Gorkhali

my friend .. patience is the most important key while dealing with immigration
 
It took us 6 months in Nebraska. And 3 years to get the visa (read the story in my profile).
 
Anyway K3 is not being processed anymore. They are absolute. You should file CR1 (if married less than 2 years) or IR1(If married more than 2 years). 
 
Hope this helps

While this is correct, nearly all employers require the I-9 IRS documentation BEFORE starting work, so they'll need a Social Security Card to go along with the endorsed visa AND an employer who understands that's enough.  If the DS260 is properly completed AND the new immigrant fee is paid, both the Social Security Card and the Green Card should arrive by mail within a month.
 
So, being permitted to work is one thing.  Having the necessary documentation for the required I-9 form to START work is another matter altogether.
 
For example, the law says a K-1 visa holder has authorization to work during their first 90 days but there is no possible way for them satisfy the I-9 requirements in order to actually work.

forgot to mention, having a lawyer is a very expensive affair. They will charge you for every single thing. They will charge you for reading your email and replying it.  I and my wife we had a lawyer (know that we both are a reader and we knew more than lawyer about our process) and it was a very expensive affair. Once our visa was refused, to afford lawyer, our travel, visa process, paperwork; My wife worked two jobs and I worked more than 18 hours every day and 7 days a week (know that I am in tech and I made decent money working normal hours); cut all outing, visiting friends, eating out to save every single penny.  Our friends chimed on with some donation of funds. 
 
Thinking my wife cleaned the bathroom in the yoga studio to save money for a lawyer, makes my eyes swell. And I love her from the moon to back, seeing her happy and being chatty Kathy with her friends at home on this fine Sunday afternoon makes me feel super happy. 
 
Visa process is not for weak heart. It is expensive, stressful and takes a long time.  As Rumi says  "you gamble everything for love".
 
 

First of folks here are judgemental and it's because they don't sugarcoat anything. And I respect folks here a lot coz they are always spot on. I am married who is 10 years older than me and it took us 3 years to get through 'coz they denied our visa in the 1st instance. We were heartbroken and in tears for months. 
 
Anyway from VO view  :
Would you marry women with such an age gap, if she was Pakistani? As you are young and In case of Pakistan's culture, every family wants biological kids. And this is not going to happen in your case (from my experience).  Why didn't your wife visit your family? Having traditional marriage is important in Pakistan. Have you ever applied for US visa (immigrant or non - immigrant)? Do you have your siblings in US who got a visa through marriage?   There are tons of things that come into play. All you have to do is prove your relationship. It's your responsibility to prove your marriage is genuine. You, my friend, have a long rough road ahead of you. Best bet would be to get a lawyer to handle the case and your wife moves to Pakistan and live with you and your family for a substantial time before your second interview. Get congressman involved so your paperwork doesn't gather dust. 
 
Yes in few months your wife will get a snail mail from USCIS with NOIR / NOID and they will mention the reason for denial. They will never mention the age difference because they legally can't. 
 
If you really married your wife for love (which we hope) then you will go any length and breadth to love her, keep her happy and spend your life with her. This is what VO is looking for before granting the Visa. 
 
Best wishes to you and your wife. 

Make sure you mention your intent to have a baby during entry to CBP. 
Also, you have very weird auto correct.

forgot to mention, having a lawyer is a very expensive affair. They will charge you for every single thing. They will charge you for reading your email and replying it.  I and my wife we had a lawyer (know that we both are a reader and we knew more than lawyer about our process) and it was a very expensive affair. Once our visa was refused, to afford lawyer, our travel, visa process, paperwork; My wife worked two jobs and I worked more than 18 hours every day and 7 days a week (know that I am in tech and I made decent money working normal hours); cut all outing, visiting friends, eating out to save every single penny.  Our friends chimed on with some donation of funds. 
 
Thinking my wife cleaned the bathroom in the yoga studio to save money for a lawyer, makes my eyes swell. And I love her from the moon to back, seeing her happy and being chatty Kathy with her friends at home on this fine Sunday afternoon makes me feel super happy. 
 
Visa process is not for weak heart. It is expensive, stressful and takes a long time.  As Rumi says  "you gamble everything for love".
 
 

First of folks here are judgemental and it's because they don't sugarcoat anything. And I respect folks here a lot coz they are always spot on. I am married who is 10 years older than me and it took us 3 years to get through 'coz they denied our visa in the 1st instance. We were heartbroken and in tears for months. 
 
