Feeling depressed K-1 visa process

[Y&A1221 9]

I’m beginning to feel depressed. I just want my fiancé to be here so we can get married and begin our lives together. We have started to argue a little more… but it’s usually my fault because I miss him. Ahhhh. Our first NOA is December 31, 2021. Do y’all think USCIS will actually speed up like they’ve been saying since March? Their goal is 6 months… but right now it’s taking at least 13.5 months to receive NOA2. I just want to hear yalls opinions on if you think they will speed up! And I also want to hear some feedback from other couples who may be feeling depressed with the distance, also. 

[Rocio0010 5,565]

32 minutes ago, Y&A1221 said:

I’m beginning to feel depressed. I just want my fiancé to be here so we can get married and begin our lives together. We have started to argue a little more… but it’s usually my fault because I miss him. Ahhhh. Our first NOA is December 31, 2021. Do y’all think USCIS will actually speed up like they’ve been saying since March? Their goal is 6 months… but right now it’s taking at least 13.5 months to receive NOA2. I just want to hear yalls opinions on if you think they will speed up! And I also want to hear some feedback from other couples who may be feeling depressed with the distance, also. 

I see your timeline is not completed.

Completing your timeline and posting in the right forum will help you get a better milleage.

And no, the backlog is so big that even if they kept their promise to speed up, it’s still going to take years to go back to normal (whatever “normal” is for DHS and USCIS).

Again, for feedback, you’re going to be better off completing your timeline and telling us which embassy you’re dealing with.

 

[Chancy 6,233]

*** Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to K1 Progress Reports ***

 

49 minutes ago, Y&A1221 said:

I also want to hear some feedback from other couples who may be feeling depressed with the distance

 

Hang in there.  I can relate to feeling depressed with the long wait.  During my visa process, there were days or even weeks when I just stayed in my room, wallowing in self-pity.  The daily chats and video calls with my beloved kept my spirits up.

 

[Y&A1221 9]

47 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

I see your timeline is not completed.

Completing your timeline and posting in the right forum will help you get a better milleage.

And no, the backlog is so big that even if they kept their promise to speed up, it’s still going to take years to go back to normal (whatever “normal” is for DHS and USCIS).

Again, for feedback, you’re going to be better off completing your timeline and telling us which embassy you’re dealing with.

 

I’m confused. I thought I had it done. I mean, all I’ve gotten is NOA1 so that’s all I’ve put on there. And I put California service center. What else am I supposed to complete to update it? Lol I didn’t realize. 

27 minutes ago, Chancy said:

*** Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to K1 Progress Reports ***

 

 

Hang in there.  I can relate to feeling depressed with the long wait.  During my visa process, there were days or even weeks when I just stayed in my room, wallowing in self-pity.  The daily chats and video calls with my beloved kept my spirits up.

 

Are you still in the process now? Or are you finally together? It gets so hard sometimes. 

[Rocio0010 5,565]

1 hour ago, Y&A1221 said:

I’m confused. I thought I had it done. I mean, all I’ve gotten is NOA1 so that’s all I’ve put on there. And I put California service center. What else am I supposed to complete to update it? Lol I didn’t realize. 

Never mind, I just saw you have it.

[MarJhi 919]

4 hours ago, Y&A1221 said:

I’m beginning to feel depressed. I just want my fiancé to be here so we can get married and begin our lives together. We have started to argue a little more… but it’s usually my fault because I miss him. Ahhhh. Our first NOA is December 31, 2021. Do y’all think USCIS will actually speed up like they’ve been saying since March? Their goal is 6 months… but right now it’s taking at least 13.5 months to receive NOA2. I just want to hear yalls opinions on if you think they will speed up! And I also want to hear some feedback from other couples who may be feeling depressed with the distance, also. 

The "speed up" they are talking about isn't going to have any effect on your case because you are already 18 months in. Besides, when a government agency talks about speeding up or improving something, they generally are just telling you they want more money to do so. They need to stop talking about goals of doing things in 6 months and instead talk about clearing backlogs starting with the oldest first. Once they get everything cleared up and caught up, then they can talk about their 6 month mumbo jumbo.

[TBoneTX 43,061]

This is not easy.  We've all been through it.  Hang in there.

[Cathi 5,610]

2 hours ago, MarJhi said:

The "speed up" they are talking about isn't going to have any effect on your case because you are already 18 months in. Besides, when a government agency talks about speeding up or improving something, they generally are just telling you they want more money to do so. They need to stop talking about goals of doing things in 6 months and instead talk about clearing backlogs starting with the oldest first. Once they get everything cleared up and caught up, then they can talk about their 6 month mumbo jumbo.

