My husband and I separated for a year!!! What do I do

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

Hi my husband and I have been married for four years he lives abroad we separated for a year during our marriage and during that period we did not fly to see each other and I deleted majority of our pictures messages and etc!! What do I do??? I still have his last name as my name and etc but the photos and messages part is really bothering me because I know it’s very important..what do I do?? Also my husband isn’t really a phone person either so we don’t have longggg conversations and text messages what should I do!! Help

Edited August 2, 2019 by LolaOkhuofu

[Just Paul 4,591]

What  is it you are trying to do?

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

I’m filing the i130 but I don’t have enough of the above proof

[Just Paul 4,591]

You file with what you have as evidence of your bona fide marriage.  Photos are just one item.  Other evidence can include joint tax returns, banking, credit card utilities, life insurance beneficiaries,, wills, power of attorney, proof of spending time together like passport stamps, airline boarding passes.

 

Submit as many different items you can that a normal married couple would have.

 

Again you can only submit what you have.

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

When filing my taxes it was difficult through turbo tax to add my husband because he doesn’t have a social I’m becoming worried they will deny us with this little proof. What about evidence of legal name changes...does that hold any weight. I am also going to visit him in November. His family and I speak a lot and he speaks with my parents as well. I have joint credit card with him as a user and he has me on his lease in Nigeria since 2017 and I’m on his bank account even when he pays his rent over there. I sent him money a few times are these good? 

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

4 hours ago, LolaOkhuofu said:

When filing my taxes it was difficult through turbo tax to add my husband because he doesn’t have a social I’m becoming worried they will deny us with this little proof. What about evidence of legal name changes...does that hold any weight. I am also going to visit him in November. His family and I speak a lot and he speaks with my parents as well. I have joint credit card with him as a user and he has me on his lease in Nigeria since 2017 and I’m on his bank account even when he pays his rent over there. I sent him money a few times are these good? 

Is more than what we had when we filed... we had travel x 6 trips and 2 letters of support, nothing else.

 

Im assuming you’ve reignited the relationship? 

 

send what you have eg lease, bank etc and a copy of your next travel itinerary in addition to marriage certificate, get a letter from his family to support.. if they need more they will send you an RFE.. you’ve got 12 months before you get to that point, plenty of time to gather more evidence in case it’s needed.. I’m a little surprised you have so little evidence for being married four years.. sure there has been some travel?

Edited August 2, 2019 by Duke & Marie

[Dashinka 23,209]

4 hours ago, LolaOkhuofu said:

When filing my taxes it was difficult through turbo tax to add my husband because he doesn’t have a social I’m becoming worried they will deny us with this little proof. What about evidence of legal name changes...does that hold any weight. I am also going to visit him in November. His family and I speak a lot and he speaks with my parents as well. I have joint credit card with him as a user and he has me on his lease in Nigeria since 2017 and I’m on his bank account even when he pays his rent over there. I sent him money a few times are these good? 

So did you file taxes as "married filing separately", or as "single"?  As to evidence of a commingled marriage, it appears that you do have some and as others have said, you can only send in what you have.

 

Good Luck!

[Boiler 43,397]

This is Lagos.

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

2 hours ago, Bill & Katya said:

So did you file taxes as "married filing separately", or as "single"?  As to evidence of a commingled marriage, it appears that you do have some and as others have said, you can only send in what you have.

 

Good Luck!

Yes I filed as “single” because there was no way for me to add my spouse...can this be corrected some how I tried all the other times and when I was done filing it kept saying that I had “missing” information which was my spouse social security 

31 minutes ago, Boiler said:

This is Lagos.

Not sure what that’s suppose to mean 

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

3 hours ago, Duke & Marie said:

Is more than what we had when we filed... we had travel x 6 trips and 2 letters of support, nothing else.

 

Im assuming you’ve reignited the relationship? 

 

send what you have eg lease, bank etc and a copy of your next travel itinerary in addition to marriage certificate, get a letter from his family to support.. if they need more they will send you an RFE.. you’ve got 12 months before you get to that point, plenty of time to gather more evidence in case it’s needed.. I’m a little surprised you have so little evidence for being married four years.. sure there has been some travel?

We have seen each other 3 times during our marriage and he stays for a few months at a time. I actually HAD a lot of proof before the separation but when we separated I deleted everything like pictures and messages because we were having issues that time. But yes we have reconciled and we are back together. So u guys only had those three things with no pictures?? 

[Crazy Cat 39,192]

4 minutes ago, LolaOkhuofu said:

Yes I filed as “single” because there was no way for me to add my spouse...can this be corrected some how I tried all the other times and when I was done filing it kept saying that I had “missing” information which was my spouse social security 

Not sure what that’s suppose to mean 

That was a mistake.......You cannot legally file as single if you are married.......you could have filed "Married Filing Separately".....but you can not file electronically ....Since this is Nigeria, you might have some issues.......time to be creative....

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

2 minutes ago, missileman said:

That was a mistake.......You cannot legally file as single if you are married.......you could have filed "Married Filing Separately".....but you can not file electronically ....Since this is Nigeria, you might have some issues.......time to be creative....

I will correct this then...thanks

[Crazy Cat 39,192]

3 minutes ago, LolaOkhuofu said:

We have seen each other 3 times during our marriage and he stays for a few months at a time. I actually HAD a lot of proof before the separation but when we separated I deleted everything like pictures and messages because we were having issues that time. But yes we have reconciled and we are back together. So u guys only had those three things with no pictures?? 

Do not make the mistake of thinking you can compare Lagos with other consulates......Lagos is on a different level....of fraud.  Thus, you need a very strong case.

[LolaOkhuofu 0]

2 minutes ago, missileman said:

Do not make the mistake of thinking you can compare Lagos with other consulates......Lagos is on a different level....of fraud.  Thus, you need a very strong case.

Wow…

[Crazy Cat 39,192]

2 minutes ago, LolaOkhuofu said:

Wow…

Put yourself in the shoes of the consulate officer:

 

1.  Married 4 years with only 3 total visits.

2.  Separated for a year.

3.  Very little evidence of time together and continued communication (which are the BEST evidence you can provide).

 

Does that sound like a real, bona fide marriage?