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Well hello everyone, 

 

I have a question for those of you who have been successful on a k1 or are in the process of one, what are your plans for your wedding once your SO arrives? Traditional wedding, courthouse ,mosque,etc?

 

I am trying to figure out what would be best for our situation and I am curious to know what you guys' plans are or what you went with . I would love to hear your stories.

 

Have a good day everyone.

 

PS: Before the comment is made, yes I know, I am not making any plans until approval, just in case it comes up lol.

 

 

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Courthouse.  Get it done so you can file for AOS.  Get the EAD and start work.  Get the AP so she can travel home if necessary.

 

There is no time to plan a traditional wedding.  Most places are booked well in advance.  It would hard to book and get everything done in 90 days.

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This is so very personal

when i applied K1 i was going to do small wedding at home of a friend as he was muslim 

and i had a big wedding before with my late husband and now my family all live far away

Important to u is

1   do u want family and friends there

2   how much money do u want to spend

3   are u of a different faith and he would be  uncomfortable in your church or whatever your religion is 

4   is this important to him as it is his 1st marriage

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We had a courthouse wedding less than 2 weeks after he arrived (mostly for AOS purposes)

Had an Islamic marriage at a mosque a few months after the courthouse wedding. 

Had a big party/ceremony with white dress and my family flew in from Germany a few weeks after the Islamic marriage. I did book this venue in advance before he had the visa in hand, but I was able to negotiate to move the date or be issued a refund had the visa not been issued. 


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12 minutes ago, aaron2020 said:

Courthouse.  Get it done so you can file for AOS.  Get the EAD and start work.  Get the AP so she can travel home if necessary.

 

This. We did courthouse 2 hours after he got off the plane lol to fulfill the requirements and filed AOS about a month later after I added him to accounts and bills and stuff to get the greencard process started.

 

Did a church wedding 7 months later when we could prance around in fancy clothes.

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civil wedding immediately to keep Mr. Government happy and a real wedding planned for next summer


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As a practical matter, I would opt for a courthouse/JP wedding and save my money for AOS.   You can always renew your vows at a later date.....


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49 minutes ago, adil-rafa said:

This is so very personal

when i applied K1 i was going to do small wedding at home of a friend as he was muslim 

and i had a big wedding before with my late husband and now my family all live far away

Important to u is

1   do u want family and friends there

2   how much money do u want to spend

3   are u of a different faith and he would be  uncomfortable in your church or whatever your religion is 

4   is this important to him as it is his 1st marriage

My family is very small , I dream of a nice wedding but realistically it would be a waste of money. I am leaning towards marrying at the mosque and having a small get together at my home. 

48 minutes ago, RJandHamid said:

We had a courthouse wedding less than 2 weeks after he arrived (mostly for AOS purposes)

Had an Islamic marriage at a mosque a few months after the courthouse wedding. 

Had a big party/ceremony with white dress and my family flew in from Germany a few weeks after the Islamic marriage. I did book this venue in advance before he had the visa in hand, but I was able to negotiate to move the date or be issued a refund had the visa not been issued. 

Thank you, can you share your experience with marriage at the mosque?

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3 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

Thank you, can you share your experience with marriage at the mosque?

Sure. We went to several different mosques in our area to ask about the process and cost of having a simple Islamic marriage ceremony. The first one we went to wanted to charge us $500! We ended up walking straight out of that one. Fortunately we found another mosque even closer to where we live that offered to do the ceremony for free (we did make a donation of our choice though). 

We set up a date and time with the imam. The 'ceremony' (it's more like short lecture) is very simple and took less than 30 minutes. Basically the imam talked about the importance of marriage in Islam and the rights of the husband and wife. We discussed the mahr (dowry) amount which I kind of just said a random number because we just needed to put something on the marriage contract. My husband and I signed it with 3 male witnesses present, as well as my mom and my brother present who are both not Muslim, but the imam encouraged them to come be a part of the ceremony anyway. 

 

And that's pretty much it. Now we have a Islamic marriage certificate, which is also written in Arabic. It will be useful for us when we travel back to Morocco and want to use it as proof of marriage to stay in a hotel or something. 

 

As a side note, I'm not Muslim, only my husband is. Non of the imams we talked to had any issues marrying a Muslim man and a non-Muslim woman, since this type of marriage is allowed in Islam. Most mosques do require you to be legally married before they will preform an Islamic marriage ceremony. We had to show our marriage certificate and the mosque actually kept a copy of it. 


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December 19, 2016: NOA1 receive date 

May 5, 2017: NOA2 hardcopy (still listed as 'received' online...)

May 23, 2017: NVC case number assigned

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July 14, 2017: Visa in hand
July 27, 2017: POE at ORD

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See my 'About Me' section on my profile for a more detailed step by step journey of our K1 Journey through the Casablanca consulate in Morocco

 

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September 8, 2017 : Mailed AOS Packet

September 16, 2017 : NOA1 text/emails (receive date Sept. 12)

October 2, 2017 : Biometrics Appointment

October 13, 2017 : RFIE letter received in mail (they want an English translated Birth Certificate, which we included in the original petition...)

January 24, 2018: EAD/AP Combo Card in hand

August 9, 2018: AOS Interview (Approved)

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August 16, 2018: Green card in hand

 

 

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9 minutes ago, RJandHamid said:

Sure. We went to several different mosques in our area to ask about the process and cost of having a simple Islamic marriage ceremony. The first one we went to wanted to charge us $500! We ended up walking straight out of that one. Fortunately we found another mosque even closer to where we live that offered to do the ceremony for free (we did make a donation of our choice though). 

