Visa Interview gone wrong

[pushbrk 12,113]

Expectations are important, so it's critical to have the proper expectations. Nothing about this case is out of the ordinary. Prepare for potential delays and rejoice if they are short or non-existent.

[Boiler 43,436]

If you has asked for your passport they would have given it to you.

And still will.

Problem solved.

[usaborn1111 0]

I am really disappointed and sad that after 3 years of fighting against the distance, the circumstances, and this visa process, it all came down to this shitty day. There is a person which likes to play god, and decide for you if you can be happy and sad for the rest of your life.

A person that detached from the real word by a glass wall, is able to destroy lives with a smile in the face.

I have been preparing for this interview for the las 9 months, and since my situation is a little complex( I lived in the usa before), I had to submit also extra documentation showing that I had been in legal status while in the USA. Well not only I was in legal status while in the usa, but I also drop thousand and thousand of dollars to get a degree from an american school. Moreover, since I also worked legally, I paid taxes to the us government for 4 years.

This interview is for a K-1 visa, which is supposed to be a visa for people that love each other. Nevertheless not even one question was asked about the relationship. Maybe the person playing God had already decided maybe not, but the simple fact that I am doing this the legal way, should give me credit instead of making me feel that I am a liar.

I do not go into details, because it upsets me only to think about it. I left upset, but not because I could be denied for a visa, not because I felt so humiliated by the wannabe god, and not even because I may not be able to go to the USA. I do not care about those things. I do not give a ###### about them. But the sole idea of having to tell my love that we cannot be together because the visa maybe be denied, is just eating me inside my brain and my heart. I called her and told her how it went and she started crying... and I cannot take that. My love should only cry of happiness because I can be with her. YOu can only understand this feeling if you love someone. But a wannabe GOD was not in the mood today to make me and my love happy.

They just gave me a green paper and said that they do not know how long it will take. They also said" If i were you I would not book a flight yet" The only positive thing is that they kept my passport..... what a ###### day

Hey don't give in that easy....they put my Fiance(now my wife) through ###### and scared her into saying our relationship was a fraud....my lawyer said we were done....then I called the embassy and emailed "The Letter" then 3 weeks later the visa arrived with her passport...

[SuperDuper! 230]

My friend, you need to calm the f***k down. Sorry to have to talk to you this way, but some people need a slap in the face every once in a while to wake them up. You have not been denied (not as of yet anyway). As everyone else hase stated before me, the fact that they kept your passport is a good sign.

Stop victimizing yourself. And by the way, don't blame the Consul for making your Fiance cry whe you told her the news. It was YOUR RESPONISIBILITY as a MAN to make her see that this is a good thing. If this is how you're going to act everytime you hit a bump in the road, I would hate to be the one by your side.

All the drama totally unnecessary. People go thru AP all the time, and then are given a visa. Chill, Bill!

[k.loveh 0]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I and so many others here know exactly how you feel. Me and my fiance cried our hearts out as well when his passport was returned to him without a visa and it was sent back to USCIS for further review. But as someone here said...they kept your passport and didn't give it back to you, which is good. They've placed your case on AP which seems to be procedure for a lot of Embassies. Delhi (our embassy) is famous for them. And yes, they do seem to play at being God and thats what makes this process sometimes a nightmare in that our lives are literally held in another imperfect human beings hands, this makes it scary as hell. The feeling of helplessness is the worst part of having to wait and not know what the heck is going to happen or when it's going to happen, or why?.

Anyway, again I'm sorry this happened and hope that you get your good news soon.

Edited October 22, 2009 by k.loveh

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Thank you all for your support.

The reason that they kept the passport is good to a certain point.

The fact is that they may be depriving me from my passport for who knows how long. It will be for sure irresponsible, but maybe also illegal for them to keep my passport, which they do not have jurisdiction over.

Therefore I am thinking that they just wanted to be overcautious, but it was more a yes than a no so that is why they kept the passport.

I guess not everybody can....

Seems as though you do not actually know what is going on, hopefully your fiancee is not upset becasue you do not understand something. If they expect significant delays in issuing the visa they dso not keep the passport

We use the same sign in name so I am sure she will read it later on. The thing is all based on expectation. Kids expect to get gifts on Christmas, as me and my fiancee expected to get the visa today. But we did not. So I call tell er the facts and she cries. As you say, I do not know what is happening and this is the problem.

The next post after yours said that they have held the passport for 90 days. For me that is a significant delay.

I understand your point, but I hope you understand mine.

Most of life's stress is caused by unreasonable expectations. This process can be delayed at any point by any of the agencies involved and you never should count or expect anything until the visa is in your hand. I know of NO consulate that gives a visa the day of the interview. Even without delays it can be 3 days to 2 weeks.

[christeen 966]

Thank you all for your support.

The reason that they kept the passport is good to a certain point.

The fact is that they may be depriving me from my passport for who knows how long. It will be for sure irresponsible, but maybe also illegal for them to keep my passport, which they do not have jurisdiction over.

Therefore I am thinking that they just wanted to be overcautious, but it was more a yes than a no so that is why they kept the passport.

I guess not everybody can....

Seems as though you do not actually know what is going on, hopefully your fiancee is not upset becasue you do not understand something. If they expect significant delays in issuing the visa they dso not keep the passport

We use the same sign in name so I am sure she will read it later on. The thing is all based on expectation. Kids expect to get gifts on Christmas, as me and my fiancee expected to get the visa today. But we did not. So I call tell er the facts and she cries. As you say, I do not know what is happening and this is the problem.

The next post after yours said that they have held the passport for 90 days. For me that is a significant delay.

I understand your point, but I hope you understand mine.

