I'm divorcing my US citizen husband and idk what to do

[TBoneTX 43,251]

True about child support and "conservatorship" (Texas term for custody), both.

Find a halfway decent divorce attorney, and you're sitting pretty.

[TBoneTX 43,251]

Oh, in addition, Texas is a "community property" state, so you should get half of everything at least.

[Sarge2155 4,571]

1 minute ago, TBoneTX said:

Oh, in addition, Texas is a "community property" state, so you should get half of everything at least.

In other words, OUCH!

[Cathi 5,616]

9 hours ago, Mex in Tex said:

Thank you. I will do everything y’all advised. Good thing is my GC and passport are out of this house.  I will do a deeper research towards the custody of my child since he says I would lose cause I make less money but honestly, he doesn’t even know my child nor takes care of her other than providing a roof.

You don't need to do any research, that's exactly what a good attorney is for. Any aggressive, talented, savvy attorney will know EXACTLY what to do, that's what you pay them for. Just because your husband is threatening you does NOT means what he says is true. As others have said, don't tell him your plans to divorce, just get out and never look back. Please.

[Mex in Tex 2]

2 hours ago, Cathi said:

You don't need to do any research, that's exactly what a good attorney is for. Any aggressive, talented, savvy attorney will know EXACTLY what to do, that's what you pay them for. Just because your husband is threatening you does NOT means what he says is true. As others have said, don't tell him your plans to divorce, just get out and never look back. Please.

Thank you. But yes that’s one thing that’s stopping me. I would love to hire a mean lawyer but I can’t pay for it right now so I will just see what happens in order to get a divorce lawyer, appreciate your opinion.

[JeanneAdil 6,220]

get yourself out and to social services to take him to family court for child support

non custodial parent pays child support 

 

Most Battered women shelters have pro bono lawyers to help

 

BTW even a small child (a baby) will act as scared of a person when they hear yelling and relate it to the person's voice

judges take note of these things 

Edited March 14, 2023 by JeanneAdil

[beloved_dingo 1,935]

3 hours ago, Mex in Tex said:

Thank you. But yes that’s one thing that’s stopping me. I would love to hire a mean lawyer but I can’t pay for it right now so I will just see what happens in order to get a divorce lawyer, appreciate your opinion.

1) Many divorce attorneys offer free consultations, and even paid consultations are usually not very costly ($200 or less). It can be helpful to meet with an attorney just to get an hour+ of cheap or free advice. 

2) Some family law attorneys do pro bono work or will take on a client at a reduced rate, in cases like yours

3) Look into local legal aid attorneys, who are often cheaper or offer pro bono assistance for low-income clients (https://guides.sll.texas.gov/legal-assistance-organizations/general-legal-assistance might be a good starting point)

[Rocio0010 5,570]

You’re receiving excellent advice here. All I’m going to add is that I’ll be rooting for you and your child -get to safety first. Everything else can be sorted out (including his empty threats!)

[Mex in Tex 2]

Thank you all for the advise. I thought everything was against me but is not. I'm already searching for low cost/free advise on divorce. Any other advise would be appreciated, thank you all for your time.

[carmel34 3,532]

4 hours ago, Mex in Tex said:

I would love to hire a mean lawyer but I can’t pay for it right now so I will just see what happens in order to get a divorce lawyer, appreciate your opinion.

A good divorce/family law attorney will know how to go after your husband, to make him pay for your legal fees.  You may not have to pay anything upfront.  If you have a joint credit or debit card, you could also use that for the initial attorney's retainer, and your husband will have to pay it off.  Just make sure you are in a safe place, away from your husband, before doing so.  In Texas, all community financial assets and debts will be split 50/50 during the divorce.  Good luck!

[Mex in Tex 2]

I do have another question, in case anybody knows.

 

We got married in Mexico and I know marriage is universal. Let's say we get a divorce over there (is cheaper and I would have more help with my family). Would that be an issue to get child support and custody of my child here in the States? I've been doing my research but no luck whatsoever. If anybody knows anything please let me know. Thank you so much.

[OldUser 4,953]

7 minutes ago, Mex in Tex said:

I do have another question, in case anybody knows.

 

We got married in Mexico and I know marriage is universal. Let's say we get a divorce over there (is cheaper and I would have more help with my family). Would that be an issue to get child support and custody of my child here in the States? I've been doing my research but no luck whatsoever. If anybody knows anything please let me know. Thank you so much.

You're likely more protected by law in the US compared to Mexico. Keep it simple. In addition, you're dealing with divorce from US citizen and US citizen child. Keep it in the US, savings may not be worth it in the long run.

Edited March 14, 2023 by OldUser

[Rocio0010 5,570]

1 hour ago, Mex in Tex said:

Thank you all for the advise. I thought everything was against me but is not. I'm already searching for low cost/free advise on divorce. Any other advise would be appreciated, thank you all for your time.

I wanna say, though, this is not the time to be cheap. Read what @carmel34 has written 10 times, they’re on spot

[Cathi 5,616]

6 hours ago, Mex in Tex said:

Thank you. But yes that’s one thing that’s stopping me. I would love to hire a mean lawyer but I can’t pay for it right now so I will just see what happens in order to get a divorce lawyer, appreciate your opinion.

Divorce attorneys are means, girl. It's in their blood.

[Mex in Tex 2]

1 hour ago, OldUser said:

You're likely more protected by law in the US compared to Mexico. Keep it simple. In addition, you're dealing with divorce from US citizen and US citizen child. Keep it in the US, savings may not be worth it in the long run.

I understand, but my husband was the one saying that he'll go get it in Mexico... I guess I will have to make the first move and start it in here. thank you.