They are not 18 months in, they are only 6 months in. NOA1 was December 2021, 6 months ago.

[MarJhi 919]

19 minutes ago, Cathi said:

They are not 18 months in, they are only 6 months in. NOA1 was December 2021, 6 months ago.

Oops...my mistake. Thanks for the correction 

[EatBulaga 252]

One thing to keep you pre-occupied while waiting for approval is to learn the details of each other.

And keep re-iterating the details to each other so that the information is second nature to each of you.

This will come in handy at the K1 and the AOS interviews.

 

For example before the consulate interview, I didn't even know how many siblings my K1 beneficiary had or their names, and vice versa. And we were together over 5 years before even filing the I-129F!

It took a few months for us to not having to repeatedly ask each other and not consciously recall the siblings names and be able to subconsciously verbalize the names like reflex--same for her parents names, or close friends, or aunties/uncles, etc.

 

It also came to my attention from these detailed exercises that I realized she had an aunt living in the US that was denied K1 and they had to actually go the spouse visa route. So in case the interviewer asks if she had any relatives in the US, she could answer not immediate relatives but an aunt, etc.

Other things to know about each other are like where your partner has lived before, where your partner went to school, what were their past jobs, what are the common interests/hobbies, etc. Knowing all these doesn't mean they will be asked at the interview, it just means that you have built a bona fide relationship by putting in the time to know each other.

 

Remember by the interview time, both of you would have waited over a year, and the stress could block any conscious communication to the point of having to rely on subconscious responses. This is similar to when I was cramming for exams in college and during the test time, I had mental blocks from the stress or the lack of sleep trying to consciously recall the knowledge or apply what I should have known earlier. Part of the interviewers job is to identify genuine relationships, and the more comfortable you are answering questions about each other then the more convincing you are to the interviewer. So if there are anything you don't know about each other, this is the time to learn and communicate so that you know each other subconsciously. Good luck!

Edited June 20, 2022 by EatBulaga

[explosive0 19]

16 hours ago, Y&A1221 said:

I’m beginning to feel depressed. I just want my fiancé to be here so we can get married and begin our lives together. We have started to argue a little more… but it’s usually my fault because I miss him. Ahhhh. Our first NOA is December 31, 2021. Do y’all think USCIS will actually speed up like they’ve been saying since March? Their goal is 6 months… but right now it’s taking at least 13.5 months to receive NOA2. I just want to hear yalls opinions on if you think they will speed up! And I also want to hear some feedback from other couples who may be feeling depressed with the distance, also. 

Hang in there. Our NOA1 is dated June 11, 2021 and we still haven't received our NOA2. It's mentally draining, but all you can do is wait and hope! Best of luck to all on this journey. 

Edited June 20, 2022 by explosive0

[JeanneAdil 6,203]

https://egov.uscis.gov/processing-times/

 

current USCIS processing times for a K1 is 13 months 

and that is just the beginning

 

[LemonLemonade 64]

Totally feel you. It was hard seeing other people getting approved (even I was happy for them and seeing things moving), and kicking ourselves that we should have done the CR1 or applied earlier. 

 

During the wait time, we were really focusing in our career and working as much as I can to save up since I can't work until I get my AOS. Keep finding shows to watch, games to play, trying to find things to look forward to and future plans, etc. As Canadians, we can travel easier to the US to visit. None less,  the wait is hard for sure.

[Y&A1221 9]

8 minutes ago, LemonLemonade said:

Totally feel you. It was hard seeing other people getting approved (even I was happy for them and seeing things moving), and kicking ourselves that we should have done the CR1 or applied earlier. 

 

During the wait time, we were really focusing in our career and working as much as I can to save up since I can't work until I get my AOS. Keep finding shows to watch, games to play, trying to find things to look forward to and future plans, etc. As Canadians, we can travel easier to the US to visit. None less,  the wait is hard for sure.

I have had that same thought so many times. We we started the process, K-1 was faster. Now it seems CR-1 is faster. I wish we would’ve known. But it wouldn’t make sense to change it now. 

[Y&A1221 9]

14 minutes ago, JeanneAdil said:

https://egov.uscis.gov/processing-times/

 

current USCIS processing times for a K1 is 13 months 

and that is just the beginning

 

Yes, I know. That’s what I’m referring to. I realize how long it is taking just to receive NOA2. I just wish they would get it together at USCIS so we can be together soon. Along with every other couple.