SchoolBus

If you want a chance at the K-1 visa, cancel the ceremony.
If you proceed with the ceremony, do the religious and legal marriage in Mexico and file the I-130 for the CR-1 visa.
The CR-1 is superior to the K-1, and your having the religious marriage will help your prospects, not harm them.
Edited to add:  Bluntly put, your lawyer is an idiot.

Many have been  denied for doing just that. If you hired that lawyer I would fire him. 

If you're marrying a foreigner just because she's a foreigner or because local women don't want you, then you're doing it for the wrong reasons. If you fell in love and she just happened to be a foreigner, that's a totally different story. Being an immigrant is a small part of her identity. You'll need to work on your marriage no matter what 

This! This! This! 
 
Being able to marry in the place of our choosing and on the timescale of our choosing (and not have it controlled by USCIS and their employees’ speed at going through files) was one of the many reasons why we went for the CR-1. 

I've been through this. At the interview they go through the application page by page confirming your answers. If you made a mistake or typo, you can say "No, my birthdate is ________" and it gets corrected. 
If you husband answers no to being detained, he can pipe up and say "Well I was passenger in a car driven by my wife, and she was pulled over for swerving,  does that count?" And the interviewer will think your husband is a little dense for not understanding that it was the wife driving who was stopped, then he'll carry on to the next question.  
 
 

Going to pursue a lawyers advice.

Hi all. My husband will be going for his citizenship as soon as his window opens to do so. In the meantime I got him a study guide for the citizenship test. 2018 edition of course. There was one bit in the book that confused me. It said if you get arrested, detained or even stopped by the police you can have trouble with citizenship. He's never been arrested or detained or anything like that. But the book says if you've even gotten stopped by the police it can cause problems. He's never been directly stopped by the police. But one time in the car I was driving and he was a passenger. We were stopped by the police. We were stopped because I was swerving a bit on the road due to tiredness. The cop stopped is because of my poor driving. He never asked to see my husbands id or anything. He only asked him if he could drive for me since I was so tired. In which he replied he couldn't because he didn't have a driver's license after that the cop let us go without giving me a ticket. So it was more me being stopped and my husband was just in the car. So should he tell immigration he was stopped by police during the citizenship process? Or does this not count?

The key fact.. "Muslim majority countries".. 
Muslims are the ones being disprortiatly affected by this.  Rationalizing discrimination is not cool. 

You are right, but I would thread very lightly on this.
The applicant lives in a country (of which he is not a citizen and where he has limited civil rights) where homosexuality can be punished by death. He will only spend a few hours in the US Embassy. I totally understand his concerns about applying and getting a visa at the Saudi post.

Having your wife as your interpreter creates a conflict of interest because you can be told in your language how to respond to the questions without the interviewer knowing what was said to you.  If you felt you needed an interpreter for the interview, you should have gotten someone other than your wife.

對唔住， 我D唔識睇德文～

Just a friendly word of advice, if you keep posting in a public forum you are going to keep getting answers you don't like. You can't dictate who can and cannot reply or how each individual replies. That's just how it is. I'm sure by now you have established that AOS from a tourist status is a very incendiary topic here. There are many who feel you have "jumped the queue" or "cheated the system" by doing things this way. They will always have that point of view, you will not change it. And, quite frankly, they are entitled to that opinion. I also have strong opinions on the matter. I am from the U.K. also. When I met my now-husband I had a very "established" life there. I was 37, separated, owned a house, I have an MA and had a very good job with an airline at management level and all the perks that are associated with that (free flights, etc). It wasn't a life I could easily give up (which is why our initial plan was that he would move to the U.K.). As things became serious with my husband and after his U.K. visa was denied and it was obvious I would have to move here I started to downsize my life there - sold the house and moved into short-term rented, gradually sold/donated furniture and so on. In the end it was me, 2 suitcases and 32 crates of (mostly) books. Every time I visited we went through the same thing (and I visited over 40 times). On the day I was due to go back we'd always have the same "why don't you just stay here with me?" discussion. And I was tempted. Oh yes, every time. But having worked so hard for my career I didn't want to just walk out on my job. In my industry your reputation follows you and I didn't want to be seen as someone who is unreliable and will take 2 weeks off and not return without even clearing my desk. I couldn't put it upon other people to pack up my place, clean it and return the keys. Totally unfair. And I couldn't bear the thought of being unemployed for months with no guarantee of a job of the caliber to which I had become accustomed at the end of it. For these reasons I find it hard to believe that someone can just change their mind and stay, leaving so many unfinished matters at home. I personally know 3 people who have adjusted from the VWP. Each one planned it that way. One even had a "countdown to starting my new life" ticker on her blog and threw a farewell party before she went. Another listed all his furniture for sale on the local Gumtree page where we lived with the statement "moving to America, everything must go - all offers considered". I understand what it's like to be in love. Believe me, I do not love me husband any less than you do and I did not want to be apart from him anymore than you do. But with adult life comes responsibility and maturity. I'm past the stage of just hopping on a plane and not coming back. Maybe 20 years ago I would have done just that, who knows? 
 
