My Girlfriend married another man to apply for green card

[travelfairy 22]

Even if you are willing to marry her to help her get a GC (and commit fraud), the marriage will still have financial and legal obligations. You'll be responsible for any debts she incurs, even if you knew nothing about them. She can ruin your credit rating and take your assets. How do you know she will treat your assets and joint finances iwth respect, if she treats your heart and feelings with such disregard?

I am an alien, I've been here for 6 years on a work visa. Last year I married my BF and I'm doing AOS, but I didn't marry him for a greencard. I married him because we'd been together for 2.5 years and he is the love of my life. We discussed going back to Australia (which accepts de-facto / common law marriage for permanent residency) when my visa time here was up, but overall, we love each other and want to spend our lives together, regardless of the country. So we got married. Honestly, I don't care if I leave the US tomorrow and never come back (providing I can take my dog). I just want a life with my husband.

My husband would never accept me marrying another man, even if it was just for a greencard. I could never marry a man other than him, even if the marriage wasn't consumated. He is my soul mate, my best friend and the most important person in the world to me.

Have you talked about marriage, in terms of children, and joint finances, and shared goals? Have you had relationship counselling? What is her vision of her future, and does it mesh with yours?

You should marry somebody for whom the relationship with you comes first, and more importantly, in front of which country they want to live in. The right woman for you will want to be with you, wherever in the world that will be.

If you are ready for a genuine marriage, tell her that's what you want. Not a greencard marriage, but a genuine marriage. Then spend some time in her home country, meeting her friends and family. Perhaps even get married there, or live there for a couple of years. If the marriage is strong and you are sure of your wife's love, and maybe even have started a family, then consider applying for a greencard for her, but no before.

[A new guy 4]

You guys/girls are a great bit of information. It's helpful to have outsiders without the emotional ties to help remove the veil from my eyes.

Thank you : )

[patient2010 93]

Hmmmmmm..........

[r and m 0]

your falling for a scam remember when someone in need they will do anything and there mouth turns to a mouth full of honey then when they get what they want they the angel turns to a devil like you never did anything for them your the one who will be hurt i been there

[r and m 0]

you should think about the word you said my girlfriend married another man for a green card and see how it sounds and ask your self do she love me do she care your answer should be hell no

[verysadguy 170]

You could not convince one single person here that she is not trying by all means to get a green card, man how do you suppose to convince immigration ?No way...no how...You will get in trouble with her in the immigration aspects and in your private life as well. She is a fraudster and she is a liar as well,she got married with someone and just told you after the marriage? Do you really think she has values to be a great wife and i good mother? I don't think so, when you are not a good citizen,when you break law/rules you are a not good person in general.Actions speak louder than words.She said she loves you,but her actions showed someone without values. There is no way immigration will believe in your marriage , they will think she got married and divorced and she was so desperated to get a Green card that she got married with you in a matter of days/weeks...really?

Sandranj is absolutely right. I have extensive experience with a fraudster and a liar. The values as sandranj says for morals and values as a wife and mother are NOT there. My ex-wife is an absolute expert at sweetness, and lying, and exchanging sex as currency/barter for assistance and support. Actions DO speak louder than words.

The other key concept is DESPERATION. These people will stop at nothing to cheat you, undermine you, scam you behind your back, and tarnish your character for their own selfish needs...A green card, for money, for welfare benefits whatever.

Enjoy the fun, but don't get her pregnant and don't marry her. Move on and forget is even better. Sadly, I am tied to a psycho for another 16 years. Learn from the mistakes of others my friend.

[Laser1 63]

3) Once she got married to this guy, she would have no incentive to stay with me but our relationship has improved dramatically.

Yes, your relationship has improved because she is getting what she wants, the green card. She wants that more than she wants you.

[A new guy 4]

The truth does hurt.

I had suspicions from early in the relationship and I should have kept my guards up.

[Darnell 8,478]

to the OP -

Do you have a rich friend, single?

If so, here's an experiment...

Introduce him to her, then be absent for about 6 weeks.

Check in with yer friend after that time. If the two of them are madly in love, then your marriage was never meant to be.

[Martyshk 137]

to the OP -

Do you have a rich friend, single?

If so, here's an experiment...

Introduce him to her, then be absent for about 6 weeks.

Check in with yer friend after that time. If the two of them are madly in love, then your marriage was never meant to be.

Evil...but practical!

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

My husband would never accept me marrying another man, even if it was just for a greencard. I could never marry a man other than him, even if the marriage wasn't consumated. He is my soul mate, my best friend and the most important person in the world to me.

Have you talked about marriage, in terms of children, and joint finances, and shared goals? Have you had relationship counselling? What is her vision of her future, and does it mesh with yours?

You should marry somebody for whom the relationship with you comes first, and more importantly, in front of which country they want to live in. The right woman for you will want to be with you, wherever in the world that will be.

If you are ready for a genuine marriage, tell her that's what you want. Not a greencard marriage, but a genuine marriage. Then spend some time in her home country, meeting her friends and family. Perhaps even get married there, or live there for a couple of years. If the marriage is strong and you are sure of your wife's love, and maybe even have started a family, then consider applying for a greencard for her, but no before.

Exactly! My husband would have dumped my #### on the spot if I had married another man, even if it were for a greencard type situation.

If you loved someone how could you do that to them? Marriage is really a sacred bond between two people and symbol of their love and commitment. A person who uses marriage to gain something is really the lowest of the low in terms of morality and decency.

My husband and I happened to meet on a penpal site and neither of us had any interest in the other's country. Actually, we happen to be able to live in America or anywhere in the EU (especially Denmark or the UK) and for us we are content as long as we are together. My husband would rather stay in Denmark and I'd rather live in America, and both of our lives are rather interchangeable.

OP, do what your heart tells you, but these red flags wouldn't exist in a healthier and more loving relationship I believe. A word to the wise is that if you see a red flag - RUN!

[Cesar & Cata 35]

The truth does hurt.

I had suspicions from early in the relationship and I should have kept my guards up.

Hey, she already started the process, let her continue .... if you guys can date while she does it fine ... if you can't that is also fine.

So far you are on the sidelines. Just make sure it stays that way. Let her get her GC on her own, if she stays then you know its genuine.

[Laveau 67]

You could not convince one single person here that she is not trying by all means to get a green card, man how do you suppose to convince immigration ?No way...no how...You will get in trouble with her in the immigration aspects and in your private life as well. She is a fraudster and she is a liar as well,she got married with someone and just told you after the marriage? Do you really think she has values to be a great wife and i good mother? I don't think so, when you are not a good citizen,when you break law/rules you are a not good person in general.Actions speak louder than words.She said she loves you,but her actions showed someone without values. There is no way immigration will believe in your marriage , they will think she got married and divorced and she was so desperated to get a Green card that she got married with you in a matter of days/weeks...really?

Read the above post over and over again.

Seriously, anyone who commits fraud is just shady in character. You can do so much better.

[DM & JM 12]

Please listen to what others are saying. Do not fall for this trap. I would suggest you to be smart as her current husband, he probably rejected to petition her green card and all of the sudden she regrets marrying him. Do you follow me here? He refused to apply for her GC and now she thought of plan B(YOU). Don’t do it, you will regret it your entire life. But again, only you can make that decision. God bless you in your decision.

[Darnell 8,478]

Well, so far, you've some free tail from a married woman. Enjoy it while you can, aye?