Divorce with my wife

[Samibra 17]

1 hour ago, Lemonslice said:

Do you know if your kids are safe? Leaving them "somewhere" doesn't sound reassuring.

My kids are not safe, I am planing to go in July and get them. That will not be easy but I will try. I need to bring my kids here in America. 

[appleblossom 4,004]

11 minutes ago, Samibra said:

My kids are not safe, I am planing to go in July and get them. That will not be easy but I will try. I need to bring my kids here in America. 

 

If your kids aren’t safe then why are you waiting 3 months to go and get them? If money for flights is an issue then sell anything/put them on credit cards/try charities to see if you can get there sooner? 

[Lemonslice 5,167]

29 minutes ago, Samibra said:

My kids are not safe, I am planing to go in July and get them. That will not be easy but I will try. I need to bring my kids here in America. 

Why won't it be easy?  Don't you think that going sooner would be better?  Why not reach to the diplomatic mission over there and let them know your American kids have been abandoned and you need assistance to get them back and that you'll take the next flight there?  (ETA: if the country you listed, Comoros, is accurate, it seems you'll have to reach to the Madagascar embassy https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/international-travel/International-Travel-Country-Information-Pages/Comoros.html )

 

Also, while you've divorced, you might want to get a formal/legal custody agreement in place.  Have you consulted with a lawyer? 

 

 

Edited May 1 by Lemonslice

[Ontarkie 14,890]

As both of you are US residents at the time of your divorce. I would say you need to speak with an attorney who is well versed with Muslim divorce. You are supposed to get divorce in your jurisdiction (the state you live in). I do not believe it would hold up in the US and you could still be legally married in the eyes of the USA. 

Edited May 1 by Ontarkie

[Dashinka 25,554]

14 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

As both of you are US residents at the time of your divorce. I would say you need to speak with an attorney who is well versed with Muslim divorce. You are supposed to get divorce in your jurisdiction (the state you live in). I do not believe it would hold up in the US and you could still be legally married in the eyes of the USA. 

Which will be an issue for her if she tries to do ROC/I751 with a divorce waiver.

[Cathi 5,830]

3 hours ago, Samibra said:

In muslim way , i can just tell my wife that i am divorcing to you. so if we need the certificate divorce so we can go to do it. so I didn't do anything yet but I am assuming that she is living with someone else somewhere in America. The most important i don't want to be with her anymore. 

This is not legally recognized in the US 

[Samibra 17]

3 hours ago, Lemonslice said:

Why won't it be easy?  Don't you think that going sooner would be better?  Why not reach to the diplomatic mission over there and let them know your American kids have been abandoned and you need assistance to get them back and that you'll take the next flight there?  (ETA: if the country you listed, Comoros, is accurate, it seems you'll have to reach to the Madagascar embassy https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/international-travel/International-Travel-Country-Information-Pages/Comoros.html )

 

Also, while you've divorced, you might want to get a formal/legal custody agreement in place.  Have you consulted with a lawyer? 

 

 

The reason I can't go there now is my job. I am a Teacher so at the end of June, we will close the school for summer so I am planning to go there and get them. I don't think if i contact the Madagascar embassy, they will be able to get them. No i didn't consult  a lawyer yet.

 

what will be the different if I get and present the certificate divorce and if I just separated with her ?

3 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

As both of you are US residents at the time of your divorce. I would say you need to speak with an attorney who is well versed with Muslim divorce. You are supposed to get divorce in your jurisdiction (the state you live in). I do not believe it would hold up in the US and you could still be legally married in the eyes of the USA. 

I am the only one have a US citizen 

[smilingstone 393]

30 minutes ago, Samibra said:

The reason I can't go there now is my job.

 

Imagine prioritising your job over your homeless children. 

[Samibra 17]

12 minutes ago, smilingstone said:

 

Imagine prioritising your job over your homeless children. 