Personally I think it should be permitted in emergency situations only. I would like to see everyone going before an immigration judge and having to present evidence as to why they cannot return home. I have seen cases where something major happened whilst visiting (one member here gave birth very prematurely and I seem to recall someone else's home was devastated by a natural disaster such as an earthquake or something so they had no home to go to).
 
Now if you're a genuine case of someone who changed their mind when they got here, fair enough. It's your life, not mine. If you feel too nervous about it, don't do it. Go home and file the CR-1. You can still visit. Being apart for a few months can be done. I am living proof of that. 
 
I understand you want positive experiences - there are plenty here. Use the search function and read to your heart's content. But also accept that those that don't walk the same path as you are entitled to voice their opinions also. 
 
Best of luck to you both. I mean that. Whilst I don't necessarily believe every story I see here, I do wish everyone well with their journey to be with their loved ones. 

I can not for the life of me understand how anyone would think a person that was written about thousands of years ago and all writings of said person is speculated and revised all the time can help in real world problems it is beyond my little mind to understand it all, but to each his own just wish people would quit pushing it on others it does say you are to let people discover on their own.

I really don't know how people think it's okay to thrust their personal beliefs of someone in the sky as a solution to a real problem.
 
A marriage that involves cheating is best ended unless one is okay with arrangements such as open marriages.

Not quite sure how Christ is going to help here. If someone is unhappy with the situation they are in at the present moment that person should work on making their life better and remove themselves from the situation. Life is too short to be miserable. 

Not all of us come from countries that view the US that way. Just saying, I think your view of other countries is also a bit off.

The contract your parents had him sign is worthless. The contract won't hold up in court and USCIS can and will go after your parents of need be. 

Phones are not allowed within the embassies or consulates.  So while this information is handy for REAL life, it does NOT help people within their visa interviews. 
 
Again, thank you for the information for new immigrants for whom English may be a 2nd, 3rd, etc language.  I'm sure they will find it helpful to help them learn if they have issues, both before the interview and after moving to the USA. 
 
Have a nice day! 

I understand what you mean. I also have seen others be denied for unofficial weddings. Signing of any papers is not required for it to be considered "too married".
 
A handful of threads on the subject. I suggest searching VJ for others:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/612725-k1-fiance-visa-denied-because-they-think-we-secretly-married-help/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/589355-k1-visa-denided-on-the-interview/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/635756-will-having-an-unofficial-wedding-cultural-celebration-in-turkey-affect-our-k-1/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/584870-k1-petition-denied/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/625211-very-confused-which-visa-we-need/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/622171-having-a-private-ceremony-before-k-1-is-approved-nexus-card/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/613347-k1-issue/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/606100-traditional-marriage-and-court-marriage-questions/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/331197-non-legal-religious-wedding-before-k1-visa/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/593292-not-legal-wedding-ceremony-prior-to-k1-visa-interview/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/584945-can-my-fiancée-come-have-a-wedding-celebration-and-fly-back-home-on-a-tourist-visa-while-the-k-1-is-still-pending/
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/629915-expedite-i-130/
 
Just be aware of the risk. Best wishes.