Anyway from VO view  :
Would you marry women with such an age gap, if she was Pakistani? As you are young and In case of Pakistan's culture, every family wants biological kids. And this is not going to happen in your case (from my experience).  Why didn't your wife visit your family? Having traditional marriage is important in Pakistan. Have you ever applied for US visa (immigrant or non - immigrant)? Do you have your siblings in US who got a visa through marriage?   There are tons of things that come into play. All you have to do is prove your relationship. It's your responsibility to prove your marriage is genuine. You, my friend, have a long rough road ahead of you. Best bet would be to get a lawyer to handle the case and your wife moves to Pakistan and live with you and your family for a substantial time before your second interview. Get congressman involved so your paperwork doesn't gather dust. 
 
Yes in few months your wife will get a snail mail from USCIS with NOIR / NOID and they will mention the reason for denial. They will never mention the age difference because they legally can't. 
 
If you really married your wife for love (which we hope) then you will go any length and breadth to love her, keep her happy and spend your life with her. This is what VO is looking for before granting the Visa. 
 
Best wishes to you and your wife. 

First of folks here are judgemental and it's because they don't sugarcoat anything. And I respect folks here a lot coz they are always spot on. I am married who is 10 years older than me and it took us 3 years to get through 'coz they denied our visa in the 1st instance. We were heartbroken and in tears for months. 
 
Anyway from VO view  :
Would you marry women with such an age gap, if she was Pakistani? As you are young and In case of Pakistan's culture, every family wants biological kids. And this is not going to happen in your case (from my experience).  Why didn't your wife visit your family? Having traditional marriage is important in Pakistan. Have you ever applied for US visa (immigrant or non - immigrant)? Do you have your siblings in US who got a visa through marriage?   There are tons of things that come into play. All you have to do is prove your relationship. It's your responsibility to prove your marriage is genuine. You, my friend, have a long rough road ahead of you. Best bet would be to get a lawyer to handle the case and your wife moves to Pakistan and live with you and your family for a substantial time before your second interview. Get congressman involved so your paperwork doesn't gather dust. 
 
Yes in few months your wife will get a snail mail from USCIS with NOIR / NOID and they will mention the reason for denial. They will never mention the age difference because they legally can't. 
 
If you really married your wife for love (which we hope) then you will go any length and breadth to love her, keep her happy and spend your life with her. This is what VO is looking for before granting the Visa. 
 
Best wishes to you and your wife. 

Did you and her write and sign letters of intent to marry?
If so, then I'm assuming you've agreed to marry and therefore are engaged already (or else you would have lied by writing/signing it).
If not, you'll very likely get an RFE.
 
And yes, using "wife" at the interview or in any evidence submitted to USCIS or the embassy/CO can be an issue. They cannot issue a K-1 visa to an individual who they believe may already be married or will not marry in the US within 90 days of entry.

one thing that u have to remember is "patience is key when you are dealing with immigration" "immigration is not the right but privilege"
 
Tips :
Never use wrong terms. If you say "she is your wife during the interview.. your k1 is SOL"  
 

moving to the new country and new life would be crazy. I moved into US 7 weeks ago. I moved in because I will do anything for her and I was determined. All i needed was to see her happy and i moved here.
 
Since I moved, I had to give up my high paying job as I was managing the company and I was growing every day. As i moved, i am home all day trying to understand the culture, roads, weather, traffic signs etc etc and tons of other things.  Everything is super expensive and just the god damm conversion rate is crazy.
 
I have nothing to do other than to read, cook, clean, wash. I had CR1 visa in my passport but no one gave me job coz they wanted green card copy. Now i have green card and i cant find a right opening or job which is near me. I dont know how to drive so first time in my life i am learning how to drive because i was always driven by office car earlier. i have offers from places which will take 3 hrs by bus. 
 
From managing a business and running it, I have taken a job to clean a bathroom on weekend, fix the lawn of neighbors and in weekdays offload the big boxes at warehouse. NOW I AM NOT COMPLAINING AT ALL - I WILL TAKE EVERYTHING WITH SMILE FOR HER (EVEN A BULLET), 
 
I am not doing these odd jobs for money. I am doing these odd jobs to keep myself occupied and to know people and to be able to buy her some flowers every weekend and spoil her with my love. Seeing her smile, Everything seems fair and worth. 
 
