her if there was a way but there isn't and i thought of everything). Thanks for your answers

she's a US citizen and im from Europe.

[sarsorti 36]

AMEEN!

It's not being judgemental - it is experience. I got married first at the age of 25 and can tell you now that I was way too immature to figure out what person I should really be looking for. Now maybe that's just me, but will simply tell you that people getting married at the age of 18 have no clue what they're doing.

[TnJ 131]

But it's hard to wait even longer since i've waited for a year already i just wanna be with her and if i could move to USA i could live myself but i can't come there for just a visit.

You've been given some good, honest, and some factual advice on here. We all understand what it feels like to be away from our loved ones. It drives us adults crazy as well. I have been in my relationship for over 3 years now, and we are in the middle of waiting for immigration to approve our K-1 petition. This journey is long and tough no matter who you are. One thing is certain though. There are many rules that must be followed, or you will not get anywhere in the process. A year may seem like forever, but it really isn't that long compared to all that you will go through in this and the lifetime you will spend with each other. Honestly, if you can't afford to come here right now, how do you expect to live here? This is just an example of things you need to be asking yourself and planning for. It's a tough situation to be in especially at your age. Take time to learn what you must do in order to achieve these goals, and think of all of this as a test of your love for each other. That is exactly what all of this is. However you choose to move forward with your relationship, there are always going to be tests, and goals will need to be set forth. For your situation, I'd make my first goal to be getting some kind of a job just so I could save the money to see her and save for immigration fees. The Affidavit of Support stress can be set aside at the moment, and even then, you have cosponsor options as others have mentioned. Focus on the two of you meeting in person within two years before you file, or the rest will not follow.

Edited September 18, 2012 by ToddnJessa