It's very easy to speak about things you have never experienced.
In Sweden my freedoms were
-Freedom to see a doctor without paying even when temporarily out of a job..
-Freedom to make decisions about my own body as a woman (smth that this country is currently fighting)
-freedom to walk in nature on other ppl's land and camp out without permission or threat of being shot
-freedom to love whom I would choose
-freedom to wear what I want when I want without being sent home from school or sent away from a "public place"
-freedom to not be sexualized because I'm a woman,  deciding by myself if I want to swim topless (without any judgemental ppl interfering in my life)
-freedom to 6 weeks vacation per year
-freedom to stay home with kids for women and men with full pay for over a year per kid.
-freedom of not having to choose between having a career and a family
-freedom of income security even if I get an unexpected disease.
-freedom to not be charged a fee as soon as I walk out the door..
 
Etc etc etc
I can go on for ever... socialism isn't a "bad word"
And No... I'm not moving back  (atleast not right now) the choice to move here,  wasn't based on those things - but I miss them dearly... and it's nobody else's place to tell ppl to "go back". 

Completely wrong.  You just need to have met within the past two years

If your wife is in your house when your children are there one more time, then not letting you see your children again is a very wise move by the ex. At least one of the children's parents is trying to keep them safe, big applause to her.

I will put in my thoughts here because I can feel your pain, sorrow, fear, anger, sadness....all the way in Texas.  First off, as someone who grew up in a home with an abusive, depressed woman as a mother, whose father did nothing to help me, I have to say "kudos" for doing what was right by your kids and yourself.  Relationships, even marriages, unfortunately, do not work out all the time, but your kids are your kids, for the rest of your life.  You owe them 100% protection...they do not need to see you being abused and they do not need to be abused.  MENTAL ABUSE IS MORE DAMAGING THAN PHYSICAL ABUSE...BRUISE FADE, CUTS HEAL, BUT THE MENTAL DAMAGE, NEVER, EVER GOES AWAY. TRUST ME!  You have to do what is right...these are minor children who, can be taken away from you, at the drop of a hat, if she returns.  This problem is bigger than you...you can't fix her.  I am sorry that some people on here said "you did her in" when you called the cops.  That is not a true statement...ANY GOOD PARENT WILL DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO PROTECT THEIR CHILDREN AND THEIR HOME.  NOBODY IS WORTH LOSING YOUR CHILDREN FOR.  
 
MOST OF ALL...PLEASE REMEMBER...LOVE DOESN'T HURT.  IT DOESN'T THREATEN.  IT DOESN'T CAUSE HARM.  I am so sorry that you are experiencing such a difficult time.  I say you need to reach out to the police since you are now considered a victim of domestic abuse and ask them for resources....they should have free resources, including legal advice, for victims of crime.  
 
I will pray for God's Will to be done...for you, your children and for your wife.
 

I'm going to put in my two pennies with a similar situation except for the home country;

My mother started dating this friendly man mid 2006. All went well until we moved in with him, me, my mother and my younger sister. It was all sunshine and roses the first few months until he starts degrading my mother first. The friendly man was not so friendly anymore. Not long after he starts degrading, me being just sixteen but I rather had him degrading me than my mother. I had a difficult time with my parents being divorced and bullying at school and he became the home bully. What all started with yelling and degrading me, ended with physical abuse. I had to cover up bruises sometimes. But every time he did this, my mom defended him. No matter how hard he hit me or how loud he was yelling in my face, my mother chose his side and wanted to make their marriage work.  Feeling betrayed by my own mother; it really damaged our relationship. Eventually, at the age of 23 after he hit me incredibly hard and my mother still stood behind him, defending him, I packed a few bags and left the house to move in with my dad. Mom is still with him and I'm not sure how she can live under his controlling behavior but I know she isn't happy.

Moral of the story; Choose your kids and yourself, please. I was reading your story and I felt how your 11 year daughter must feel when your wife yells at her for no reason. Please don't damage your relationship with your children by choosing your wife who is capable of hurting them. Just because she doesn't put her hands on them doesn't mean she isn't abusive; Abuse is control, blatant disrespects and hurtful words. Don't settle for emotional abuse thinking it's ok because it's not physical.

Thank you all for your advice, I have notified USC, I am hoping they will investigate it.  I was told they will reopen my case.  Am I going to continue the process.....well that is another story.  I wish everyone success in their process!!!!!!