Other than these odd jobs and household chores, I volunteer, I go for long walks, i bike around, i take photos (we have lovely sunrise and sunset) and I try to find a job that i like. I am also freelancing for few people in the neighborhood and help folks in the neighbourhood with the computer issues. This way, I am building my life and being loved. This way I can see my wife smile and feel proud of me.  
 
But if your wife doesn't have a strong head it's going to be hard. May be she can keep herself busy by studying or joining the hobbies she loves. May be she can join a gym and make new friends, visit library and book clubs,
 
You thought the visa process was difficult, no wait the adjustment is going to be rougher. It takes a good year for people to adjust. 

moving to the new country and new life would be crazy. I moved into US 7 weeks ago. I moved in because I will do anything for her and I was determined. All i needed was to see her happy and i moved here.
 
Since I moved, I had to give up my high paying job as I was managing the company and I was growing every day. As i moved, i am home all day trying to understand the culture, roads, weather, traffic signs etc etc and tons of other things.  Everything is super expensive and just the god damm conversion rate is crazy.
 
I have nothing to do other than to read, cook, clean, wash. I had CR1 visa in my passport but no one gave me job coz they wanted green card copy. Now i have green card and i cant find a right opening or job which is near me. I dont know how to drive so first time in my life i am learning how to drive because i was always driven by office car earlier. i have offers from places which will take 3 hrs by bus. 
 
From managing a business and running it, I have taken a job to clean a bathroom on weekend, fix the lawn of neighbors and in weekdays offload the big boxes at warehouse. NOW I AM NOT COMPLAINING AT ALL - I WILL TAKE EVERYTHING WITH SMILE FOR HER (EVEN A BULLET), 
 
I am not doing these odd jobs for money. I am doing these odd jobs to keep myself occupied and to know people and to be able to buy her some flowers every weekend and spoil her with my love. Seeing her smile, Everything seems fair and worth. 
 
Other than these odd jobs and household chores, I volunteer, I go for long walks, i bike around, i take photos (we have lovely sunrise and sunset) and I try to find a job that i like. I am also freelancing for few people in the neighborhood and help folks in the neighbourhood with the computer issues. This way, I am building my life and being loved. This way I can see my wife smile and feel proud of me.  
 
But if your wife doesn't have a strong head it's going to be hard. May be she can keep herself busy by studying or joining the hobbies she loves. May be she can join a gym and make new friends, visit library and book clubs,
 
You thought the visa process was difficult, no wait the adjustment is going to be rougher. It takes a good year for people to adjust. 

moving to the new country and new life would be crazy. I moved into US 7 weeks ago. I moved in because I will do anything for her and I was determined. All i needed was to see her happy and i moved here.
 
Since I moved, I had to give up my high paying job as I was managing the company and I was growing every day. As i moved, i am home all day trying to understand the culture, roads, weather, traffic signs etc etc and tons of other things.  Everything is super expensive and just the god damm conversion rate is crazy.
 
I have nothing to do other than to read, cook, clean, wash. I had CR1 visa in my passport but no one gave me job coz they wanted green card copy. Now i have green card and i cant find a right opening or job which is near me. I dont know how to drive so first time in my life i am learning how to drive because i was always driven by office car earlier. i have offers from places which will take 3 hrs by bus. 
 
From managing a business and running it, I have taken a job to clean a bathroom on weekend, fix the lawn of neighbors and in weekdays offload the big boxes at warehouse. NOW I AM NOT COMPLAINING AT ALL - I WILL TAKE EVERYTHING WITH SMILE FOR HER (EVEN A BULLET), 
 
I am not doing these odd jobs for money. I am doing these odd jobs to keep myself occupied and to know people and to be able to buy her some flowers every weekend and spoil her with my love. Seeing her smile, Everything seems fair and worth. 
 
Other than these odd jobs and household chores, I volunteer, I go for long walks, i bike around, i take photos (we have lovely sunrise and sunset) and I try to find a job that i like. I am also freelancing for few people in the neighborhood and help folks in the neighbourhood with the computer issues. This way, I am building my life and being loved. This way I can see my wife smile and feel proud of me.  
 