We set up a date and time with the imam. The 'ceremony' (it's more like short lecture) is very simple and took less than 30 minutes. Basically the imam talked about the importance of marriage in Islam and the rights of the husband and wife. We discussed the mahr (dowry) amount which I kind of just said a random number because we just needed to put something on the marriage contract. My husband and I signed it with 3 male witnesses present, as well as my mom and my brother present who are both not Muslim, but the imam encouraged them to come be a part of the ceremony anyway. 

 

And that's pretty much it. Now we have a Islamic marriage certificate, which is also written in Arabic. It will be useful for us when we travel back to Morocco and want to use it as proof of marriage to stay in a hotel or something. 

 

As a side note, I'm not Muslim, only my husband is. Non of the imams we talked to had any issues marrying a Muslim man and a non-Muslim woman, since this type of marriage is allowed in Islam. Most mosques do require you to be legally married before they will preform an Islamic marriage ceremony. We had to show our marriage certificate and the mosque actually kept a copy of it. 

thanks, we are actually considering this option, except I believe our mosque allows us to bring the form, it's signed there and the Imam sends it off rather than the clerk at the court. I didn't realize we had to be married before, I have to call them and make sure I didn't understand them incorrectly.

 

As for adjustment, how has he adjusted? We are thinking about moving states or cities, do you have any recommendation of a place where it would be easier on him? Culturally speaking I mean, to make a transition less strenuous, any advice would be appreciated.

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12 minutes ago, Hobidyali said:

thanks, we are actually considering this option, except I believe our mosque allows us to bring the form, it's signed there and the Imam sends it off rather than the clerk at the court. I didn't realize we had to be married before, I have to call them and make sure I didn't understand them incorrectly.

 

As for adjustment, how has he adjusted? We are thinking about moving states or cities, do you have any recommendation of a place where it would be easier on him? Culturally speaking I mean, to make a transition less strenuous, any advice would be appreciated.

The adjustment has taken time, as expected. If you live in/near Orlando like your profile says, I know there is a large community of Moroccans in that area, so it might be good for you to stay there for awhile. 

 

We live in the Chicago area. Not a lot of Moroccans, but still a large number of Muslims from other countries. And the few Moroccans we have met, my husband really hasn't been able to form much of a friendship with them. The only exception is the other Moroccans we have met who also came to the US on a K1 or CR1 visa recently! 

 

The hardest adjustment for him was first not being able to work for several months and being bored and feeling unproductive. That's certainly one of the biggest negatives of the K1 visa in my opinion. He's now been working at Burger King for about 1 year. Started as a crew member and quickly was promoted to assistant manager. He's started job hunting again as he doesn't want to work in fast food forever. We are going on vacation to Germany and Morocco soon and we'll be gone for 3 weeks. When we come back he'll be going on a full scale new job search!

 

And of course, he misses his family and friends in Morocco. He tries to call his mom every day. We both like to eat Moroccan foods, and lucky for me he can cook most Moroccan dishes. We eat a lot of tagine and lentils! 


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December 19, 2016: NOA1 receive date 

May 5, 2017: NOA2 hardcopy (still listed as 'received' online...)

May 23, 2017: NVC case number assigned

July 10, 2017: Interview
July 14, 2017: Visa in hand
July 27, 2017: POE at ORD

August 5, 2017: Married!

 

See my 'About Me' section on my profile for a more detailed step by step journey of our K1 Journey through the Casablanca consulate in Morocco

 

AOS Process    

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AOS Process  

September 8, 2017 : Mailed AOS Packet

September 16, 2017 : NOA1 text/emails (receive date Sept. 12)

October 2, 2017 : Biometrics Appointment

October 13, 2017 : RFIE letter received in mail (they want an English translated Birth Certificate, which we included in the original petition...)

January 24, 2018: EAD/AP Combo Card in hand

August 9, 2018: AOS Interview (Approved)

August 9, 2018: "Card in Production"

August 16, 2018: Green card in hand

 

 

May 2020: ROC!

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we are planning to go to las vegas so its a little tourism for her, pictures can be good (our courthouse is no cameras/phones allowed), low cost. And then do a big convalidation in the phillipines in a year or so

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We had an elopement wedding to a very nice place we had pastor, photographer and wedding cake and nice clothes (wedding clothes) and all. :) 

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02/02/16....I-129F mailed to Lewisville, TX                                                                       08/25/16....AOS package mailed to Chicago, IL

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02/08/16....NOA1 Text & E-mail. Case sent to CSC                                                         09/01/16....NOA1 Text & E-mail

02/12/16....NOA1 Hard copy received                                                                               09/09/16....NOA1 Hard copy received

03/24/16....NOA2 (45 days)                                                                                                 09/15/16....Bio-letter received for K-1/K-2 for Sep. 26th

03/29/16....NOA2 Hard copy received                                                                               09/19/16....Bio appointment done (Walk-in)

03/31/16....Medical                                                                                                              11/01/16.....EAD/AP approved

05/26/16....Interview                                                                                                            11/16/16.....EAD/AP card received

06/10/16....Visa in hand                                                                                                       03/08/17.....AOS Approved - No interview

06/21/16....POE Atlanta                                                                                                       03/15/17.....Green cards in hand

07/30/16....Wedding                                                                                                    

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ROC from K-1 + K-2:

12/13/18....I-751 mailed to Lewisville, TX

12/14/18....Delivered at Lewisville, TX

12/19/18....Official NOA1 day

12/20/18....Text with case number. TX service center

12/24/18....NOA1/Extension letter received

 

 

 

 

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