They are not homeless but they are not living in a good condition. to bring them here and give them a good life I need to have a job

[JeanneAdil 6,958]

4 hours ago, Dashinka said:

Which will be an issue for her if she tries to do ROC/I751 with a divorce waiver.

It is done according to Islam in a muslim country,  it is legal 

all the husband has to do is repudiate the wife / it is done under the customary laws of the area

 

In Comoros, Muslim divorce is primarily governed by Sharia law, with the talaq (unilateral repudiation by the husband) being the most common form. The legal system also incorporates elements of French civil code and customary law, leading to some discrepancies, particularly regarding women's rights. While the constitution states equal rights, men have a legal advantage in family matters, including the ability to divorce unilaterally and the right to polygamy. 

 

USA accepts both foreign marriages and divorces when legal in that country

 

OP

are your children USC;s ;  if so,  call 911 and report them as not returned to you / get help from the law and don't take an answer like "we can not help u"

they had to return a son to his Cuba father (several years ago ) when other family tried to keep him in the US

 

5 hours ago, Samibra said:

In muslim way , i can just tell my wife that i am divorcing to you. so if we need the certificate divorce so we can go to do it. so I didn't do anything yet but I am assuming that she is living with someone else somewhere in America. The most important i don't want to be with her anymore. 

yes, he can

[Lemonslice 5,167]

2 hours ago, Samibra said:

The reason I can't go there now is my job. I am a Teacher so at the end of June, we will close the school for summer so I am planning to go there and get them. I don't think if i contact the Madagascar embassy, they will be able to get them. No i didn't consult  a lawyer yet.

 

what will be the different if I get and present the certificate divorce and if I just separated with her ?

I am the only one have a US citizen 

 

Did she have your authorization to keep them out of the country?  If not, you can read this page:
https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/International-Parental-Child-Abduction.html 

 

Do you know anyone over there who could escort them back to the USA?  Could you pay someone to make the trip for you? 
Ask the embassy how to repatriate abandoned children (since both parents are now in the US); and about the documents needed if you are having someone else escort them back to you. 

 

At work, your HR services can tell you which types of leaves might be available.

 

 

It is hard to communicate tone properly online, so I hope the nonchalance I am perceiving is just me reading you incorrectly. 

 

Edited May 2 by Lemonslice

[nastra30 2,506]

6 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

USA accepts both foreign marriages and divorces when legal in that country

 

How can one prove this to US immigration and let them accept it if there is no official document?

[Boiler 47,031]

2 hours ago, nastra30 said:

How can one prove this to US immigration and let them accept it if there is no official document?

You said there is a Certificate of Divorce in your first post.

 

It does occur to me that the ex wife would be better dealing with the US Courts, child support I 864 enforcement division of assets whatever..

[Samibra 17]

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

You said there is a Certificate of Divorce in your first post.

 

It does occur to me that the ex wife would be better dealing with the US Courts, child support I 864 enforcement division of assets whatever..

Yes I think she can do it and she will do it but I think the reason she didn't do it now is because she is trying to renew her green card  first. She is afraid that I will refuse to help her renew her green card. Because last week, her cousin called me and asked me to give her A-number and ID-receipt. ( She doesn't even know that A-number is her green card) but I told them where to find it.

[Samibra 17]

10 hours ago, Lemonslice said:

 

Did she have your authorization to keep them out of the country?  If not, you can read this page:
https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/International-Parental-Child-Abduction.html 

 

Do you know anyone over there who could escort them back to the USA?  Could you pay someone to make the trip for you? 
Ask the embassy how to repatriate abandoned children (since both parents are now in the US); and about the documents needed if you are having someone else escort them back to you. 

 

At work, your HR services can tell you which types of leaves might be available.

 

 

It is hard to communicate tone properly online, so I hope the nonchalance I am perceiving is just me reading you incorrectly. 

 

No she doesn't have my authorization.

Its hard to find someone to escort them here.