But if your wife doesn't have a strong head it's going to be hard. May be she can keep herself busy by studying or joining the hobbies she loves. May be she can join a gym and make new friends, visit library and book clubs,
 
You thought the visa process was difficult, no wait the adjustment is going to be rougher. It takes a good year for people to adjust. 

Road trips are fun when it's a road trip and you have time to explore. Seeing ahe just touched down on American soil she probably wants to be in a house and figure out her life. I'm sure checking out the grand canyon and Vegas is not a priority 😂😂

oh boy i agree on driving part. If you can fly, then just fly. We just did our road trip from Florida to Colorado .. 4 Days of continuous drive and freaking Kansas would never end.. Gosh the Kansas part was miserable .. And I lost the bet with my wifey so I had to drive whole Kansas.  However, It was super funny coz I could see 5 miles ahead and see cop car.. and how people would slow down to speed limit. It was just super funny.. They would pass me (i would be driving 80 miles or so) and they would pass me like a race car.. and they would see flashing lights and just slow down.. That was super funny
 
well road trip are fun.. and you should do it.. but before u head for a long drive, your significant other should be able to drive in America that way having two drivers will be easy. 
 
 

moving to the new country and new life would be crazy. I moved into US 7 weeks ago. I moved in because I will do anything for her and I was determined. All i needed was to see her happy and i moved here.
 
Since I moved, I had to give up my high paying job as I was managing the company and I was growing every day. As i moved, i am home all day trying to understand the culture, roads, weather, traffic signs etc etc and tons of other things.  Everything is super expensive and just the god damm conversion rate is crazy.
 
I have nothing to do other than to read, cook, clean, wash. I had CR1 visa in my passport but no one gave me job coz they wanted green card copy. Now i have green card and i cant find a right opening or job which is near me. I dont know how to drive so first time in my life i am learning how to drive because i was always driven by office car earlier. i have offers from places which will take 3 hrs by bus. 
 
From managing a business and running it, I have taken a job to clean a bathroom on weekend, fix the lawn of neighbors and in weekdays offload the big boxes at warehouse. NOW I AM NOT COMPLAINING AT ALL - I WILL TAKE EVERYTHING WITH SMILE FOR HER (EVEN A BULLET), 
 
I am not doing these odd jobs for money. I am doing these odd jobs to keep myself occupied and to know people and to be able to buy her some flowers every weekend and spoil her with my love. Seeing her smile, Everything seems fair and worth. 
 
Other than these odd jobs and household chores, I volunteer, I go for long walks, i bike around, i take photos (we have lovely sunrise and sunset) and I try to find a job that i like. I am also freelancing for few people in the neighborhood and help folks in the neighbourhood with the computer issues. This way, I am building my life and being loved. This way I can see my wife smile and feel proud of me.  
 
But if your wife doesn't have a strong head it's going to be hard. May be she can keep herself busy by studying or joining the hobbies she loves. May be she can join a gym and make new friends, visit library and book clubs,
 
You thought the visa process was difficult, no wait the adjustment is going to be rougher. It takes a good year for people to adjust. 

one golden rule of VJ.... LISTEN TO @pushbrk .. he is always right

moving to the new country and new life would be crazy. I moved into US 7 weeks ago. I moved in because I will do anything for her and I was determined. All i needed was to see her happy and i moved here.
 
Since I moved, I had to give up my high paying job as I was managing the company and I was growing every day. As i moved, i am home all day trying to understand the culture, roads, weather, traffic signs etc etc and tons of other things.  Everything is super expensive and just the god damm conversion rate is crazy.
 
I have nothing to do other than to read, cook, clean, wash. I had CR1 visa in my passport but no one gave me job coz they wanted green card copy. Now i have green card and i cant find a right opening or job which is near me. I dont know how to drive so first time in my life i am learning how to drive because i was always driven by office car earlier. i have offers from places which will take 3 hrs by bus. 
 
From managing a business and running it, I have taken a job to clean a bathroom on weekend, fix the lawn of neighbors and in weekdays offload the big boxes at warehouse. NOW I AM NOT COMPLAINING AT ALL - I WILL TAKE EVERYTHING WITH SMILE FOR HER (EVEN A BULLET), 
 
I am not doing these odd jobs for money. I am doing these odd jobs to keep myself occupied and to know people and to be able to buy her some flowers every weekend and spoil her with my love. Seeing her smile, Everything seems fair and worth. 
 
