Instant marriage after divorce.

[JFH 12,189]

15 hours ago, Orangesapples said:

The burden of proof here is on a bona fide marriage, not a good, strong marriage. Whether your marriage is good, or strong, or happy is of no concern to USCIS or the consulate. 

We are all well aware of that. You regularly respond when I mention this. It was the OP that mentioned the child in the first place because he mistakenly thinks that having a child “proves” that the marriage is bona fide. That’s the only thing he has brought to the table thus far when people have pointed out the possible red flags (married on first meeting, married five months after first communicating, different religions, different ethnic origin, her being a divorcee, him being involved with a married woman - in his culture these are more than frowned upon). He is completely missing the obvious and focusing on the wrong things. A bona fide marriage is a strong and happy marriage. He has a mountain ahead of him with the embassy in Pakistan. 

[Simon11221 2]

46 minutes ago, JFH said:

We are all well aware of that. You regularly respond when I mention this. It was the OP that mentioned the child in the first place because he mistakenly thinks that having a child “proves” that the marriage is bona fide. That’s the only thing he has brought to the table thus far when people have pointed out the possible red flags (married on first meeting, married five months after first communicating, different religions, different ethnic origin, her being a divorcee, him being involved with a married woman - in his culture these are more than frowned upon). He is completely missing the obvious and focusing on the wrong things. A bona fide marriage is a strong and happy marriage. He has a mountain ahead of him with the embassy in Pakistan. 

Our marriage is happy and strong. As a told that we muslim can marry with christian woman and we couldn’t do anything without marriage so we had to marry because that what we wanted to do. We wanted to be together officially as a couple. We are together still. We talk every single day more than 10 hours and we both know everything about eachother. If i was greedy of greencard i would have applied for K1 which was pretty quicker than i130 but I’m not we just want to be together for the rest of the life. Her other kids love me more than their actual dad.  I belong to middle class family. I never visited any country in my life and I don’t have any criminal record or anything. 

[carmel34 3,529]

1 hour ago, Simon11221 said:

we just want to be together for the rest of the life

Just checking back on this thread to see the additional comments.  It's pretty much run its course, your questions answered, and you have received some very good advice.  Whether you choose to follow it or not is your decision and your wife's, but be prepared for a long journey, be patient, try and visit each other as often as you can, and hopefully you can eventually be together somewhere.  Good luck!

[Appy 38]

My husband and I married two weeks after his divorce was finalised. We have an age gap and are from different cultures. Actually, the passport I applied for my visa with is from a Muslim country. They did not question any of that during interview. I’m not sure if it’s because it was the London embassy (though I did not use a birtish passport for my application). 

[Just Paul 4,591]

46 minutes ago, Appy said:

I’m not sure if it’s because it was the London embassy (though I did not use a birtish passport for my application). 

There are many differences when a 3rd country national interviews. London is quite progressive.   Muslim and some African and Asian countries are not.

[Appy 38]

6 hours ago, Paul & Mary said:

There are many differences when a 3rd country national interviews. London is quite progressive.   Muslim and some African and Asian countries are not.

Right, but I have lived away from London and in the Muslim country for the entirety of our relationship. But I think you’re saying that it only matters where the interview takes place?

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[SusieQQQ 11,584]

4 hours ago, Appy said:

Right, but I have lived away from London and in the Muslim country for the entirety of our relationship. But I think you’re saying that it only matters where the interview takes place?

Do you have a British passport (even though you didn’t use it)? You must have some connection to the UK that you interviewed there despite not living there?

Edited September 13, 2020 by SusieQQQ

[Appy 38]

1 hour ago, SusieQQQ said:

Do you have a British passport (even though you didn’t use it)? You must have some connection to the UK that you interviewed there despite not living there?

My husband transferred there to do a DCF. 

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

9 minutes ago, Appy said:

My husband transferred there to do a DCF. 

So the UK flag in your profile is because ...?  Anyway not to belabor the issue and pull teeth, the point was that someone already in possession of a developed country passport is far less likely to be scrutinized about bona fide intentions. You mentioned on another thread you could enter with ESTA, that in itself is usually an indication of such a country passport. So it’s not necessarily just the embassy that leads to less scrutiny.  
 

The tl;dr version is that your circumstances on the face of it seem to be quite different from OP.

Edited September 13, 2020 by SusieQQQ

[Appy 38]

11 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

So the UK flag in your profile is because ...?  Anyway not to belabor the issue and pull teeth, the point was that someone already in possession of a developed country passport is far less likely to be scrutinized about bona fide intentions. You mentioned on another thread you could enter with ESTA, that in itself is usually an indication of such a country passport. So it’s not necessarily just the embassy that leads to less scrutiny.  
 

The tl;dr version is that your circumstances on the face of it seem to be quite different from OP.

Because my interviewing embassy was the UK? The passport I applied with is also from a developing country. I’m not sure how much different it is since the only variant is the interviewing location. Otherwise we both got married very soon after the petitioner’s divorce was finalised, we both applied with a developing country Muslim passport, we both have age and culture difference. Of course if interviewing location is the defining factor then that is a huge difference. I can’t help but wonder if it’s OP’s language that is giving him the answers that he is receiving. 
 

I see where you got that ESTA comment. I didn’t sEe the need to correct the officer but I actually do not have an ESTA. I was entering from London so I think that’s where his assumption came from. 

Edited September 13, 2020 by Appy

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

7 minutes ago, Appy said:

I can’t help but wonder if it’s OP’s language that is giving him the answers that he is receiving. 
 

 

It’s always a red flag here when the person doesn’t want their spouse to join the thread. 
 

Btw, how much older than your husband are you? 
 

 

Edited September 13, 2020 by SusieQQQ

[Appy 38]

2 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

It’s always a red flag here when the person doesn’t want their spouse to join the thread. 
 

Btw, how much older than your husband are you? 
 

 

I’m not sure the relevance but he is older than me by 14 years. 

Edited September 13, 2020 by Appy

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

3 minutes ago, Appy said:

I’m not sure the relevance but he is older than me by 14 years. 

That does make a difference. Whether or not you agree with this, it is more culturally acceptable for the husband to be significantly older than the wife than the other way round. Immigration wise, we see far more issues reported in interviews etc with a younger husband than an older one. 

[Appy 38]

Just now, SusieQQQ said:

That does make a difference. Whether or not you agree with this, it is more culturally acceptable for the husband to be significantly older than the wife than the other way round. Immigration wise, we see far more issues reported in interviews etc with a younger husband than an older one. 

I did not know the wife was older in this case. I do agree, based on what I’ve read, that a younger husband to an older wife gets heavily scrutinised. Not that that makes it fair, but that’s just my opinion. 
 

I think we must have just gotten pretty lucky. I was worried about the proximity between divorce and marriage and also that we had only been married for 5 months when my interview came round. 

[WaterLeaf 199]

Does OP have the ground to stand to wait for whatever year to have AP cleared? I don't know how long it'll be but it just something to think about. Any additional detail like he could visit his wife from time to time along the way?