frustrated. need ur help

[chi4 0]

Hi everyone,

I met my wife 7 yrs ago in another country thats not hers' nor mine. We spent one month and i enganged her. Shes older than me but didnt matter at all. I had to leave d country for my country home after she lefr so that she could file for me k1 . we started d process in 2011 and i had my inteeview 2012 and was denied. We were inlove but after 2012 she started having fiancial problems. So i got a job in ma country and did send her money many times to US to pay bills. I invited her to ma country without her paying a cent from getting a visa frm my embassy and flight ticket bcos am getting money and living a standard life. She came and i kept her in d moat expensive hotel in ma country. She met ma family everything was fine. She left and filed and i was aproved. Sold my 2 cars and my house qhen leaving thinking all was gona be well in d US. Got here and ahw refused to get married. At d end point of my visa expiration ww got married. I hv been suffering from d man she said its her ex. He keeps showing up.and shw treats me like a ####### saying i came is to get green card and work.i pay bills with her cos i camw with moni. We filed with my money. My biometrics is on thursday and shes teling me she cant continue that i used her so i can come to US to get gc and better life. What do i do pls

[cysco2015 2]

Where are you from 

[chi4 0]

Africa

[Little_Vixen 1,869]

The people on this forum can help you with visa related issues. This sounds like a relationship problem. Nothing we can help you with I'm afraid. I'm sorry. I hope you can work it out with her.

[f f 725]

marriage counseling seems like your best bet.

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

may be time for help but as u said she refused marriage 

return home where you are lucky to have family and a job

seems she used u to make someone jealous

[Ontarkie 14,280]

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[Going through 5,671]

59 minutes ago, adil-rafa said:

may be time for help but as u said she refused marriage 

return home where you are lucky to have family and a job

seems she used u to make someone jealous

 

OP said they got married near the end of their K1 visa expiring.

 

It appears at this point, the USC wife does not want to continue on filing for the AOS now.

 

[dwheels76 5,468]

It would help if you filed out your timeline. So you been here looks like a long time and now you are filing for Adjustment of Status(AOS) correct?
Well without your wife's participation since she has to provide the financials you have no recourse but to go back to Nigeria. Sorry but that's how it goes.

It matters not who paid for what. Doesn't matter you paid all the money she is the petitioner and if she doesn't want to go forward nothing you can do about it.

[geowrian 22,337]

There's a lot of focus on money in your post. Money can't buy love and it can't buy a spouse to help for immigration. Let go of the money issues.

 

If you still want to be together, then I suggest marriage counseling. If that doesn't work, then divorce may be your next best option. Immigration-wise, if she's not willing to continue the process with you, then you will either be in the US illegally without any means to obtain legal status, or you need to leave the US.

[Boiler 45,670]

Sounds like you need a divorce lawyer.

[Prystine 184]

OP, as many other users have suggested, if your serious about saving your marriage, let your wife know this and see if she will seek marriage counseling with you; If she is against this and is truly done and does not want to move forward with the marriage and do AOS, then the only option would be to divorce and go back to your country as the only way to AOS from marriage will no longer be a valid option. Sorry to hear and hope you can work things out with counseling.

[Dutchster 1,107]

Sorry to hear that. I agree with other posters, suggest marriage counseling. 

Do you want to stay in the US? Unfortunately, since you came here with a K-1 visa, you can only adjust status and receive a green card via your petitioner. There will be no way for you to stay in the US unless you want to become illegal. (Not recommended) 

[chi4 0]

Thanks all. @geowrian, am sad because she said i came here for gc and job when she knew i was living okay when i was in my country. I entered the marriage with good faith and for love. Not for selfish reasons. If she doesnt want the marriage fine but not treating me like i did something wrong and telling me all i want is gc.. I never depended on her. What ever i do or did , i do and did with love and affection not for selfish interest. It hurts but it sucks.

[Boiler 45,670]

5 minutes ago, chi4 said:

Thanks all. @geowrian, am sad because she said i came here for gc and job when she knew i was living okay when i was in my country. I entered the marriage with good faith and for love. Not for selfish reasons. If she doesnt want the marriage fine but not treating me like i did something wrong and telling me all i want is gc.. I never depended on her. What ever i do or did , i do and did with love and affection not for selfish interest. It hurts but it sucks.

Happens sadly.

 

Divorce and move on.