Other than these odd jobs and household chores, I volunteer, I go for long walks, i bike around, i take photos (we have lovely sunrise and sunset) and I try to find a job that i like. I am also freelancing for few people in the neighborhood and help folks in the neighbourhood with the computer issues. This way, I am building my life and being loved. This way I can see my wife smile and feel proud of me.  
 
But if your wife doesn't have a strong head it's going to be hard. May be she can keep herself busy by studying or joining the hobbies she loves. May be she can join a gym and make new friends, visit library and book clubs,
 
You thought the visa process was difficult, no wait the adjustment is going to be rougher. It takes a good year for people to adjust. 

Test drive before lease was AWESOME. 😂 This is a weird case. 

@LumbertJones just a couple of questions you don't have to answer if you don't want to, but I'm curious as to if there were any signs. What country is she from? Is there a big age difference? This last one is kind of a very delicate question, but I'll put it like this, did she let you take a test drive before you signed the lease?

why take the god damm risk? with the current govt being so strict.. If I were u, I would not travel with expired GC until and unless it was life or death situation

OP you have got tons of reply here. No one was being disrespectful. Everyone here is straightforward and doesn't like to sugar coat their words because none of us are paid to sugar coat (heck we all reply here and help people out of love)
 
The healthcare in USA is too much my friend. Way too much. Me and my wife, we plan to fly to Thailand or some Asian country (in future), to get her LASIK surgery. Know that my wife is USC and have lived in US all her life and earns close to 6 figures. I immigrated few months back and I too earn in the upper 6 figures. Having all this, we are considering the idea of flying to the Asian country to get her lasik. It's because of good vacation, great healthcare way too cheap.
 
Don't be sheep of going to USA or having USA citizenship is everything. USA is a very expensive place, my friend.  Don't run to give birth to USC. Run to create a loving family and rest everything will fall into place. 
 
Adios 

OP you have got tons of reply here. No one was being disrespectful. Everyone here is straightforward and doesn't like to sugar coat their words because none of us are paid to sugar coat (heck we all reply here and help people out of love)
 
The healthcare in USA is too much my friend. Way too much. Me and my wife, we plan to fly to Thailand or some Asian country (in future), to get her LASIK surgery. Know that my wife is USC and have lived in US all her life and earns close to 6 figures. I immigrated few months back and I too earn in the upper 6 figures. Having all this, we are considering the idea of flying to the Asian country to get her lasik. It's because of good vacation, great healthcare way too cheap.
 
Don't be sheep of going to USA or having USA citizenship is everything. USA is a very expensive place, my friend.  Don't run to give birth to USC. Run to create a loving family and rest everything will fall into place. 
 
Adios 

OP you have got tons of reply here. No one was being disrespectful. Everyone here is straightforward and doesn't like to sugar coat their words because none of us are paid to sugar coat (heck we all reply here and help people out of love)
 
The healthcare in USA is too much my friend. Way too much. Me and my wife, we plan to fly to Thailand or some Asian country (in future), to get her LASIK surgery. Know that my wife is USC and have lived in US all her life and earns close to 6 figures. I immigrated few months back and I too earn in the upper 6 figures. Having all this, we are considering the idea of flying to the Asian country to get her lasik. It's because of good vacation, great healthcare way too cheap.
 
Don't be sheep of going to USA or having USA citizenship is everything. USA is a very expensive place, my friend.  Don't run to give birth to USC. Run to create a loving family and rest everything will fall into place. 
 
Adios 

OP you have got tons of reply here. No one was being disrespectful. Everyone here is straightforward and doesn't like to sugar coat their words because none of us are paid to sugar coat (heck we all reply here and help people out of love)
 
The healthcare in USA is too much my friend. Way too much. Me and my wife, we plan to fly to Thailand or some Asian country (in future), to get her LASIK surgery. Know that my wife is USC and have lived in US all her life and earns close to 6 figures. I immigrated few months back and I too earn in the upper 6 figures. Having all this, we are considering the idea of flying to the Asian country to get her lasik. It's because of good vacation, great healthcare way too cheap.
 
Don't be sheep of going to USA or having USA citizenship is everything. USA is a very expensive place, my friend.  Don't run to give birth to USC. Run to create a loving family and rest everything will fall into place. 
 
Adios