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Hello all,

 

as probably all of us beneficiaries I would like to move to the US asap. In my current job I have a notice period of 4 weeks so I could leave Germany on short notice. 

 

My question is: are there any couples who have 2 "weddings"? I am thinking of moving to the US asap after I have my visa, get married, start paperwork and then plan / have the big bash with family and friends while waiting for EAD. I can't ask them to travel all the way to the US with just 8 weeks notice in advance or so. It's too far and in the end they are Germans, not the most flexible and spontanous people on this planet ;) I would love to start planning my big day already now and have only "one wedding", but everything is so uncertain in this process that I consider to split it up. This gives me the chance to plan everything as I want, reserve Location, book vendors etc. I don't like the idea of having a  second and "fake-say-I-do" in front of our loved ones but do I have any other chance?

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Do not book anything . 

Wait time for AP (without that you cant travel. EaD is just for work) is currently 4 to 6 months or more. You will book something and you wont have your AP in time. And what then? You cant leave US without it or you won't be allow back.

 

Unfortunately there are sacrifices and most people understand that they can have everyone there for their wedding... I dont think a lot of people bother with two ceremonies. It is what it is. 


K1

29.11.2013 - NoA1

06.02.2014 - NoA2

01.04.2014 - Interview. 

AoS

03.2015 - AoS started.

09.2015 - Green Card received.  

RoC

24.07.2017 - NoA1.

01.08.2018 - RoC approved. 

 

 

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3 minutes ago, Roel said:

Do not book anything . 

Wait time for AP (without that you cant travel. EaD is just for work) is currently 4 to 6 months or more. You will book something and you wont have your AP in time. And what then? You cant leave US without it or you won't be allow back.

 

Unfortunately there are sacrifices and most people understand that they can have everyone there for their wedding... I dont think a lot of people bother with two ceremonies. It is what it is. 

Sorry, maybe my post was misunderstanding. I am talking about 2 weddings in the US. I am fully aware that I am not allowed to leave the US while waiting for EAD/AP. 

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I believe this is what the majority of us will end up with. I will only be moving in June but hope to get married at once, as the fiance will only be able to go on vacation for a short period of time and assist me in filing for AoS. Then we will be quite busy for a few months and agreed to have a wedding party along with our joint birthday party. 

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2 minutes ago, Lisa87FRA said:

Sorry, maybe my post was misunderstanding. I am talking about 2 weddings in the US. I am fully aware that I am not allowed to leave the US while waiting for EAD/AP. 

Oh in that case go for it. Obviously you cant actually get married twice but nothing stops you from throwing a party. 


K1

29.11.2013 - NoA1

06.02.2014 - NoA2

01.04.2014 - Interview. 

AoS

03.2015 - AoS started.

09.2015 - Green Card received.  

RoC

24.07.2017 - NoA1.

01.08.2018 - RoC approved. 

 

 

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I think a lot of people go this route... we are having a very small wedding (7 of us) followed by a much larger family blessing a while later... We dont see the blessing as a fake I do more of a time to celebrate with our closest friends and family and reaffirm our commitment again to each other  in front of our loved ones by having our marriage blessed.

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Yep, that's what my fiance and I will do once we get his visa. We'll have a courthouse wedding ASAP, and then our bigger wedding some number of months later. We won't start planning Wedding #2 until after we've had Wedding #1.

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You can have as many wedding celebrations as you want to.  One legal wedding.  My husband and I got married last June in Brazil, with his family and friends.  When he comes here to the US, hopefully in September or October after CR-1 approval, we are going to have a wedding celebration here in California for my family and friends.  You have lots of choices, for K-1 just get married in the US as soon after arrival as possible so that you can file for AOS and EAD/AP, after that celebrate!  Congratulations, and I hope your process goes smoothly!

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TOGA!

 


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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~~Moved to Off Topic, from K1 P&P - The OP is asking about planning a big wedding after entry and their civil marriage.~~


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Many dozens of threads about this same topic.


06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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