Most of life's stress is caused by unreasonable expectations. This process can be delayed at any point by any of the agencies involved and you never should count or expect anything until the visa is in your hand. I know of NO consulate that gives a visa the day of the interview. Even without delays it can be 3 days to 2 weeks.

Italy Consulate in Naples gives them the day of interview and you pick it up that same evening at the Mail Boxes Etc.

To OP; Just relax, it is not denied, just delayed...

[Jamaican JNR 2]

I am really disappointed and sad that after 3 years of fighting against the distance, the circumstances, and this visa process, it all came down to this shitty day. There is a person which likes to play god, and decide for you if you can be happy and sad for the rest of your life.

A person that detached from the real word by a glass wall, is able to destroy lives with a smile in the face.

I have been preparing for this interview for the las 9 months, and since my situation is a little complex( I lived in the usa before), I had to submit also extra documentation showing that I had been in legal status while in the USA. Well not only I was in legal status while in the usa, but I also drop thousand and thousand of dollars to get a degree from an american school. Moreover, since I also worked legally, I paid taxes to the us government for 4 years.

This interview is for a K-1 visa, which is supposed to be a visa for people that love each other. Nevertheless not even one question was asked about the relationship. Maybe the person playing God had already decided maybe not, but the simple fact that I am doing this the legal way, should give me credit instead of making me feel that I am a liar.

I do not go into details, because it upsets me only to think about it. I left upset, but not because I could be denied for a visa, not because I felt so humiliated by the wannabe god, and not even because I may not be able to go to the USA. I do not care about those things. I do not give a ###### about them. But the sole idea of having to tell my love that we cannot be together because the visa maybe be denied, is just eating me inside my brain and my heart. I called her and told her how it went and she started crying... and I cannot take that. My love should only cry of happiness because I can be with her. YOu can only understand this feeling if you love someone. But a wannabe GOD was not in the mood today to make me and my love happy.

They just gave me a green paper and said that they do not know how long it will take. They also said" If i were you I would not book a flight yet" The only positive thing is that they kept my passport..... what a ###### day

That decision is not at all bad; maybe they just want to investigate a little more re your stay and work while in the USA. They kept your passport, therefore it is a good indication of you getting the K1 visa.

[Boiler 43,436]

Am I the only one wondering what the details are?

[Chris Me lil D 17]

your process from start to interview was relatively fast. The consul may have some addition document verifications to do since you went through USCIS quickly. You also said that you had "additional documents" that you had to present because of your time in the US. I would venture to say that they need to VERIFY those before just handing over the visa. Maybe she didnt ask you about your relationship because she had to focus on the validity of all of the additional docs you submitted.

I've been asked for all these "additional documents" at the time of the interview too, so I know what the OP is talking about. They don't need to verify them as they already have that info in their system. These "additional documents" are NOA's issued by USCIS for change of status, same NOA as the ones we all get through the process, the only difference is the type of visa written on it.

I can also understand how the OP feels as on my interview I've been asked mostly of questions about my life in USA than of questions regarding my relationship, and I hate to say it, but that's an interview for a marriage visa, not a working one.

OP, as everybody have already advised you - call your fiancée and tell her you're on AR/AP, and have her call the Italian US embassy and find out what is going on.

Best wishes and a faster reunion

Edited October 22, 2009 by Chris and Ani

[Victor&Cory 1]

Most of life's stress is caused by unreasonable expectations. This process can be delayed at any point by any of the agencies involved and you never should count or expect anything until the visa is in your hand. I know of NO consulate that gives a visa the day of the interview. Even without delays it can be 3 days to 2 weeks.

Corina got her visa the same day of the interview but also was the last one to leave the embassy. But yes...others had to wait until next day. I guess it depends on many factors.

PEACE my friend.............

[rebeccajo 14]

Am I the only one wondering what the details are?

No you're not.

[Darnell 8,478]

Back to the OP - ask yer USC lass to call the DOS Call Center , ask for case status.

But...

ask for :

1. current case status, with the date/time stamp and

2. last 3 status changes, with type, and date/time stamps.

DOS will know what's going on - the data is shared between the call-center and the Consulate/Embassy. The Consulate won't tell you what's going on (usually ) but DOS will tell ya, if you actually pick up the phone and call. My suggestion to 'wait 3 days' is still valid, as it takes time for the systems to sync up.

[Minya's wife 24]

Back to the OP - ask yer USC lass to call the DOS Call Center , ask for case status.

But...

ask for :

1. current case status, with the date/time stamp and

2. last 3 status changes, with type, and date/time stamps.

DOS will know what's going on - the data is shared between the call-center and the Consulate/Embassy. The Consulate won't tell you what's going on (usually ) but DOS will tell ya, if you actually pick up the phone and call. My suggestion to 'wait 3 days' is still valid, as it takes time for the systems to sync up.

Dude, you've said this at least 3 times in this thread. OP gets has seen your advice, I'm sure.

Just FYI - DOS does not necessarily have the most updated information....and this was told to me by someone who works at DOS. Sometimes procedural issues are not necessarily updated in the computer...you can wait till kingdom come for the systems to sync up. Whatever current status DOS will have is based upon update at the consulate...if consulate does not update, DOS will have jack to say about the current status.. The best protocol in cases such as this, is still for the US fiancee/spouse to contact the consulate directly and inquire about status.

[TBoneTX 43,058]

The best protocol in cases such as this, is still for the US fiancee/spouse to contact the consulate directly and inquire about status.

Si, man. After banging my head against the know-nothing DOS wall daily for over a month, I finally followed the advice of two different immigration attorneys (which I had been given before I blew the month-plus) and called the consulate. My situation was resolved within 3 days afterwards.